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The primordial qigong/Wuji qigong form that Michael Winn and Andrew Fretwel and several otehrs teach is suposed to be very god at cultivating post natal jing and also, if you practice it a lot pre natal jing. IT is an awesome and very powerfull and very balancing form. Most people realy like it. It is easy enough to learn from video. Winn teaches to combine it with the inner smile.

The things womens sexual fantasies when studied in the early seventies showed stuff such as playrape at the top of the list. That was before they had seen any porn and very little of the pop culture at the time would have helped them get those fantasies, except womens romance novels which are full of descriptions of women being "overcome" by a dominant male and surrendering. THe numbers for those types of fantasies are almost exactly the same today.

Get into a voluteer organisation with lots of women. Study the nice not cocky pcikup methods at charismaarts.com. IT will teach you how to be social and get friends. You don`t need to use it in order to seduce women. It works just as well platonically if you leave out some of the sexual escalation stuff. THen you will have enough women to hang around with. Also go see a touch therapist to boost up your oxytocin and your yin. I would also consider going to see a tantrica if I were you. I think it would do you a lot of good. You might also consider doing natural grounding. It seems to help a lot of guys and helps them strengthen the yin in themselves as to not get needy. Also I would suggest to start doing the inner smile daily for 20 minutes or so. You need to learn to love yourself and the inner smile will help with that. Also standing meditation will help as a strong root chakra attracts women. Wuji posture will be especially good as it works extra on your kidneys and spleen and that will reduce your worrying and anxiety. As you live in Miami I would get in touch with Santiago or Tao and do KAP and or Silat.

THis is key! I agree totally!

Awesome post. I believe this touches on the essence of the major theme of gender relationships today. What I don`t get is why the weak yin and weak yang are attracted to each other and why compulsively so?

It will help to do more active meditative stuff like tai chi and yoga. You might also gain some insgiht by reading shinzen youngs articles on equanimity and emotional expressiveness on his site shinzen.org

From what I have read alpha men die younger. Those who are concerned about mating and not fulfilling their evolutionary goal have a unique chance today. Donate sperm. You can go to different sperm banks all across the world and donate and probably end up with a few hundred children. You`ll be in league with kings and other harem keepers in no time.

Well take a look at rape and child molestation statistics from the west 80 years ago or a 120 years ago and compare them to today. It would look as if it had skyrocketed. Almost as if it did not exist before. But we know thats not true. It is just that now it is reported whereas before it was not. Think about chatlolic priests. IN the 60s almost no one was reported. Today they are reported for things they did IN THE 60s and today. I read an article about sexual abuse in Japaneese schools with interviews with students, teachers and therpists etc. THey asid it was rampant, almost expeted that a male teacher wold prey on his teenage students and that reporting it was almost unthinkable for the students because of the shame involved. So i have no, as in absolute zero, faith in the numbers for sexual abuse in Japan being lower than in the west. Especially once you add in the high usage of prostitution because it means men are "trained" in having sex in a context with unhealthy boundaries and as such are much less likely to be able to feel that they are overstepping a womans boundaries in other contexts were they are perhaps pushing, pressuring or forcing someone. I also read a statistic that said over 90% (or was it 95%) of thai men had sex with prostitutes and were highly likely to loose their virginity with a prostitute. Again I would argue that this creates men that are much more likely to commit sexual abuse against other women as their sense of intimate boundaries are numbed and so they start loosing the sense of what they are doing means to a girl. Actually in norway, and I suspect many otehr western countries muslims are at the top of the rape statistics. As in five times or so more likely to commit rape. The attitude against women I have found in muslim men that are first generation immigrants to the west I find appaling. They generally see hitting their wife as a legitimate form of diciplining her. THis is not my stereotype this is what they TELL me themselves. The attitudes towards women with regards to sex also frequently are along the lines of if she dressing like a slut she is asking for it s help yourself. I don`t see this as in any way a necessarry consequence of being a muslim but it is a typical attitude.

I have read that asians have slightly lower testosterone levels. THat could mean a slightly lower sex drive but it would still be just a slight effect. My experience with asian woman have not been that they are any less sexual than western women. INeither have I heard any guy with experience with asian women say that they are less sexual than western women once they are in the bedroom. THey might behave seemingly less sexual in public though depending on the local culture. So I would say that the most likely conclusion is that the guys there are doing something wrong or the life conditions such as work (in Japan at least) and the prostitution is messing stuff up. FOr me groping women on the subway is an indication that a man is totally out of sync with womens sexuality (and his own) and is unlikely to be able to please the women he has sex with very much.

I read an article once were the journalist tried a bunch of different ones. THey were all across the board in their claims and contradicted each other completely A good thing could be to read up on cold reading techniques to see how easy it is to make someone believe you are psychic. I have trouble understanding the thought behind treating past life trauma. Considering how many lives we can presume we have had the amount of trauma would be endless. THere is no reason to expect most of it to have been processed well in previous lives as most people die with a ton of neurosis left. So it does not seem plausible to me that your issues in this life largely stem from one, two or three incidents or lifetimes in the past and that healing those wounds will heal you now. You still have thousands or millions of lives with horrible trauma to digest. With regards to gender Shaktimama remembered all of her lives as being asian (indian looking ethnicity mostly) men. SHe did not remember anything about it though just saw their faces.

Yes it has been done many times. But fire paths are generally a lot more dangerous than just doing Vipassana. However, I have also felt like my head would explode from VIpassana and backed of as I felt more could well be damaging. Have you tried any grounding methods? Too much energy in the higher centers are rarely good and the most common source of ill side effects from meditation. You could try some standing meditation (zhan zhuang) and maybe also open your microcosmic orbit. THings will usually be smoother after doing that. Springforestqigong has a cd called small heavenly corcuit or something about opening the orbit that has gotten much good feedback.

reuniting.info has a forum and lots of info about this. They talk a lot about not having orgasms during sex but what they actually mean is having tantric valey orgasms and not conventional peak orgasms. THey clear that up in a forum post I just wanted to point that out to ou so you won`t get too confused. If you feel fatigued and unhealthy I would by the beginner springforestqigong set and start doing some of that daily. After a while you will start to feel great and become more balanced. THen all sorts of other issues also get easier. If low kidney energy or something like that is a cause of your premature ejaculation the qigong will help a lot. I would change my habit of masturbation if I was you from a presumably hard and kinda eratic style to a soft and slow and almost teasing style. That will help in learning you to not jump straight up till the point of no return and you will start to feel much more sensations. You could check out alchemicaltaoism.com for some valuable info on sexual cultivation type stuff. It is more beneficial to masturbate to fantasies of slow lovemaking with a girl you love or a goddess or something than just regular porn fucking. I am not saying deny yourself the latter I am saying exchange some of the usual fantasies with this. THe reason is it will produce more oxytocin to help balance out your sexual hormones.

I don`t like the tai chi swords I ahve seen. NOt at all. But I loooooove samurai swords. I think at some point I would like to learn a sword form of tai chi and it would be great to do it with a samurai swrod instead. But I am wondering if the difference in sword type might make that impossible. Anyone know?

What do you do to fix someone like that? Is it curable.? Can they do medical qigong? Can a healer work on them or will it get worse?

THe spine stuff sounds like ayp spinal breathing. Almost. Very powerfull practice. About brain stuff you could contact internal student. It is his specialty

What does your hieroglyphs mean? They are really cool:)

Some time ago I read an article by Michale Winn where he talked about how the practice of kan and li gives a type of balance between the internal masculine and feminine that is not achieved through stilness meditation or through fire methods. He also claimed that achieving this type of balanced lead to a balanced sexuality and balanced romantic and sexual realtionships whereas in many cases fire paths could create more problems with regards to sexulaity. One of his examples was a kundalini yoga master who had young female students give him back rubs in order to get yin energy for his kidneys. More problematic examples was teachers having sexual realtionships to female students in order to get more yin to balance them out. I am wondering what you think of this perspective and also what you think are the consequences of achieving a fair amount of such a balance for a person individually and in realtionships. Will one for example become more androgyn? Glenn Morris talks quite a bit about andorgynity as something that is developed to some extent but it seems obvious that most practioners although maybe going somewhat in that direction remain essentially and clearly masculine or feminine. It seems to me that one remains more or less as yin or yang as is natural for the person but stuill get a sort of balance that was not there to begin with but what does that balance feel like and how does it show in the person and in their realtionships. Dual cultivation is said to be one way of creating more balance in this regard by getting energy from the otehr sex. As I understand it we seek the otehr sex and sexuality in particular preciosely because we yearn for this balance so as to become more whole. One of the ways this plays out is that to some extent we all find people from teh otehr sex that are very masculine or very feminine attractive, at least for the short time, because they offer a strong suply if the oposite energy of ourselves. For the long temr people with the reverse balance we ourselves ahve are more attractive, at elast more beneficial. So for realtionships a person that is 70% yang and 30% yin seeks someone who is 70% yin and 30% yang. But what happens when we get more balanced in this way? I have reqad some say talk about becomeing mroe balanced and mellow in a sense, closer to what the other gender is like. But I have also read people talk about dual cultivation amplifying the differences, the yin of a woman nourishing the yang of a man or something like that. Is there maybe a bit of both going on? a stronger amsculintiy and femininity but at the same time some sort of higher level balance. Maybe a movement from false yang to genuine yang etc.? I have also read people talk about amplifying the differences temporarily to increase attraction and the benefit of dual cultivation. But this contradicts the ayurvedic tehory that it is healthier to balance with slightly different sativic things than to balance with extremely different tamasic and rajasic things. Any thoughts on any of this would be much apreceated:)

There are versions of Tummo in Taoism, amongst inuits, in Sufism and probably most other corners of the world. Santiago has learnt seven or eight different versions from different traditions. Obviously these are taught in different context within these different traditions. What you practice as preliminaries, what you practice alongside it and what you practice after having reached a certain level in your Tummo practice obviously varies significantly. I am betting several of the taoist versions are in systems that are largely based on alchemy with little emphasis on insight meditation such as Dzogchen. The inuits and Sufis I am sure have their own spin on it and their own slightly differnt puspose of using it in their context. There is a version of Tummo taught in KAP that is Santiagos own version based on what he found to work best from the different styles he was thaught. The effects of tummo are here balanced with and work in context with the other practices of KAP and that seems to work just fine. I am not sure if I belive pure alchemical systems with little or no emphasis on insight/wisdom or devotion etc. can bring enlightenment although I am open to the possibility that they might. If it can then Tummo can be used in a pure alchemical contect where its sole purpose is generating energy and purification fo the body as part of a larger set of practices aimed towards transforming the body to get people enlightened. Even if a pure alchemical system does not work I Don`t see why combining an alchmical system that has tummo in it with another form of insight meditation than Dzogchen would work. I personally think KAP lacks some sort of insight meditation and think that combining it with Vipassana or Zen or something similar to maximize the chances of getting enlightened is a very good idea. Maybe the void work in KAP 3 compensates for this lack, I don`t know, but at least adding it in seems reasonable ont eh first two levels. Anyway, I think that a use of tummo in the context of KAP and Vipassana is a good example of how tummo can be taken out of its tibetan context and be used as part of a combined path of alchemy and insight or maybe alchemy alone as a path towards enlightenment. THis is one example of what I think is MANY ways tummo can surve a purpose in other systems.

Aren`t there tummo and yantra teachers in the New York area?

There is one way you can do this safely and benefically and that is through Karezza. It is an extremely simnple form of relaxeed interecourse with almost no momevement. It leads to valey orgasms and not peak orgasms. IF you have ONLY this type of sex then you can go for months or years wihtout spilling your seed and without getting problems from not doing so. THe proof of that you can find at reuniting.info. There are many people in that forum you have gone for many montsh and over a year having karezza sex almost every day and experiecing vitrually no side effects. What fivelementao says is for the most part correct about other methods of semen retention used during more vigorous sex or hotter arousal states but not about Karezza and that can be documented very well. Search through my posts in threads about sexuality and you will find more about this. I warn you though that to do this type of sex, especially when you do not meditate on the side, you need to hardly move and keep the arousal and "hotness" down. Read the material on the reuniting site and ask for advice there.

Michael Lomax writes about a method in his lightwarrior book that no one else that we are aware of (I think) teaches in the west. You can mayby take a few private classes with the KAP people to learn sexual stuff from KAP 2 without doing KAP? I like DIane Richardsons books and so does everyone else it seems. Hert aproach is kind of female centric though and she mentions that there is another form of tantra that is more reliant on the male but that is more difficult. MY hunch is that the male reliant version is more satisfying to the female as they almost always seems to find male leadership in sex more arousing and it presumably creates a more powerfull yang state in the man. THat`s just speculation though and I am on the look for something to read about male "led" tantra. YOu could also ask Set Ananda and Vajradhira as they both have practices a lot of quite advanced tantra. I know a teacher within this system. From waht I can tell through her it seems quite serious and good: http://www.schoolofawakening.com/tachyon-facilitators.php

I have seen people mention that after they started cultivating they noticed significantly more interest from beautiful women, including women that were previously "out of the practioners league". I also read someone mention that after he really opened up his earth chakra he, more or less overnight, noticed much more interest from women. Have any of you noticed such changes? And if so mostly connected to the all round effect of cultivating or to specific occurrences or practices like working on the root, sexual chakra, heart etc. I can definitely see the first four chakras influencing attractiveness. I can also see any sort of powerful and nice energy within a cultivator influencing others attraction to the cultivator as the energy makes them feel nice without them knowing exactly why. Not so sure about the upper chakras though although blissful feelings of course should make people gravitate towards you. How about retention, tantric sex and that sort of thing. Any differences from that?

MOntreal is quite big. I am sure there are some good ones there. You don`t need an unusually powerfull master that can use his energy to put it back quickly just someone skilled in qigong and used to guiding students that can help you with practices and help you asses what is going on. And also go see a TCM doctor. Both herbs and acupuncture helps me with my grounding issues akthough both are slow. Acupuncture also has the benefit of helping to balance out any sort of odd imbalance you are not aware of and that can be part of the problem. Try to find someone that also practices qigong. It does not have to be a master or teacher of any kind just one that himself/herself knows how it feels when energy moves arround etc. THe KAP teachers has guided people via skype and phone in these issues before. THey are wort a shot and can scan your energybody from a distance to see what`s up. I recognize the anxiety you mention very well. For me it was one of the key reasons even grounding meditation ultimately didn`t work for me. I was soo scared of the energy and that created an upward movement of energy that aggravated the problem. When I relaxed energy flowed downwards but ultimately I couldn`t do it. I might have if I had continued I just didn`t have the stomach to risk getting in even worse trouble. So I took the long physical route instead and it is working well only slowly. THe gains are even more solid though so I recomend incorporating that as part of teh strategy lng term even if you find an energetic way to fix the problem. THat way you will be much safer in the future. The other benefits of doing physical practices that helps with this stuff are great to an in themselves worth the effort.