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The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. Edmund Burke

To see, move and breathe, when that is taken, you'll find you are more than that

this may relate to the subject, came upon in on twitter. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/02/180206100349.htm

some links for those are interested, would that fighting would end, but if there's need to fight, both women and men seem to be equipped for that, both in history and right now. https://www.newyorker.com/books/joshua-rothman/real-amazons https://koryu.com/library/wwj1.html http://topbestreporter.com/most-powerful-and-badasses-women-warriors-of-ancient-history/ yoou'd better beware of women, they're decidedly not the harmless children some males seem to think they are.

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nice post TM, i remember when my son was small, I taught him to see through err...' amazing gain advertisements" like he came to me with an advertisement for very cheap cartoon that he wanted to buy for his dad's birthday. So I asked him to read well, so that he would find out that by signing he would be essentially buying 30 cartoons, not cheap. He got it and we did buy the cartoon, dad was happy with it and in time we posted a letter to the seller that we did not want the other 29 cartoons. from that time on I gave him about weekly some advertisement with the question," can you find out in which way they try to cheat you" He soon became shrewd in it. Later, when he was older and we came to discussing things concerning politics or societal thingies. The inevitable why-question going with that. I taught him, most always the answer on he why question is money. So first you look for that... he's almost 30 now, remembers the weekly 'advertisement order' and tells me he has had much use of it.

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qicat, I hope she comes back and a guy with a name like ridgzin tinley or something, he always had very nice contributions

I do not know about words, or definitions, or traditions, I'm just...BES and will probably stay to be that. But I remember how, years ago during a meditation-like experience I 'met' the assaulter, the fear of pain and death that I had always ducked out of. For plainly that was his goal, rape and kill. When this emotion flooded through me it came to me that it was just stupid, to fear something that was so long ago. When the emotions/fear disappeared something opened up in my heart and I felt pity for this man. I felt his loneliness, his anger, his emotions and forgiveness just happened. Then it went further, to my mum, who essentially told me just to forget about the experience. That has, clearly, hurt me more than the assaulter did. The assaulter was just a stranger, my mum...well was my mum, and she denied (me to process) my pain and fear. In one swoop I felt her underlying fears/emotions/repressed things of her life too and more forgiveness happened. Many years before this I had ' forgiven' my mum on a rational basic, my brain was aware of her and her history, but from that moment on It was the heart that had opened , to her, to many people ( and experiences) I did not ' do' that, I did not strive for it, I did not even know something like that could happen.. It just happened. And something in my heart that was closed opened up and for that I'm grateful. This opening has been good for me, ( and for those around me ) whether you call it forgiveness, or compassion is not of much of interest to me. but it's interesting to read what you all think of it, my question seems to have raised quite a debate

thank you all to responding, especially CT with his first post, even though you ( of course) did not give me an answer, that text flipped me out of a crystallized mindset, thereby the answer could show itself to me. Steve and Bud , you seem to go to the core of my experiences with your texts, thank you all, for being here and showing ways to me, I bow to you BES

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oh yes, the question is: what does sifu mean when he says that I have to forgive myself for having been assaulted and raped. he did not mean: "let it go" I asked him that, he said forgiveness goes deeper than that. Or maybe he said that there's nothing wrong with an old-fashioned concept as forgiving is.

when I read that, I was reminded of my own tendency to drown my own hurt under the act of helping others. So that my own hurt gets buried ( again) that was what I wanted to say, may not be true in your case of course, but it is my tendency... let him/her suck it up herself!! Stupid. If anything we should stop sucking up things/ burying our hurt. Better to feel it, go through it ( as you are doing, my respect for that, I think the amount of hurt you're going through is larger than bereavement only, which in and of itself already is an enormous load. I'm remembering my mum here.) good to hear that some light is peeping through. I didn't know you make artwork. reminds me of my beloved aunt, who made beautiful aquarel pictures. ( but also line drawings and crayonwork, but mostly aquarel) I was once in her workingroom were she had laid out enormous amounts of art, trying to decide what to do with it. One of the papers was, dark, blacks and brown and purples, not watercolour but crayons. I asked her about it, it was so unusual, not like other things she made. she told me that after the sudden death of her husband she sat there, and after much crying and feeling stuck, not able to create something, it just sort of happened. She said, this is my bereavement congealed on paper, ( this conversation was years after her husband died btw) much love for you BES

CT, I've a question for you. Once, my teacher said that a woman who has been assaulted and raped, needs to forgive, not only the rapist, but also needs to forgive herself. To which he added that that sounded strange because of course, the woman is innocent of what happened to her/ not guilty of being raped. the forgiving of the rapist has happened, but the forgiving of myself, is still something that eludes me. I feel I should not ' think' about these things ( too much) but your quote reawakened that question in me. some years ago my answer was sort of...err... In another life, I've been a rapist myself, and what happened to me in this life, is just the other side of the coin so to say. That felt and feels right to me, I can have peace with that. but there is more underneath that remark of Sifu, haven't yet found it. I think I have let go of the underlying trauma, pretty sure of that in fact.

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