willem20

I've been trying to find out what chakra's are all about. I've never really understood it, nor does Wikipedia and other articles I've found a good insight. Most of them are all too cryptic for someone who hasn't really been into all this wisdom/information. I'm wondering if anyone could make a general introduction in to the philosophy of chakra's. Thank you in advance

First of all, I'm rather new here, so I don't understand most glossary/vocabulaire that is used here. Also, I have no idea if this is the right subforum for this, if not, hopefully a moderator can move this thread to the correct subforum. The things is (like I also explained in my introduction topic) I have a hard time coping with bad feelings. In the broad sense, it contains experiences such simple as a hangover, a break up or general boredom, to physical pain. I always try to replace the feeling with something else, mostly a material or self-destructing action. I want this to stop. The reason why this problem is so important to me, is that I have had a problem with pornography for a long time now. 2 years ago, when I realised that I had a problem with pornography, I decided to try and stop watching porn. It's sounds easier than it is. Despite the horniness (which is a hard factor to control too) I always end up failing whenever I feel bad. For example last week, when I was kind of dating a girl, and it ended quite abruptly, I felt bad and turned to pornography. The same thing for hangovers, I usually turn to pornography, or if it is not pornography it is video games and eventually pornography. See the vicious circle here? I want to overcome this pattern, but I do not know how, and I hope maybe one of you could guide me with some wisdom (or even better: an experience) on how to handle those bad feelings I thank you in advance.

Haha, I consider myself a smart lad, and thank you for the encouraging words! To whom or what are you referring as she? I also have a copy of Tao Te Ching on my bookshelf, I like it Thing is about the well read comment I made: I like to learn, and whatever I can read on how to improve: I'd gladly take it. Also now I'm curious, what do you find the best way to get yourself a step further in meditation? Right now I'm just sitting quietly every day for 10 minutes focussing my breath, but since I wake up early for my intership, but I find it hard to become fully focused so early.

Im 20 now, but Im wondering: how did you train your consious mind then? This forum is relatively new to me, so I am nowhere as well read as most of you are here

It's more the other way around, there is something I do not like, and I do not know how to get away from there (or to accept it) except artificial stimulations like video games, bad food and mostly pornography. I want to learn how to accept those feelings.

From what I've experienced is that this hasn't worked yet, I experience a emptiness feeling inside, and pornography (which triggers a dopamine release inside the brain, among several other hormones, but mainly dopamine) gives a stimulating feeling inside. Afterwards I do recall feeling empty and knowing that pornography is nothing but empty shallow sex, yet my instinct takes over the consious mind, in other words: No matter how much I tell myself it is bad, the craving always wins over the consious mind. If I try to sit bad feelings out my mind will eventually dwell into sexual fantasies and which drives me towards pornography. I fell helpless knowing that my consious mind will lose to my instinct.

It is an obvious but fine response to the problem ofcourse! But this still wouldn't help me fully with the issue I've addressed. Nonetheless, I will definitely take your advice haha, maybe it is wiser not to get along with the average amount of alcohol my friends drink on a night

The brothers Karamazov by Dostojevski (600/900 now) Farewell to arms by hemingway Story by robert McKee Hitchhikers guide by Adams

It is quite odd, I've been interested in Eastern philosophies, but I've never taken the time to become a part of a community like this. My name is Willem, and the main reason I've registered is because I'm looking for wisdom. Typical Western clichés don't seem to fulfill, so I started searching for more wisdom. The reason I'm looking for wisdom is because I have some issues around myself. I'll be straight forward with it, hopefully I won't scare you off, but pornography has been a big issue in my life. I am aware that the reason porn is a big issue, is because I can't handle feeling bad. It might an odd revelation, but this has been a vicious circle in my life. Everytime I have a hangover, I dont sit it out, but try to fill the gap with food, pornography or whatever else there is to take. Don't even get me started on broken hearts, losing jobs or big fights with friends. Hopefully becoming a part of this community will help me improve.