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I don't know if this is normal but within a few minutes into a meditation I sometimes get a strange expanding cold feeling in the inner sides of my head. It feels like sinus sensation in my brain. Is this normal?

Just basic mindfulness

Was having a bad depressive episode, so I decided to do some santi shi, after about 5 minutes, I realized that the edge of the depressive episode was taken off. That intense feeling subsided. Are there any other standing meditations that could also work, but not as physical as san ti shi? I find that standing meditation is more easier to have more body awareness then normal sitting meditation.

I think there is a difference between having sex to get the next dopamine rush for the sack of it and pure sexual extasy bliss with the right person at the right time. The later being rare.

Depression and opposite of true self expression. I noticed this when it clicked, I went from low energy apathy to a explosive jump into the air rage smash through a brick wall rush. For moment a feeling of the real me wanting to come out. Is there any thing to help in releasing this energy of self expression? Is there some form/kata or meditation?

You are right in away that young guys waste that energy, but at the same time don't disregard it. Take advantage of your youth and instead have maybe phases. Like for a few months have lots of sex, then for another few months don't. Take it from someone who has never had any action and is a lot older, that notion of use it or lose it, applies.

A long time a go read a book I think called the way of the superior man . In there is mention something about ball breathing, basically, breathing in though your nose down your chest to your balls and up the spine to the head. Apprently in a random forum I read a few year ago, in anecdotal experience people said that felt more masculine, charsmatic and attract females strongly. Anyone know of this and experience this?

Have trouble getting to sleep and staying a sleep. Also since doing the nofap noticed this adds to the problem somehow. Sleep only for 3-4 hours. Are there any exercises, meditations, something I could do to solve this insomnia?

Here I am sitting on my own in my room trying to figure out how much of a failure I am, why I have no purpose, on and on and on. Then I just told myself "STOP the noise, STOP the distractions." The question is not why this or that is happening to me or why am I a failure. The real question is How can I be...serve....the universe? The universe is huge, tomorrow this planet could be gone, all the noise and distraction mean nothing. Only thing that matter is that in this moment now how can I be part of the universe, how can I add to it? The focus is flipped from the world happening to me, to how can I happen to the universe? I guess thats why our lifes are so short, we have such short attention spans and driven by our egos and ego imagination. Anything longer would be wasted even more. Whether you agree or not with what I have written is not important, they are just words and symbols of what I feel, which has no language to give an accurate definition. At best beyond words is self expression, the purest form.

The Unfettered Mind:Writing from a zen master. How do you guys pull the wisdom from such titles? These types of books for me don't present straight forward wisdom in bite size formats, instead it feels like you got to read the entire section and have an a-ha moment.

What do I want to do, not really sure anymore. If I let go of the feeling of missing out, I don't really care for relationships any more, I just accepted being on my own. In a funny way, the feeling of missing out, being alone is less intense when I realize that those opportunities had not really existed so I have nothing to really miss out on.

Ah-ha moment, Went out with a couple of work people, as usually was invisible, people kept bumping into me, left out of conversations, women well leave it a that. Then I started running the mantras from the above posts, observing myself as a witness, slowly this need of mine for acknowledgement, permission etc, etc faded away. I realised that being at peace with yourself is more liberating then having the need for attention et al. I sat there in peace just observing this race of animals called humans. Did everything do a 180 when I released these attachments, nope, but something more important happened, I was at peace with myself, I wanted nothing and wished everyone the best. Social anxiety was non more for that moment in time. I did not care that I was being ignored, I just had this genuine natural smile just appear on my face.

I've started reading a book called unbeatable mind, it's written by a navy seal. Who happens to be into zen meditation, for which he acknowledges helping him control the monkey mind so he could become a seal. One of the parts of the books deals with finding the 3 P's, Purpose, Passion, Principles How do you guys figure this out, everytime I try I get a feeling of internal conflicts and if's and buts? Also I get a blank mind, the only thing I really know is that my current situations are not part of the 3 Ps.

Like to share my current experience with this so far. Have been taking lessons for 4 weeks, plus practising at home. This for sure gives you a good leg workout, on the physical side. After each lesson I do have a lot more swagger in my walk and sense of freedom of movement, like if I wanted to do some free running. But my emotional level feels strange. I've always had a feeling of being invisible to the world, people and especially women. Now I am not expecting that after a few lessons that I will have a magnetic personality alluring energy , but I though I might start feeling slightly better. Instead this feeling of being invisible feels more validated. Feel disconnected with everyone, can sense their connections with each other but not me, but at the same a sense of freedom. Maybe xingyi is turning my into a ninja, confidently move past people with being noticed. I don't know, is this normal?

Had an interesting session of san ti shi. Was in a angry state so decided to do san ti shi, put the last of the mohicans soundtract on. Wow, within minutes in my pose I think I got in to a meditative state, because I started to feel where the uncomfortable pain was just an observation, my vision became the fuzzy sharp, even though I had thoughts, they felt more in the background like the outside street noise. I could feel this fearless presence within my wanting to express itself. I felt like I was on top of a mountain and large thunderbolts striking around me, I felt I could take anything that was thrown at me. OMG if this is what it feel like when the you lead with your energy and not your concious thoughts, imagine what could be possible?! I wish I could experience this for much longer then several minutes. The feeling lasted for a few minutes after I finished, however it start to go away quicker as soon as I started to think about writing this post.

If this is the case then it sound like some guys will have more, some guys will have less and then like some guys will have none. So be it.

Arya, so I just get into a meditative state and repeat the mantras? Like "May I be loving, may I be safe, may i be healty, happy, fearless...etc" Then move to second position " May you be........." Then third person "May we all..." Just by doing this I should become not invisible anymore???

After several weeks of meditation and xingyi, I still am that invisible person. Not that I was expecting anything, but for example after my xingy training, when I felt more assertive in my presence and more vibrant, I made eye contact with many women and tried to smile at the them as I walked by, but got nothing. Yet I see some of them reacting to other guys. I guess my question to the poster who already have this magnatic quality you most have other things like looks, and have been practising your chi for many years? I'm thinking that I never been successful with women my expectations should be not much.

When your in a middle of a emotional storm, is there anyway to put the idea of letting go of attachment in use? I understand that should not deny what you are feeling in that moment, but how to you then move on to letting go? I appreciate the power that letting go has, but that power only feels so when not in middle of the mental chaos. For example trying to apply for a job, but have a strong feeling of not being good enough, I know I don't have the skills or experiences for the role, this is like a heavy weight pushing me down. How do I then move on?

For some reason I can't just relax enough to meditate, it feels more like a stamina challenge, also get some strange back pain. Have tried from sitting in a chair to cross legged on the floor. Feel more irrated during the process. any tips on how to get relaxed enough? Tried taking supplements, like magnesium, l-theanine, drinking relaxing tea. But nothing. I have had one or two instances where I managed to get relaxed enough where I could meditate and feel the benefits. But just can't get past the first 10 minutes. The feeling I would describe is as I if I am stuck in the awake beta frequency,can't move down the scale to alpha/theta.

From what I have read about the law of attraction, we can change our perception of the world and opportunities by feeling as if the thing that we choice(instead of want)is already present is more powerful as opposed to just pure visualization(which borders fantasy). Wanting implies lacking, so our truth comes from the life of playground of choices. Anyone have any practical tips and exercises on how to do this well? I'm guessing that emotionally you got be at a more neutral position. For example if you are depressed and feel hopeless you first step has to get to anger to get the emotions jump started then to a feeling of maybe about the thing? Back to my question how to you guys real put power behind the feeling of as if? Is it through and special meditation? I also understand once you have made choice on something, you need to let go of the attachment of the end result and just feel the moment as already reached?

So what me feeling "as if" I have billion dollars and women throwing themselves at me ain't going to work then Damn you LOA for the false hope On a serious note, for me it feels like I am not meant to have a good life, I'm not talking about a depressive feeling but a normal feeling, even when I feel more positive this feeling of not meant to be is there as normal.

After a few weeks I can definitly notice the tension in my head, neck and chest. Before it was a normal feeling, now I feel it for what it is a constant tension in those areas. Sometimes for a brief moment if I can get relaxed enough I feel this wave from my head to my neck of movement of the tension feels like a crashing wave. In that moment I feel my neck becoming relaxed before tensioning up again.

Another perception on letting go One of the few bodybuilders who have wisdom.

Realization is the meta. It is the awaking of being.