vtrader125

I get the idea of a winner, a common problem I've had is like finding work. 1 job, few hundred applicants, there will only be one winner. The quality of the competition is beyond me, I can never keep up and end up with a job way below the hard work put in previously. I know that there is always going to be someone who is more smarter, successful, better looking, richer, more intelligent, popular, on and on. There is no way I can keep like, and I know that wanting to be someone else rather myself is not good. So how does a winner become, knowing that?

Whats a winner mean?

I read a book a while back where they briefly described how samurai warriors would meditate on death, so when it came to fighting they would become fearless. Does anyone know how to do this meditation, I tried to think about death but it just did nothing for me? It's like all your fears are released and you truely accept your mortality and become 100% present, nothing phases you. I would like to get rid of all the bs fears we have been thought over the years growing up.

I trying smaller, more everyday fears to meditate towards fearless, like neediness of approval and acceptance. I find this one easier to meditate too. Imagining that everyone rejects you is a lot easier as I spend half the day thinking that anyway. I guess I will work up to death.

why do I feel more of a workout with bodyweight exercises then free weights, even they are heavier?

My reason to become fearless is not because of life or death situation, but of living a more profound, interesting life. At the moment I have so many small to big bs fear holding me back I think. Form my understanding the opposite of fear is love and curiosity. I'm not looking for the next big thing to fill the so called void, as much as being free to live and thrive and not just survive.

I remember reading that they would meditation on dying, on being killed in many ways. I tried that and got nothing, no emotional response or anything. Is it more then just visualising?

What is spirituality?

I'm thinking first I need to rid of this expectations and needs of validations from others, that is killed my energy the most. How do you guys do this? I want to get to a point where it does not matter how badly people treat me that I will have a solid energy.

Also what is the opposite feeling of lack, missing out? I'm learning to accept who I am, I never really been a people attractor, no friends, no gfs. People do avoid me.

Thanks, but what does this mean, I get the idea of not validating life on external things? How do you get that when you've been a screw up and failed a lot?

hi there, My reason for being here is for self improvement, always felt unlucky in life and wanted to improve my internal way of thinking and being. Want to learn new tools and skills for a change.

Bumping up an old post. The reason is that I'm the total opposite of the poster, feel invisible in social situations especially with women. Its like I have no presence.Now I am not wanting this change for ego reasons to say "yeha look at all these women checking me out" but always felt that this is not right. Unlike the poster never get approached. And no I am not doing this with the expectation of women approaching me. Where can I start?