Kar3n

Pray

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Christmas

Yes, once, almost a year ago. I dreamt I was walking down my street, there were people all over the place, dressed like it was the 70's. One moment I was walking in a sea of people, the next, I started rising up, still moving my legs, until I realized all I had to do was think forward and I would head in that direction. I woke up when I made it to my house and saw my deceased parents standing near my front door, looking like they did when I was a kid.

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Broken

There is nothing you can do to change her destiny, so your running or not will have no baring on it. You can not save her from herself. You can choose to set up boundaries or not. Cost vs. benefit seems a worthy place to start in examining the situation you have found yourself in. You have to ask if the cost to your well-being by not setting up boundaries with her and not working on your own issues are worth it. To what extent are you willing to damage yourself and suffer to try to protect her from herself and the "10 other guys" and why? In short, save yourself. Seems selfish doesn't it? It is not though, we are no good to anyone if we are not balanced in love and respect for ourselves first.

Sounds like a tough spot. Drug use is usually a way of self medicating and hiding from our own reality. Is polyamory really what she wants, or is it something she just fell into and can not escape? Is there something in her past that might have sparked the polyamorous relationships and drug use? What caused this downward spiral? There is no need to answer these questions; I only ask to provoke thought beyond your own suffering. Take a look at your own motivations. What drives this love for her? What is it that you get from the relationship that keeps you so bound to her? Are your actions enabling her present behaviors? My best advice to you would be to run, however, you seem to be all in, and no words from me or anyone else will change that for you. So in light of that, all I can offer are words of encouragement to protect your spiritual, physical and mental health as best you can. Try to get out of the house and outside of your head for a few hours each day, do something just for yourself, feed and nurture your own soul. Much love to you. I hope this all works out and you can find some peace.

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hole

Thanks for the tune cootie, Nungali.

Meditate

Contemplate

Know

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 King James Version (KJV) 3 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: 2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; 3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.

Deep

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Welcome, Steve, may the Tao be with you during your journey with the bums

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