Earl Grey

Dude, quit posting links to rum soaked fist--if you love that forum so much, just post there. If you're here, actually use this forum for its function: discussion with people, not just posting links elsewhere.

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This response is why people insult you here. 🙄 Gendering me for my response that was trying to help, then accusing me of being a white knight. 🤪 You don’t know sincerity at all if this is how you think. You will remain in your sorry state forever. 😈

This is not an apology. The wording is insincere. When you say it that way, it sounds like you're using an apology as an insult. By using that phrasing, you have said "It's your fault that you think I'm a racist or sexist" and there is no personal responsibility or acknowledgment of any wrongdoing. In other words, you're telling people that they can't think properly and there's nothing wrong with your actions. The most humble person will detach themselves from their actions and focus on how the others feel. You have made others uncomfortable with your sexist and racist posts. They are racist and sexist, and I'm not the only one who has pointed it out (all of them). You may not agree, but unfortunately, this is how we see it. Here is how to do a sincere apology, but you must truly be sincere and believe it: "I am sorry for posting racist and sexist things on this forum". You apologize for the action. Now, if you really want to improve, you have before asked for feedback, but the problem is, when people explain it, all you do is justify it and rationalize it stubbornly, so as Walker pointed out--you get exactly what you've received from people being frustrated with you. Start by reading this: https://www.cracked.com/blog/6-types-apologies-that-arent-apologies-at-all/ https://www.cracked.com/blog/the-5-most-obnoxious-ways-people-screw-up-apologies/

In two threads so far (this one and another one regarding disappearing children), you've reminded me of the timeless wisdom of that literary great, Mark Twain, who once said the following: "There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics."

My intent is not to study with “better” teachers, but to have fun learning something that is also established as what works and is good. The Five Immortals temple looks like it does, but until I touch hands, I won’t know. We’ll see. I’m happy with what I have; everything else is a treat afterwards.

I wanted to study there before. If it’s in my karma, I will, though if not, I have a lot of stuff to work on with my current teachers anyway.

Nah, I agree with you. It's the spirit of where those responses come from. Some are responding with impatience and malice, others are having a laugh and seeing him as a troll. This is my intention and how I see him: he's a confused kid and I'm the older kid in the classroom telling him that he's going to get his ass kicked if he doesn't cut that shit out. I'd rather he get pissed off at me because if he actually does intend to listen to me, he'll see that I actually am making sure he doesn't piss off the gang members who are already wary of him for talking about their girlfriends as being demonic, and if he actually listens, he may one day get out of his ass. I am, of course, human, so calling him an idiot is the same way I've been yelled at when in survival situations, such as when my team told me to "WATCH YOUR FUCKING STEP YOU IDIOT THE BUILDING STILL HAS LIVE EXPLOSIVES!!!" and later "WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING GOING AHEAD OF THE TEAM YOU ARE THE SUPPORT NOT THE SCOUT!!!" when I was working in northern Sri Lanka. None of it was in malice, but impatience and concern, and okay, the comparison here is a stretch, but it's the spirit of people showing concern rather than bullying.

Some people get turned off and leave, some fight with insults, some take a break and come back. I've done all three. There is hope that maybe Heartbreak will grow up, even if not now, and it's in his best interest to grow up because living with that kind of paradigm makes me wonder if it truly makes him happy given how miserable all of his posts are, and how dead he sounds. If it isn't making him happy, he really needs to get himself evaluated and ruminate a bit on his paradigm. The biggest loser here is him because living with that kind of outlook on life will never bring anyone happiness, so he's going to have to either continue living it or change the script in his head. Happiness from trying something different or misery from doing the same thing and not getting anything better? I think we have all faced that kind of situation before and ended up here on the forum as a result.

The problem with that is that the quality of the forum sinks and the people looking at the forum from the outside (there are many) from Google searches starts to attract more people like him. Insults are pretty mild compared to what has been said before, and given his response to patient and polite posts before... Anyway, I've had quite a few people messaging me about this thread, which I found hilarious given that I made a couple of these before, so interesting to be on the other end. Heartbreak will either get it or he won't, and the rest of us will either ignore him or piss him off with the reactions that he isn't looking for because the end result is that he is getting no validation from anyone on this forum, but he is getting attention, though I suspect that ultimately, he will want validation. The kid probably just wants to be loved, but it's a lot harder to give him what he's looking for when he's basically saying that everyone is demonic unless they are busty Asian women and rejecting another kind of love that is common: tough love.

Tried that with Everything--got people talking about what they were initially hesitant to talk about, but he eventually got himself banned because he ignored Sean's request to stay out of Taomeow's thread. Tried that with gendao, then realized I was blowing a fuse, then we patched things up, buried the hatchet, and are friends now, and as a result, both of us have dialed back our individual idiosyncrasies as a result too. Heartbreak to me is a lost kid and confused, the equivalent of a boy who was a latchkey kid and raised by trashy daytime television and reddit with no manners, just instant gratification and desire for attention. No manners and no attention span = inability to recognize what's wrong with what he's doing and unwillingness to be told that there's something wrong with what he's doing. We could ban him, yeah, I wouldn't mind, as the quality of the forum has really suffered with all his conspiracy crap and his misogynistic, homophobic, racist and racist-fetishist shitposting. Alternatively, he could also take time to get the hint for those of us who actually interact with him that he needs to change or deal with the consequences of people who have initially tried to reason with him politely and patiently to all out bluntness (to put it mildly). The choice is his to 1) wise up and cut the crap and perhaps become a welcome member of the forum, 2) continue what he's doing and keep getting the finger from many people while others ignore him, or 3) voluntarily leave and return to a place where people like him share similar values, which are YouTube comments and reddit threads. @sean ain't here and I no longer await his return, but I am pretty sure Sean wouldn't be happy with all those spam threads Heartbreak keeps posting. Based on prior reactions to people telling him to cut the crap, I don't think Heartbreak has it in him to humble himself and cut the crap because he will continue seeing everyone else as being full of crap. Reminds me of a guy I knew, Noah: he would scratch his balls, really going into his underwear, and then wonder why women wouldn't shake his hands afterwards, then get angry and say women were evil and judgmental. He would go to a restaurant with his brother and brother's friend and take food off of other people's plates and when we told him he can't just do that, he got angry and said it looked good and he wanted to try it, but didn't understand why the other guests were yelling at him or why the manager wanted to throw him out. He then just said people are evil and demonic, judgmental, narrow-minded, and that those restaurants were bad anyway. Guy couldn't take a hint and it's no wonder that at age 50, he is an incel up to now. I could even go on about how he's racist too towards blacks while being half-black and Jewish, has an affinity towards Asian women, and--oops, hmm, sounds quite similar to Heartbreak...

I won't be polluting any of your threads because you've already scrapped the bottom of the barrel with your crap! Nothing comes close to the level of garbage you leave here!

Oh, ho, ho, you really want to go there? @ralis! I have been challenged! Would you like to chime in and point out your favorite sections from Sean's new criteria? You just wait there, Headache, and see everything wrong with what you've posted. Or rather, what's wrong with everything you post. And you really think my height is going to make me feel insulted? Boy, you really need to seek professional help, not to mention get a lot more creative than that.

The funny thing is, Sifu Terry wouldn't approve of your homophobic, racist, or sexist posts here either. My name-calling ain't different from his or another Sifu who was a member here dealing with idiots like you. Be very careful, as me calling you an idiot for pointing out your racist and sexist shit is quite mild compared to what you post about women.

I ain’t interested in either, and in case you didn’t know, Sean is more likely to tell you to fuck off, which he has for people he’s banned and called dipshits before. So name calling ain’t gonna make me less qualified. Run along, little boy. I am only saying what everyone else here has been saying too: you don’t know anything and you will only screw yourself up more the longer you keep at this.

Nothing to do with my own attachment. You just have no desire to get your head out of your ass because people who actually know what they’re doing make you feel stupid for clinging stubbornly to your made-up system for cultivation and your equally made-up criteria for enlightenment. Fact: you sound even DUMBER because you’re so adamant about what nonsense you’re saying that it’s exactly like those old women who insist that Elvis is still alive and they saw him over in a diner in Kansas City, but somehow have no photographic evidence or anyone else there to back up their claims.

You don’t have to hate gays to be spreading or saying homophobic things. Major uncool. And you can call me whatever you want, but that doesn’t change the fact that as guests in Sean’s home, you act like a little shit and we show you that’s not cool with him or us. Yet every time we show you it ain’t cool what you’re doing, you act like you’re entitled to be a little shit because he hasn’t thrown you out yet. Way too many things you’ve done here that would have had him axe you in week one, boy. Grow up.

It is a practical teaching: use up the well too much and it runs dry; never use it and the water goes stagnant. For all of Headache’s criticisms of Christianity, he has a very Judeo-Christian guilt in his outlook and has absolutely zero understanding of anything related to Taoist practices, philosophy, or cultivation. In short, he has substituted the words one uses to describe Catholic guilt and being an incel with appropriation of vocabulary from Taoist practices while taking new age garbage from YouTube to create his own self-serving and self-sabotaging paradigm while judging others for not following it and its many, many flaws from absence of logic to serious ethical issues.

Homophobe alert! @sean people have been asking for your return to sort these creeps out and off your forum. It’s starting to sound like you’re a mythical creature or a tall tale like Paul Bunyan or a minotaur!

Ask away--but remember I come from Xin Yi and it's different from how a lot of people here practice, which tends to be a lot different from what is taught in the LKC book. Catch me in my PPJ if you want to talk ZZ. Good night.

Almost sounds like a post-cyberpunk description of meditation, where technology and organic lifeforms are no longer in conflict and contrast, but ever-entwined with each other, a la Warren Ellis's Transmetropolitan graphic novel series. I've personally had my own improvements recently in Zhan Zhuang mostly for Xin Yi along with sensitivity for Taijiquan, so I'm pretty happy with current improvements.

Who's here now that has any new discoveries or improvements in their practice since quarantine?

Nothing I said has anything to do with wanking myself off. You have posted photos of well-endowed women of Asian heritage and other racist fetishist posts while struggling with your sexuality. Not any of us here, boy.