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  1. Weather Magick

    Earl Grey replied to Lord Josh Allen's topic in Daoist Discussion

    Ha ha, nah, they were rapping early 2000s and I can’t post them here right now because it’s a bit controversial since they were hilarious and explicit while referencing everything from Biggie to 2pac.

  2. Weather Magick

    Earl Grey replied to Lord Josh Allen's topic in Daoist Discussion

    Maybe I’ll share one day how one of my Sifus used gangsta rap to share insight on Tao and parallels.

  3. Tai Chi practitioners should know about mitochondria.

    Earl Grey replied to ReturnDragon's topic in General Discussion

    Thank you for reminding me I’m not that gullible.

  4. Tai Chi practitioners should know about mitochondria.

    Earl Grey replied to ReturnDragon's topic in General Discussion

    I stand corrected. I suppose a book on juicing and dehydrated food from a Russian immigrant isn’t the best source.

  5. Tai Chi practitioners should know about mitochondria.

    Earl Grey replied to ReturnDragon's topic in General Discussion

    I haven’t used a microwave for twenty years now. They banned them in the Soviet Union for a reason. But a microwaved turd can describe a lot of futile behavior...

  6. Tai Chi practitioners should know about mitochondria.

    Earl Grey replied to ReturnDragon's topic in General Discussion

    Can I just say that every creative criticism or insult you make is not only hilarious, but is visualized both immediately and easily with the manner that you write and the images you describe?
  7. I actually used that argument, and then showed pictures of the really, really eastward Russians to some collegemates. Blank stares. Then I asked people in the UN why they list Mongolia as South Asia and introduced a friend from their who asked why nobody asked Mongolians where they consider their country situated.
  8. Naaaaaaaah. If I were smart, I'd be saving my posts for a book rather than posting on the forum all the time. But yeah, I wouldn't toot my own horn for what I am, but what I do and what I know.
  9. Of course a guy can be shy, smart, and short and still get the girl. I'm shy and short, but did just fine myself. Saying "Hi" to someone doesn't mean you're not shy! Those classifications of "jock" or "nice guy" are broad deliberately because they are common ways people characterize themselves and thusly we get broad solutions to it before we get to nuance.
  10. My friend from Kansas was unfortunate enough to get serious Orange County culture shock when he went to UC Irvine for a year before transferring to USC. He told me there was this game they played, "Guess what kind of Asian" and some guys would look at someone passing by and guess if they were Japanese, Chinese, Korean, or Vietnamese. As he didn't know it was just an Asian American thing, he guessed the next white-skinned dude was Slovenian and the next was German, then the next was Scandinavian. The other guys gave him weird looks because my friend didn't seem to get that it was just an "Asian thing" and not an international thing. Bah. Enough talking about west coast Asian Americans, especially from Orange County.
  11. There was an old BBC article I read saying that the smallest average sized country was India, but a caveat said that "size doesn't matter, it's what you do with it, and it was clear men in that country were doing a lot considering that they have the second largest population in the world after China" and if I found it, it would amuse us all. Oh wait, here it is: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/6161691.stm
  12. I've heard the argument about Filipinos not counting, and for years, I couldn't understand why. Turns out that the biggest proponents of this are both American history and Filipinos trying to find a stereotype that makes them look better than others. After the Chinese Exclusion Act of 1882, Filipinos were classified as Mongoloids, so they managed to get around the Asian quotas that prevented East Asians from coming into the US, and they ran with it and came in the 1920s. In the 1990s, the East Asians basically said Indians, South Asians in general, and Southeast Asians who aren't Vietnamese, Cambodian, or Laotian, aren't considered "Asian" because they measured Asianness by chopsticks, Hanzi/Kanji, and other superficial nonsense by, frankly speaking, Asian Americans who knew nothing at all about Asian cultures or even set foot in the motherland. The Filipinos then argued they were Pacific Islanders because they didn't want to be part of the "small and weak" Asian stereotype and wanted to belong to "big and strong warrior" stereotype associated with them. When it was explained to me in the Asian American studies departments of UCLA and UC Berkeley, I pretty much concluded I was no longer associating with the Asian American subcultures at all (and I really wasn't--I was a TCK who has very deep exposure to my Chinese and Filipino heritage having lived in both countries). Obviously not all of them believe that, but there were enough of the group perpetuating misinformation for self-interests just as much as people who didn't know any better saying nonsense. Whenever people in Manila encounter a Fil-Am saying, "Oh, I'm a Pacific Islander", everyone will look at the Fil-Am with bemusement at best and scorn at worst because not a single person here believes that they are Pacific Islanders or even consider for a moment that they are not Asians. ...and yet, Americans lump all Asians from South Asia to East Asia to Southeast Asia with Pacific Islanders in official demographics, hence: APA: Asian Pacific American (which excludes South Asians). All right, enough going off topic.
  13. I said "Many", not "All", LL. https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/nice-guys-dont-have-to-finish-last/ https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/how-to-be-assertive/
  14. False. I knew a guy with an 11" tool from New Zealand who scared women away. I know a guy with a big wallet and who spends a lot who is still a virgin as he approaches 50. I know people who are well-endowed and have a lot of disposable income, but can't talk to women or get them to go out with them. Likewise, I know a guy who is not tall and is often hustling, but he has no problem meeting people online and offline. It's always excuses and not understanding women or understanding how one projects oneself--quality of what you give directly reflects what responds to you.
  15. When I was growing up, we thought being the nice guy and not the asshole jock got the girl based off of teen movies from the 90s. In college, I realized many "nice guys" are actually ticking time bombs who are passive-aggressive because of these expectations, and jocks weren't assholes, but jovial fellows who were confident enough to say hello and communicate interest. Being in the study rooms to hear the things said by these so-called nice guys was alarming, and sharing a dorm with jocks showed that while they were loud and crazy, they were actually pretty friendly, nice, and fun. They had things they liked to do and were fine if cheerleaders wouldn't go out with them because they played sports, had bros, and did fun things together like the shooting range or paintball. What do incels do? Whine on forums all day and night and blame women. What did college "nice guys" do? Whine to each other but rarely did they have hobbies besides studying and comparing GPAs.

  16. Say Something Nice About Someone Chain!

    Earl Grey replied to Earl Grey's topic in General Discussion

    Remember: comment on the person above you and then tag someone else after! Cloudhands has some funny and lighthearted posts! @Nintendao is a sweetheart trying to be fair to everyone!

  17. Tai Chi practitioners should know about mitochondria.

    Earl Grey replied to ReturnDragon's topic in General Discussion

    Except your understanding of either science or TCM are extremely questionable.

  18. Weather Magick

    Earl Grey replied to Lord Josh Allen's topic in Daoist Discussion

  19. Well, now, this is a surprise. Toni, who lives in Europe, might be better to comment on it. Love the belly pun ya did there.
  20. Exactly. But even when in the west coast and in the east coast, there were noticeable differences. Okay, we've opened a can of worms, so let's use a few other personal examples. The L.A. girls to me were 9s and 10s if you looked at their physical appearance, as were Miami girls. But their personalities could range from 2 to negatives. I suspect the negative score for personalities is also a big issue with incels and why they are not attractive. I've dated approximately 3 California girls in the cities of San Francisco, Los Angeles, and San Diego, where I lived in various points of my life. I also could have done much worse--most of those stories are better saved for a Dao Bums meetup at a pub because the alcohol will be necessary to toast to leaving the ludicrous lunatic ladies. The environment definitely shaped them and their values. The women I dated in the Midwest (notice I am saying "women" rather than "girls") were interested in me because of what I do and what I believe. Likewise, the expat women liked me because I wasn't the usual dating pool, and the backpacker girls (not expats, just passersby) were already a lot more open in general since everything could be left behind before going home. The environment changed a lot of their existing biases and paradigms. I was chatting with some friends from Switzerland about incels a while back, and he couldn't believe that they were a thing because he thought it was just an Internet joke. As they travel a lot, they were surprised that people are so bitter about not having sex or dating, because to them, they were able to date and have sex as a side effect of being who they are. These Swiss folks by the way are a mix of Vietnamese, Senegalese, and German-Swiss gentlemen who have their own businesses that let them travel, one as an educator, two as logistics managers. How they meet women is just a matter of the work they do and meeting people through happenstance rather than going out and actively seeking people. There are times I've had to seek and there are times when the women just came my way. The time I did feel desperation was when I was going through severe depression and grief when my father died, so that I feel was more of the reason women turned away from me. Incels probably need to do a lot more personal work and understand that one rejection or a few doesn't speak for all women.
  21. Siddhis are distractions at worst and reminders of Divinity at best. Do not get caught up in parlor tricks. Again: do you have a teacher or mentor? This might be better for you to have someone guiding you, as it seems more like you want to vent anger and frustration more than seek techniques and reinforce the ideas in your head instead of seriously confronting them.
  22. Yeah, like I said, we were the outliers, and I probably should have said that there is indeed racism in many instances. I actually got lots of dates when I had OKCupid before, surprisingly, and the common thing I heard was, "You're not the typical Asian guy or even the typical guy on OKC." Strictly speaking, most of my experience dating has been in coastal North American cities in the west and then abroad with other expatriate gals or backpackers, so I have some outlier data as well.

  23. Tai Chi practitioners should know about mitochondria.

    Earl Grey replied to ReturnDragon's topic in General Discussion

    Go study TCM at least. It will make much more sense.

  24. Do Taoists REALLY Have Amazing Longevity?

    Earl Grey replied to 11:33's topic in General Discussion

    Not all qigong is focused on good health. There are thousands of variations towards different ends, but health is only a common variable, sometimes more of a side effect than the goal itself. Given your history, it might be a good idea to show what you do that you consider qigong. Qi is itself intelligent, especially if you do something like Fragrant or Flying Phoenix, and operates independently of mitochondria, though it can influence it as it influences everything.
  25. We did have chat before, now we have to basically meet off-forum to become friends, unless you're Marblehead who was just the same guy online and offline (RIP). I ended up creating a chat app group of Cultivation Bros who get along really well, and we Skype regularly to shoot the shit and talk about video games. We also have a co-ed group of people from my lineage and that one is a little more quiet, but it's a way of connecting.