Aetherous

Guys don't like what he said, either...not because it's completely untrue...but because what he said tends to be true in our experience with dating many women and having unfulfilling brief relationships with them. I guess it's a really disappointing experience overall, comparable to how women complain about how "all guys" are shallow, conceited, boring, lazy, liars, and whatever else there is to complain about. At least personally, what he said doesn't apply so much with other types of relationships with women. For instance, once you have a girlfriend things are different than all of the very beginning stuff, like picking up, dating, etc. Or other examples...when you have a friend who is a girl, when they are your family, when you work with them, etc. In those other relationships, we see different sides of the individual women. They are quite different from the way we are...for instance, more socially oriented rather than pragmatically oriented...able to put up with a lot more nonsense and do what must be done, whereas guys will only take so much of something and try to change things. There are lots of differences...but yeah, in the magical realm of not really knowing people and yet trying to have deep relationships or sex with them, it can be frustrating. What he said is basically true, in regards to dating.

Putting up with BS goes a long way as well....lol!

Oh yeah, I see what you mean. I guess it could be said you've got good "inner game" due to having integrity.

Being disappointed in others is an attempt at manipulation. I know you're above that. Think of the medical qigong stuff you've been learning...I saw a great post of yours on the taobums facebook page.

It's very possible to view the strategies these guys use, or the types of people they make themselves into, in a positive light. To view people's positive aspects is spiritual cultivation...and to attack their character or only focus on what seems to be negative aspects in them, is the opposite of spiritual cultivation! For instance, think of a "bad boy" type. These guys are hated for being who they are. Lets think positively though. They speak their mind and give you the cold hard truth (positively spoken, this is pure integrity and a complete absence of any ulterior motive) and are completely unafraid of confrontation (positively, this displays the capability of protecting people, and fear is quite the destructive emotion so to be free of it is a good thing). Those are a couple of examples. Another example...I was going to mention a strategy earlier for "how to keep a good relationship" but I didn't because of what I perceive in here as a simmering hatred towards guys who know how this stuff works. But whatever...here it is: if your perceived value is above the girl you're with, she looks up to you and has attraction and respect for you, and it is likely to last. If your perceived value is below the girl you're with, she looks down upon you and is unattracted and lacks respect for you, and it is likely to end soon or not be a good relationship. So, always strive to be higher value than her in all facets of your life. This might seem Machiavellian or whatever, to always make sure you're better than her...but we can look at it in the positive light: you should always try to please the one you're with and give her a good relationship. Self improvement is virtuous. So, focus on the good in everyone. See the positive side. That's cultivation. There are always two sides to the coin, and it's our choice which one we cultivate in our perceptions and interactions. I think people who are truly spiritually cultivating (not the false kind that pretends to be holier than thou and makes itself into a frustrated spineless doormat), will end up becoming more attractive. In a totally genuine way, because their actual character is being changed. They will have true confidence and power. I think it's totally fine if such a person strives to learn about what works in relationships, and what doesn't...and I think it's not fine if they choose ignorance of the subject, because that leads to really bad results.

The supernatural stuff sounds great. Here's some info on pasteurization for you. I personally boil milk before drinking anyway. Boiling it reduces its cold and heavy qualities...so for a person who tends to get excess mucous from drinking milk, or if they're slightly overweight, it basically takes away that harmful effects. I'd drink it raw if it was freshly squeezed out of the udder, as it's still warm at that time...man, that'd be nourishing. But many people do fine with cold raw milk, too. My cousin and his family have all consumed it for years now. In the rare instance, a person would get some germs from it and get sick...it's possible that people have died from having raw milk products (not necessarily drinking raw milk itself), which is why many places make raw milk illegal. So that's something to be aware of.

http://www.breitbart.com/Big-Government/2013/12/27/New-year-decadent-Americans

Guys, please don't insult people here.

Men: a few books on what women possibly like and why that might possibly be, some with a more positive tone which is always nice... One Two Three

What do you mean, you saw that too? lol ...nevermind. Got it.

With weight on the body for that amount of time, the fascia will become quite fluid and open in the area. Also, near the inside of the ASIS is where the ilipsoas is, and if impacting that at all would be quite a good thing.

I picked up an obese girl wearing something pink in one flash...don't know what that's about. In another flash, I picked up a snowy mountain peak.

Side note: I vaguely recall reading about how the Mayans or Incans (or something) venerated the jaw bone specifically in their spiritual tradition.

You guys don't like the how to increase testosterone to become more masculine and therefore attractive discussion?

I was just looking this up now, too...apparently zinc and vitamin D can help, in addition to other things. Hey this topic is how to pick up "chicks"...might as well discuss the advice that will actually help guys! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLgkqarXvbs

High test is referring to testosterone, right? It's kind of getting a bad rep here...with all this talk of raping prey, and abusive violent behavior. Those things have more to do with one's upbringing and decisions, than this hormone that men really need to be healthy on all levels. Btw, dudes...lifting weights is one of the best things for increasing testosterone! You can watch yourself literally become more masculine over a few months.

Well then...only interested in the abnormal woman. lol Lets put it in the terms of the opposite gender...say, you see a girl who looks like an 11 on the scale of 1-10. Imagine your brain shutting down completely, and being unable to resist impregnating her due to your genetics. Complete override. Has that ever happened to you? Me either. I could admit at times...wow she's really attractive. But to basically become an entirely different person in one moment and forget all about your aspirations in life...that's not what I'm about, nor do I want it to be what my future children's mother to be about.

I prefer the type with a functioning prefrontal cortex, who has evolved beyond the animal level of always acting purely out of evolutionary impulse, and who lacks the slave programming which bows down before those with personality disorders. They're somewhat rare...but the colloquial and elusive "normal girl". In the meantime, I primarily contemplate this, since it's the only thing I would care for: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs+31

You've got to ask yourself...who would want to be with that type of girl?

I'm not very knowledgeable, and it's not cool to give advice to someone with decades more experience than myself...but I would suggest to think about a couple of things... The nervous system is easy to damage with certain practices (such as focusing in the dantians), and when things feel a bit less than smooth and normal, when the mind is not fully peaceful, then it's time to evaluate what to do. Your energy is supposed to feel smooth and normal, healthy, and your mind is supposed to be empty and totally at peace...this is the natural state. Buddhists do the thing where they let go of the concept of a self...so this would mean relinquishing the idea that, "I have this nervous system that has these issues which are not good for me" etc. Meditation would be to free oneself of those things, which seems to me to be a good idea, since the mind impacts the energy. Can a serene mind exist in a disjointed nervous system? Not necessarily sitting there on a cushion trying to forget about yourself and trying to have no mental fluctuations...but doing things that truly allow you to be freed of your concerns for a while...such as video games, watching good movies, having a long discussion with a good friend, being absorbed in the act of eating and drinking good things, doing something outdoors...whatever works to just chill out. So that will release the mind, which helps the energy go back to normal. Another thing that does this is sleep. Someone else suggested taking a break from doing any practices...this helps greatly. Sometimes the best practice is no practice...because if what you're doing is counterproductive, it's worse to do that than nothing at all. It's my belief that if the energy is kind of messed up, it's frying the nervous system, in simple terms. In Ayurvedic terms, ojas is being depleted...then eventually this drains the lifespan, the param ojas of the heart (which is only 8 drops). When that ojas is completely gone, we die. So that ojas is what we all attempt to build up during celibacy. If the heart feels empty in any way, this means that the soul is somewhat disconnected from the heart, due to ojas depletion...which is the quick path to death. The heart area should feel full, alive, and undisturbed...the opposite of empty, death-like, and disturbed. So another consideration would be replenishing ojas, as well as working on the soul if you know anything regarding that. If there's a mud bath place near you, I imagine that would greatly help.

I resolve to try my best to follow my teacher's instructions exactly.

I'd like to change to "Aetherous"...thanks!

Yeah I agree, friendzone just means not interested. Has nothing to do with friends being unable to have attraction there...actually friendship is the best foundation to build off of.

But to be honest, seems to me the best way to pick up girls (or anyone) is just to talk to them like a normal person. If you're interested in the book they're holding strike up a conversation about that...or if not, then about something else that's interesting. Buying anything for strangers is pointless and I think has the reverse effect of what we want. In our current society, I would probably only consider buying flowers after like 2 years of dating. If a girl offered to buy a book I was looking at, I'd probably say "sure!" but would think she was really creepy and would be looking for the first thing to tell me I should be running.