Sublimation

Hey Lima! Thank you for your kind words, and sorry for my late response. I didn't check the forum for quite a while. I actually feel very very good for a couple of weeks now. I managed to find a person that is doing foot reflexology and she helps me very much! I managed to get sleep and stay focused. I am much happier and don't take too much too serious anymore. I also found a Baguazhang teacher 1 hour outside of my city where I train now Thank you all for that. The change all started here with you people. I am really feeling happy on most of my days and I really enjoy my time at the moment Much love to you all!

I thank you very much! Now I have a lot of input from you I can work with

Can you explain me what "count on beads" means? I looked it up in the dictionary cause my english is not that great. Do you mean I should get myself some kind of bracelet with beads on it? and then just count them? Like 1-30 and after that go again? And while looking at the candle what do i do? Just nothing but staring?

Hey folks! Since I am doing Qi Gong for around 1 month daily now, I wonder if I want to start meditating. I really think it would help me with my ADHD and for concentrating better. I need a better focus and get calmer and Qi Gong helped me with the 2nd one already a bit. Do you have any advice how I could start with meditating? Is it better to find a teacher or are there ways to learn it from the internet? I already say thanks for any help coming from you

Hey guys! I recently wrote in my "Welcome" Threat about my depression and since I try a lot to make things better since beginning of may, I had a feeling coming up in me that I had a lot of times in my past. It is sadness and it makes me feel depressed very often too (I suffer from clinical depression and ADHD). When I met a friend of mine today, she was very happy and we were sitting near the danube (a river here in Vienna). After some minutes though, she got a phone call because a friend of her is living on the street and is addicted to some dugs aswell. 2 other friends of her found this poor girl near a subway station and asked if my friend would come to help her. She immediatly left and hugged me, said thanks and apologized for leaving so early. I really had no problem with that because I felt that the problem of this young women has to be much more important than our meetup. I told her that she can call or text me whenever she wants if she needs someone to talk or whatever. She wrote me after a couple of hours and told me that they brought her friend to the hospital and that she is tired now and doesn't want to meet again because she is crying and wants to be alone. I really understood that and said she can call whenever she needs me. We were just texting but I felt her sadness in her words. It really hit me. It is 3 hours now that we stopped texting and I still feel bad. I feel down because of that friend of her living on the streets dealing with addiction, I felt bad for my friend because she wants to help but feels helpless. I really have that kind of problem since my whole life. I always had the feeling I want to help people. It is though, that I am like a sponge for feelings around me and my people. I was reading a lot about highly sensitive people recently and I found myself a lot in the description of some texts/blogs or books. Can anyone tell me what that problem could be I have here? Why can't I just ignore the feelings of others? I want to be there for them but I don't want to feel their pain. It really feels like if I feel exactly the same like the person that really suffers. The bad thing about this is that a lot of times this makes me depressed and I am not able to help anyone anymore. Not even myself. I am still trying to fight that sadness today because it makes me lazy, tired, stiff and doesn't let me sleep. Thanks for all your answers and opinions in advance

It is true. I guess I forgot how important it is to build a stable self that is focused on itself first and not bothered by the outside too much, because if something has to change it is me first to get everything going.

Hello Lima! I actually really feel a lot better than one month ago. I started going running 3 times a week, doing Qi Gong in the morning and focusing on visualizing the things I want to have in my life. I watched the movie "The Secret" and though some content is too esoteric for me, I liked the idea of thinking what I want in my life instead of concentrating what I don't want. I don't feel depressed that often anymore, and if so, I make myself clear and realiize that good times will come eventually. I value myself as a person more and I focus a lot more on my own than on the outside, because I realized that I have to change some things in my life to help other people in the futre. Thanks for you kind words Lima

Hey Lima! Thank you for your response I actually wanted to post some days ago after the site was down but somehow wasn't able to make a reply in the "Welcome Section" anymore. Seems that it got fixed now I started doing Qi-Gong in the morning after waking up this week on a daily basis now. I really felt better, relaxed, not stiff like before and also tried to "smile from the inside" as I learned fromm my Sifu years ago. (My Qi Gong Style was from Wong Kiew Kit) I still feel depressive on some days and I am still not able to sleep without my pills but at least my everday life feels more conscious and I try a lot of things to make my day better. On monday, I was at a concert with my father because he wanted me to join him. I did so and something strange happened. When we entered the hall and waited for our seats, I suddenly got tears in my eyes. I really didn't know what that was because I neither felt sad or anythign else. I tried to suppress the tears because it looked really strange when I was crying in front of so many people. Then, when the concert started, the tears hit in again. I really got problems to control them and they came out a little more. This time I didn't feel bad either, but I had positive feelings, maybe also because of the music. The whole concert took around 2 1/2 hours and in the first hour I was supressing so many tears because I really had the feeling to start crying. At home I could release the tension and cried in my bed. It didn't feel bad at all, it was as if I had some energy released. I felt lighter and happier this day. Do you guys have any idea, what the tears could mean? Does the body release pressure when he cries? Since I have the feeling, that joining this forum was a good idea and it helps me to focus on me, my thoughts, and inner self, I want to thank everyone here that replies to this thread and helps me with words, ideas or just by "listening". You guys are great and I appreciate your content

I found some interesting points by a trainer (I think from Germany): He talks about the problem comparing martial arts with MMA and efficiency.

We have 2 other threads that cover this special topic already I guess a lot of conservative chinese people saw it as an assault to the chinese culture and now they start threatening this MMA guy. This happens quite often if the feelings of a group of people got hurt. After beating this Taiji Master their believe system got cracked. A lot of people that believe in the eastern philosophies and religion have the feeling that the east is superior to the west just because it is old, ancient or whatsoever. I still have to admit though, that I don't believe a true master of Taiji or whatever wouldn't start a fight like this. I always had the feeling that the chinese martial arts are not that much of a competitive sport like a lot of people use to think.

Oh sorry just found that someone else already was posting about this topic i think it can be closed then

Hello people, I have found this video about a Taiji Master losing a short fight to a MMA fighter. https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/05/10/world/asia/mma-martial-arts-china-tai-chi.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&referer=http%3A%2F%2Fm.facebook.com People will tend to think that the chinese arts are a fraud and not effective anymore. But isn't it that the mysticism around all these chinese martial arts that makes it look stupid. I always had the feeling that when I did Kung-Fu or Bagua in my early years it wasn't about the fighting itself but the practice and concentrating on the moment. I really enjoyed walking circles or standing like a tree and doing the forms. I doubt that the guy in the video who calls himself a taiji master is a real master. I don't think that chinese martial arts has any chance vs. the newer styles because why? Science. Why would there be anyone that thinks an old style that never was updated or added new parts has any chance to beat newer styles that studied other martial arts? These old styles have no chance on a competitive level and anyone who drives for that will fail. What are your thoughts on this video?

Hi Lima it is 10th may here in vienna. i watch the full moon and enjoy a piecfull and silent moment. Thanks for your kind words. We can call ourselfs brothers, sure. I like that. All the best!

Thanks for your kind words Lima! I checked out Vesak Day and got that it is a day Buddhist f.i. celebrate. But what am I supposed to do on this day in your opinion? Should I get in contact with some Buddhists in my city? I am from Austria living in Vienna. Here are nearly no people like that.

Thank you, I will check it out, but I don't think that I can agree with Liberalism at all. I found some good argument against it, but I will defenitly check out "The Law". Thank you very much for that link