Cobie

Forgiveness imo is only allowed after the perpetrator has: (1) fully understood what was wrong about it (2) never wants to do it again and has learned to control it (3) genuinely feels sorry about it and very humbly asks me for my forgiveness. If these 3 conditions are not met, forgiveness is imo not allowed as that would be ‘enabling’.

I embrace my anger. All emotions are there because I need them, they all have a function. Anger is a very useful emotion, it makes me aware that boundaries have been transgressed and it gives me the energy to take action. It naturally runs it’s course and disappears again once the problem has been dealt with.

strong silent type

“hello” to you too, welcome to the forum.

my highlighting Ah to be young and to still think everyone else is to blame and not know as yet that’s a complete dead end. Happy days.

I don’t think it will end, but I feel you’ve got your heart in the right place.

reminded me of DDJ ch. 70 [start ch 70 MWD B (DIO)] 吾 言 易 知 也 wú yán yì zhī yě - We say: change awareness, 易 行 也 yì xíng yě - change behaviour. 而 天 下 ér tiān xià - But in our society 莫 之 能 知 也 mò zhī néng zhī yě - it’s not possible to be aware, and 莫 之 能 行 也 mò zhī néng xíng yě - it’s not possible to be alright. … [end ch 70 MWD B (DIO)] 是 以 圣(聖) 人 shì yǐ shèng rén - Therefore a ‘wise and moral’ person 被 褐 bèi hè - meets with the darkness 而 怀(懷) 玉 ér huái yù - and yet has a pure mind.

Welcome to the forum. Take your time to get to know us (especially before saying “im way ahead of you”.)

That is a huge achievement. I know, because same here.

imo most evil comes from ‘righteous’ indignation.

Yes the mind is like the ‘wind’. oh yes, that is wonderful. Also helps to get in the right virtuous frame of mind which imo is necessary for stilling the mind.

Yes Exactly. And the way to become aware of this, is to go ‘inside’ and still the mind.

Imo spiritual practice is not about ‘leaving my body’, but about becoming aware that God/Krishna is ‘inside my body’.

I have the same.

so that's a 'yes' righto

I am never separate from God, it’s always together. It’s not “merges”, it’s ‘together’, we’re friends.

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“Someone once said that learning Chinese is "a five-year lesson in humility". I used to think this meant that at the end of five years you will have mastered Chinese and learned humility along the way. However, now having studied Chinese for over six years, I have concluded that actually the phrase means that after five years your Chinese will still be abysmal, but at least you will have thoroughly learned humility.” (https://pinyin.info/readings/texts/moser.html) As for me, 7 years, cracked my brains, little result. lol, cry emoji here.

@Nungali the belief in “nibbana”, is this “white school” or “black school”. Or can these terms not be used for other traditions?

Saint Gregory Palamas. Hesychasm.

imo The universe is real. The word ‘real’ is not defined by being non-finite, but by being observable by the senses. So one’s ‘ideas’ about the universe are not real, every person inhabits their own ‘mental’ universe. I, the non-finite soul, during life am only inside my body. If it was otherwise, I would be able to enter other people and know their thoughts and feelings (which is not the case). Only God/Dao is omnipresent, so also inside my body. Only after death does the soul leave the body and returns to where it came from.

Reminiscent of the Kirlian photography and the aura photography that used to be popular here (I think it was in ‘the 90s’).

@Nintendao you look different, , sunburn?

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