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I sort of wonder if there is any research. Might not have explained right, not just my family, 6 kids sitting around from 4 unrelated families and they all seemed pretty matter of fact in agreement that 8 is the age. Maybe just a strange coincidence that I won't try to interpret, your theories might be right. Nikolai the part I find immoral is being sneaky and keeping secrets. If you helped your partner understand everything right, then your choices might start to become more clear. Trying to keep young and tantrumming over tortillas might be a sign she's looking for a door out anyway.

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I still think something dodgy about guys in this whole stage of family life beyond the interaction with the girl. Women seem to find once kids get around school age and start to become a little more independent, the moms have a little more energy and free time to pursue their own interest and activities- I am talking about things like exercising more or doing crafts and projects around the house- nothing that should be too threatening. But then the dads somehow have some sort of crisis that demands attention, could be trouble at work or whatever not always affair or emotional affair. 8-12 year old kids seem to feel that it is specifically at age 8. This is based on research of kids sitting in my living room which is the hang out spot and talking about it, 8 seems like a very common experience. At age 8, the dads get harder on the kids or ignore them or both and the dads get weird at age 8. I could theorize that this is due to the kids starting to mature and maybe challenging the dad more instead of putting him on a pedestal. But I can't help but wonder if it's a guy conspiracy that they'll never admit to, pretty low key for your daily ttb conspiracy theory.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/religion/9567412/Priest-bans-yoga-for-being-incompatible-with-Catholic-faith.html I can name one.

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I like the word simplicity, because frugality seems mostly about money to me and it's more than that.

What if the fake is real? Sometimes I feel like I don't want to help but do it anyway because I feel like I should. Then later I realize I did what I wanted to do and feel happy about it, more so than if I'd not helped and gone off to relax, philosophize and watch YouTube videos.

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Family farmers, local co-ops and markets, farm markets, even people's backyards. Actually a niche where small businesses can do okay by promoting and communicating with their customers about their products, but cut overhead by not going thru government certification process. I get monthly vegetables in growing season from a co-op and meat and eggs from a farmer a few counties out, they follow organic practices but haven't gotten certification because it costs hundreds of dollars and requires lots of ongoing paperwork and inspection. You won't find anything at Krogers.

I wouldn't want the drama of being surrounded by loved ones or doing wild and crazy things. Assuming I am feeling okay but will just drop dead. I'd write a few letters and put some things in order. Then, I'd find a really long stretch of seashore or a trail in the woods somewhere and just spend the rest of the week walking it.

For big operation, I agree. "Organic" requires certification, which requires $, so smaller operations in local markets may not be certified organic.

hey, I can still do it. I know because I just checked, used to chew them to annoy my mom when I was a teen.

I don't get hangovers, can run a marathon, read really fast, add purchases and make change in my head, clean up almost any bodily fluid without wincing and find the ketchup in the refrigerator (I am the only one in my house that can do the last one so it might be a special ability).

It's amazing how sensitive most people really aren't. I can understand how you would feel bad after time working in the restaurant, what I can not understand is that people go to restaurants with loud music playing, weird lighting, tvs on the walls, mediocre overpriced food and they eat and try to talk to each other there and seem to find this enjoyable and there is a wait to get in and get a table.

At many times and places during history, people have actually been and still are slaves. People have lived through incredible adversity and some of them have even maintained consciousness and self esteem. Pretty lucky to have option to get mad and quit your job.

Thanks, you were all helpful and I'm calm now. Well they've almost quit chatting and gone to bed. The dad is sort of a flaky hippie guy, who I do find mostly likable. This year he found a girlfriend, more drinking and partying and blowing off his kids. The boys are 11, been friends since kindergarten and that is when the mother passed away. I really don't think judgemental people are being very helpful right now. Hope I didn't side track the thread. Interesting how in space of a few hours today, compassion seemed to go from being a simple, noble, intelligent practice to a frustrating exercise in futility and feeling taken advantage of, but now that I calmed down I'll just do what I can and that's all I can do. Hopefully, is helpful to talk about application too though. It seems natural and intuitive to try to help people out, but hard to understand what people really need and yeah leading horses to water.

Maybe you all can give advice in a situation I am experiencing today. How do you relate and feel compassion for someone making really bad choices and being self destructive? This guy is a single dad who lost his wife to cancer. His youngest son (my son's good friend) is staying at my house today and I have a lot of compassion for the son. Another chapter in the story has me quite frustrated today. I used to have compassion for the dad, we're not close friends mostly thru the kids. I don't have much influence with him and don't want to burn my bridges by telling him what I think of his actions lately, because I want the connection so I can help the son if he needs it. I'm not happy today. Want to fix it; I can't.

I think it's more than seeing suffering, but seeing past suffering to how beautiful people and things are or could be in their true nature. It's not all one way either, it might seem like the person who helps the poor, disabled or even terminally ill is the giving and compassionate one, yet sometimes the person in distress becomes the teacher and we have the opportunity to see how transcendant the human spirit can be. Compassion flows easily when we feel love, so sort of same thing. Blood follows qi, when we understand how all is connected, sacrifice becomes selfless. I don't disagree that it's okay to fake it, but like many things it's cyclical. Sometimes compassionate people need to allow themselves to withdraw and rest when they start to feel brittle and burnt out.

We all have them. Mine says no warning points, which does make me feel a little branded. If it is perfunctory to have one, I would at least rather not feel so boring. Wondering what I need to do to get one that says -"mad, bad and dangerous to know"; can I have one that says that?