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I'm an adult, I've faced my feelings of anger, irritability, cruelty etc., I don't need females or others to manage my anger either. Adulthood. Not that I'm perfect but, having sex or not doesn't mean you've got those things under control. Not at all. Retention can make disturbed people, worse. addon> so can the energy arts. Unless you've got a fair bit of practice and equanimity under your belt, gaining more energy will make you imbalanced, and the more one gets the worse it can become. Not that celibacy or working with energy practices are bad, but they require you have the fundamentals mastered and aren't fooling yourself and disregarding problems.

There's two schools of thought on energy. To me it's not about saving energy. It's about efficiently gaining and using it. Growing my throughput. I grow stronger by exercise, exploring my boundaries, building up, breaking down, resting. To me sex is great. A completeness, Excess may be bad, but like movement and laughter, this is what my body was built for. Without it I get cranky. At times I see that in people who are doing celibacy but shouldn't. They'd do better spiritually following their Tao, the wisdom of their body instead of what they've read in old books that were written for well trained monks. We're specialists, just people taking a different path then you. The question we all have to answer is our path making us better people? If one is often angry and irritated, maybe it's not.

Oatmeal can be gluten free, if you're really sensitive there's 100% gluten free oatmeal or try regular which could have slight 'contaminates'. Oatmeal opens you up to sweet or you can make it savory and add a fried egg to slow down the carb absorption even more. It's a blank palette waiting for you to add color. Lately I'm doing one egg omelets. Just using one egg in a small nonstick pan, you don't even need to flip it. Just use low heat, when it's almost done add a tablespoon or two of anything.. give it a half flip and you're done, faster then making toast.

allinone, you may want to re-read Silent Thunder's post. I find it well written, its personal, insightful, reflective.. I'm surprised anyone could find it offensive. unless I'm misreading something and topic is mating with animals, in which case it would be problematic. There are some who can do celibacy just fine, and others (undoubtedly most, especially without training) who it turns overly aggressive and have problems.

I love my slow cooker, but the Instant Pot (which can cook slow) is a smart pressure cooker and makes stews with fork tender meat and flavorful veggies in about 30 minutes plus saute and depressurizing time. Great for soups too. Not that pressure cooking is anything new, but the Instant Pot and its ilk takes out much of the work and worry. The fast cooking means individual flavors keep there integrity better then a slow cookers, a good thing. Great for soups and beans too.

I've enjoyed and gotten much practical use from taking a Stillness Movement seminar with Ya Mu. I'm sure Kempomaster will be a great teacher. You may want to look into KAP (https://www.kundaliniawakeningprocess.com/blog/kap-interactive-online-learning/) It's a eclectic blend of gi gung and martial arts. Here's a thread by one of its teachers. You can look up there youtubes also.

I was going to write something humorous like, 'I didn't know they slept at all;, but the way you describe it.. I remember sleeping that way

Not really a whole food, but psyllium seed, the ingredient in Metamucil makes for a good, though some say harsh, internal cleanser, due to it's fibrous expansion. The fancier colon cleansers will mix it with herbs and softeners. I'll take a dose 2 or 3 days in a row, then twice a day for another day or two. By the end you don't need toilet paper.

True that. Helping others, helps ourselves. Yet, chop wood, carry water, is more a mindset then an action. And mindsets are trickier then simply helping..

For long slow cooking, a fattier cut like Chuck roast is better (cheaper too) then lean , which can overcook and get tough. Course to get marrow you can add in some ox tail or bonier cuts. I'll often let what's on sale guide my purchase, after all stew is a peasant dish, made with whats on hand. Carrots and potatoes are good, cause they're cheap, such root vegetables are good winter food. Parsnips are nice for sweetness. For sour, I don't do it, but a little orange peel might work. Not Daoish, but I'll use broth or lager beer for my stews to simmer in. Sometimes adding something tomato-ey. My secret ingredient tends to be Fish Sauce, which adds Umami, the 6th taste, not alot. Keeping it simple with an herb or two is great.

On the side is healthier then the back. I've heard right side is better for the heart (it's up), on the left side is better for digestion (acids stays lower** and might be more for midday siesta digesting then sleep). I don't know about teens, but for anyone incapacitated (read drugs, alcohol..) putting them on there side is very important to keep them from choking if they vomit. (one of the many things learned from Breaking Bad)

You know, everybody gotta chop there own wood, and carry up there water. Some with joy, Some in sorrow. Don't make no sense to do it for other folk, yer jist not doin them any good, cause you can't eat, drink or think for another.

Best laid plans go to hell. Is the human race doing so badly? The last 50 years we've made huge strides against dire poverty, hunger, illiteracy and disease. Even on fronts such as war, there are no world wars now, while a few localized strifes are happening, there aren't nations fighting other nations, cities being destroyed, admittedly there are a few ongoing civil wars and cold wars happening. Few in the early 50's would have guessed the atomic bomb would never be used again or another WW wouldn't happen. There are equally large hurdles still existing.. we've improved dire poverty, but not regular poverty. Every good move creates unintended consequences.. more prosperous people often means more environmental degradation. We've got the tools, and right now the time to find the sweet spot. To me it doesn't mean a top 'brainiac' solution from above, but intelligent communal solutions from the below. An intelligent blue print that can be followed that leads to a better life. One that's flexible. It'll take generations but I think people are smart enough to move to a communities that are built for the human being instead of the haphazard places we live in now. Starting with blocks, communities, towns, cities, I'd like to see new efficiencies, new paradigms come online. Not necessarily revolutionary but making things better, changing some systems, communal awareness to make things better for everyone. Maybe that means a new kind of internal peace corp. Say for school kids up to through college 2 hours a day, doing something that would better the community, maybe building or cleaning. Kids should take over some janitorial jobs in there schools design, build and maintain garden areas. For adults, something similar, if patriotism doesn't do it, then provide a tax break, but have communal goals listed, gradual improvements. As important as working together is celebrating together. Community wide potlucks and celebrations, at least each month. Times to get to know your neighbors and community and celebrate whats been accomplished.

I liked the video, but uh.. I'll side step history.. ignore it for now, because to me Thanksgiving isn't about the Pilgrims, its about thanking providence for its gifts and celebrating with friends and families, before the harsh winter sets in. I expect every culture has its Thanksgivings.. a time to celebrate and shake your fist at the coming winter, saying we will survive together. In the past there was no guarantees, maybe there still isn't. So what, lift a glass, eat and drink with friends and family, let them know what you are thankful for.

I like anime as much as the next man but they're not a source for learning a real system. addon. If they were I'd recommend Avatar:The last Airbender. They are fantasy, exaggerations. Beware of too much energy. If things get strange, slow down, long walks.. it can be more a sign of burnout then progress. A live teacher is always best.. otherwise, slow steady grounded progress.

Yup nothing like an "elite organization of world leaders, business authorities, innovators.." that anyone can join for free. E-bait for the gullible, imo. addon>Good saying for the modern age: If you're getting it for free you are not the customer, you are the product.

No problem, its an interesting subject. I agree (and so does Daoism) that extremes even or especially opposite ones, can be very like each other. I'd disagree with Enlightened being the top of society. Imo they're most likely outliers, easily misunderstood, and as likely scorned as admired. Sadists.. sadly can be at the top of society- absolute power corrupts absolutely or at the bottom. The thread got me thinking of Satanism. Depending who you ask, to some it's all about individualism, nothing to do with cruelty or devil worship. To others that's the whole point.

Know thyself & To thine own self be true. Works for me, though I might add to your best self be true. Otherwise, some of myselves are pretty slovenly. addon> wanted to grab the original Shakespearean: Polonius: This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man. For an interesting historical view of the quote see: https://literarydevices.net/to-thine-own-self-be-true/

'Love builds happy homes...Lust destroys them' hmnn, I'd say lust has the potential to destroy them, though lusting for your significant other is good. Love and lust are not mutually exclusive. Going further, I'd think many a happy home and couple are the products of lust, ie the search for a mate (& sex) is what brought them together. That combo of lust/love make the world go round. Not smoothly perhaps, but it is the engine for many of our motivations. Here is a video many of us saw in highschool to explain it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IrrADTN-dvg

I like Buddhism and think it has some very clear descriptions of mankind, its problems and possible solutions. Imo some branches have evolved into making the Buddha godlike, a mistake imo. Likewise some branches are more theistic then others and I prefer my Buddhism like I like my coffee, deist free.

Often discussing action, the concrete is better then philosophizing. Dawn90, what are people doing that makes them sadists? What typical actions? thanks.

There's a good chance a sadist made that quote, thus it might not be from a reliable, non-partial source. From my limited experience sadists are simply assholes. addon> my definition being someone who enjoys the pain of others> Cruelty is an interesting subject though. Rather then deep understanding its more likely a closing of the heart. It might look like enlightenment to some, but imo it's really more a separation from all. Closed heart- empathy, sympathy are gone, wholeness impossible- self and ego rules and cruelty builds them up. To me its more the opposite of enlightenment though there is undoubtedly self serving power there. Until it self-destructs. Not a good path, but cruelty is inside all of us. I think we keep in check, not with our minds, but by keeping in-touch with our hearts.

Thing is, with my relationship with my dad is we both enrage each other at times but we also know it's temporary. So we can be expressive, him more then me, but we snap out of it. Putting on the mindset of 'job to do' is temporary. Not holding a grudge, moving on, doing our best to be friendly and helpful gets us back on an even keel. til one, or the other sets the cycle rolling again. I owe many debts of gratitude to my father.. so one keeps going, taking the good with the bad. good training really.

He can add a retired police officer (you can google to get his name) also backing the allegations and a couple of shop keepers from that era to his Sue list. Also from what I've read old records from that time period were tossed by the mall. By some accounts his pursuit of teens was relatively well known at the time. When you say they're attacking because of this or that, I think you guys are over thinking it. It's simply normal to look for skeletons in your political opponents history. If he'd been a businessman and there were old allegations they liked underage woman, once the story is out, more will surface, especially if its true. At this point if the evidence gets larger and more preponderance, then Moore might be in more trouble for lying about it then for the incidents themselves, at least to some of his loyal constituents. I wonder if we'll get memories from any mothers he reportedly asked to date there daughters weighing in? If you want to read an indepth article about it https://www.newyorker.com/news/news-desk/locals-were-troubled-by-roy-moores-interactions-with-teen-girls-at-the-gadsden-mall Again it probably won't persuade either side, but its a reporter looking into it for a few weeks. It has anecdotes and interviews that help both sides.

Spending time with my elderly father and ailing mother can be very trying. Yet what helps was knowing I had a job to do, so suck it up and not adding to any anxiety. Hard yet, once I had that as my goal, mantra even, it became easier to put my ego away and not let my buttons be pushed.