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How to not Hate but Love and Enjoy Sorrow (negative feeling)?hmnn, have kids.

I think zerotao was praising those taking a stand there as above the average 'protester'. Thus you're both on the same side. Contrarianly, let me point out: With no pipe line the oil will probably be transported by freight train, which is less safe. A good solution has to include the most intelligent safe passage for energy. Which we all use.

Yeah I think mystics (accidentally?) start religion then they dogma-fy and become the institution. Pretty much all religions have mystical sects to them. Imo, even within the nonmystical mainstream there are people who use there religion to find their enlightenment. Maybe not your definition, but an enlightenment nonetheless.

Wonderful. Later on, I'll have to get people's time zone and maybe do an informal poll on what timing is best. The first rule of Dream Club is Remember your dreams. without that, you may be traveling, talking to gods, being naked infront of your class, but it doesn't matter cause you won't remember. So keep a journal, nothing fancy and write down your dreams. At least a title, preferably more. If you have a hard time, then set an alarm early an hour or so before normal. Get up, stand, set your intent to remember your dream, have journal ready, go back to sleep and/or listen to guided meditation. The last REM period tends to be the easiest to remember. If possible get to bed early. The second rule of Dream Club is talk about Dream Club. the more you keep it in your consciousness, the more likely it'll stick. Every time you walk through a door, stop, ask yourself, am I dreaming. Make it a habit, look at your hands, look at writing, clocks, look twice, be aware. I'll have to think of something witty for the next rule or two. It makes sense to familiar yourself with the guided meditation before hand too. For success: Dreamwork requires strong intent. Don't go to bed too tired. Focus on what you want- Remembering our dreams. Be patient, some are blessed and naturals. My aikido sensei was a serial dreamer, each night picking up the story line where it left off. For most of us, its a skill that requires time, effort and the right mindset. The Healing Tao US teacher Michael Winn talked about having his friends and students join him during dreams where he'd hold a flying school. Many people will have visits from teachers during there dreams. Ultimately we want lucidity and to connect, even if that connection seems at first murky and seemingly coincidental. And realize it'll take time and patience. The low lying fruit is more consciousness of our dreams, then there's the playground/holodeck in the middle, going higher there are dimensional learnings that are very powerful, or so they say. I've got some book learning here but little expertise. I look forward to input from teachers and those with experience with this caveat, I'd like to keep the intent of the thread, meeting up as the goal. Don't know if I'll get there, but we have some very talented people here and I wouldn't be surprised if some of them make it.

Very black and white thinking, imo. Should I be extreme- a soldier, or extreme a monk? Be yourself. The happiest people don't buy into cultural stereotypes, they are Themselves. Similarly I don't think we need to intellectualize love. Be open, be natural and when you love something, you love it, treasure it. Go with it. Love is precious, the person with the most love, tends to win in this game of life. In the West we need to get out of heads more. If you have a track record of wisdom, making wise choices then believe in yourself, Be Yourself. On the other hand if it seems like life has been one bad decision after another, then maybe take a little more time and weigh decisions. I kinda like this video. Good stuff on life's inner rules

Yes, and I feel a loss that I'm less lustful then I used to be. Though maybe lust has faded into appreciation due to maturity. Or more likely, most lust was hormone driven or hormone sparked. The not so mysterious Way of the Penis. addon> That's in the here and now. I spend time at an ashram being vegetarian, meditating, listening to dharma talks and I get mellow, androgynous and desireless.

I think you have to consider that things change, technologies improve. Great technological advances will cost research money, and have a fair share of abortions but should still be pursued and watched over for scams. In our life we may be seeing solar go from $70+ to near or under coal prices (Module Cost a Watt), (36 cents? that does seem low) there is a graph showing a nice steady line of lower cost at 4:26 aka Swanson's Law. No free lunches, but we don't have to eat poison either.

This is has some 'optimistic' cutting edge on Solar Energy news. Good chance to help the world. Being a few months old, some of the tech speculated on, like Elon Musk's low cost solar tile roofing is here, though not widely available yet.

Checked up on him. He's taken down his old sites, renamed his new stuff (I think). He seems less combative then he used to be. Less obsessed with the lengthy enemy list he used to have. Which seemed to include most things. So.. good luck to him.

There are benefits to.. mindless giving, ie having money automatically taken out each month. This way it goes beyond your feelings, its just done. Thus a flock of chickens (theoretically) goes to some family somewhere each month, ala Heifer.org. The reality I expect, is the money is pooled where it can do the most good. It probably helps a charity tremendously to get steady streams of money they can count on, instead of boom and bust periods. Good to help far, good help local too. We make bag lunches of sandwiches, chips, cookies every two weeks for the homeless, collected and organized by our temple. I suspect most houses of worship have similar programs.

It's a bit of a clinical definition, but love is identifying something with strong positive feelings and emotions.

Welcome to the bums, from a fellow learner.

I've been out of the dating scene for decades but I think there are lessons to learn. The dating is scene is scary, the risk of rejection. It takes courage and sensitivity. We try to show our best selves, and in the process maybe become a little better. Within the dating rituals, we learn about ourselves. In some ways, every relationship is a bit of the Hero's journey.

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Your hatred poisons you. It makes your heart race. It throws your memory into the past, remembering insults, and into the future, projecting darkness. I don't know what enlightenment is, but I get the feeling hate is its opposite. I am not free of hate, don't think I want to be. But I keep it locked up, knowing how bad it is for me. Sometimes it breaks lose, sometimes I open up the chest to look at it. Not healthy, but its where I'm at right now. A few times a year, hopefully less as I get older. Replacing it with understanding, compassion and action.

If it was easy, everyone would be there. Short cuts tend to equal short term. On the plus side, a little better a little wiser isn't so hard.

Seems to me, the more one learns, puts out effort and takes on responsibility, the more control they have over life. Having control is reassuring, it gives you choices, not unlimited but more. One can do anything one wants, but if one wants results, then its better to do things the right way.

Don't know if this affects anything but we have a current thread on Living Off the Grid, that is close to that.

Every day above ground should be a holy day, but that's pretty hard to keep up. So let us at least make an effort to properly celebrate and give thanks on any day, we can get a quorum.

Good to see you on the board. Happy holidays, May all share the warmth of human companionship and have reasons to smile this season.

The easy answer is, if you're tricked or under duress then a vow is not binding, ie not done of your free will. On the hand, a holy man may know more then you and the vow though unsavory is for your own good. So, If you have doubt, I'd have someone you trust, who knows you and the situation be the judge. If the vow is not horrible, but merely irksome, then even against your better judgement, do it. It builds character.

Sign.. Wood dragon, but mostly Slippery when Wet.

This thread might help.. http://www.thedaobums.com/topic/42056-i-cant-sign-out/?p=710981 it happens. I don't think there are any bad ramifications if don't sign out. I never do.

I would at least try to have coffee or drinks with her. Have a good discussion, see what I can learn from such a creature. Though if its her way or the highway, then she's on her own, I don't do ultimatums.

.. nvrmd