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  1. Meditating on the Meditator

    My experience is different. I never feel more rested than after lucid dreaming or practicing sleep yoga. Just because we don't recall our dreams does not mean our sleep is dreamless.
  2. Can compassion really be cultivated?

    Are you referring to relative vs absolute bodhicitta? Relative bodhicitta is cultivating the aspiration to achieve liberation in order to benefit all sentient beings. Absolute bodhicitta is a direct insight into the abiding nature of things - stong pa nyid. In Bön Dzogchen practice, both are engaged. Relative bodhicitta is cultivated in the foundational practices - the ngöndro. As we develop a direct connection to the natural state, absolute bodhicitta emerges spontaneously. I'm afraid I'm not knowledgeable enough about all nine vehicles to give a much more detailed summary.
  3. Not only is it referring to the natural state - it is being made from the perspective of the natural state. When we actually connect deeply with that place, everything is seen as absolutely perfect. Everything has its place, all pieces fit together like the most beautiful puzzle - nothing is lacking, nothing is redundant, nothing is out of place. From the perspective of our samsaric existence, it often makes little sense because of our judgement and identification with this ego, this body, and all the roles that we play.
  4. Allow me to clarify - I did not mean to equate the natural state with openness. I was referring more to the practices we engage in along the way. Openness allows us to connect, it facilitates the presence of awareness and warmth, it clears obstacles, and it is the antithesis of grasping and aversion. A few examples - The breathing practices for clearing the channels is about creating openness in the channels. The tsa lung practices for clearing the chakras creates openness in the chakras. Sitting in contemplation we are open to everything that arises just as it is and in that openness it can liberate. Integrating into our daily experience we are open to all that we encounter, not resisting or rejecting, not grasping, and in that openness we allow things to be as they are and hopes and fears liberate. Our "work" as imperfect practitioners takes up more time in our lives than does resting in the natural state (at least it does for me still). Living in samsara, perhaps my greatest resource is cultivating, resting in, and trusting in that openness. It is an integral part of the view, meditation, conduct, and fruition. If your experience is different, that is fine - please share if you are so inclined. I can only speak from my own and I know that I have a very long way to go.
  5. Can compassion really be cultivated?

    Well said and very insightful, Bindi, thank you. You've summarized the Dzogchen approach. I also think this is analogous to the approach of Wu Wei in Daoism. That said, I also think there is something to deliberately acting with compassion. While we remain deluded and confused, acting on behalf of others is still preferable to acting selfishly and practicing imperfect compassion makes us more familiar with the real thing and perhaps brings us at least a bit closer. This is the foundation of the Mahayana approach in Buddhism - we work towards personal liberation with the express intention of improving our ability to help others.
  6. Until I'm able to rest in the natural state in every sleeping, dreaming, and waking moment, I find it a very valuable tool on the way.
  7. Awakened mind is the fruition resulting from no cause. Awakened mind is the instruction that does not come from words. Awakened mind is the buddha who does not stem from thought. Like space, awakened mind is not a thing that can be seen. Devoid of color, it is not a thing to be singled out as this. - Lady Purasati, courtesan and lineage holder of the Mahasandhi teachings
  8. Meditating on the Meditator

    Practitioners of dream and sleep yoga do it. I've done it.
  9. Meditating on the Meditator

    It is possible to have a similar experience in deep sleep, when the five sense are disengaged completely - this is the objective of sleep yoga practice.
  10. First Silent Retreat: Advice and Suggestions

    I've been distracted by more than one hot meditator...
  11. First Silent Retreat: Advice and Suggestions

    Some thoughts - The retreat environment will be very supportive which will be very conducive to deepening your practice. Whatever comes up, let it go. Use the silence as an opportunity to connect with yourself and your experience very deeply, not just during formal meditation sessions but as consistently as possible throughout the 10 days. Maintain the feeling of gratitude and enthusiasm, that's very valuable. Trust in the method and the teachings, that is also very valuable. Most of all, enjoy!
  12. Meditating on the Meditator

    I think that depends on what we mean by meditation. There are lots of meditations that involve prayers, mantras, visualizations, and so forth. These are all using the "mind stuff" to to loosen its hold on us. Sometimes we use the word meditation to mean that state that transcends the "mind stuff." In my practice, we connect with three aspects - stillness (of the body), silence (of the speech), and spaciousness (of the heart/mind). Very similar to what you are referring to. Thanks for sharing your experience.
  13. Can qi be felt by anyone?

    Yes, I am listening. And yes, there are disagreements between highly skilled people. We see that in every discipline - physics, math, philosophy, music, martial arts... I can certainly see how that can be confusing. The answer is to do what you are doing - attempt to experience what is going on firsthand. The purpose of Qigong, IMO, is not to feel Qi. The purpose of Qigong is to use breathing methods combined with physical movement to achieve specific objectives - health, fitness, healing, martial prowess, etc... While many Qigong instructors emphasize the "feeling Qi" part, it's my opinion that one will get similar effects if one is simply open to what one feels and performs the techniques properly. Neigong like the MCO, on the other hand, is more focused on feeling, connecting with, and guiding the Qi. This is why I mentioned the value of the MCO practice earlier. I applaud you for trying new things but just because you are trying some new exercises does not mean that you are open-minded about the nature of Qi. I'm referring more to your expectations and assumptions about Qi itself, not how to find it. You may still be looking for the same wrong thing in the same wrong place using a different tool. We are so perfused with others' ideas of what Qi is and is not and what it "feels like" that it can be difficult to be open enough to actually sense it and trust that we are feeling the right thing. If we are looking for a diamond, expecting it to be clear and sparkly, we may come across one that is unpolished and toss it away because it's not what we expect to find. That may not be a great analogy but hopefully you get my drift. Yes, I agree - one can be open and disagree. One can also be quite closed minded and think they are open. Most of us do not think we are closed minded, whether we are or not. Being open can be very challenging. Our prejudices and assumptions are very deeply rooted and can be very subtle. In fact, there are entire spiritual disciplines devoted entirely to openness - I follow one. I'll offer a few more words FWIW - Often when we are looking for something intently we just can't find it. Ever look for something for a long time, then just give up, and find it was sitting right in front of you the whole time? It's similar to when we try to think of a specific word or memory and we just can't find it until we stop trying. This is because the more we try, the more focused we become. Think about focusing, it means to narrow or close down, to shut out information so that a limited amount of information is more pronounced. In my practices, one of the major obstacles is our effort. The more effort we exert the more we disconnect with the objective - openness. And it's difficult to overcome the obstacle of effort, anything you try to do to overcome it means more effort... It's tricky. Best to do what practices you can and be very attentive and open to what is happening in your body, like you're doing with the balls and the ruler. Try to feel what's going on as if you have a brand new body, one that you've never inhabited before. We take so much of our inner (and outer) experience for granted that we tend to feel little more than pain or intense pleasure. Our sensory organs are finely tuned to exclude most information and focus us on a very limited bandwidth of useful information that we can process. There's so much more out there. Your physical limitations are not preventing you from feeling Qi, your expectations and preconceived notions are, IMO. I wish you the best of luck.
  14. Can qi be felt by anyone?

    Great link! Thank you
  15. Can qi be felt by anyone?

    Very cool idea in bold, thanks for that. With respect to "how to focus" I couldn't agree more. Sometimes it is the very act of focusing that is the obstacle. That combined with an inaccurate expectation of what we "should" be feeling and where. For me, the recognition was a combination of being open to something new and then realizing I'd been feeling it all along but not paying the proper attention and not recognizing. There's a little pocket-sized book by Waysun LIao called The Essence of Tai Chi. In it Master Liao talks a bit about how to feel Qi for beginners and those not having success. It may be worth reading for the OP, I've heard a few folks claim it helped them.
  16. Can qi be felt by anyone?

    Just wanted to let you know, I'm still around. I did read what you wrote. I think the problem lies in your conceptualization of Qi as I wrote before. I won't bore you with more suggestions except one - practicing the microcosmic orbit with an experienced guide could help a great deal. Practicing from books and videos, not so much. In addition, I think it is fine to practice taijiquan, bagua, xingyi, and qigong without "feeling Qi" at all. Your body and mind will still benefit if your practice is skillful. After reading through most of this thread, if you feel as if you've gotten "zero useful information" then the problem may be that you aren't open to change. When we are too fixed in our view of the world (the story we tell ourselves) we can't change and we can't grow. If we find a way to be more open, there is much more possibility there. Just a thought - I may be totally off base and, if so, my apologies. Good luck
  17. I'm quite pleased with how the discussion evolved without losing control. While I don't want to take up this beautiful thread with too much discussion, perhaps this sanctuary can serve as a model for Buddhist discussion in other areas of the forum... Thank you CT for maintaining this wonderful thread and thanks everyone for putting up with my occasional bursts of verbosity! Now back to our regularly scheduled programming.
  18. PS - I think I've derailed this thread enough... Sorry CT, I'll disengage now. Peace
  19. Moderator Addition

    Welcome Kar3n! I hope you enjoy your new role here. A brief piece of unsolicited advice - don't take anything personally or seriously. It's all only a dream and we're a bunch of couch quarterbacks who like to hear ourselves type! I predict that you will be a voice of reason and compassion on the Mods team (not that the rest aren't!) Warm wishes and good luck, Steve
  20. As we, as individuals, approach the experience of non-duality - the nature of mind, we approach the non-separation of observer and observed; there is no self there any longer. The illusion of the separate self dissolves like the thought that it is. The observed and observer become one or, if you prefer a different verb, liberate. This is a direct, personal experience that many of us have. In this context, what would it mean to have infinite natural states? To what would they be related in the absence of separate selves? On what basis would they be defined or distinct from one another? As Lopon says, "How do we practice Dzogchen? First we must practice Guru Yoga." In Tibetan, this is called bla ma'i rnal 'byor. Bla ma'i is the master and rnal 'byor means to unite with, to become one with. We literally unite our mindstream with the mindstream of the master. Once we have successfully connected with that state of being, the state of union with the guru, there is no need to hold on to any thought, concept, or visualization - they simply dissolve into the base. The union has been achieved. You can choose to censor the word oneness from Buddhist and Bön discussion if you like, TI but I find it a useful word that can impart meaning and host shared experience. Once again, we need to put the words to work for us, not the other way around. One point that Tenzin Rinpoche often makes when he teaches is that when we get together for workshops and retreats there is more going on than the transfer of information. He admonishes us to let go of our attachment and dependence on knowledge and information and to open ourselves to the shared presence of our togetherness - as student and teacher, as friends, as sangha members... There is much more potential there than simply the transfer of information. He does this for a reason - I've experienced it very deeply at multiple retreats. It is every bit as important as any information being transferred. If we are too focused on the information we lose out on the truth itself - the truth of presence, the warmth of connection, the support of relationship, seeing how the teachings live and breath in our daily lives. The Buddha Shakyamuni (and Tonpa Shenrab) never intended these teachings to be a philosophy, they were intended to be an accessible tool to ease our suffering. When asked philosophical questions, the masters will generally and compassionately bring the discussion back to the practical role of the teachings in our lives. This is the spirit in which we should approach Bön and Buddhism, IMO. It is critical that we bring these principles into the trivia and pain of our daily lives. This is the workshop where we master and cultivate and experience growth and transformation. All just my personal opinion, FWIW.
  21. Not sure I ever recommended that manitou read Krishnamurti but assuming I did, the answer to your question is no. There are many teachings in the world. Different people need different things at different times in their lives. Krishnamurti has helped me a great deal. I don't read him much any more but there is great value in his words, IMO. Dzogchen is about openness more than anything, it may be helpful for you to consider that.