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  1. Emotional Release

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  2. Emotional Release

    I don't know if searching for a metaphysical experience is the best way to approach this problem. One might occur but rarely when sought... You carry a "burden inside" as do we all. Does that burden really create a situation in which there is no possibility of happiness? If you think so, where do you think that idea came from? Can you look at the burdens closely and deeply and see why they create that illusion? Can you find a place to make room for these burdens and just be with them? Is it possible for happiness to exist alongside? Can you say to them with sincerity - my happiness is not dependent on relieving myself of these burdens? This is one approach that could shed some light on the relationship you've established with these burdens. Good luck.
  3. Method and Effect - Essentials

    And it works the other way even more effectively. A treatment can create the necessary anatomic or physiologic changes that would be conducive to resolving the problem, but the expectation or intention remains a block to healing. I see that even more frequently and it makes the job extremely challenging. Once I was able to let go of my attachment to "making someone get better" and simply "do my best to help someone to get where they want to be" I realized that I am blessed to have a "right occupation" and it's up to me to be content with that. I can help with the pain but not always with the suffering. But I do try to address both whenever I can, however. Good luck with #2 (that sounds a little gross... )
  4. Method and Effect - Essentials

    Excellent question Little1. I think this is a weakness of many methods. Expectations affect the experience and outcome. Maybe analogous to Heisenberg's uncertainty. Quantum Mechanics has demonstrated a time and place independence of such a relationship between cause and effect. So our expectations preselect our path. My shifu has mentioned that the Pang men is hazardous. Quicker, more demanding, and more risk. Beyond that, I am unable to add anything worthwhile.
  5. dao and brahman

  6. dao and brahman

    Conclusion means to close, to end. I believe there are those who like to answer a question and thus create a "belief" and defend that position. They are then no longer open - the question for them is dead and they move on thinking they already know that. They look at the world with an answer in their head. This is how most of us face the world every day - overflowing with our conclusions, our images, and our expectations. So we define and direct the way we live. We are not open to Wu Wei. We live with many more answers than questions. The question doesn't have to be dead when we consider a conclusion but it is when we accept it. We see that constantly. That's why it is so difficult to be in a relationship. It's where conflict comes from. I am a Christian, I am a Jew, I am a Daoist, I am a Buddhist. Laozi meant this. This stanza means that. I now limit myself. And I think it's terribly important for each of us to watch our tendency to do that. But I'll agree that there must be a balance. There are certain answers that are important - what time should I be at the hospital, where do I live, is this food spoiled? But those practical answers are generally of little value in the psychological, emotional, and spiritual world.
  7. Entheogens

    Thanks - I suspect that both were sensitive to the effects and they also were playing with things without any guidance. I imagine that people with a predisposition toward mental illness/instability (ie a strong family history or personal history) are probably more susceptible to getting into trouble with entheogens. Regarding 'truth' - I was sort of using it as a synonym for reality, the nature of existence, that sort of thing... Good luck in you journey
  8. What is Wu Wei...?

    My study of Taijiquan has taught me a lot about Wu Wei. There's a song that includes the phrase: Zhan Nian Lian Sui Bu Diu Ding Bu Diu Ding means - do not separate and do not go against Just like I practice this skill in pushing hands and martial training, I can practice these skills in daily life - Wu Wei. Another facet for me of Wu Wei relates to my psychological and emotional life. Each of us has been heavily conditioned by social and cultural factors and each of us has, deep down, a set of values that define our ethics and moral structure. First, I think it's important that we identify those core values that are most fundamental and important to us. Next, it's important to see if those values are genuine. Are they really a reflection of who we are or are they rules and regulations drilled into us during childhood and in our careers? Are we living the lives we want or puppets of our society? So if we can get in touch with our core values and make sure they are our values and not artificial and insincere, then we can have the opportunity to live in a way that does not separate and does not go against our values. And psychologically, emotionally, that is Wu Wei.
  9. dao and brahman

    Excellent point.
  10. Defining Enlightenment

    Very nice find...
  11. A Parent's Tao Te Ching

    I agree - I had a terrible emotional crisis when my youngest moved to the West Coast (I'm on the East). And then I had the experience of the continued bond even across a continent. And in fact, our relationship is stronger and closer than ever. There are many spiritual and psychological and energetic layers but I'm not going to get into that. I just wanted to echo your sentiment.
  12. dao and brahman

    Very nice work Stig - I mean it. Not just trading niceties here.
  13. Should I go to this year's Rainbow Gathering

    Hook, line, and (bong bubbles rumbling in background).... sinker!
  14. There are very simple explanations for a round hole in a skull. Any of a variety of natural processes could do this - infection, parasite, tumor, etc... The coincidental finding of fractures opposite this hole would be inconclusive, unless expert forensic analysis could prove it was an inside - out explosion. I'm not sure if that distinction is possible. If so, there is another explanation. The skull could have been used for target practice long after death and left exposed to the elements subsequently. And we can also certainly entertain more exotic explanations.
  15. dao and brahman

    Chi Dragon - I don't mean to be disrespectful but would like to make a point. Why should Laozi's opinion be any better than my own? After all, I am alive. I am a living, breathing manifestation of Dao. I reflect it in my ever action. Laozi is a corpse - long dead, if he ever lived. He is an image in our minds. We created him. Most modern scholars would argued that Laozi does not, in fact, refer to any single, historical individual. And if there was, the first line of his writings says - whatever we try to write about the Dao is NOT the Dao... So if you really listen to what Laozi says, you should close the book after reading the first line! So why look for authority in a book? Why not look in ourselves? When I first started practicing Dao cultivation, I asked my ShiFu if he could recommend an English translation of Dao De Jing. He said no. When I asked if that was because he only read the Chinese, he told me - "it's because I've never read it. My teacher taught me how to cultivate. So practice, don't waste too much time on books." Now, I'm not sure I believe that he's never read Dao De Jing but his point was loud and clear. Why so much concern about words? The words are just poor attempts to point to reality. All the words really do are divide us into tribes and distract us from living. You want a definition of Dao? Sit, close your eyes (or not) and breath. Anything else is ink on a page... Please take this as a constructive argument, not an attack.
  16. Now I remember why I hate extreme christians

    Where's the kool-aid when we need it?
  17. What seems to be the truth...?

    Wow... I am in awe of your strength. Thanks for your candor.
  18. Should I go to this year's Rainbow Gathering

    Interesting... This is certainly not cultivation, IMO, but entertainment. What are you looking for?
  19. The Nature of Experience

    But that's the rub - illusion arises when perception and understanding are inaccurate. And since the mind is limited, they are very often, if not always, somewhat inaccurate. It's not the experience that is illusory - experience exists, regardless of the presence or absence of background substance. But I think Otis is referring to the fact that illusion arises as a consequence of misinterpretation.
  20. The Nature of Experience

    Nice!
  21. Hardship case inspiration

    Some would say that happiness is the natural human condition. They would say that societal and cultural conditioning is what gets in the way of this. A variation on this theme is that we are not happy simply because we have been trained since childhood to believe that our happiness depends on others or things or accomplishments. Without the approval of our friends, bosses, parents, and so on... we cannot be happy. Similarly, disapproval robs us of our happiness. And why would this be? Because then we can be controlled and manipulated - enslaved. These people would say that no one and no thing truly has the power to make us unhappy unless we buy into this insanity. We get to choose. It is a very hard thing to see because our conditioning goes very deep. And I'm not going to say that it is necessarily true. But what if it is? What an amazing life it would be if no one had that sort of power over me. Beautiful video, thanks for posting it!
  22. Defining Enlightenment

    Manitou - I gave up the smoke... I echo your praise of deci belle's post. Beautiful advice for living an enriching life! And I love your use of 'enlightenment' as a lightening. Shrugging off the burden of the search, the work, climbing the path. Seeing through the addiction with becoming something else. Liberation from the yoke of societal and cultural conditioning. CowTao - Thanks for the link. If it's ever not OK with me, I hope you'll tell me to get over myself and F-off (in a non-insulting way of course... )
  23. shoulder injury feel?

    Western medical perspective: If you are relatively young (let's say 40's or less), the chance of you having a torn tendon is very small without significant injury. Older - it's very common to have some degenerative tearing of the rotator cuff tendons or the biceps. The clicking you're feeling could be some inflammed tissue that lines the subacromial bursa rubbing between the undersurface of the acromion and the rotator cuff tendons. This is the most likely explanation by far. Also possible that your shoulder could be unstable due to muscle weakness, causing it to slide partially in and out of concentric alignment between the humerus and glenoid - this is called subluxation. I'm pretty sure your shoulder joint is not dislocated or dislocating. Tendons and muscles around the shoulder generally do not dislocate. It can happen on rare occasion but usually associated with a lot of pain and trauma. An accurate diagnosis can generally be made by a doc who treats a lot of shoulder problems (orthopaedist who specializes in the shoulder for example). MRI is very helpful in looking for tears - probably 95% accuracy in a good scanner read by the right person. Caution - a lot of these specialists are fairly quick to recommend surgery. If you have a small, partial thickness tear - no need to rush into surgery. Physical therapy and other modalities (acupuncture, TCM, anti-inflammatories, chiropractic, and so on) are usually enough but it's slow - as much as 4-6 months depending on the severity of the tear. If you have a large, full thickness tear of the rotator cuff - that should be fixed as there's good data to show that people who do not have it repaired after serious shoulder issues years later. If you just have some inflammation (by far the most likely), most folks will improve within 6-8 weeks of PT and whatever other treatment they choose. Eastern medical perspective: Out of my league! Good luck! Edit - I really like Otis' approach
  24. Genetically modified cows produce 'human' milk

    It sounds a bit perverse to me... Hmmm, is it better for a human adult to drink cow's milk that comes from a cow or human's milk that comes from a cow? I think I know what my Jain brothers and sisters would say!