JEN_A_KINS

this really made my day...thanks for sharing....if i did that at the office, i'd probably be committed! :0)

Warning: If you have all, or even most, of these symptoms, please be advised that your condition of PEACE may be so far advanced as not to be curable. If you are exposed to anyone exhibiting several of these symptoms, remain exposed only at your own risk as this condition of PEACE is probably in its' infectious stage. * A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experiences. * An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment. * A loss of interest in judging other people. * A loss of interest in judging self. * A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others. * A loss of interest in conflict. * A loss of the ability to worry. (This is a very serious symptom.) * Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation. * Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature. * Frequent attacks of smiling. * An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen. * An increased susceptibility to the love extended by others as well as the uncontrollable urge to extend it. ...maybe one day...working on it.

i am having trouble sending pm's, it kicks me off line whenever i try...so i apologize for taking up forum space for this.... to those of you who have sent me books, thank you. i have recieved them and am currently enjoying the reading material. ~Jenn~

for me, this is why i lean towards taoism more so than buddism...i like the fact that it's more relaxed....not a rigid religion.....doesn't mean i won't get into a debate though..

try reading the book, "The Tao of Heath, Sex and Longevity" by Daniel Reid....there are several different examples of exercises

i'm an amberbock girl myself, but as with everything, moderation is key

WOW...talk about precision!

hello and welcome.

I know very little about TMC, so I can't really say. I think medical practisioners in general would prescribe certain drugs, like marijuana, more often. I have an Uncle in Colorado who was recently perscribed medical marijuana for his prostate cancer. He says it helps with the nausea and lack of appetite caused by the radiation treatments. As far as heroin, cocaine...etc. I can't really see any medical benefits.

The "view new post " feature is also one of my favs....especailly since I am on and off line all day.

this is an odd question for me to ask, as it is something very personal. I have been with the same guy for the last year, and have known for the beginning that he lacked a "normal" sex drive. at first, it was at least 2-3 times a month, but for the last 4 months or so....i've been lucky to get it once every month and a half -two months. I have asked him about this, and he becomes very upset. He knows that this isn't normal behavior for a 27 year old male. He says he simply doesn't have the urge anymore. He says it has been going on for years and we just don't know what to do about it. He hates to take medication for anything. So, I would like to know what natural herbs and such would be helpful.

thanks, i just searched our area and found several centers that provide the 5-path hypnothereapy.

Chris, We have a pretty open relationship. He might not always tell me immediately what's bothering him, but he will get to it. We had a serious talk last night actually. I believe I have found the root of his problem. He has been a little "off" all week and I could tell something was bothering him. He asked me if we could talk and of course I was all ears. He is always there for me when I need him, and I try like hell to be there for him too. He told me last night that reason he has been in a bad mood all week is because Mother's Day is coming up. Now, I've always known that his mother ran off when he was 2 years old and left him and his sister to be raised by his dad. He has always acted as if he didn't care to have anything to do with her....as if he were indifferent about the situation. Last night he broke down and told me that he has always felt that he wasn't worth a shit because even his own mother couldn't love him. BINGO!!!! I think that has ALOT to do with his low libido...deep rooted resentment of women due to the fact that his mother left him!!! I hate that he feels this way, but I can kind of understand. I didnt' met my father until I was 16, so I know how it feels. When I was a kid, I always felt like I wasn't good enough because my dad left. After a few years of therapy, I have excepted the fact that he was the one who wasn't good enough. I mentioned how therapy helped me and he seemed open to the idea. Thanks for all the advice and support everyone. ~Jenn~

yes, it is quiet confusing...i am new to this myself and i'm having trouble understanding certain concepts too. Like "do by doing nothing"...happens to be what i am stuck on at the moment. These fokes are great and will respond with lots of suggested reading and insight.

Fringe, huh? Yeah, I'm a bit of a Fringe freak myself...so, what your saying is, that this quiz doesn't actually test your psychic abilities....it's really just a math equation? Figures.

it would appear, i have no psychic abilities. fun quiz though.

Thanks joe, i intend on making that a priority from now on.

Its great to have a huge heart and to help, but are you calling these people and situations to you? Does Jen ever get a chance to do what Jen wants? Or is the entirety of the energy of Jen trying to fix other people's problems? To answer your question, No, Jen rarely gets to do what Jen wants. I have been putting myself on the back burner for so long, it's just become a part of who I am. I grew up always taking care of my siblings, then had my son and devoted myself to taking care of him....and now with my bf as well....it has become a vicous cycle I suppose. Old habits are hard to break....I know I will always want to help others, it's just part of who I am, but if I don't take care of myself, no one else will. I am working towards finding a healthy balance. Breathing exercises and meditation have become a part of my daily routine for the past few weeks and even though it's only an hour a day, it really feels good to spend time on just me. I appreciate all the advice and opinions everyone has offered. I really didn't expect this type of response to my question. I'm glad I "stumbled" acrossed this site. Thanks everyone.

now, now....no bragging.

i think the "push-pull" idea. it may be a good idea in my case. He and I tend to "pick" at one another anyway. It's just how we play. I have never though of using it as a means of ....foreplay i guess is the word i am looking for.

Actually, this is the first time i have been with someone who had a lower drive than myself. But, you may be on to something, my sons father, whom i was with for 5 years, was very sexually active...to the point of cheating on me when i was pregnant. So, subconcously, it could be that I have chosen to stay with someone who is "safe" as you put it.

mal, ....i would never tell him that he preforms quiet well...lol. as far as he knows, he is the very best and that's why i want more! i do like the suggestion of treating him like a cat, maybe that's the approach i need to take. he has no problem "helping" me when he has "accidently caught me"...lol. although, it's not exactly the help i would like, it's still something. as far as having an open relationship, or permission to have sex with other men, i have entertained the thought, but the problem with that is that i just don't see it ending well....either whomever i'm bumpin uglies with is going to get in the way, he is going to get jealous, or i am going to have feelings for the other person.....sometimes it sucks to have feelings...lol...just kidding

lol.....sorry that is really not very funny.....but i can't help it. i seriously doubt he is gay. but hey, i could be some buckethead that had never thought of that one, so thanks for the suggestion.