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i would have to agree that the majority of what happens to a person does not contribute to their overall happiness. people who were abused as children don't necessarily live unhappy lives.......on the other hand, people who had wonderful childhoods can be truly miserable and unhappy. thanks for posting...enjoying the topic.

lol, joe.....hot monkey sex....i needed that laugh this morning. You may be onto something about thinking he is too ugly for me. I personally think he is gorgeous, and I'm not that bad either, but when we first started dating he used to tell me that I was too good for him and that he didn't want to screw my life up....I finally got him to stop talking that way after a few months. I personally believe that no one is "too good" for anyone, it's just all about chemistry. I agree something is bothering him. And what ever it is has been an issue long before we met. I hope I am not coming across as some sex addict....I'm not. But, I am human and have a very healthy sex drive. If he were some random hook up, I wouldn't be worried. I feel that there is a lack of intimacy because of the lack of sex. Yes, I have offered oral sex and hand jobs and no I don't just wait for it to happen. I try to initiate it the majority of the time. He preforms quiet well when we do have sex...so I don't think that's the issue.

I would have to agree...something is deffinately botherig him.

to all of you who have offered advice.... Thank you...i look forward to mentioning some of these to him tonight. and to answer some of your questions... 1. no, he does not masturbate or enjoy porn 2. yes, he is sometimes emotionally withdrawn 3. other than social drinking, which actually seems to help, he does not use any drugs 4. if i deprived him of meat and put him on a veggie diet, he would probably eat me....and not in a manner in which i would like.

Trust me, it's the first thing I thought of! So, no bomb. I have had that conversation with him. And even though he asured me that he is in love with me and finds me attractive, he just can't. Of course, I had to investigate alittle further. His best friend of 12 years informed me that he has heard the same complaint form his last 3 girlfriends. So, again, I am looking for a natural way to help him.

i rather enjoyed this...thank you for sharing

Welcome Juan

Hi there, I too grew up moving from fort to fort.....how wonderful that you've been able to spend time in asia.

I have only been studing the way for a few weeks, but over all, my general mood has been calm and peaceful. I have been getting up early every morning to do my breathing exercising, and I believe they are working. This last Thursday, I was informed that my son's father (whom I left 3 years ago) has been arrested, yet again on drug charges. Normally, I would fly off the handle and would be irrational about the whole situation. This time, however, I was simply unable to become angry about the situation. No addreniline rush, no cursing session....just .....nothing. I know this is going to be hard on my soon to be 5 year old son, but I just couldn't get angry....this, absolutely, blew my mind. (I am not stating that I could never become angry again.) Then, Saturday, I had the compelling urge to gather up the few things they allow you to bring the prisoners...socks, underware, white t-shirts....and bring them to him. I did, and he was absolutely dumbfounded...he wanted to know why I was behaving so strangely. I have no choice but to attribute this strange behavior to the fact that I am trying to live a balanced life in everyway. I tried, briefly, to explain this to him...unfortunately, he not only could not grasp what I was talking about, but he flat out called me a liar. Normally, this would have infuriated me.....but, I couldn't help feeling sorry for him. Not because he was in jail, but because he couldn't understand.......curious, very curious.

Thank you

Personally, I believe that nothing really spectacular happens when you die....the energy form your body is simply dispersed into the universe.

To all of you who have responded... Thank you for your advice and kind words. Yes, I was very hurt by this individual a long time ago and although it no longer bothers me to be around him, it is still a strained relationship. For my sons sake, I have always tried to be civil with him. I will be taking ya'lls advice, and just leaving him alone. He has others in his life that can comfort him while he is in prison. I know that I need to focus on my son instead. I have always had a big heart and have been accused of being "too compassionate" ....for example, I was managing a little dinner a few years ago at a truck stop, and I noticed a younge boy, about 16 years old with a duffle bag had been sitting in front of the store for several hours. I finally asked him what was going on. He said that he had come to shreveport to live with his dad for a while, he was from Lafayette...and that his dad was a raging alcoholic. As he explained his situation, he began to cry histerically. He had gotten word that his mother had been in a horrible car wreck in Lafayette and his father rufused to take him to see her. He was about to turn 17 in two days, and decided that even if he had to hitch hike, he was going home to his mother. He had no idea how to hitch hike though, and was trying to work up the nerve to ask someone for a ride. Being a mother, this absolutely broke my heart. Without hesitation, I fixed him some food on the house, and started making phone calls. I found out the name of the hospital, and called to let him talk to his mother. He only had $30.00 on him, not nearly enough to get him home. I had just recieved a bonus at work.....I loaded him up with a to-go box full of food, drove him down town to the bus station and purchased a one way ticket to lafayette....he of course, refused this at first, but after a long conversation, he agreed. He asked for my address so that he could repay me.....a stipulation for excepting the bus ticket. I want you to know, that about 3 weeks later, I recieved a letter containing $100.00 from him and a long note thanking me. I had nothing to gain from helping this kid.....I just wished that if my son were ever in this situation, someone honest would help him. Again, thank you all.

hi there, my name is jen and i just recently came across taoism. i was also in a constant state of mental dissarray and confusion...desperately seeking truth and peace of mind. I have been reading everything i can get my hands on....you will get a lot of advice and useful info on here, everyone is willing to share their knowledge and text. i hope you find what you are looking for. The book i am reading now, is very enlightening and easy to grasp, it's "The Tao of Health, Sex and Longevity" by Daniel Reid.

when looking for advice, i turn to my mon when giving advice, i try to keep it short, don't really like giving advice when in a fight, my motto is "move quick-end it quick" when fighting more than one person, run! when choosing a teacher, i do alot of research first if i meet someone and fall in love, i will enjoy it while it last when you have nothing else to do, read when you feel life testing you, just breath, it will pass when you have to do something that your afraid of, gather all of your courage and just do it when people don't agree with the way you live, take it lightly....it matters not what others think

thanks! i am really enjoying it so far, i've found it extremely easy to read and comprehend. i'm currently reading the section on food combinations and i have to say it makes alot of sense, makes you feel a little ignorant for not realizing this sooner...lol. i will definately check out the other two books.

Thanks! will do

my name is jennifer and up until a few weeks ago, i'd never heard of taoism. i was raised in a pretty traditional christian environment, went to christian schools pretty much my whole life.....but it never really felt right, nor did i ever really believe what i was being told.....i've been pouring over info via internet about every religion i could find......and taoism is the only that makes any sense to me. unfortunately all i know is what i've read on several different sites....so, i am here for answers, and guidence.

I like the map idea, but i seem to be the only in Louisiana..lol. I'll take my tea with just a little milk, thanks.

Thanks, i'm off to do some reading....when i formulate some questions, i'll ley ya'll know.

Yes! opening doors is my goal, ....my problem is i have no idea where to start ....there is so much research available on taoism, and i don't want to waste my time sorting through the real teachings vrs. all the crap on the internet.....any suggestions?