johndoe2012

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So what is the alternative that doesn't have side effects?

Are you talking about non duality teachings? I think the principle of that is non attachment to thoughts feelings and so on to break free of the mind. Might work for some but not all. Trying is a energetic blockage in some systems, also known as resistance. We can enjoy life while we do our cultivation techniques. I think sustained effort should be applied to really get somewhere rather than just happy.

Let's clear people's old perception of ChiDragon. Our perception should be fresh and new all the time.

What about asking God for a lover?

Light from the teacher can minimize confusion.

Yes, exactly.

Maybe one should look into why one finds this or that religion cynical etc. Is basically your own point of view you are mentioning here so you can find the answer to your question within. Through discussion is through thought so maybe not the answer you are looking for.

You could research Yuen Method which relies on insight based on not thinking. Not necessary to have eye contact. In Yuen speak what you feel are people's energetic weaknesses or blockages in another word. You can use it on yourself and others to make corrections by using your intent to do so. Basically you can just think of an issue and then make the correction. A version of this is to think of the issue, connect to "your Higher Self" and hold the intent until you feel it is enough. This way you can access deeply seated karma, anger greed etc. Basically everything, although brain training I would also recommend for changing the wiring and patterns in it.

from http://www.todoinstitute.org/naikan.html Looks interesting

Ts, the problem is more around criticism than anger, it seems to come from your father. And I completely understand you regarding society, I am working on this myself.

One way to stay calm "how am I experiencing this moment through my senses?" to avoid being caught in the thinking mind. I find myself happier and more neutral when I work on the things that bother me. It could be my own weaknesses, other people and so on.

Very good, I like this article. For some reason the style reminded me of Castaneda.

I shield myself all the time to avoid other people's energies, mostly it's the low vibrational sort - materialistic ideas, hate-talk, complaining and so on that I want to avoid. Ya Mu talked once about hiding / compacting your energy body so you don't get noticed, not sure whether you can use it. The move is in GOT III, I think. Anyway, regarding other people in general I practise being humble, non-judgmental, appreciative towards them even though it is tough. I don't like having a hard HEART so it comes naturally that I want to soften it.

Sometimes I also find it better to release issues physically or verbally because I have a history of suppressing myself. So the brain and body need to be rewired not just the energy behind the issue. I have worked with anger a lot and some months ago I got angry fully releasing it without suppression and it felt awesome. Anger when it is pure is just raw energy waiting to be released, what's there to feel bad about? I know people cultivate different aspects here but the inner work which I do energetically has done wonders for me. Sometimes I see old stuff like "I know better than others" come up and I work with it. I liked the Castaneda part which was quoted here http://thetaobums.com/topic/32906-dealing-with-trolls-petty-tyrants-and-socially-inept-posters/ self-importance, that's a difficult one, ha ha i am: I know the feeling of being a wuss, ha ha. I always ran away from karate lessons when we had to fight, I never liked it. Now I wrestle with my oldest son and I love it. Nothing wrong with fighting, I guess it has to do with confidence and courage

Do the inner work, only speak from personal experience, ignore urges to quote teachers and books, then the flamewars would die out quickly.

I have the same issue as you with sneezing and the sun. Also sneezing for me is caused by sexual desire and feels like a orgasm :-)

There is a weakness around "us vs them" on this forum which is I guess is why there is a higher number of these conflicts here than on other "spiritual" forums.

I found one of the mahamudra manuals very helpful for me. Also in my experience the "thing" that wants to wake up is more a bodily / brain thing that can't handle the now which creates resistance and this resistance is what one wants to get rid of.

Most of what you are describing is what I would call energetic weaknesses which can be corrected using eg Yuen Method, healing code or other methods. I don't think meditation is good for dealing with these things.

If you have identified the ego do you still find yourself reactive in daily life? Or has the level of internal peace increased?

That is my experience as well but sometimes what one calls the ego and what another calls the ego are two different things.

So how do you identify the ego? Regarding people who rant on forums, I find it easy to sense who's got it and who only knows things intellectually.

You can correct this stuff energetically using eg Yuen Method, healing code etc. It can go down to the level of atoms, electrons. Basically if you can think of it you can correct it.

Good :-)