King Kabalabhati

Perhaps you could phrase it "I'm not half as scared of dying as I used to be", that's how I'm feeling.

The problem with most sexual exercices is that they make you more conscious of your "retention" and sexual energy in general which can stimulate it insead of calming and refining it. It is clear that many young and beginning practitioners are experiencing this, in fact I was introduced to Taois practices through Chia style sex kung fu. Sex sells I think if you really want to harbor the seed for healing purposes then just do full lotus even if it hurts and practice calming the mind and transmuting sexual thoughts into compassion and love.

Before falling asleep it's good to tell yourself: "I am in the universe, the universe is in my body. The universe and I combine together". Then tell yourself you're going to sleep so and so long and you're going to have a deep, dreamless sleep during which your energy is balanced and blockages open. This is from SFQ and it seems to work for me. Also going to sleep early and waking up very early provides for better quality sleep with less dreaming.

Yeah it could be.. But let's say hypothetically you somehow find the definite answer YES. What do you do then? Focus on opening the heart meridian? OK. That could open it and solve the problem. OR it could overheat your heart and cause more imbalance because there may be other blockages contributing to the problem. So focus on healing your whole body, mind and spirit. Gentle MCO, inner smile and simple Qigong might help. OR if you're more troubled about it, or suspect something more severe, consult a professional. But it is probably not wise to take specific recommendations from Taobums, no matter how wise they would seem, for a problem that possibly isn't what you or they think it may be.

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Meditate. Don't meditate. Do meditate. No don't meditate. MEDITATE. DON'T MEDITATE. MEDITATE! NO DON'T MEDITATE! MEDITATE!!!! DON'T MEDITATE!!!! I don't know if I meditate. But often sitting still doing nothing feels like... no, I won't say it, it might be delusional. MEDITATE!!!

Yeah it could've been what Drew has described.. Or it could have been your own projection with your expectations manifesting. No one can tell. But NEVER MIND keep cultivating. edit: Sure one can feel other people's energy, and sexual energy can be very strong with certain people. It doesn't necessarily mean they have strong Jing, it could be a sign of imbalance, their mind concentrating too hard in the sexual.

I would say just relax and let go. You are doing fine. Keep up your practice, keep it simple and accept some "symptoms" as part of the healing. If this kind of grief /other prob becomes more chronic then you should turn to a Qigong teacher or TCM/ayurvedic doctor for advice. edit: You don't really even need this information you are asking for. Who cares where the blockage is? Just let problems dissolve, wherever they may reside. You might feel it in your heart but all organs are connected.

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There's a thread buried somewhere called "jealousy". There you can read in detail what I was going through, or what I thought I was going through In short, I had to connect to my liver to find all the anger energy stacked there. Once it started releasing, well, for me that was the most powerful experience. But that was only a part of it. A lot of it I still can't describe.. I simply feel so much better now, and so does the wife.. yeah we're still together but the vibes are not the same stagnant frustration anymore. Before I used to feel really unhappy and, worst of all, sorry for myself if she didnt want sex for a week or two (she's an asperger person and not very active that way). Nowadays I happily cultivate my Jing and don't bother her when she doesn't need my services. When she does, I can perform way better now that my lower back and other related channels are more open. I used to be a really bad lover. BTW I do SFQ and feel it's helped me a lot.

You're on the right track.. For me it took a divorce drama to get things really flowing. But fear not, trust in the Tao!

This was a most kind-hearted offer, thank you. But I think it will be quite expensive to send the tea all the way to Finland

Good emotional health is vital. This is of course connected to physical health, but if sexuality IN ANY WAY is a problem then you probably have emotional blockages. I guess I would suggest the Small Universe meditation, lotus sitting and loys of walking, along with any organ-healing techniques like the six healing sounds. And be prepared to spend some time with it. It may take a few years to cool down excess desire.

I like green jasmine pearls, Pu erh and white tea, just to mention a few. Fennel is my basic infusion. It's good for all constitutions. Great for digestion and cooling for the nerves. Sometimes I add ajwan, sometimes jeera, sometimes cardamom.

I kinda like the idea of being a mediocre cultivator/healer while living a worldly life as virtous as possible, even having a cup of coffee every now and then edit: of course "liking" "ideas" is far from high-level

I often encounter problems stilling the mind. Parts from catchy pop tunes seem to play over and over, on and on..

I recently sat in full lotus for an hour which was my personal record, usually I never went for more than half an hour, which is the time it takes to start hurting. It was painful, my legs were in "cold flames" for the last 20 minutes or so, but man it felt good too. I started to get sensations of cool energy tingling all over. After I released the posture I couldn't help but lie down and laugh Afterwards I felt like I'd just had some great sex, hehe.. It is a powerful posture indeed.

That sounds a bit gay..

That sounds a bit gay..

Right on Sam!

It's possible you will have to mellow out first and then find a new way of being masculine. This will grow out of your experience. You will maybe go to another extreme while searching for the proper way to be a man. Don't worry if this happens, just learn from it and enjoy the ride. My wife commented on this... "Do renovating and building work, it's meditative and masculine"

THANK YOU DREW for the link, I am now better armed in my battle against sugar poisoning..

I'm a father of three and I spend most of the week alone with my kids since the wife (yes she's still the wife;) moved to town to study... She was recently diagnosed an Aspberger Syndrome person by the way.. But we're doing better than ever Anyway, I do Spring Forest Qigong and also Tao Yin and Hatha Yoga postures. Been doing some form of practice for about five years. I've already told here about the time when my then 7-year old daughter was very restless and couldn't sleep. I told her about Inner Smile and also smiled at her. She fell asleep amazingly quickly, like from total restlessness to total relaxation in maybe 3 minutes. The first time I tried SFQ healing on my children was when my 5-years old daughter was snoring heavily and even had sleeping apnea. The first time I did it was the most dramatic: she immediately stopped snoring. She also didn't snore in the morning when we woke up. After that the snore came back a couple of times but now it's been a long time since she had breathing difficulties. Another time she started to cry because her ear was aching. I did Sword Fingers on her ear and in a minute she fell asleep and slept for hours. After she awoke she had her dinner and after that she complained ear ache again. I did another healing and after that the pain was gone almost right away. Next morning she said her ear hurts when she swallows. I did a third round of healing and after that there was no more talk of earache. My older daughter has had headaches a few times and each time after a short healing session she has forgotten about the whole thing. Today the kids have been a bit more restless than usual, seeking conflict and talking to each other in a tense way. After this had gone on for a couple of hours I was feeling a bit stressed. I sat in the lotus position just to read a book. My mind was tense so I was irritated by the sounds that the kids were making. Suddenly, instead of getting angry, I found the whole thing so comical and I had to laugh. I went into a very relaxed mood and also the children started to laugh in the next room. The energy of the whole family just changed in a second. If you can share similar stories about your domestic energy work or have a comment, feel free!