King Kabalabhati

There's probably some truth in Chia's book. But thank God the universe is much more creative than this narrow truth. So in the words of Leonard Cohen: "ring the bells that still can ring, forget your perfect offering"

I've done isometrics for a few weeks now and yes, it IS like a kind of Chi Kung, as well as great muscle sculpting.

Tiger could convert to the Tao..

I think it's OK to charge for teachings. Money actually turns sacred when you use that "potential energy" in it to do a good thing. Especially charging money for teaching people to take charge of their own healing, spirituality etc.. via a system that you honestly believe in, that kind of work is IMO making money more of a divine power rather than (negatively) mundane. Just because money thus becomes part of the motivation in spreading the healing information and vibes, AND it makes a living for the teacher, who also must survive, usually in the same society as those learning from him.

I've only studied Chia from books, and I've found them helpful and my life has gone through many positive changes since I started doing the practices from books such as "Awakening healing energy", "Energy Balance through the Tao" (highly recommended yoga), "Cultivating male sexual energy".. I'm not a hard-core yogi or a extremely devoted chi kung-practicioner but I find that I have learned enough exercices through these books that I now have a wide variety of healing practices available to suit my changing life-situations. I seem to be doing the microcosmic orbit, the sexual exercises and the deep breathing exercises on a daily basis. The Inner Smile and the six healing sounds have been very helpful in times of emotional crisis. I've studied other Taoist and Chi Kung books like Danier Reid's "Tao of health sex & longevity" and prefer Chia's style of putting it out.. I'd like to go to his seminars or whatever before he goes to the "next level", but if I don't it's all right too.

Again, please don't underestimate the power of suggestion. By what you've been writing here you have mostly been programming yourself to be more of what's bothering you. Talk and think more about what you want to be, what you dream of, what strengths you know you have and how you're going to improve on them. You must have some willpower, for instance, since you've been vegan for some time in an environment that doesn't support it. YOU HAVE POWER

You don' t seem to believe you deserve anything better. Well you do. Search deep to find your worthlessness, it's not planted there by you alone, it's simply a programming from your past. In your situation I would try anything, including hypnosis. That can be a powerful tool for changing your belief systems. Even a self-suggestion CD could be helpful. I also think some belly breathing could help, and 15-20 minutes meditation/relaxing wont hurt. A strict vegan diet is not appropriate for a person who doesn't have his/her set together. You end up with deficincies very easily and they can worsen your state. And this is just meant to supplement all the other good advice here.

Thanks for starting this thread, I immediately ordered the book "miracle seven". I want to work out but don't have the chance to go to a gym since I look after children most of my time.

Once I achieved better balance and peace of mind through yoga, ayurveda, Qigong and such, I no longer felt much need to write songs. That was a bit scary since it's what I do for living.. But then my life changed, I broke up with my wife.. I was deeply troubled by it.. And I got productive again

As personal as it gets..

A close relationship between two (spiritual) people IS cultivation.. And then, if one day, after years of living together you break up.. Now there's your chance for some SERIOUS CULTIVATION

What happens to me often is that I get a good feeling like a happy thought or just a feeling of bliss and I notice the MCO flowing up the back channel by itself. Can happen in whatever situation/position. Then if I get a more challenging feeling like sadness or anger, it usually makes the qi flow down the front and collect in the navel. It seems to help somehow... I don't do it consciusly, it simply happens.

"The spiritual path is a path of aloneness" -Sri Nithyananda Swami BTW he's got good stuff on the Youtube..

I think there's good advice about sleeping well, eating balanced, not overdoing things.. But if you're a person prone to mental illness or psychosis, it doesnt necessarily matter whether you meditate or not. The world is a MAD MAD MAD place and if you're very sensitive to it, it just might blow your mind too badly. Simple Pranayama is safe to learn from a book. Simple Qigong too. As long as you don't force them to happen. BUT it's only relatively safe. Since no-one can guarantee that you're not going to flip out, whether doing practice or not. This lady has obviously flipped way before she did her first full-lotus

No worries bro, the pain is fading.. I was half-assed in my marriage in almost every way but in the emotional sense. I could compensate with a deep emotional connection and a good shared sense of humor for a long time.. But I've been half-assed with my life in general, so how could I give her anything more? It's time I get serious about doing things properly, so if I get another queen she will have more respect for me.. More safety, more trust, more confidence, more pleasure... And I'm going to try not to fall for a woman whom I can't fully respect. It sucks to love somebody so much that you end up swallowing too much. It's your liver who's gonna carry all that negative energy. Love your liver and live Fe real!! I've been a fan of the man since late 90's. I even chatted with him a few words on the Facebook Thanks for the strengthening, life is beautiful when people encoureage one another. I'm forward! Jah guide and protect. King K

Yeah well, having hurt myself recently I'm just wondering if there's another way to do it... Possibly not

Patience is good.. I would have been ready to continue our unsatisfying union for years still.. Though I would rebel against our low sexual activity from time to time.. But she awoke to a sudden realisation that she would HAVE to open up sexually to reach her full spiritual potential. The funny thing is, usually women are considered to attach emotionally to their partner, but in our break-up it was me who suffered. She hasn't shown anything but relief. It hasn't helped me at all... Well, now I feel stronger and don't think I'll ever attach to a girl as vulnerably as I did. It was because of me not feeling whole as myself so I needed her to fill my void. A bad bad ground for a relationship, it seems. That's why it's good if you can put "God above everything", as it's said in a reggae song.

WHOAAA THE LARGE HARD-ON COLLIDER!!! sorry, go on..

This is exactly what happened.. I realise that Shade is a kinda extreme guy, but he makes so much sense in so many ways. He's powerful, and he's helping others to become powerful. It's not just about sex and relationships, it's about living life in general. After reading (and listening to) his stuff I no longer have the question "what went wrong?".. Almost everything went "wrong" from the beginning.. I chose the "wrong" partner with "wrong" motives, I did all the "wrong moves", I wasn't being a man.. Though of course everything went as it should in a larger context, it was all education and now I'm finally truly motivated to learn from it. And the fruits of that "wrong gone" relationship are of course our beautiful and healthy children. AND I smell good things ahead.. So thank you for the recommendation, truly. I'll check out Deida too. King K

My current situation is a challenging one, well at least for a being that's not quite enlightened it is. My wife is away on a holiday and I know she's at her friend's place, a male friend with whom they have mutual attraction. We have "opened" our marriage and are nowadays more friends than spouses, meaning having sexual relations with other people is not entirely forbidden by mutual agreement. Now it's quite possible that they end up making love during her stay and I'm trying to open my heart to accept and give my blessing to this situation. This is the first time in 10 years either of us has a "lover" although she calls him a friend (we've had 9 yrs of marriage with children).. But she admitted she feels magnetism towards him, a kind of magnetism she doesn't feel for me. So I've told her if she wants to have sex with him then they maybe should, since I don't want her to be forever in a sexually "under-devoleped" state, I know it's hard to go forward on the spiritual path if one has any sexual frustrations or feeling of "lacking an experience". Good sex with a big man who really arouses her could help her I think, even if I'm still gonna be together with her once she gets back home.. We're really close and share a lot of good communication and a special kind of love with a strong mutual urge to help each other progress in life. So you could call it a perfect relationship in that sense, and it will be once I can release my conditioned emotions and replace them with pure unconditional love. It doesn't help to receive all this pity from my mother and mother-in-law.. Now I simply ask you to give any advice or philosophy for opening the heart for acceptance and compassion, I want to go forward too and I'm a bit tired of self-pity and jealousy that attack me every now and then. I do feel cleansed by meditation already, yesterday was harder than today.. At times I feel like my chest is all opened up and I feel very light, but occasionally the possessive feelings return for a while. I of course let them come and go.. but can someone come up with ways our thoughts to make this process roll smoother?

For whom it may concern, I'm giving some update here. There's been no dramatic changes, the new life is flowing OK.. I've still had occasional sadness coming on but now it seems it's not related to her as much as it's related to myself. Meaning, I've been doing a lot reflecting on the past by myself and also together with her. It's painful sometimes to realise how stupid, spineless and short-sighted one has been. One day I kind of hit the bottom, thinking: "what good is there in me? Is there anything worth taking forward?" But it was simply due to her giving me so much criticism. I know I'm gonna turn it into a positive force but the initial impact was a bit heavy. Markern, I'd like to thank you for recommending David Shade. I've received his material and it speaks to me. His style is strongly suggestive and just what I need to have more confidence in my manhood. It doesn't hurt to know more about the art of loving either, it feels empowering.. The funny side of the relationship between me and the ex-wife is that I am now acting as her sexual healer.. And at the same time she's allowing me to practice yoni massage skills. She is not fully sexually open and we're working together to improve that. I'm using all the methods I can find to help her become more orgasmic, except intercourse, which is not a good idea at least at this point of time. One book I recently got is very interesting, highly recommended, called "Yoni Massage" by Michaela Riedl. I'm determined to become very good with my hands. Her best friend seems to be also a bit electric about me, she just told me happily over the phone This has been a season of more pushups and less energy work. But I'm slowly getting used to full lotus, sitting about half an hour at a time. One time I was sitting, tongue in the roof of mouth, when I swallowed my saliva taoist-style and followed it through the stomach and intestine until it hit the dantien and what happened? An internal orgasm. I wasn't expecting that one Once again, thanks to everyone for insight. It was touching to read this topic again after some time. I was really going through the fire back then and the process is still on, though not as heated anymore, thank God. Blessings, King K

When it comes to sex in relationship, I think David Shade puts it very plain and simple. If the man is not being a man, if the woman can't fully trust him and respect him as a man, then sexual problems occur. In a way the relationship is doomed already at this point. I'm not sure if it's possible to gain back that lost trust and respect. This was definitely the case in my relationship. She was not really taking her place as the woman either, so I had problems respecting her fully.. At the moment I'm learning on how to be a man. No, I mean THE man.

Theoddore, what you describe is a familiar situation for me.. for 9 years of my life. I was, and am still, very emotionally attached to her. We have three kids too. But a couple of months ago she decided to break things up, and we both have come to understand how impossible our relationship has been. In many ways its been like two vampires sucking each other for energy, in any ways possible. Even though we're both cultivators and quite spiritual. It's not fair, neither realistic for either of the partners to be expected to change so much over the course of the relationship. Sexual frustration will spread its bad influence over all the areas of co-existence. So while it's not a good idea to dump your beloved partner as soon as sexual problems appear, it is probably not wise to wait for years and years for a miracle to happen. Some people are just not meant to be that way.. they might make better friends than lovers.

I have a gut feeling that spiritual progress should involve transcending the feeling of loneliness so that solitude doesn't become bothersome. I personally have a hard time staying at peace when alone for prolonged periods. I have never lived alone, I've always shared my home with someone.

There is a relevant point in Goldisheavy's typing, and I want to add mine.. We are changing creatures in a changing universe. We simply cannot point at a thing in us that definitely won't change. I can't be sure she wont change. If we change and love is not there anymore, it doesnt mean the relationship was a failure, assuming it was good while it lasted. To everything a season. Some relationships last until death but it doesn't mean they're of better quality, some of them are but some just include a strong clinging to a long relationship, kind of an obsession to keep going it for some internal or external reason. I had a woman who loved me for all the "right" reasons; my character, my sense of humour, my kindness, my lovingness, you know, all these good virtues of mine. But eventually she got tired of me and wanted out. Because she changed.. And because I wasn't giving her WILD SCREAMING ORGASMS (I've read David Shade ) But seriously, it has been very educational for me to realize I wasn't much of a man in that relationship. For the possible next one I'm going to improve on it a lot, with more yang type charasterictics such as more muscle and a commanding attitude