King Kabalabhati

Yep I just saw it a while ago. Nice one.

It goes in the centre of the body from the perineum to the top of the head so it's not to be confused with the ones going up the spine and down the front.

The couple will have to take a risk too.. A risk that they have to eventually break up because of this evolution.. To face the fact that their motives to become a couple weren't healthy in the yin/yang sense in the first place, but were affected by social conditioning or whatever. So it can be a frightening thing, but it should be understood that the end of relationship doesn't mean it's a failure. If both people take the chance to learn from it and improve their self-understanding then it was a very functional union.

DOESNT make it easier, it can be devastatingly tough. But if you're into the "self improvement" scene then that's probably the quickest way, and maybe the only way that's quick enough for one lifetime. edit: refinement

He was asking for a technique for protection. That is one technique I learned in SFQ. I havent made any claims of how well it works, nobody can prove that. But you can't prove it doesn't make a difference. Mewtwo obviously believes he can make a difference, otherwise he wouldn't ask for any technique.

You can visualize yourself and / or your family driving in the sun, all safe and happy.

Only one out of 3 were unintentional here.. And that's my lil guy, the sweetest accident I ever made. Thank you for your compliment. These things are of interest to me as you have noticed. I respect you too.

As a man it would be even harder to trust that the woman knows her body well enough.. I think a woman can well have that intuitive knowledge and trust in it 100%. Hmm I'm speaking from the point of view of a (practically) single daddy of three. I have no more capacity for "accidents".

Yeah I see.. I would imagine that for many women (and men) the threat of pregnancy is so great it will ruin their pleasure if no other preventives are used. But great to hear someone can make it work like that.

Good for you! But what about the threat of pregnancy? Never bothered you? All your lovers must have been pretty convincing at their "contact without leakage"? Sorry but I'm curious..

Hmm how would you like a man with a

That's what Tao is all about.

Well put.. I guess it takes a lot of Yin power to be confident enough in one's femininity to relax into total submission. So if you're not confident you think the male "dominance" is a threat, or if you've been hurt by male dominance then it can be a sore spot. I speak funny sentences.

Agreed. Now that I know it won't bring me happiness I wouldn't mind some momentary satisfaction To be honest, casual sex is often within my reach and sometimes I find myself fantisizing about it but then in the real situation I usually feel it's not the "right thing" to do, I simply feel no real desire towards that stranger. If I find a person who I genuinely like and who is interested in a suitable type of relationship (NOT marriage and NOT with more children!), then I might go for it.

Daniel Reid says in the book "The Tao of Health Sex and Longevity" that eating raw cabbage/cabbage juice is a much better way to increase your C-vitamin intake than sythetic vitamin. Ayurvedic medicine recommends you dont take synthetic vitamins since you don't really know their energetics, so this can lead to either more deficiency or excesses.

Then again, Yang is dominant by nature, so we have to respect that right? I don't think playrape is necessarily the answer, neither dirty talk, but if you have a relationship you gotta make the polarities work and keep them strong somehow, especially in bed. So in that sense I see no problem in the male being dominant, if it means "taking action" and the female to be submissive if it means "surrendering" to his actions. I agree that fantasies are not really the thing. Taoist love, if I understand correctly, is all about being present in your body and in the moment instead of making some romantic story come alive.

This topic speaks to me too. There's a great dissonance when a boy gets emotionally castrated by his mother ("look what your father/men in general have done to me") and psychilogically still has the example and influence of his father in him.

It's not age that is eating your virility, it's your negativity.

Since I began to do Qigong (SFQ) EVERYTHING in my life has improved. My relationships, my self-understanding, my intellect, sense of humor, patience and yes, even my economic situation.. The same year I began serious SFQ I wrote a hit album! And now I'm making another one that I know will be even better! And it's all so easy cos I don't take things so personally any more. I hope you find a practice that can truly help you improve.

Do you know any women? I know very few that fit into your description of them. In fact I know very few who are brutal enough to be honest.

These sites are not about Taoist love, they are about psychological techniques. Why do you keep on bringing that stuff here? Just because it works for many modern women doesn't make it a Taoist approach. Just because most guys who are into it are cocky jerks doesn't mean there wouldn't be something to learn there. I think you're taking your own person, your own "authenticity" very seriously, and are offended when in reality you could get laid by being "inauthentic". Could there be a middle way?

I love your post Cat Pillar. This is how us "sexually frustrated" men should go about our "problems". Not blame others, assume responsibility and stay positive. There is a special gift in our situation, we have to face a lot of discomfort and loneliness and that is what can, if faced with a cultivation mentality, build more lasting happiness. And once you shine with genuine happiness for no reason they'll be idiots if they don't want a piece of that and we dont care for idiots anyway do we

I try to think less about how much less I'm mating than some other guy. I think I'll live longer that way

When feeling sleepy in the evening, I may go to sleep for an hour or two around 9 pm and then wake up to practice.

This is a good stream of thought, though I would add with humility that it's quite possible there won't be a "right time" for a "perfect person" in this life, the way I see it it's really a miracle if such a match be made, so to learn to get along with yourself (and even love the mf) is double important, both for you and the possible future soulmate.