Maddie

This I suppose is a good topic for the old transgender thread. Personally I feel like my relationship to my old boy life is more positive than a lot of other transwomen. I think one reason is that I was so suppressed for so long I just thought I was a boy and didn't really question it for a long time. So it's hard to hate something that you thought you were ok with at the time. The other thing is that while obviously I didn't ultimately feel comfortable as a boy, I didn't hate myself. I practiced self compassion even back then and I think that helped a lot. Besides now I have the unique perspective of seeing life from both points of view and that is something most people don't have. People seem to be fascinated when I tell them how life as a boy was verses life as a girl.

That is how I refer to myself, so sample size of one says yes lol. "one time back when I was a boy" makes me think "this one time at band camp"

Granted I do take my skin care routine very seriously though. I moisturize frequently and I do cosmetic acupuncture. Additionally every day I take Jing tonics. Also it's completely up to you but if you want to share a selfie do feel free. 😊

It's definitely true.

It was good enough that when I was curious I decided to pursue Buddhism further.

I'm a Daoist immoral 😌

I like being asexual 🙂

I have a gay friend that loves trans men. But one thing interesting I noticed was once I started transitioning gay men stopped flirting with me and lesbians started lol.

Well aren't you Mr observant? LOL 🤣. The reason that's on my table is because that's a stack of books I'm going to bring to the half Price bookstore to trade in. Although it was really helpful at the very beginning of my exploration into Buddhism.

I mean I think I agree because I had been wanting to get rid of that thing ever since I was little for that reason.

I guess since I've already owned being an attention whore there's really nothing holding me back is there? 🤭😂🫣

The photos are the practice. The Tao of the selfie

Thank you for sharing and welcome to the Dao Bums in general and to the transgendered thread specifically :-). Always nice to have another sister around. * and brother Blue Eye's ;-)

awww that's sweet actually :-). Also they can't shame you if you own it lol.

Yeah but I'm an unapologetic attention whore

I would say when you spend your entire life hating what you see in the mirror constantly and then finally you like it. It tends to make one kind of excited LOL

Definitely seems to be the case in my experience lol. Also welcome to my thread surrogate corpse. Would you care to introduce yourself here? Up to you. 😊🩷

Actually I used to hate selfies before I transitioned. I have been on this site since 2009 or 10 and I don't think I posted a single selfie before transition at all.

I know I know I probably post too many selfies. I'll try to slow down LOL

I hope everyone's having a good day today! 😊🩷

I think this just highlights the importance and difficulty of communication. It did not escape my notice that all of the lgbtq+ identifying people assumed I was being trolled and those who did not assume that are not people who have identified as lgbtq+. It's my assumption that when ones existence as an lgbtq+ person gets challenged regularly it makes one more sensitive to certain keywords or triggers. Communication is not an easy thing.

I guess I owe you an apology. I really thought you were trolling me. I do get trolled a lot so I guess it makes me a bit assumptive but that would not be your fault so I hope you accept my apology.

If we want to end suffering we shouldn't cling to anything, but I anticipate you saying then why do it. Because there would need to be a self to choose to stop clinging. Since this is not the case and instead of a self there are simply conditioned processes we have to use awareness to gradually see through the clinging. This usually takes time and is a gradual process. To think of it as a conscious choice ironically assumes that there is an identity to choose to not have an identity lol. Geez I hope that makes sense.

My question would be why do you see it as something that needs defending in the first place as opposed to something that just is.