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Care to share examples of compassion you have experience with? Tia Obligation? One doesn't need an obligation, or the need for no stinking badges either. That is either before or after one acts in compassion. Care to share these things that happen as experience internally ? Tia

one may get what they need...

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Distilling the above for the real outstanding gems : Compassion can"t be learned as it is intensely personal. What gets you into the thick of it, is who you are. Compassion hits you like a ton of bricks. It is both a feeling and a doing because one has skin in the game, man. Skin in the game is not selfish. You can only intellectualize the concept, not live it, if you are not personally in the thick of it. And I would add if you have lived it, you know it when you see it, this compassion thing, this skin in the game, in others.

Filial responsibilities and duties are sadly legally mandated in some cases / states thelearner I know from your past posts that's not the case for you No body can push a persons buttons better than ones parent, and spouse then sibling(s) I don't share a lot of goals and values that are prevalent in America today. My focus is on the quality of my relationships not quantity. I find the world at large tiring and frustrating but have no problem getting along by go along my way. As Frank Sinatra so aptly put it : " And now, the end is near, ..... I did it my way."

lolly pop

Manitou you remain in my thoughts and prayers and hoping you are moving towards greater peace!

I don't think the above are examples of selfishness. Nor do I think that the police mans bear hug of the bomber was done selfishly. Doing thru being who and what they are ... Yup to do or not to do that remains the question. Doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome ... well I choose not to do that. Observe act.

my bold above I know what I don't know. I'm not a social worked a shrink nor a counselor. I don't what to do but I damn sure know what not to do! I live & work near not at a shelter for women & children and generally men are not welcome there. Exceptions are made from time to time. I have seen the affect fire water has on people to many times. One fella was a real lamb up until he had a few under his belt. Then all hell would ensue. He would get kicked out of the café at the shelter for being under the influence. The cops would be called and he would high tail it over to the farm. No sirens but six or eight police cars with lights on was enough notice. Less than six was really risky eight was great... they would surround him and quickly close in so he couldn't throw but a punch or two. I was always impressed with the care and caution shown him by the local police. And often the case were a bit more gentle, less yelling for example when he engaged primarily with a female peace officer. They took him in until he sobered up. He only had a third grade education and worked on farms his entire life...

I generally pay pretty good $15.00 an hour ($120.00 a day) its hard work out in the weather yet pan handlers may get twice that and don't have to do much... I will offer work or share a meal, too often I see them buying booze when they get cash.

chock full of nuts

lagbolt

Public Service Announcement "I don't have to attend every argument I am invited to." W.C. Fields

Above I opened the door a crack Below bes marches right in fearlessly Bums trying to help other bums is why I love this place!

Damned by faint praise

Power (real or perceived) be it due rank, job position, or public office carries responsibilities, both moral and ethical. The old saying "Caeser's wife must be above suspicion" always carried the implication that Caeser better be too! At least to me. Basic education has fallen for example no ethics or morals taught in public school and not by many families either.

sheepsfoot

Uh, when you fall asleep?

I'm in the permission camp! Best wishes

The greater the power the greater the corruption!

chickens

mark

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