FieryWind

The reality is that this "dream" or "delusion" exists in the relative sense, to disregard this fact would be delusional! From the point of view of the Absolute, relative existence may seem to be be unreal (this is simply my opinion), but the fact that you experience this so called dream, means that it exists, dependent upon other factors of course, it has no inherent existence because of its dependent nature, but it still exists in a temporal ever changing sort of way due to the fulfillment of Karma. It came from emptiness, sustained briefly then dissolved back into emptiness, therefore its true nature is empty yet it's relative nature was dependent upon other factors for its existence, it's empty nature was never born, will never be sustained and it will never die, yet its relative nature had a birth a sustenance and a death, it was fleeting, temporal, mirage-like, limited. Remember the middle way of approach, the Tao, neither leaning to either extremes yet perceiving both. Believing that someone has achieved Enlightenment is not enough, we have to work to achieve that state, meditate, transmute and remove your own obscurations.

I send my greetings to all the members of this forum, may we all learn from each other and benefit one another through the medium of our own virtuous qualities.

Hello Adam, It's unfortunate that you are experiencing such problems and difficulties, you should be strong, full of energy and vitality at your age. When we don't do much, we accumulate a lot of energy, and we know that the sexual energy is constantly building up in our bodies, until it reaches the stage where it draws our attention away from our surroundings and pushes us to act, the pleasurable sensations that are produced when working with this energy are irresistible to us, thus it can be incredibly difficult to abstain from indulging in it, especially if we are accustomed to indulging in it multiple times a day, everyday. We form an addiction to the pleasurable sensations that are experienced through the orgasm, if you take your physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual health seriously then you should start managing your sexual energy with mindfulness and control, don't spend it as quickly as it arrives, that is absolutely fruitless! Rather, if your ultimate aim is to develop spiritually, then you should utilize this energy to fuel your practices, if we have no energy, if we have exhausted our powerhouse, our generator, then we cannot illuminate our practices. Look at animals for instance, they are not having sex five times a day everyday, certain animals may do this when they are in heat but that is a relatively short amount of time when compared to a full year, some of us are doing this daily for many years, no wonder we get sick easily, are exhausted and have a myriad of psychological, emotional and physical disorders. I have linked you to some Pranayama practices, you can find the link down below, basically through Pranayama you are transmuting your own sexual energy, this transmuted energy will in turn help to heal your mind, emotion and body as well as to fuel your spiritual practices, so rather than letting it out, your using it in a holistic way. And the Dalai Lama's view: Note that the Dalai Lama classifies the emission of semen or orgasm as a fault implying that it is not a healthy practice. References Sacred Sex Sexual Organs and Hormones Getting Started Techniques to Cultivate the Sexual Energy for Single Students Anyhow I hope that this information helps you to get better!