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I'm assuming, since you reserve full intercourse to someone "long term or married", you are expressing trepidation regarding short flings and one night stands without a condom. You'll probably NOT get a girl pregnant without a condom as long as you have the good sense to not come in her (although there's a small chance she'll get pregnant with pre-cum). Your main danger is STD's. Think about it this way. If a girl you JUST MET from a bar or a first date lets you have sex without a condom, she's PROBABLY doing the same thing with other guys. Do you really want to @#@%# somebody who sleeps around like this without protection?

Everyone who believes in telekinesis, raise my hand. Anybody ????

I keep mentioning kundalini because I never had these problems before having kundalini symptoms. Actually, come to think of it, all the problems in my life seem to be caused by this. It feels like I'm always on the edge, one day I could be awesome at something, the very next day I'm terrible at it. I've discovered all sorts of "tricks" to manipulate these kundalini effects over the last few months (usually involving bending my back to some position), but they are also very unreliable. Some days they seem to work, other days they simply do not. For example, sometimes before going out I would do a bunch of abdominal crunches and situps, in the belief that I could pump some kundalini to my head and make me more hyper and excitable. It only seems to work occasionally. I also tried that MCO stuff in the book, The Multi orgasmic Man (refraining just before ejaculating, and use MCO to bring energy up instead of ejaculating out.) I figured I can solve some of my problems by having orgasms (and hence boosting my energy levels) without ejaculating (thus preserving my sex drive). But those techniques do not work for me. What can I say I'm obsessed with women and sex. I keep saying it over and over, but I don't try to suppress it like a lot of people do. In fact I embrace it. And anything that messes with my sexuality (like kundalini) is a real problem to me.

yeah I know i gotta stop doing that. I keep putting 10's on pedestals and treating them like princesses but all this does is push them away. Meanwhile I treat lesser girls like crap and they like it. Stupid female psychology at work. Problem with these girls is that they have soooooo many options. Usual tricks like negging them and pretending to ignore them don't seem to work, cause they'll just go to the next guy that is all too willing to go along.

?????????????????????????? +1 for HIIT (high intensity interval training). Do it EVERY SINGLE DAY, on a machine (treadmill, bike, or elliptical). It will kick her ass, but she has to go ALL OUT. Also no refined carbs. I'm assuming she's an endomorph (big boned), so she'll have to keep at it. If she lapses the weight will come back.

Yeah I have. And I exercise most days anyway. I was just recently dating this girl. Man she is so hot. Perfect 10. Immediately after I got her number I knew she wasn't like other girls, and these opportunities to date 10's don't come often, so I had to be at my absolute best. I swore off all other women. I didn't even look at porn. No sex, no masturbation whatsoever for 2 weeks. Cause I want to give her the best night ever. Unfortunately during the actual date I was so low in energy, so lethargic, I felt like a dead fish. Totally weak and submissive. She had to lead me on. I struggled to converse with her. It was awkward from beginning to end. Of course I got no action that night, not even a kiss (!!) I had never been so pissed in my life. Also the reverse happened a couple of weeks ago. I had some good orgasms before a date. Went out, did really well. I was smooth, confident, full of energy. Took her home, started making out, but while making out I couldn't feel an erection coming. Damn it just would not go up. To save myself from embarrassment I just said I was tired and had to work early the next day, and took her home. I had never been so pissed in my life. See my dilemma now ? Retention for me boosts my sex drive but only my sex drive. All my social skills seem to nosedive if I don't orgasm daily. It makes perfect sense, actually. When you orgasm kundalini is going up. So you feel energized. But when you don't orgasm for a while it's stagnant. It stays down there. So its good for sex but nothing else. I want to be energized AND good for sex.

You're making it sound easy. Its not easy at all to interact with women without having an orgasm beforehand. If I haven't orgasmed for a while I feel totally numb, lethargic, zero charisma. You know about alpha and beta males? I feel like a zeta, a vegetable, if I don't orgasm. I could have whole conversations scripted in my head and still can't pull it off. Its like I'm good only for watching porn or paying for sex. The only thing I can think of is using drugs like amphetamines to artificially get high but I'm not that type of person.

I see the term PUA thrown about often here. I need to say something about this: while the general theory of PUA is grounded in reality (the insecurity of girls and their need for affirmation), many of the practical principles you find floating around the internet are complete BS. Why? Because their primary motivation is to SELL you something, be it a book, video, website subscription, or even seminar. They don't really care whether or not it works so long as their slick marketing is able to convince you that it works. Some of the self professed PUA gurus are actually completely inept in real life. Look at pickup artist (or rather, scam artist) David DeAngelo, author of "Double Your Dating". According to this site he has had only two relationships in his private life. http://www.puafraud.com/david-deangelo-aka-eben-pagan-loses-his-balls-admits-to-only-two-relationships-in-his-life/ I've said this once and I'll say it again. PUA can work on most girls if applied properly. But someone who is tall, good looking, rich, intelligent, and has a decent personality totally shits on even the best pickup artists. Of course, its much more difficult to be all of these things, but that is by far the best way to get the best women (10's). So I spend most of my efforts trying to make as much money as possible and going to the gym. I don't waste time practicing PUA stuff that works on lesser girls. To all the virgins here: go bag a prostitute. You'll feel soooooooo much better about yourself. Whatever distorted views or complexes you may have about women will suddenly disappear.

I don't even know why ppl here are arguing with "Sloppy Zhang" Almost everything he says is true, and it works almost all the time. Why ? Because girls are by definition insecure creatures, they are in constant need of affirmation. If you put them down they feel the need to "compensate" by going after you, to prove themselves that they are worthy of you. And if you make them wait for this opportunity (by blowing them off, being busy with other things, etc), then all the better. Cause then they'll be even more desperate and insecure. But if you are too nice to girls, and give in to every demand, they see you as boring and unchallenging, and soon they will simply ignore you. There are exceptions, of course. In my experience, very very hot girls (perfect 10's) are somewhat immune to douchebaggery. Why? Because douchebags are always approaching them, so they are used to it and build up a wall. And these girls and not insecure, if anything, most are pretty confident themselves, usually more confident than the guys who are slavishly approaching them. If you treat them poorly or blow them off, they'll just move on to the next guy. There's no shortage of guys lusting after them and they know it, so they won't waste their time with douchbag # 14 that approached them this week. If you want a 10, which is my goal, then you have to have the "complete package" (tall, good looking, smart, MONEY, and good personality). Being a douchebag is not part of that, not if you want a 10. Books aren't going to work. Most girls are too stupid to read anything other than their facebook pages and gossip. In fact, anything that requires a lot of intelligence is not going to work on a girl. They are creatures of FEELING. You have to understand and exploit their emotions. Somebody who is able to do this will get much further than somebody who is intelligent but cannot arouse any emotion whatsoever. Girls don't think: "this guy has these positive qualities, and thus I will be attracted to him." No no no. They FEEL. And if they feel good around you (or rather, you MAKE them feel good around you), then she is yours. EDIT: some of the above works in reverse too. Its called flaking. Girls do it all the time to me. And when they flake, instead of dropping them, I am MORE attracted. Cause you like more what you can't have. Right now its friday night and I'm supposed to go out with this chick I'm chasing. But she blew me off the last second so instead I am eating by myself and looking at porn. Should I forget about her and delete her number ? Yes. But will I? No. I'll come running back to her asking for another date !

You do not pick up women by being a douche, at least not quality women (ie, the type you don't meet in bars and clubs). You pick them up by being NICE. You have to first establish a common ground and strike up an interesting conversation so that a girl will feel totally safe in giving you her number. During the first date, act like a gentleman and shower her with compliments. Then, AFTER your first date, assuming it went well, you can be a douche. Start putting her down, do not answer calls and texts, and generally become unavailable. This will cause all sorts of self doubt to creep into her head, and increases your stock enormously, so that when you finally are available they'll come crawling to you. Only do it after a great first or second date though, because otherwise they won't care. Its much easier said than done though. In my personal life I treat most women like crap, and I really have to force myself to be nice. Meanwhile, I am currently dating a chick that has gotten into MY head. She probably has half my IQ and didn't even finish high school, but her games are driving me crazy. I know exactly what she is doing but I keep coming back for more! Totally stupid but that's how girls are.

And the rigorous scientific studies cited which supports these statements are found where on that site ??? Do not believe what you read on that biology of kundalini website. Its pure speculation-without-evidence from someone without the proper academic qualifications or research background.

Not necessarily. Over the last 2 years I've had strange symptoms that I guess you can call kundalini. Feelings of energy in the body, OBE's, psychedelic experiences.... you name it I've had it. I don't know how it happened to me since I never did any practices before. Nevertheless, this forum is a good source of info for this kind of thing, even if I have to filter out a lot of what is said. Since I interpret it purely from a biological perspective I roll my eyes and sigh when people say stuff like "trust and surrender to kundalini". But I always pay attention when somebody says, "twist your back and neck to X position to cause Y effect" because I know that, in doing so, certain nerve bundles are being stretched which could plausibly modulate the neuronal signalling therein and produce definite changes.

People are at loggerheads with each other because there are so many sets of beliefs floating around here that are totally incompatible with one another. For instance, some people believe in magical stuff like superpowers, distance healing, remote viewing, shaktipat, and mind reading. On the other hand there are guys like me (or maybe I'm the only one) who are positivist materialists and believe only in science. I think the sole basis of spirituality is biology, specifically the CNS and PNS, and I am loathe even to use spiritual terms like kundalini and chakra, oftentimes placing them in quotes. Its hard for me to understand how or why people believe in magical stuff, so when they post it's tough for me sometimes to take them seriously. But in the same vein I'm sure its difficult for others to put up with my obsession with so called petty matters like sex and money.

Hi guys, I hate to start too many new threads but this is important and time sensitive so I kindly ask for your wisdom. When I first started having kundalini 2+ years ago one of the worst symptoms was "psychomotor agitation" which consists of -racing thoughts (your thoughts go at 100 MPH, you just have to think, think, think, without stop, your mind cannot rest) -pressured speech (you talk at 100 MPH and can't slow down, you just have to talk talk talk to as many people as possible) -high energy levels (its mostly "negative" energy in the form of restlessness and anxiety) These symptoms have since gone away (thankfully!) but now that I think about it, those symptoms, at a lower intensity, may be beneficial in certain circumstances, particular in social situations. I have pretty good social skills, but there are some "advanced" social situations where it would be nice to have a little boost. Examples I have in mind are -cocktail gatherings where I have to meet with lots of new people -speed dating -multiple mini interviews (MMI, a novel interview format where you have short interviews with many people and first impressions are crucial) -giving presentations in front of an interactive audience instead of passively reading from a slide. You can certainly imagine how quick thinking, increased talkativeness, and higher energy levels (basically a lower form of psychomotor agitation) would be highly useful in these settings. I guess the question I have is, what can I do to provoke these symptoms ? Is there some meditation, yoga move, or other technique that I can use to manipulate the kundalini to produce these effects? What area of the body is responsible for them ? Some candidates I think might be responsible are that I can send kundalini energy to are -the neck area (the "neck chakra" apparently is responsible for talking) -the "pingala" (this channel apparently makes you hyper) -the head. Not sure about this one. Generally for me at least stagnant energy in the head manifests as congestion and spacing out, not increased energy levels and talkativeness. So if it is in the head it must be a particular area of the head, not just the head in general. -the adrenals. Might be dangerous to mess with adrenaline directly though. I don't think this is the area responsible since I had my adrenal hormones tested during my kundalini event and they were normal. Any thoughts ??? I have an important presentation to give as well as a speed date coming up so it would be nice to have a little extra oooomph. Thanks.

Most of these so called "experts" know absolutely nothing.

Uh, anybody actually have any actual moves or techniques to share?? Most people feel normal most of the time. But once you have this kundalini your body goes up and down seemingly at random. I have days where my sex drive is so high I would be glued to my computer for literally hours watching porn. Other days the sex drive is so low that I make excuses to avoid sex. Some days my sociability is so high I simply cannot stop talking when meeting people and I would get high when I'm the center of attention. Other times I feel completely flat and I have to avoid people. Nobody wants to be a victim of this kind of unreliability. I don't want to have to give an important speech during one of those flat days. The whole point is to learn how to turn it "on" when you need it, and turn in "off" when you don't, like when you are getting ready to sleep. That's like half the fun. Ride for as long as possible before being burned. Bring it on !

ADHD is just a label. The vast majority (but not all) of people who have been labeled as such have no disorder whatsoever. I have know many people with supposed ADHD and they are generally fun, energetic, and creative. Don't try to "cure" it just because some idiot psychologist thinks it needs treatment. To hell with them. If your friend wants something to increase his focus try physical aerobic exercise. Some hard sessions on the treadmill should do the trick.

I do grounding exercises every day, multiple times a day. I'm okay at it but I could definitely use some improvement and I am always on the lookout for more efficient grounding techniques. I'm just looking for a little extra juice, not the whole bottle! Don't wanna run down the streets naked while yelling obscenities lol. What, you mean self improvement ? That's what I'm after.

Hi guys, Everybody who knows me knows that I love women. I have have a massive porn collection. I do adult dating looking for casual sex. I visit prostitutes. Before my kundalini event my sex drive and lust levels were unlimited. Now it is lower than before but still much higher than the vast majority of men. But I have never loved any girl in my entire life, and its driving me crazy. Its not that I haven't found the right girl. I apparently cannot love any girl whatsoever, as the capacity to even feel love is completely missing in me. Its like the part of the brain which is responsible for love is either absent or defective, and as a result I have difficulty even comprehending love in the first place. I never understood songs about love, nor poetry about it, nor romantic movies. I can't keep doing the casual hookup thing forever though. I desire a classy, respectable girl that I can be seen in public with. But I can't treat a classy chick the same way I treat a slut I met online looking for sex. It takes courtship, flirting, romance, all that stuff, and the problem is that I don't understand any of it. I cannot stand dating because they are so boring and slow, and I feel that if I can't bed her immediately I am wasting my time. I read a lot of relationship advice on other forums but I have a hard time following them because you have to feel the love it to follow it, and doing it abstractly is completely useless. So I ask you guys at TB: I know that the "biological" explanation of my lack of love is probably some limbic system problem in the brain. But what is the "spiritual" explanation? Is it some kind of kundalini, chi, or chakra problem ? Is there any chance that I will feel love one day? I have lots of heat/chi/kundalini in the heart/chest area, but it doesn't feel congested or blocked at all. I can freely move heat to and from the heart, and if it is uncomfortable I generally can send it lower to the abdomen with my mind. Sorry for rambling I just got back from a bad date and I am frustrated. Thanks.

So what techniques are you guys talking about ? Right now I am experimenting with two techniques; right nostril breathing and focusing on the pineal gland. Haven't seen results so far yet though. I will keep experimenting with various back positions and see what I come up with. But if you have better ideas please tell me. Nah don't worry about it its not a bad observation on your part. I warn people to avoid attributing their symptoms to spiritual activity for good reason. It's because these people like to post about their symptoms here without first having an adequate medical investigation. Some go to their doctor and get a quick checkup, others haven't seen a doctor at all. If you are having serious symptoms you really need more than a quick exam and basic labs. The whole point of spiritual activity is to manipulate your body to do certain things that you otherwise would not be able to do. I used to think that kundalini syndrome was 100% bad. Well now I realize that its only bad if you don't know the right moves or techniques to cause it to do what you want it to do. The problem is that those moves and techniques are not easy to come by, and frequently are known only through trial and error. It took me months of self experimentation to discover how to boost my sexual prowess, now I am working on boosting my energy levels and sociability. I plan on climbing to the top of the pile and being the biggest fish in the pond, and I will use any advantage I can get.

I just wrote a huge response where I vented all of my frustration, but you know what I really shouldn't be doing that. So instead I deleted it and will just say that I appreciate the helpful insights and the discussion offered here. I don't quite understand everything written here and I'd hate to be the petulant dude who gets a ton of advice but doesn't follow it. Even if I didn't quote you I read everything and I will digest it bit by bit. It will take me a while to comprehend everything here and certainly it will come in stages. Thank you for all who have given me good advice. "Friend", how do you know all that stuff I read your post like 10 times and my head is spinning. You should be some kind of love guru.

A lot of people do breathing exercises for spiritual practice. The reason why these exercises "work" is probably due to the changes they produce on intra-thoracic pressure. When you sneeze you drastically increase this pressure to very high and potentially hazardous levels, as this case illustrates: So it should not be a surprise that sneezing leads to effects that you might perceive as spiritual.

I really appreciate all the responses guys. I guess not knowing much about love a lot of it is way over my head but I guess that's the way love is. I wish I can just make any girl love me. Not my money, but ME. Spot on. I hate compromises. Compromises are for the weak. I want to stay true to myself. I suppose that's why I do what I do. When I see somebody casually we both know what we want. When I pay for it we both know what we want. When I watch porn I know what I want. Its so easy ! With love I only know that I want to be loved. I don't know what she wants. I guess to be loved as well, but I can't love ! Thanks. Believe it or not I do this daily in my job. It is my job. Ironically I actually become LESS charitable after doing it for a while, and I got extremely cynical. Hey I found this strange case where a woman became "hyper-empathic" after brain surgery to remove her right amygdala. http://www.livescience.com/39560-hyper-empathy-case-report.html It says that she was "feeling physical effects along with her emotions, such as a "spin at the heart" " Sounds like a kundalini thing to me. Funny how my heart also spins but it has no effect at all.

You are correct about this, empathy is another thing that I have never genuinely felt before. Although I actually see this as a positive because I am not bogged down by other people's problems. It must be draining to have a lot of empathy. 4bsolute thx for that article. I know that people have an unrealistic view of romance because of media (actually people have unrealistic views of all sorts of things because of the biased media). I don't care about "ideal" love. I just want "normal" love. You know, the kind of love that everyday couples experience. You said this yourself I don't even need to love her. Actually it may be better that I don't. It must be the worst thing to love a woman and she doesn't love back. That means the woman holds all the power, and I hear about this all the time where guys profess their love only to get taken advantage of in a haze of stupidity. I'd rather the girl do the loving. The main trick is to get her to love me. Then she will do nice things for me and I don't have to do anything in return. Yeah, that's what I want, but its tough to pull off when you are lacking in feeling altogether. Is everybody with kundalini a cold hearted psychopath who is emotionally blunted and cannot feel true love ?? Or is it just me ?

I don't think the issue is just psychological. I genuinely believe it is physiological. Like it involves my brain. It doesn't just extend to romance; it affects all of my relationships. I hate labels, but if you do label me I would be a clear sociopath/psychopath. I have a superficial charm. When you talk to me for the first 20 or 30 minutes I am the most interesting person in the world. I'm very good at getting phone numbers. I ace job / school interviews. I have a business on the side and I can sign up clients to invest in projects after a snazzy presentation. But after that I run out of steam. I can't really go deeper. I have a lot of difficulty maintaining relationships with anyone, not just women. I run into trouble with supervisors. I can't maintain clients and usually fall out with them after a while. What about love at first sight ? Kissing? Cuddling? Holding hands ? People do that stuff very early in relationships. But frankly those things are meaningless to me. I feel absolutely nothing on the inside when I hold hands with someone. No passion. I feel like I just want to stick my pen1$ in there and have a orgasm, then tell her to go home. For most of my life I didn't care about love or feelings. I thought they were weaknesses. I was glad I'm a manipulative robot. But I've met a lot of classy girls recently with good backgrounds, and I can't snag any of them because I can't romance them. I can't romance them cause I am devoid of real feeling. Its frustrating as hell. I want to @#$ her brains out but it so much hard work getting there. Its so much easier to meet women online for casual flings, but quality, self respecting women do not prostitute themselves or do adult dating. The kundalini has really made it worse. At times I feel turbocharged, and I feel like I can talk to anyone and squeeze a date out of them. But at other times I feel completely lifeless, listless, boring, and I can't score in a brothel. Its so variable and hard/impossible to control. Thanks.