DreamBliss

I appear to be experiencing resistance to doing this. So I may not doing it after all. I know everyone here was really looking forward to my stirring rendition of, The Impossible Dream." I am sorry to have disappointed you. Perhaps I will still do it someday, we shall see...

This is good advice, but exactly how does someone without any money pay to go to a yoga center or meditation class? I have gone to these sorts of things when they are freely available, and have yet to meet anyone my age (or preferably younger.) But I will keep doing what I can, using the resources I have! Because Nungali loves pop singers:

Hey Michael, the video has been blocked for my country, something about copyright issues. Could you give me the gist of it? Of the season/episode number, then I could track it down.

DUDE! Can I have her contact info! How can I get in touch with her? I like totally want to go out with this chic! She's perfect!!!

Well some of you will not approve of this. But I did an experiment today, set my search terms to 18-24, and all of a sudden I am seeing beautiful women. Before all I have been seeing are the same women, some of which I have messaged and never received a response back from. Many of which are overweight or have children. I think OK Cupid has some sort of age bias programmed into its matching algorithm. It is trying to keep me matched to people no more than 8 years younger than I am. Well I am allowed my preference, and I prefer younger women. If society has a problem with that, and OK cupid is trying to conform to it, tough shit! I won't go on and on about this. But I have changed my age range from 18-30 out of sheer frustration. Add that to the pool of things I would like in a dating site. No matching based on age biases! Speaking of does anyone have any other free dating site they recommend? As always I appreciate your help! Update! Just found out that most of these women that I was interested in are not interested in men my age. I respect the terms a woman lays out in her profile. I will not contact someone looking just for friends, or men under 30. I know some would, but I try to be respectful of the preference of others. Well if that is the way OK Cupid is going to be, then it makes my decision easier. Have some things to check first. Will come back with more when I have. But it looks like I will be deleting my account. I will save all the info in my profile, and use it elsewhere. You guys helped me out with this and I will not loose all that work. But my apologies to Michael, who advised I tried this. I have, given it a month, but I have not a single reason to stick around now. Maybe another site will be better, we'll see. I won't be making any final decisions until the end of this month. I said I would give it a month, so I will. OK, so I checked. There is no way for me to search by a woman's preferred age range. I have no way to set my preferred age range, and search for women who are interested in people up to age 40. So that's the death knell of OK Cupid for me. There are just too many things I do not like about this. For anyone else considering online dating, there are two things you will want to know as a spiritual person. If it is your practice to not criticize or judge, you may find it very hard to use an online dating site. The other problem is that you will find yourself focused a lot on what you do not want. Unless you ave absolutely no bias or preference, then these two things will not bother you. Outside of matters of spirituality, just as a person, you may find severely limited features in all free online dating services. OK Cupid is supposed to be one of the best and least limited. You can actually message people. But even OK Cupid is lacking in many needed features would would make the experience far more enjoyable.

LOL! I think I would do better with the drinks and groping...

OK, maybe something like, "You want to get together for a cup of coffee or tea and a chat?" in the message me section? Although that is kind of funny, because one of the OK Cupid questions is something like, "What makes a better first date? A. Coffee and a chat B. Drinks and groping I swear every female on the site I have found has selected B!

Thank you for the advice. OK, so I will change that to, "If you would like to explore consciousness with me" or "If you enjoy exploring consciousness." I am too lazy to find all the information to answer your question about the M sign. Here is a link to Mr. Wolter's blog: http://scottwolteranswers.blogspot.com/ The gist of it his theory is that Jesus and Mary Magdalene had a child, and this bloodline has been protected by the Knights Templar, down to the Freemasons. That America was founded on Knights Templar/Freemason ideals, that in fact many of our founding fathers were Freemasons. Furthermore the Knights Templar fled to America, long before Christopher Columbus, who (guess what) was also involved with the Knights Templar. There is a picture with him making that M sign, and his boats have the Templar cross on their sails. The M sign is made when you place your two middle fingers together, and spread out the outer two. It is not a natural finger position to have. It is seen in many paintings and statues. Mr. Wolter believes this is how the bloodline story has been preserved. If anyone wants to go into all of that I recommend starting another thread for it. I will gladly cut and paste what I said here there as needed. Or you can copy it over if you like. I will make the adjustments to my OKC profile later. thelerner Is my profile somehow threatening in your opinion? Does it need to be friendlier? Thank you, everyone, for your help!

Hey did you know that this statue is displaying the M sign? I better save it to my hard drive and go tell Scott Wolter about it! OK, so it seems obvious you don't like what I said. How about a better suggestion? You are good at more than just criticizing I presume?

OK, how's this: "You would like to break through the veil of "reality" with me, following in the steps of shamans and spiritual teachers like Alex Grey and Ram Dass." Updated.

I think it's a blackberry. But if it is poison ivy, I guess that picture could be some sort of statement... OK... Oblique drug references.... Lets see... Ever heard of Ram Das? Yes, I would like to share special Altoids peppermints with you when the time is right...

Well I want to be clear that I am OK with certain substances, as pathways into realities that we don't normally see while in the physical. It ties in with my interests in astral projection, lucid dreaming and shamanic practices, which ties in with my current spiritual path: http://alexgrey.com/ I do want to have these experiences with the person I am with. Maybe that's too heavy a thing to say for a first impression. But then again I want to be clear about this. I would hate to meet someone, go out on a date, find out we really like each other, then have her tell me that she hates all drugs and couldn't possibly be with someone who would use them. If you have any suggestions as to how I can put this better I'm all ears. I thought I put it fairly well. Not like I'm asking for someone to snort cocaine with me or stick the needle in my arm for me. Seriously. That would sound like a dug addict IMHO. Also this whole drugs issue is another societal point that I disagree with, and in fact will be practicing civil disobedience with. I will not have society tell me what I can or can't put into my body! Especially when that same society has a whole prescription drug culture which is far worse for you than anything growing naturally on the earth. Deleting the up close pic. Will think of something else.

Thank you. I appreciate the encouragement! Not sure about the shirtless pic either. But there is something about it... Not sure what. If others don't like it I will delete it. If others think the links should be moved I will move them. I had them under the What I'm doing with my life section. Maybe that is better? Sent out a few messages, found one person liked me that I liked. We'll see what happens. Also emailed the business where that woman I met works. I'm checking my email now...

Profile Revision 1: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/BlissWriter Feedback and opinions appreciated. Be prepared! I uploaded a new picture with my shirt off! Still working on the 6 things. Not changing the age range. I honestly don't care how that comes off. I refuse to cave in to societal ideals on this point!

I just hope the women are not this bad: If it is I'll have to make like Nungali and flee the online dating scene...

Well at least I am not this bad:

OK, thank you for all your replies. Going to work later on today. I guess that picture of me sitting on my bed could be taken wrong. But it's not like I was gesturing towards it or anything...

"There are no stoplights in a car chase!" Big Hero 6

OK, copied over the info from my profile, made a template, will start rebuilding it then upload it again. Probably disable my account tomorrow if I can work on my profile while it is disabled. So here is the gist of what you all seem to be telling me, with the exception of Nungali, who seems to have the strange impression he has to sign up to see my profile. I don't think that's true, but correct me if I am wrong. More likely he is afraid to see it, and I can understand that. You have my sympathy, same to the rest of you. But you also have my appreciation, those of you who braved the terrors of my profile to give me your advice. OK, so cut out like 80% of it, all the extra text. Treat it as if a police officer were asking me questions. Don't volunteer any information. Get rid of the special gift stuff, get rid of the journal, get rid of the thinking about section, get rid of the sex, drugs and alcohol (all the fun stuff) essentially. Also get rid of the money statement, move my links to the About me section, keep the Friday night. I am considering rewriting this, but I assume the ideal Friday night I envision idea is what is good here, so I just need to keep to clean, fun and light. I am to go fishing essentially, using any extra details as bait. I am to sell myself without selling out. Do I have it about right? Blue Eyed Snake A special thanks to you, I am glad you butted in. I guess as a male, by society's standards I am pretty hopeless. I am thankful you cared enough to give you your perspective. Nungali If you don't need an account to view my profile, and aren't too scared, you will have until sometime tomorrow to look it over and give me your opinion. You know your drive to give me your opinion and educate me is far stronger than your fear of the terrors of my profile and online dating! You are not the only person who can play someone like a bongo drum... Everyone Else Not that you wanted to receive an issue of the Daily Adventures of DreamBliss. But as some of you may know I went to I Am Light in Portland today. I ended up at Red Robin's for lunch. A woman comes up and starts talking to me. She is not drop-dead gorgeous or anything, and if you looked at her face she looked like someone who could be overweight, but she wasn't. I had no such thoughts about any of that until later. My overall impression was that I liked her and could date her, if she was available and wanted to date me. She just started talking to me, and I talked to her, and the conversation was very easy. She made me laugh, I made her laugh. I honestly don't think I could have done that if I hadn't been so tired and therefore off-guard. We just talked and laughed while waiting for our food. She didn't give me her number or anything, but did mention whee she works, so maybe I will look her up. I am proud of myself that I managed to keep my eyes on hers when talking to her. I kind of feel that this was just some needed one-time thing the Universe provided, either for her or for me, not spending any time worrying about that. For now practicing trust that if we are to meet again, the Universe will line it up. Sort of the ongoing theme today - faith and trust. So I am not completely hopeless by society's standards. Just mostly. I am sure I left her with a good impression. No need to virtually fist bump me or pat me on the back, but you can if you like. I was getting the impression you guys were thinking I never spoke to the opposite sex. Rarely is a better word. But at least I can talk to them now, when years ago, when I was younger, they typically struck me mute. Darn shyness! Anyhow I am going to bed. Headache and very tired. Will check in here tomorrow before disabling my profile, or working on it, or whatever I end up doing. Thank you again for all your help!

OK, one vote that says my OKCupid profile is a "trainwreck." Nungali, I know you have an opinion, and it seems as though you have been recommended to me for dating advice (god help me...) so, your opinion on my OKC profile, and I will make my decision as to how to edit it from that. Once I have any last votes as to Yea or Nay on my current profile, I will see about disabling it or something until I have edited it. So if anyone else here has an opinion, you are given permission to post it! If you feel you have to get more personal you can PM me.

I started by stopped. It seems very good.

OK, I admit it. Some of the things I have said recently are less than intelligent and can be called into question. I will keep it simple then... I am allowed my desires and personal preferences. I prefer to be with someone, female, that I can stand to look at naked. I have no interest in a female that has children, as I want time to develop a relationship first. It is also important to me that she is being herself, that she is reasonably intelligent and that she is following her own spiritual path. Finally it would be nice if we shared some common interests, or could find common interests as we get to know each other. If a prospective female has a problem with that, tough. I am being authentic and honest. I am being myself. As for why I have not manifested a female yet... I am not really actively trying, beyond signing up at OKCupid. Now to refer back to an earlier unanswered post... Any dating sites you know of that let you search by body type and message with a free account? Thank you Nungli for the laughs. I needed that.

Nungali knew I would have to reply to this... When I am finally facing a naked female she must be able to arouse little DreamBliss from his slumber. Certain body types are simply incapable of doing that... If I women detects or is insulted by this preference of mine, maybe they could at least acknowledge that I am being honest. If a woman with a great body is indignant about it, maybe she should gain a hundred pounds or so and tell me how it feels when no guy wants to look at her. If a woman with a great body is flattered by it, well that was not my intention. I may compliment, but I do not intend to flatter. In any case she has a great body precisely because she wants men to be attracted to it. I am having fun with this. I am listening to Kelly Clarkson's latest album and laughing my ass off! Yes Yes, I have given thought to this. There is this wonderful invention called the bus and the public transportation system... Where we will go is wherever she wants to go, ditto for what we will do. Although if she wants me to take her somewhere, or plan something, I will. Love and romance does not require planning or thinking. I am not playing a chess match, even though it nay feel like it at times... And even though certain guys call the process of netting a female gaming.... I have no preference as to the age, make or model of the car... I won't be physically intimate with it after all...

I think in this case keeping might be synonymous with maintaining.... Sort of like adopting a dog... Nungali Are you saying you are something like a Venus flytrap when it comes to the opposite sex?

Do you have any oak trees in your yard?