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ROFL! May I never be so terrible that the one I am sharing my life with would prefer the company of an oak tree... If I ever get that bad I deserve to be alone!

I am already being and doing much of what you gave suggested. For me it is continuing to work on myself, doing yoga, the occasional meditation while listening to nature or just stepping outside on the concrete pad where I exercise and looking up at the stars. That said I am afraid a tree is simply not a substitute for the physical form of someone of the opposite sex... That idea gives a whole new meaning to being a tree-hugger...

Now I am curious...

One thing I want to point out here is that it is my life. My physical existence. If anyone has a right to decide when to terminate it, that would be me. Nobody else. I fail to see how that could be unhealthy. I would think it more insane to let others decide when you will live or die! You seem to be to attached to this concept, belief or idea that physical existence has some sort of value. That it is somehow sacred and should not be interfered with. In other words, that I should leave it to the experts or God. It is true that if I were to kill myself simply because I knew I would be alone all my life I would be motivated by fear, not love. But that would be the only reason not to take that course of action. Not because physical life has any value at all. Remember when we die only our bodies die. Whoever, whatever we are inside that physical form lives on. Nobody can ever be really killed at all! Death is just the physical body ceasing to function. Do you mourn your car when it refuses to start one morning? Do you give it a funeral service and bury it in the ground? The very idea is preposterous! So why the concern over the physical body's death? Does the caterpillar mourn the death of its body, as it emerges from its cocoon and takes its first flight? Hell no! So why would you mourn the death of your body as you spread your own wings and take flight? Death of the physical is freedom of the energetic from the physical.

You really are determined to hook me up with an alien aren't you? Well as long as she is reasonably attractive naked and has a tail I have no objections.

I need to go back through this and see what everyone recommended... A bit of an update... I joined OKCupid but am not happy with it. I can not search by body type preference without a free membership, which normally wouldn't be a problem, but all of a sudden, as of a few days ago, all I am seeing in Quick Match are, in my opinion, physically undesirable females. I am also seeing men in there, and I have specified that I am only interested in women. I have filled out my profile correctly, answered over 200 of their questions. I have a bunch of women in my like list I will contact, but after that, if I am not in communication with someone, I am deleting my account. I have sent out probably a dozen or more messages, very polite, showing I read the profile of the person I was contacting. I have received 2 responses, both rejections. Which I guess is actually a good thing, as some guys don't even get a response! Any recommendations of free online dating sites that allow contact without a paid membership, and which allow you to search by body type, again without a paid membership? Here is my page, for anyone interested: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/BlissWriter

I have decided to move, as much as possible, from coming here every time I have a question, and instead consult what I call The Voice Inside. I am using an inside out approach, to the best of my ability. That means that when I do come in here to post, it will be to share. At least that is the intention I have set. Something occurred to me, just a few moments ago, that I wanted to share. Something I feel is truly amazing and wonderful. First, some assumptions... Linear time is experienced only while in a physical form. Outside of the world of forms, all time is one. Past, present, and future. Also everything starts as energy before it becomes physical. Finally when we desire something it comes into being energetically. Let's say that right now, at this moment, maybe a few of you out there feel as I do. Alone. Lonely. Nobody to share your life with. Like me you want someone to share your life with. Maybe, like me, circumstances seem to prevent you from finding, or being found by, anyone. You go into town and it seems everyone has someone to walk with. There are couples everywhere, walking hand-in-hand. You find a blog and see a picture of the very beautiful poster, and her boyfriend. It may seem as though everyone has someone, except you. But here's the thing... Even if every single person you would label as desirable "out there" had someone, there can still be someone "out there" for you. There always will be. How, you may ask? Very simple. If, outside the physical, all time is one, past, present and future, then it is possible for someone to come into the world, sometime in what you would think of as the past. For that person to grow up, and come into your life, in what you call your present. In other words, your desires now, in this present moment, can affect the past, the present, and the future! Even if that person found someone else along their way to you, another person could come into existence the exact same way and find their way to you. You are not limited to just one person all your life. There is no, "the one." Instead there are multiple people, at different times in your life, that will fit with you during each time. There always will be. There can never be any lack of people, because they can infinitely come into existence as long as you are desiring someone to share your life with. In other words, you never have to be alone or lonely. You never have to fear there are not enough people out there, so that you can have someone to be with. There will always be someone, more likely several someones, who will be the right ones for you to be with at this point in your life. Only religious and societal beliefs limit us to one person. You may be with several people, all at once, or at various times in your life, in any combination. If you can accept the assumptions I have stated, then you can know that there is always hope. It is never hopeless, you are not consigned to be alone the rest of your life. The only thing you have to do is to be allowing, open and receptive. Just be yourself, having faith that the person or persons who fit best in your life, at this time in your life, are right there, and somehow, in some way, you will get together with them. There is no need to give up on life, to shut down or end your physical existence. No matter how it may appear right now, in this moment, the truth is that there will always be at least one person "out there" for you. Time is not static. It is dynamic, and always changing!

Changed my mind, deleted this.

Nungali Thank you for that last post. You made me smile and laugh, and I needed that. seekingbuddha I am sure you are speaking a truth. You may even be speaking my truth, even though I do not recognize it. But I just can't do that. I can't work on my inner self in the hope that someday, when I have done enough, she will come into my life. I would not want to live that life, to have that life experience. Life is not worth living, if all I am doing is improving myself or seeking enlightenment. I honestly do not feel that is why I am here, and that is not the life I came here to experience. If I could choose between self-improvement, enlightenment and someone to share my life with, I would choose someone to share my life with, over these and even over money and everything else others treasure. The path of the religious follower is not my path, and neither is the path of the monk. I am determined to enjoy all this life has to offer, because, to my mind, life is mean to be enjoyed, not simply endured.

I actually agree with you. But knowing that for every person out there who is wrong for you, there has to be someone right for you, gives the person who needs it a reason to, "Love the one you are with until you can be with the one you love."

I guess, but to me that is a little discouraging. Sort of like telling someone to, "Buck up!" or "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps!" It may be good advice, but it does not encourage. It doesn't give you a reason why you should. I can't think of a good way to use your saying with this. I just know it is not enough to instruct someone to love themselves until they can be with the one they love. It is carrot-on-a-string hope.

More of Something Wonderful To Think About We live in a world of duality. That means for everything that exists, its opposite also exists. If you are interested in someone, and you have consulted your inner guidance (in whatever form that may take for you, from listening to your heart or talking to God) and have received the words or thought that this person is not the right one for you at this time in your life (likely you will have already had this thought in the back of your mind before you even asked about it), in that same instant there exists someone who is. In other words, you can not have someone who is not the right person for you at this time in your life, without also having someone who is. One can not exist separately from the other, in a world of duality. Tying that in with what I said earlier, even if in the unlikely chance that there was nobody else on earth compatible with you before you found out that this person you are interested in is also not compatible with you, the second you verify the existence of someone who is not compatible, someone could be born in what you would perceive as your past, grow up, and exist now, in what you perceive as your present, someone who is. You may feel it is hard to find someone who is the right person for you. But you can always, without exception, find someone who is not the right person for you. As long as you can find someone who is not the right person for you, there has to be someone who is. Also it would do not good for someone to be the right person for you who lives in Alaska when you never venture outside of some small city in Italy. So a number of things come built in to the person who is the right one for you. They will be someone you have access to, in whatever way is best for you, or that you desire. They have to be, or they wouldn't be the right one for you. If you travel, they will be in the range of your travel. If you stay in one city, they will live in that same city. If you are confined to your apartment, they will likely be in the same building. They will also be someone you are, or can be, or will be, attracted to. Maybe not initially. Sometimes we look at something, or someone, and immediately decide we dislike it. If it is a pair of shoes you may hate them at first. Then you find, after a month or so, you wear them all the time and they are your favorite pair of shoes. This can happen with people as well. The one who is the right one for you at this time may not initially be someone you would consider. So there is no reason for you to ever give up. You never have to kill yourself just because you can't find anyone. If you find even one person who is not the right one for you, in the instant you confirm this and know it for sure, there is someone who is. That person will be within easy access of the natural flow of your life, although you may not be aware of them or recognize them at first. In other words, you don't have to go out hunting for them. They will be right there, somewhere, within the range of your life, as it currently exists, or, if it is changing, according to that change. They will be at your place of work, at the restaurant you enjoy going to, your coffee shop, somewhere along the route you take to go to work, at your local grocery store, in your building, or at the park you visit, or along the country road where you live. You may not meet them, or they may slip under your radar. But that is OK, because as long as there is someone who is not the right person, there is someone who is, at all times, all through your life, ad infinitum. I find this particularly encouraging, because I live two and a half miles or so from a small town, on a country road, and I don't drive or go out socially. I rarely leave the house in fact, and am pretty much confined to the property, unless I decide to bike out on the road around what I call the loop. So somewhere nearby there has to be a female who is the right one for me at this time in my life. Because all around me are females who are not. Now I am not 100% sure how I am to cross paths with this person or persons. I don't know how to apply this knowledge at a practical level just yet. I know it has something to do with being open and receptive. Taking any opportunity that comes my way. Being aware and present of what is going on around me as I flow in the natural course of my life. Somewhere, out there, is the female who is the right one for me at this time in my life, even for someone as isolated and sheltered as me. I think it is something like this phenomena, where you are looking at a particular type of car, or buy one, and all of a sudden you see that same care everywhere. An even better example for me is the bus. The bus has been running in this small town for at least as long as I have been here. It has been coming into and going out of town on a regular basis. But I can't think of one time I ever saw it, until I took my first ride on it. Now I notice it whenever it passes by or I pass it. It simply didn't exist for me until I rode it, even though it was always there, and had been there the whole time. In a similar fashion the one who is the right one for you may not exist for you right now. But that does not mean they do not exist. They do, you are just not aware of them. You don't know they are there. You do not notice them. But they are there, and the moment you find even one person who is the right one for you, your perception will change, and you will see others, because there is no “the one.” There are multiple people who are the right ones for you all through the various stages and times of your life. Don't give up. If you have found even one person who is not the right one, there must be someone who is. Remember that on noticing someone who is not the right one, you will notice others who are not, because your perception has changed. But for everyone who is not the right one, there is someone who is, so remember this and take heart. Be open and receptive. Be aware and present as you move through the natural flow of your life. Take any opportunities that feel right, do not allow fear to control you. Somewhere, easily accessible, is at least one person who is the right one for you at this time in your life. Greet each morning with the question, “Wouldn't it be nice if I meet the right person for me today?” No expectations, setting deadlines or taking control. Just an open question that does not require an answer. See what happens.

Then you ended up in the mosh pit... Right? BTW, I would never subject a cat to the pain of my singing...

I have been using Bing.com as my homepage for my web browser for some time now. I like the daily images. I do not like the news. As I can not find a way to disable the news and keep the daily image, I am looking for an alternative homepage. I would like something that gives some sort of daily image, like Bing, but no news or other garbage. I would LOVE something artistic or spiritual or both. Imagine opening your web browser to one of Alex Grey's images! I would prefer it have a search engine for the web, or be part of a search engine, but I don't have to have that. Just some place with a new image, HD quality, every day, which I can open my browser and see, maybe be inspired. Heck maybe one of the images will make me "wake up!" I mean if someone can become enlightened in a butcher's shop when the guy in charge says all their pieces of meat are the best, then an image can certainly do it! Please suggest any sites you know of that provide some sort of daily image as an alternative to Bing. Thank you.

Just moments ago I threw out all my previously held beliefs about this concept or idea called the subconscious or unconscious mind. I admitted and allowed all my beliefs, feelings, thoughts, programming - everything on the subject, then I accepted them, warmly embracing each one as if they were house guests who had stopped by for a visit and provided interesting conversation, but now it was time for them to go home. I opened my arms, releasing them, letting them go, to work themselves out. I feel so much freer, lighter now. If following your emotional guidance system, as Abraham teaches, is the way to go, then mine is telling me this is the right move. In the material I read as I studied self-hypnosis last year I was taught that the conscious mind is like the tip of the iceberg with the subconscious aspect being the greater part below. That somewhere in the subconscious mind is all your beliefs and programming. Self-hypnosis became a way to access these normally hard to reach areas of myself. But as I look back on these teachings tonight I see that they have broken a new sort of golden rule of mine: I choose to invest my energy only in those things which empower me! To my mind anything that takes away my power is attempting to coerce or control me in some way. It turns out I had consigned my unwanted beliefs and programming to the "dark forest" (as Seth calls in in, "The Nature of Personal Reality") of my subconscious mind. In other words, I had no control over what the authority figures of my past, including my parents, programmed into me. I had no choice in the beliefs I adopted as a child. I was coerced, forced or herded to believe certain things and think a certain way. I am powerless, I am a victim of my circumstances, there was nothing I could do, I was at the mercy of others bigger and more powerful than me, I have no control over my life, everything I am is decided already by fate, destiny, genetics or karma. When you adopt a belief in the subconscious or unconscious mind, these others are innate within it. I realized that I always had more success with visualization, and what is that but a conscious way to train my thinking? It is how I worked through depression and anger. I can't say with any certainty that I had any success at all with self-hypnosis. I think there is a reason I can hypnotize myself. Maybe I should use it, with visualizations, to engage the conscious mind at a deeper level. I don't know. I have decided to accept Seth's teachings as true, or a direct pointing to the Truth. Releasing and letting go of my previous baggage about the subconscious or unconscious mind allows me to throw myself completely into Seth's teachings. That is the course of action I choose to take right now. I find Seth's and Abraham's teachings to be empowering. Some may disagree with the LoA teachings as they are called. They may say that we have no control over our lives and things don't work that way in the real world. My only response to that is this... Maybe in your experience you have no control over your life, and you experience the world in a certain way. Maybe you always have. But just because something has been one way for a long period of time does not mean it always has to be that way. Also if there is one way things can be, they can certainly be another. Finally if life does not work that way, then why not? Why does life have to work as you think it does and not this other way? Some reading material: https://blisswriter.wordpress.com/2015/01/26/the-problem-with-the-way-things-are/ I am interested to see what others think about this. Do you believe there is a subconscious or unconscious mind? If you do, why? If you don't, why not? Also if you haven't made up your mind yet about this subject, maybe these words will help you decide for yourself. I have experienced no benefit believing in the subconscious or unconscious mind. In fact I suspect that my current life situation, the beliefs I have that manifested this experience, were reinforced by those beliefs. I think letting them go will help me to break apart the physical reality I am experiencing and create something better. If this is the path you wish to take, the first step is to let go of the concept or idea of the subconscious mind. Doesn't matter if it is really there are not. Just adopt a "don't know" or nonchalant attitude about it. If its there, cool. If its not there, cool. For now you are just ignoring the question of its reality so you are free to engage with the conscious mind for a while, see where that takes you.

I am a good singer, but lack training, so I don't sound anywhere near as good as that. I guess you will have to be the singer Nungali. When do you make your appearance on American Idol? OK, you asked for it now... I found the Karaoke version of this. I have a mic and Audacity, both the program and otherwise, link coming soon...

Darn it! I have become predictable! Maybe I should have stuck with the sex change example...

From Seth, "The Nature of Personal Reality" "Therefore a seeming division occurs, in which a portion of the invisible conscious mind is connected with the physical brain, and a portion of it is free of that connection. That [latter] part forms what you think of as the involuntary system of the body,"

Was it as desired or expected?

I have about as much enthusiasm for joining the army as I have for being probed by aliens. Disgusting @ 1:46: I have no desire to have my square peg self hammered into the round hole of societal conform. Obeying without question is no better than believing without question.

No, I am not a slave driver. Maybe put in a few hours a day if that. More likely I would enjoy going to the river with you, or recruiting you to play video games with me, or talking endlessly about spiritual matters, and we wouldn't get any work done.

I have an artist's spirit. I like to look at beautiful, inspiring things. Thank you for your suggestions.

Well, you could always come to my house to stay, if you don't mind helping me work on the property. We have the Washougal River and plenty of that scenery less than 40 minutes away!

In my opinion, not the subconscious or unconscious mind. There is some system in place in all physical forms that allows the form to function, even when the consciousness has temporarily left, as when people leave their bodies in an NDE OBE. There is no mind, subconscious or otherwise, left in the body when your consciousness leaves it. The body goes on functioning, even without a mind directly connected to it. That is why a creature that, in our perception, has limited or no mind is able to function. There is no subconscious mind an an amoeba, yet it functions just fine without it.

I am not sure that throwing out all beliefs is possible or even desirable. I will have to re-read my blog post, make sure that is not what I said. I think it is more about letting go of beliefs that no longer serve or support you. I am working on this concept of beliefs based on fear VS beliefs based on love. It would be the ones based on fear that should be let go. The ones based on love would serve and support you. The idea is that beliefs based on love would be easier to remain unattached to. The main thing, it seems to be, is to remain unattached and unidentified with our beliefs. It is when we become attached and identified with them that we feel the need to defend them Beliefs limit us to what we know, or what we think we know. They keep us in the realm of the known. In this, and our defense of them, they become a cage around us. I am not sure I want to have no beliefs, believing in nothing. I just want to be free of beliefs. To be unattached and unidentified with them, to be able to pick them up and let them go at will. Humanity collectively believes in things like gravity and the subconscious mind. What would happen if, all of a sudden, humanity did not collectively believe in these things?