BaguaKicksAss

OK nevermind the buy the lady a book... How about getting copies of the kama sutra in bulk, staple your business card inside and hand them out to people you are interested in? After a bit of getting to know them of course. Just handing someone your number doesn't work (giving or receiving I have found, so just handing the book prob wouldn't either).

I figure we all learn from experiences. We all (or at least most of us I figure) act in ways which we feel we should change later in life (even if the later in life is sometimes only one month later). I was a bit of an asshole to some people in my youth... and I didn't even realize it.

That sucks if you have to act diff than your natural self around either/or friends and girlfriends . The rest makes sense.

There's a huge difference between acting different around different people and purposefully putting on a treat someone bad to get a gf persona... Hey if you treat her well, all's good in my opinion. If you don't well guess she has odd preferences . Well obviously I wouldn't swear around the niece... I'd just act natural in each situation... as long as we try to honour other people, all is good . One person (me) though is pretty irrelevant... from all I've seen people in general (in my social circle) tend to be the same around each person... accept if I count some TTBers, does online count? lolololol I've noticed folks on the internet can sometimes be way diff via PM than in "public" .

I don't even read instruction manuals for items I buy, never have . In my 20's, not like I couldn't go take a book out on such things, or that my girlfriends didn't give me some (what I felt was) horrid advice... though tbh, I'm not the best example lol. Some of my friends might have tried out lame internet advice had the internet been more widely used back then. But thinking back to my 20's... well you probably mean if I was a 20 year old male. OK I see the point about how it's uhm a little easier for women. However if a woman wants more than a one night stand, just as difficult as guys trying to get dates. For a woman it's more about trying to spot the one night stand guys a mile away, so as to avoid them (unless that is what you are after that night). Some of my friends didn't learn as quickly and were in tears far too often .

I think the whole stigma against men being virgins and women being "sluts" is just stupid. (or even the other way around on the rare occasion). As long as everyone is enjoying where they are at, or making it work for them who cares? Last I checked it is usually cults and religions who try to tell someone else how much or little sex to have. PS, get in all that secret qigong/neigong stuff in while you can .

One thing this entire thread has made me think of a few times... Like attracts like.

Your post reminds me of something, women can definitely "feel" when a guy is really desperate or trying to get laid really badly... I mean even non psychic women. Seriously some folks put off that vibe. I think it might be like guys can sense a really clingy and needy woman somehow before even a word is spoken. Btw, good points.

Being one of those folks who goes for single over playing some games and someone I'm not.... However, if I was in my early 20's and still a virgin, who knows. Back then I hadn't figured out the games or acting different if I wanted to yet. Though I've also turned down jobs where I'd have to be someone I'm not, so I figure I'm a little odd this way, and I also figure I'm perhaps lucky to be self employed, and still get dates from time to time .

Shouldn't this have gone in that *other* thread? Joking lol.

if that's below zero F you are scaring me!

That's really cold, you should all move to canada where it's a balmy 41F here right now .

The first response for the woman asking was hilarious! 1 in 10 chance if you are a chick and you ask a guy for sex the police will be called ROFL. PS the guys she asked were most definitely not as stereotypically as attractive as she prob is... not even close... so slightly biased the numbers. Though it's pretty obvious a woman would have an easier time at this, since women like to get to know someone at least a bit first.... (guys not so much?) Btw, if you guys try this, it would prob work better one on one . Er also perhaps the 5th sentence instead of the first... Edit: sooo going to send this to a couple of people I know. OK sooo, my facebook query of my friends in their 20's returned the following results. You guys are right *sigh*. 2 of the most awesome sweetest guys I know answered too! Telling me their past experiences. They both said yes it works. One gave up that approach, then met his wife, but said it worked great before then. The other said he tried that a few times and it worked, but doesn't like trying to be someone he isn't, so he scrapped that approach. Still gets hit on though from what he's mentioned a few times. This is a very small selective sample, but at least lets me know that TTBs isn't just weird or something. PS, I'm off to join a nunnery and try for 365 days of cultivation... . Speaking of facebook, I'll just end with this that I found posted: http://www.wikihow.com/Recognize-a-Potentially-Abusive-Relationship I disagree with her first point you mentioned. While I'm sure it could be fun and/or entertaining if that's what you're into, it isn't going to change or solve anything. Everyone (men and women) think that someone new will solve everything, or solve one thing. Nope, just a distraction for awhile, so we can ignore the actual problem. Most sexual problems are both people based, not just one half of the couple... Now that second part though, about the man wanting to please and that being really important, I would definitely agree to that one, from personal experience. However... now that I think about it, I have heard some pretty bad complaints from some of my women friends... I think this might be in the minority though.

Turtle breathing is slow and/or breath holding?

Kick it's ass out.

I've done much darkness exploration and work, and feel that at this point in your life it isn't a good time to do so.

I've noticed the qigong and martial arts stuff is backwards to modern magic btw, which I've always found interesting/odd.

*Obviously* none of y'all have been to the various magick sites..... . Or better yet the in person meetups!

You know, thinking about it, I would say the same with Damo, if one can, go train with *him* instead of just the book .

Well you'd get there eventually, most people can't circle walk like that right way. Also it is very important to keep proper alignment, back straight, and straight up and down, tailbone tucked under...

Oh I don't know, this is more the song I think of with your nickname lol "thunder.... thunder... thunder... GOOCH!"

ROFL Thank you, this thread needed a little.. lightening up .

With your circle walking, try it with sinking into it and be back weighted .

With the JAJ book, just take the course (if you can afford it) seriously... well also the book...

ROFL was still busy laughing at your new nick/avatar More_... er Thunder_Gooch...