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I think its sad we have to follow the generally accepted ideal of what society calls success and accomplishment in order to have a nice warm house, someone to cuddle with, and a full belly. To add insult to injury society calls this so-called "American Dream", this vision of a white picket fence and a family, reality. The sole reason to live and die on this planet. We are very much like sheep. We drive in herds where we work in herds and back to where we live in herds. We follow this idea of reality simply so we don't have to be out in the snow, cold, alone and hungry. Even those living on the street generally huddle together somewhere. Very few people actually want to live outside the herd mentality, or maybe I should use the word drone mentality, for fear of loss of personal comfort and their basic needs. Everything we do, we strive for, we attach value to, all of it is driven by our 5 senses. What we can see, taste, touch, smell or hear. We become trapped by our senses and by our beliefs, making us narrow minded. Few rarely if ever consider there may be more to life than society's ideal of it. Fewer still who realize this actually try to change things. Think about this for a minute... Is the only workable system one were everyone goes to work a a job that usually makes no use of their inherent abilities and talents, work for 40 years or more, if they are lucky to even keep their just that long, just so they can barely make rent or pay the mortgage on their house, all in the effort to raise children who will be forced to do the same, in the vain hopes that someday, when they are in their 60's or 70's, their bodies used up, their minds failing, that they can enjoy the final years of life in retirement? No, there has to be a better way. A way to move beyond this flawed concept, allow people to work at things that make full use of their inherent abilities and talents, and in return get a nice place to live, knowing their children will be able to do the same. And once the focus is removed on survival and blind pursuit of a non-existent dream, they will have a chance to explore the world that lies beyond what their physical senses show them. That's what I think, but these thoughts should be considered a WIP. I fully intend that, should it flow in my life's course to do so, I will change the system for myself and any family I may be blessed with. If I am given the chance, I intend to change things. - DreamBliss

Hi Deltrus, Thank you for engaging with my posting. I like where you are coming from; seems like I have known you for a long time. Why? It appears that my domain can collapse into yours fairly comfortably and you will not kick me out. I bet that you are a living dualist. Why? Because you are both simple/complex. You have extra Buddhist seeds in your pockets? Can you give me some to reduce my suffering? Per the simple <=> complex continuum, I prefer to live more to the left.Will this make me a minimalist by your own definition? No thank you - I do not want to wait for 50 years to know certainty. You can keep it all to yourself. Why? Yesterday night Buddha appeared in a dream and told me to meditate on impermanence. PyL and PmDa. - LimA

I sometimes tap my head and tap my arms other than that no I'm not doing it as shown and I honestly still have big problems with horse stance too because it's the only time I don't feel qi. I can feel it when I seated, when I'm walking, running, with other people etc. But not in horse stance. I just feel energy in the palms of my hands during moving yin and yang. Other than that my mind is wrong, my breathing is wrong etc. So I don't think I'm even doing moving yin yang right anyway. When I do seated stuff I just feel the qi and start breathing wherever it is. My back is never straight and my head is bowed at roughly 50 degrees or more too. And then I open my eyes and take some deep breaths. I know that's wrong because when I open my eyes it's like waking up from a deep sleep even if I've only been doing it for 30/60 seconds. Sometimes my eyes don't even open properly right away and one of them might stay completely shut for a while! I opened my eyes the other day while I was breathing and it's like a totally different reality. A waking dream.

Dreams are very important. But the majority of dreams are the result of subconscious and daily incidents. But some dreams are actually a projection of astral realms. The person who is having the dream actually watches the astral realm and similar to a medium, he/she can see astral realm with his/her physical conscience. However, this astral view is somehow distorted. This is the reason, somebody needs the assitance of a master who knows these distortions and this master should interpret the dream and manage the person to do the right thing in his/her path. This technique is the main technique of sufism.

I realised a while ago after engaging with the topic of 'awakening' that I had what I would identify as an 'awakening' experience that lasted for a couple of days, brought on by a few weeks of acute distress (on top of years of milder level struggling) and a prayer asking for help. In a moment the pain that had become almost unbearable disappeared, and there was a blessed silence in my mind, and while carrying on with my day normally the condition remained. The next day I woke up and noted with mild surprise that this condition was still there, but either later that day or the next day I can't remember I 'saw' thoughts entering my perfectly clear mind and floating down, and these thoughts slowly increased like leaves piling up on the ground and clogged this state until I was back to normal, all in all the refilling with thoughts took a few minutes. I had a dream around this time where a wide pipe was flushed out with water a couple of times in quick succession, and it wasn't till a long time later that a constant stream of mud was flushed out of the pipe unendingly after which clear water started to fill a swimming pool from where this pipe stuck out from the bottom of the pool. So this was always going to be my way, and I didn't attempt to recreate this state because I was told so clearly that it would be a long time until it happened again, and that when it did clear water would then flow and fill the pool, which I now recognise as beingclear energy filling my heart. And in the meantime I have just gotten on with the work as I see it, looking at and clearing the emotional mud in my LDT for many years and for the last few years now looking at and clearing the ego superiority and inferiority in my heart, slowly clearing the way for this perfectly clear water to flow. To me this clear water is energy free of any contamination and completely unobstructed, able to fill and utterly transform my heart, which is why I have such absolute views. Looking at my personal experience there was a long way to go from the first taste of 'awakening' to embodying it absolutely, while energetically much has been achieved in the meantime which I find invaluable - I understand energy and the subtle energy body in ways that have enriched me and that I wouldn't choose to be without, things which no non-dual 'awakened' teacher is talking about. In a way it's like the teacher or guru who can give the student a taste of some state, but they have to make their own way to this place for it to stick, which is generally a lifetimes work. To cling to the intitial state would be counter-productive in my view, because it leaves so much depth unexplored and unrealised, and a multitude of 'pockets of ego' that Jetsun referred to.

The day I activated the LDT I put some heat in tailbone and put it into my head from there and it felt like the crown of my head had been flooded and when I opened my eyes it was like a waking dream. Then for 6 hours my pelvic region got hotter and hotter. During that time I did the MCO and each point felt warm when I put qi there. The only two points I didn't feel anything were the crown of my head and the forehead. So feeling heat in my forehead the other day was the first time that had happened for me and it's not obvious I can even move the energy around the MCO now the way I did on that first day because I've only been breathing wherever the heat has gone since that time.

What about tibetan sleep & Dream yogas ? I don't think this is a problem If you study lucid dreaming you will find that the brain goes through different stages during sleep - some people have learned to meditate in their dreams the brain gets it's rest & then it does other things

I doubt that anything definite can be said regarding this. This is because we each are different people composed of different "stuff" and energies. Trial and error are the most efficient way to find what is best for each of us. If we toss and turn while trying to drift off to sleep there is a problem. If we can't fall to sleep there is a problem. If we dream vividly during sleep there is a problem. (Sleep is supposed to rest out brain too.) And I will suggest that there is more than just one cause effecting our sleep.

All right, I'll share a few things that happened at least the past couple days! My jing has definitely started greater production--even with very little water intake, during and after the form, I have a lot of saliva, and--warning to those who are a little squeamish--I dreamed that I was doing the forms and woke up in the middle of the night to an orgasm. This is especially significant as far as I understand because as someone who does a lot of internal styles, jing is very important. My other styles of martial arts have greatly improved to the point that I can't pinpoint a moment when I don't feel the influence of FP's unique qi. When I was up in the mountainous area of Sagada in the northern Philippines, where the barrier between the spirit and mundane world is very thin, locals were very, very receptive to the practice and I attracted quite an audience (of both the human and non-human incarnate variety--think of the kind you might see in the film Princess Mononoke). There was a very distinct blue glow when doing forms in the forest at evening twilight and some other colors that made my energetic body resemble a peacock feather. While healing a rape and incest trauma victim, an abused and grieving youth whose partner was killed, and a gout patient, each of them described that while preparing with Flying Phoenix forms before I gave them ear acupuncture, there was a big shift in the outdoor garden we were in, as though it were another universe. After the needles and when I began transmitting Reiki, they all said that I disappeared and seemed to penetrate every cell of their body, removing things that were dirty within them and letting them awaken from a bad dream. The garden also seemed to have a few "visitors" as well who joined in on the fun. Lastly, I look like I've been de-aged at least 10-15 years and a different face I don't even recognize in the mirror, resembling somewhere between Sting in the 1980s and Duran Duran. I already look quite young for my age, but looking both younger and having an entirely different face and energy behind it, around it, and within it makes me feel like I'm no longer me per se, but the original me, an ancient incarnation of me, or even something beyond me. EDIT: wanted to add that I remember actually waking up TWICE the other night. Before the jing explosion, the first time I woke up, I felt as though I were falling UPWARDS and was afraid I was about to hit the ceiling, and I dared not open my eyes. I then remember hurling down towards the bed and a bit of a bounce before opening my eyes in the dark. I could have either been seriously levitating or having my first out of body experience. This is what happens when one does Moonbeam Splashes on the Water right before going to sleep and at approximately 11:11pm when I started doing the form.

Well everyone is already the water itself, they just don't realise it. Even those that realise it the majority of the time can temporarily get caught in the dream that they are something else. I don't see any examples in the real world of anyone who never gets caught in conditioning and separation from time to time, it seems to be the human condition, to fall again and again. From my perspective those people who say they are 100% realised 24/7 are basically hiding out in the transcendent realm as a means of avoiding the difficult realm of their humanity.

First of all let me clear that I only care about Vedanta. If you like to mix and match I am not sure my responses will be helpful. Secondly I answered dwai first and then you. I didn’t think of a potential connection between you two. You added questions and I answered to the best of my ability. And yes, it was to your first post (post #10). Thirdly.. And here it get’s confusing. I will try to make sense of it, but remember that I read your questions as your questions and that they had nothing to do with this character named dwai. That is sort of the crux, since ”dwai” - just like ”me” and ”you” are all jivas. All according to Vedanta (which is the truth ) - so again, if you just have a fleeting interest in Vedanta the following comments may mean very little to you. I’ll go by the question marks! (Also, apologies to dwai if you feels singeled out here. It’s only semantics.) 1. Fundamentally yes, but remember: you are the Self. There is no discrete entity named ”Jeff”, ”Boy” or ”dwai”. However, this does not in any way negate the control you have over your own body and mind as an individual/ego. Furthermore, the Self is not a doer, but through Ishvara and the power of Maya things appear to be and happen. Come to think of it, it’s actually quite similar to Plato’s cave. Or you watching a movie - for a moment losing yourself in it, believing you’re the main actor. Or a dream. It’s that simple, but you have to realize it for yourself to remove doubt. 2. No. ”dwai”, ”you” and ”I” are the jivas - normal folks with free(ish) will. Then there’s the idea that there couldn’t be any free will because of cause and effect etc, and that might represent Ishvara - the totality/creation. And then there’s the Self/Brahman/Parabrahman etc. which is signalled by your subjective realization that everything you can possibly perceive cannot be not you. This is not mysticism or magic. Just the truth. 3. Again, the jiva is just (the apparent) you. Nothing spooky. 4. No no. We all have an unconscious side to us (as normal people/jivas). We don’t know everything about ourselves and we probably never will. The point is that from the perspective of the jiva - which is all we have go on as humans - we are limited (uphadis!) but from the perspective of the Self we perceive everything. When we see it 5. Yes I believe so. Reiterating. Ok, i did as best I could. (Please come back if I missed something essential!) Your questions are well founded, but they go into a kind of nitty gritty that is unnecessary if you want self realization. I went through hell myself, so I surely sympathize, but.. words are just pointers. You need to see that you are not who you think you are. When you do, it will all become clear. And if you’re better with words than me, perhaps you could pass it along. Normally I’ll just refer to sruti. Nonetheless - Thank you Jeff! Much love!

I'll echo that sentiment... Insatiable curiosity about natural and incredible states of consciousness I experienced as a young man and the profound levels of awareness I embodied as a very young boy, forged in me a primal pull to be able to replicate and return to them. It's why I was drawn to explore Taoism and the Internal Arts. I have many visceral memories of my body growing light when breathing and seeing a certain way... of floating and hovering as a small boy, as well as a deep, abiding sense memory of complete dissolution of body/individual self into samadhi/satori. In researching ways to replicate these experiences, Taoist philosophy, martial arts, meditation, Vedic and Tibetan cosmology kept popping up, as well as opportunities for experiences with a few natural entheogens and the usual man made offerings of the mind. I tried most of them and I will say unequivicolly, the most potent and beneficial experiences to manifest for me were not chemical at all, for me it was pranayama and tummo breathing. But as for ingestibles, I highly recommend natural entheogens as opposed to things 'bob' made in his bathtub or spare room. I'll echo the words of others and suggest that when you go the plant/chemical route and are new to it... always have one sober buddy there to keep you anchored and if you've never tried something before... you never know how you'll react, so try a tiny amount first. It's how our ancestors discovered the myriad medicinal properties of the pharmacy of nature. Also, I found that my mental state for the previous six to ten hours before a trip was of paramount importance and sets the overall potential atmosphere of the coming journey, not just for you, but for everyone who is there with you... you will all affect everyone else. So if' you're planning on taking a mental journey in the evening and have had a really intense emotional exchange/experience that day, know for certain that when the doors open via the substance, that experience will likely be a focal point. This can bring amazing healing, or more trauma, depending on the nature of it and how you respond. I've talked many friends out of bad rabbit holes of consciousness when they spin onto a topic and get lost in the inertia of it. However, it's the hard places in us, that are where awareness is needed most and where the most potent healing comes from... I myself have had two life changing vajra/healing insights while using psilocybin. Experiences that melted years of ignorance and pain in a moment of insight. Above all, who you have with you, really important you love and trust them. As for me, any more if I want to incite insight a shift in awareness I drop into my body via the breath, or I extend out via the breath. Quickest way to alter consciousness is through the breath. One of my experiences pranayama breathing exceeded all previous experiences with entheogens and chemicals... and came closest to the states I deeply sense recalling as a boy... Now aside from it being free and utterly essential to life, let alone illegal, it may well manifest spontaneous self healing! I highly recommend it. I also have had success with purely physical pursuits. I got deeply and dangerously into free hand/no gear rock climbing to induce changes for a while. The kind of focus and intensity required for some portions of climbing can result in dissolution of self and some remarkable experiences, but at such a potential cost, thankfully that desire receeded early on. On my honeymoon, I nearly fell off a 600 ft vertical while climbing alone in The Needles area of The Black Hills in South Dakota. Breath is key in climbing. Calm, steady, focused, alert, non-spastic... lol. I also find water to be potent. Once a profound waking dream state and out of body experience overtook me while I was taking a shower. Or the blissful state I used to get into... swimming in this very slow repetitive languid manner for unknown minutes on end as a boy... again that related to breath... when the body is empty of breath... in the breathing out... when you bring in the next breath... those rhythms... the pulsing of it... it's really all inside you all the time. Accessible right now as you read these letters. Fields of energy that the body and mind manifest within, it's all just resonane, frequency and vibration... Tesla was on to that shit, no doubt! I wish you insightful journeys mate.

A while back I posted a thread about how I saw a small detail of my future in a dream and the that, the next day it occured. After being told to google precognition, i did and it said to control/enhance and continue seeing the future, I have to simply have faith in my "ability"(it also mentioned alot of scientific research and that successful people use this ability to succeed) whether its a thought, a feeling, or whatever. This morning before I headed off to school, I took a short meditation, but just as soon as I relaxed and was breathing. A vision barged into my mind. It was doomsday(or something like) and everyone was unconscience(im not sure why) in the street. The sky was masked by clouds and someone wearing armour with chains around the chest like x walked towards a body a few feet from me, snapped then slit the neck and let the blood augment the river of blood in the middle of the road(I think the blood was feeding a creature or something) then he came to me and it was a friend of mine. Before he snapped my neck, i asked for mercy and in the moment of his hesitation, i quickly chi blasted him away some far distance. I then, realising that for some reason judgement day enhanced my chi, flew away at a great speed hoping to find other chi warriors, looked behind me and saw not more than 60 men dressed the same as my friend flying in pursuit of me. I was about to fire multiple chi blasts at them, but I opened my eyes and was done meditating. Is this me remembering a dream from when I was asleep or...?

Anybody else ever had a dream within a dream nd that was a semi-lucid 1?

How absolutely telling this dream is - especially since it was a Classic coke bottle. It's as though the Rinpoche had an awareness that his classic thoughts and the teachings of his prior gurus no longer fit him, that he had to figure out where in the universe he specifically stood - beyond anything that a teacher could give him. He outgrew the teachings of others and had to get to the moon on his own. and how wonderful the Buddhist Science of the Mind clip was. Thank you, CT. As a metaphysician, the whole concept of Science of Mind has been with me since being hauled off to Christian Science meetings as a young child, and seeing what the mind can do. And yet, late in my spiritual career, I have taken to Buddhism like a hand to a glove - because of the compassion and the humanity of the idea behind it. I had no idea - and I certainly don't profess to being a Buddhist because I followed no traditional Buddhist path at all. However, I think it is impossible to not​ run into Buddhism if one is a true seeker. My Christian aunt and uncle scoff at Buddhism because they are of the opinion that Buddhist 'worship' Buddha, much as they worship Jesus. I've tried to explain otherwise, but their minds are set in that Christian type of arrogance that is convinced that only Christianity is the true path, and will lead them to eternal life. They were confused when I ask them if they've ever considered that eternity runs in both directions. It is as though reading all the metaphysics has great benefit, but it's not until it is put into practice in a Buddhist sense of compassion and seeking self understanding in order to See the reality of life. And I too am trying to loosen my bonds to logic - the tendency to see only in the way I was conditioned to accept what others have called reality. I have much work to do, and I know nothing.

If the dream is not due to a energy vampire at work then I'll go with my first comment on this thread. Your subconscious is probably telling you that you are being poisoned, and this is nothing special since almost everyone is being poisoned these days. i myself got repeated psychic messages that I was being poisoned, and it took awhile to sink in, but when it did sink in I got the fork out of the Northern hemisphere.

Life is like a dream and dream is like life....the two blur together till each is indistinguishable....so called evil manifestations in real life and dreams are just unconscious parts of my mind that want to be spoken to instead of pushed away. Each day I strive to shed light on my whole mind until it's one unified, glowing, radiant, whole.

Last night, I was reading "Tibetan Yoga of Dream and Sleep". The author says, if you meet some one that has never tasted salt, it is impossible to describe in words, to convey the taste of salt, to that person. If a person has tasted (experienced) salt already, then yes, we can talk to them about salt.

~ DZONGSAR JAMYANG KHYENTSE RINPOCHE ~ It occurred to me today that I will have to work much, much harder if I am ever even to get close to this thing called ‘enlightenment’—especially when I think of the strange dream I had recently. I was in some kind of a restaurant and drinking coke from a classic coca cola bottle. As often happens in dreams, the ‘absolutely impossible’ suddenly became all too real, and I found myself—my entire body—being sucked into the bottle! And because I’m so attached to my ‘normal’ terms of reference, I really hated being stuck in that bottle. It felt completely wrong! I was furious about not being able to push my head out of its narrow neck, and as there were no hooks to grab hold of, I kept slipping further and further into the belly of the bottle. Then I thought about how absurd and bizarre my situation was. The idea that I’d been sucked into the bottle in the first place defied all logic, so why was I trying to apply logic to get myself out? And I realized that the fact my familiar tool ‘logic’ didn’t work was what I hated most of all! Children are far less fettered by reason and logic than adults. I’m constantly amazed by how carefree they are, and am reminded of something Claudia’s daughter, Sachiko, once did. She was playing with her Barbie doll one day, and as she really liked the doll’s skirt, she decided she wanted to wear it herself. So, completely unselfconsciously, she undressed the doll, convinced that the pretty skirt would fit her. For myself, I can see how tightly bound I am to logic, and if I needed any further proof about just how far from enlightenment I really am, I just have to look at my inability to accept the death of my devoted attendant Karma Lodro. That he was too young to die is a foolish notion, actually, because it suggests that the death of someone older is somehow more acceptable. But this is the dichotomy I’m left with… along with my tremendous gratitude to Karma Lodro.

why? darkness has to be cultivated too. Its that it feels many times longer, is tedious and the urge to change the object or do something is many times more likely happen. Nothing seem to satisfy and if see an object then the desire is strong but can't satisfy it no matter how much you do there still is something missing. If someone describes blissful stuff, life is magical; the night will come soon. edit: there is special consciousness to be discovered, a way to concentrate. What it does is make the link between dream(legs, hands) and wakefulness, so that you wouldn't sneeze, caught, throw up(etc) but your body would have a path to head.

Yes......... I am in the process of seeing this dream come true..... But my idea is to do it in China..... I am raising money through our workshops with - http://www.eternalspringtours.com I currently have 3 locations I have found in Wudangshan. I think if you have conections, China can be easier, as the costs are much cheaper. We have thought to get an old farm house community that is already cultivated, then fix it up a bit, to make it more comfortable with a Western standard. My teacher was going to oversee the project, but currently he has gone off to finish his cultivation, and may come back in 3 years or so. But we do have a good portion of the practice methods in the system documented, so there is a very good system of material for the members to practice. Before my teacher left, he taught me much about retreat life, and we hiked in the mountains, and he taught about how to plant what vegetables, and how to preserve them in winter, practice schedule, rules for community, etc. So I am looking to continue this project and dream. The problem with such a project, is it can not be a large group of people. We think 3 to 5 members is enough. By my teachers guidelines, the retreat training should be at least 3 years, but usually 9 - 12 years. During that time, you should have no contact with the outside world, and just live like a simple farmer, and follow the daily practice methods. If people make proper progress, there is a stage when they will go into a hybernation state, and at that time we should have the underground room. The member goes into the underground room to further the practice, and another member must have the task to care for their safety and wellbeing to protect the body from disturbance, noise, etc. The main concern is money. I am looking now to set up a foundation in addition to our workshop events to further this dream. It is a very serious endevor. Danger and death are a real possibility in serious longterm practice. By looking at the history of these arts, many adepts have died midway in practice. This is due to the attachment and moving of mind-will during practice. So we must in the first stages gain stillness of mind, and tranquility of heart, and no attachment to desires. This is for serious practice. Ideas? I have also recently made good connections with an agent in Beijing, and they can provide longterm residence visa to members. I hope to have a location picked by 2009 - I already have one in Wudang, but need to negotiate the price. I also am looking to perhaps check out Zhongnanshan.... The location in Wudang is outside the tourism zone, so it is not under control of the government, and the land is privately owned.

Thanks, I was too just thinking I was opening myself up to these thoughts too much, I should just block them off and go to how I was before I had this surreal dream. EDIT: Locking this because I currently believe that I had a one time psychotic episode and shouldn't look too much into it.

When you speak of 'it' being in your bones, your marrow, etc - I think you are saying the same that others are. It is the underlying Intelligence contained within all. Ancient Toltecs would call it the Manitou. No, it's not just my appreciation of aesthetics. The sense of bliss happened to occur during a particular beautiful moment, and those are the ones that are easy to come by. The more difficult ones are sitting in traffic, or having someone cut you off at an intersection, or waiting in line, or sitting and waiting for results in a doctor's office. But I imagine that a truly liberated person, liberated totally from ego, will experience those moments nearly constantly during the day, because he/she realizes in his core who, or what, he really is. He is​ the underlying force and as such doesn't fall prey to the dream. He realizes that his physical self and his ego are merely the shadow in Plato's cave. The essence, the fire, is behind him. To me, at this point in my practice, it becomes solely a question of remaining in Awareness of what I am. I am the cosmic broth in the cosmic vegetable soup, each vegetable one of the 10,000 things. Only there is no limit to the soup - it is all there is. We are Everything, and we are Nothing. We are the potentiality prior to the I Am. That thing that is warm inside us, that limitless sense that doesn't move from point A to point B, which remains constant regardless of what is happening to us - that is who we are. And we all share it, the same Consciousness, the same Awareness - just filtered differently from the inside to the outside.

I been looking closely at Spring Forest Qigong due to it's simplicity and the overwhelming number of good reviews it has been getting. I been seeing a lot from master Chunyi Lin on YouTube and he seems like an awesome teacher. Perhaps the absolute best I've seen in my long search for one. Now I see that he introduces Spring Forest Qigong as a medical system and I'm left wondering if this is all it will ever be limited to? Looking at the healing dao systems, promoted by Michael Winn & Mantak Chia, they tend to be super complicated (at least in my opinion) but they expand far beyond medical qigong. You have fusion of five elements, sexual alchemy, higher alchemy formulas & dream practices. Does the healing dao system have a monopoly on all these practices just mentioned? Even if I get into spring forest qigong I do not find it wise to mix different systems together.

Your mind wondering like that is very normal. The way I always thought about it was.. the mind doesn't like silence, it likes to think, it is use to being in charge. It is very normal to focus on the breath and then the next thing you know you are noticing that you are lost in some day dream. That is perfect. Once you notice just gently go back to your breath or method of focus. You will lose it again and come back to breath and lose it again.. It is that space between you focusing on your breath.. then you are gone, and then you are noticing you are day dreaming. Over time that space between will grow and grow.. Just know that the brain will come up with many excuses and tell you, you are doing it wrong.. your not.. just stay with it. To help calm the mind, one thing I would suggest is to focus on your body, start at your feet and relax them, go slow and do your entire body, your face, cheeks, lips, forehead, top of the head and just relax it all, let go of all stress. This kinda calms the mind so right when you have let go of all of the tension you move next to focusing on your breath. Just know that what you are doing is correct Know the mind is kinda fighting you and just don't let it talk you into quitting or convince you that you are doing it all wrong. Good luck.