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First off, I would like to make the disclaimer that I am not perfect, nor a model of will power and unconditional love. I realize my user name might be a bit misleading in this way, but I try not to overly restrain myself in some responses to ensure this misconception is not intentionally propagated. Moving forward, I wanted to share this website and perhaps offer some discussion about the dangers and damage to ourselves of passive aggressiveness. I realized that I’ve often used passive aggressiveness as a means to avoid confrontation, thinking this to be the more “spiritual” action, but it really doesn’t help anybody, including myself. In fact, I think a large part of the reason I spend time on this website may be an evasive strategy to avoid confronting certain things in life, such as talking about things to avoid actually doing these or other things. I have quite a bit of behavioural habits to overcome from my early teens on up, in this regard and others. Making excuses for myself, judging other people’s struggles to avoid confronting my own.. this is all evasive behaviour which will take some time to learn how to manage effectively and assertively. Sometimes it seems like passive-aggressiveness is “Wu-Wei” so it’s perfectly cool and intelligent and spiritual. But I’m starting to see that this rationale is just more passive-aggressive tendencies to avoid confronting the fact that I’m being passive-aggressive. The value in Wu-Wei here, I think, is in it being assertive rather than aggressive. “Spirituality” should not just be an evasion strategy, nor should talking about it be (… time to wrap this up ) Anyhow, I think it would be of benefit to everybody to consider the self-damaging effects of passive aggressive activity. I found this website to be very effective at pointing out and showing ways to confront these activities. I’m sure some people will see themselves in a number of the descriptions. ed. note: added link for "assertive vs. aggressive" edited again to fix link destinations