Firstly, a few words of advice from Phakchok Rinpoche (grandson of Tulku Urgyen Rinpoche) --
"Without cutting or reducing ego clinging, no matter how much you want to practice the Dharma or live a positive life, it is not going to work.
As usual, my advice is dont believe me but see it for your own self. So, usually i say, 'seeing' is the first step, 'recognizing' is the second step, 'admitting' is the third step, 'changing' is the fourth step and 'measuring change' is the fifth step.
Without cutting the root of ego, meditation is just another creation of mind. Understanding is just labeling. Thinking that you understood is just subtle pride. When you really cut the root of ego, you dont differentiate between yourself and others, and then you will understand selflessness. It is then when the realization of emptiness and compassion is going to be inseparable.
So it is very important to reduce the ego. My message today may sound complicating to some, helpful to a handful, and completely gibberish to many! But from my part, it is, has been and always will be a joyful pleasure to connect with each and everyone of you and be a constant reminder of impermanence with each passing Guru Rinpoche Day one year after another."
http://www.buddhaofcompassion.org/Vaj.mp3