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Hi, first, I don't know if this is the correct section for this discussion, but I'm new and thought that this is the one that it most fits in. The topic is celibacy and energy, and microcosmic orbit. My situation is that I don't have a master, I am a 22 years old guy, very talented musician, I have read a lot, I consider myself wise, independent, and capable. I am trying to stop my ejaculations, for the benefit of everything, specially my job, studies and personal relationships. Since I am young, healthy and have good genetics, my libido is pretty high. We could say that is maybe because of how indulgent and abusive I have been with masturbation throughout my life, that my libido is high. But it is also because I am healthy and have plenty of life in me. I have stopped masturbation obviously, more than a year ago by now. I was some time using masturbation as a tool to release the fantasies I had created in relation to porn, which has been very supportive. But I got to a point of having to grow up. Then I joined no fap and stared to have strikes of days without masturbating. And it has been a long process, that I still working on, from the big to the small. The last thing I added to my list of work was not looking at women to judge their physics, and not look for them in the street. It's like an habit, and I realized that this was feeding my libido in a bad way. There is a good libido in me, which is the one that after for example 11 of no ejaculation makes me a literal demigod. 11 days is not much, but as I said I have pretty good genetics and energy levels. So, I know seeing beauty in women is natural, biological. But I also, want to understand how it works, so it does not work against me, and my mind does not feed on it to charge my sexual organ. So, I am working with everything about masturbation, I am working also with memories, like for example the one I have about one relationship I had of 2.5 years. I am clearing everything, and it is the best decision I have ever done, and if you know what I am talking about you'll understand. My goal, my ideal, would be to use sexual pleasure only to create children, the day I decide to marry a woman. That is my ideal, but maybe because of my past abusive relationship with masturbation and porn, or maybe just because of my healthy natural libido and testosterone, that is quite hard. For me, consciously, it's not hard, because I don't like masturbating, I have nothing against it, I think it is cool, but as I said my ideal would be to use it only to create children. But, consciously I get away with it. But my reality says, hey, it's not how thinks work, you are not a master and you will have nocturnal emissions. And that is kind of my issue, once my energy reaches a certain point of healthiness, it will discharge while I am sleeping. This has had very bad consecuences. It's not only that I am 2 or 3 days depressed because of an unhealthy level of energy after it happens, it has ruined some personal relationships, and even my job. For example I had a stroke once, I was charging myself for 11 days, and the next 2 days I had a concerts. But, that night I had a noctural emission without fantasy, and then I knew what would happen. Next days I had no energy, I played very bad, I couldn't make my friends laugh or anything, it was a disaster. Because I had lost my semen the previous day. This brought me to a scary situation, where I would have to go to sleep not knowing if the next day I would wake up dead or not. You may think that it is normal or it not normal, but I know it is not how things are supposed to be. We could aswell discuss the topic of wether due to my past of porn addiction, in my ejaculation, even if I have really worked on it and relaxating myself ans releasing the fantasies etc etc for a long time, I lose more energy than the avarage person. Meaning, people are able to work normally even they ejaculate the previous day, but I am all anxious because my body energy is in deficit. This is up to debate, and I am not sure of it, and not even know if it adds something to the topic. So, I was in that situation and started adding to my routine of yoga stretches, stretches specifical for the kidneys, a lot of them, and to strength the lower abdomen. I believe this had helped me because, tonight, I was full of energy and I had a short sexual dream which is rather unusual, and, while I knew that orgasm was coming, and I knew it was my body doing it while in that unconcious and I could do nothing to stop it, my prostate relaxed. It was something that I have been practicing, relaxing the PC muscle, but I didn't know that if done in that way I would achieve that. So, I saw the orgasm coming, and in the dream I saw a circle (which was my prostate) and I expanded fully that circle to relax it. The result was my testicles not going so up and close to the body, and my prostate not contracting to release the semen. The result of that was an orgasm achieved by relaxation, that felt exactly like an orgasm, but which had not depleted me because I had not released my semen. Even if I obviously had released some energy with that orgasm. I imagine that this technic can be used to make long sexual intercourse and highly satisfy your partner. I don't know if this is a solution, I once knew a very smart guy with very high level of energy, that told me he masturbated and had orgasms without ejaculation. But this is all very knew to me, so I would like guidance of people more advance than me and that value the virtue of celibacy as much as me. Also, in relation to micro cosmic orbit, I started recently to do some exercices with it, and I have noticed that you are able to move your energy in a very interesting way, reminds me of playing music, but through your entire body. And I suppose this has benefits in itself, but the one I have noticed is that it clears my blockages of energy. For example one day I woke up sexually aroused, but in a rather bad way... And I had this block of energy like a magnet in the base of my pennis. When I did the microcosmic orbit, it had released and I was refreshed, so I could continue my day normally and focus on using my energy for it's true purpose. I'd like, if possible, and if anybody wants to support me, guidance in relation to how to deal with ejaculations, and if what I achieved is a good solution. And also, information about microcosmic orbit meditation. What paths do you recommend to do, and if it can support me to gain more controll over my energies specially in relation to masturbation/sexual energy. Thank you!!

Hi there My name is Alex, 27 years old. I really enjoy reading taoist literature and after discovering Mantak Chias books I aim to take the written knowledge and create some experiential understanding. Hoping along the way that can find some junior bums on this forum to start up on the path with and make use of the experience already gained by those who have kept up the practice for a long time. I have experience with meditation and completed a 10 day vipassana course with S.N. Goenka,.. I had known about Mantak for some time after a friend of mine had explained how he had been to Tao Garden 20 years ago and loved it, a few months after I went to vipassana and then on my first day back into normal life Mantak Chia had done an interview with on my favourite youtube channels called 'London real', it was literally one of the first things I saw when booting back up my phone. Tao Garden have given me contact details for one of Mantaks instructors who is sometimes in Bangkok (my current place) and willl start some work with her when possible. I am focusing for now on the inner smile which I find to be a relaxing and rejuvenating exercise and with the teachers guidance I hope to open the micro cosmic orbit. During that time I have started to do some of the exercises in multi orgasmic man. Mainly just the PC pull ups as am using the time to calm my mind away from quite strong sexual urges. It's been 23 days since that started and have been quite strong is resisting the urge and thoughts. This is welcoming and surprising as have had previous attempts in life which never seemed to go past 10 days, this process seems to be much more about the ease and think that this will help the Qi Gong journey. Not directly linked Taoism/Daoism? but am also doing breathing exercises from a book called 'The oxygen advantage' which is about retraining the body and mind to breathe calmer, slower and deeper through the nose at all times even when sleeping and even though he goes about things in a much more western scientific approach he quotes Lao Tzu and Taoist literature once or twice. He has also attended vipassana retreats so I believe he is well into this kind of stuff but for marketing purposes has chosen to position his books in a certain way. However anybody who is interested and would like to try the exercises please send me a message and I look forward to assisting where I can. Thank you for taking the time to read and look forward to this journey.