Erection problem

[nashenas]

Hi, i fixed one problem and another one imidiatly arrised...

 

I was at home with a beautiful girl a fewdays ago, after 2 hours of foreplay and a a super wood on my penis. she was about to go cowgirl on me. well the penis entered and died after 3 secs, this has never happened to me before, and I havent had sex after rising the kundalini this was the first time in months. well after the akwardnes dissapered i gave it another try the penis is fully erect and she tries again and it gives up again.

 

now a few days later i get worried and think well hope it was just for that one night. so I try to maturbate with no problems, but the only problem is that it wont erect to the max its in some kind of 50/50 position and its softer than it used to be and im 25 years old.

 

my bad habits are that I smoke cigarettes , I dont execise much, i eat like once or twice a day (pizza most often)

im gonna take care of these problems since they seme to be bad.

 

Ive stoped jerkin of I used to do it once everyday, so now I dont know how to fix this problem. should i start jerking of again? should I do reiki? go on viagra? see a doctor?

 

Any advice would be great since atm I only work with my innerguru and even my inner guru seems to be confused atm.

 

I need maximum presure in my penis!

 

/tnx for any advice

[longrhythm]

Two words dude- REVERSE COWGIRL

 

Seriously though, exercise and eating properly are huge. The better your circulation the better your blood pressure regulation etc etc. Lots of the sexual yogic and taoist practices I've worked with are aimed at taking blood AWAY from, to manage ejaculation and move orgasm upwards, so if you're not already exploding its definately overkill. In my beginning days I could easily go overboard with it and have to start over, so give it time and learn to measure.

 

On a less spiritually approved note- I find it's helpful to always have triggers that pull in either direction, like one that can make me soft in a minute and one that can make me explode in a minute. That way I can use those points of focus to take me in whichever direction I need to go to maintain balance and stay right there in the middle.

 

Hi, i fixed one problem and another one imidiatly arrised...

 

I was at home with a beautiful girl a fewdays ago, after 2 hours of foreplay and a a super wood on my penis. she was about to go cowgirl on me. well the penis entered and died after 3 secs, this has never happened to me before, and I havent had sex after rising the kundalini this was the first time in months. well after the akwardnes dissapered i gave it another try the penis is fully erect and she tries again and it gives up again.

 

now a few days later i get worried and think well hope it was just for that one night. so I try to maturbate with no problems, but the only problem is that it wont erect to the max its in some kind of 50/50 position and its softer than it used to be and im 25 years old.

 

my bad habits are that I smoke cigarettes , I dont execise much, i eat like once or twice a day (pizza most often)

im gonna take care of these problems since they seme to be bad.

 

Ive stoped jerkin of I used to do it once everyday, so now I dont know how to fix this problem. should i start jerking of again? should I do reiki? go on viagra? see a doctor?

 

Any advice would be great since atm I only work with my innerguru and even my inner guru seems to be confused atm.

 

I need maximum presure in my penis!

 

/tnx for any advice

[Mal]

Happens to us all at times. I would not worry unless it is a constant problem. Morning wood usually indicates that physically you are fine. Performance anxiety will just make it worse.

 

I do agree with longrhythm, it is easy to be pulling to much energy up and away in the beginning. The good thing with going overboard when learning is that "partner willing" you can always start over again, unlike when you get the timing wrong in the other direction

 

Relax, have fun and don't go doing too many "cures" unless it turns out to be a constant problem.

[witch]

Fish oil!

[Andrei]

Eat arginine containing foods, red wine is good also for erection problems, and don't masturbate ever!

Don't smoke, exercise and eat healthy and you'll be fine.

 

Edit: and don't drink beer.

Edited October 1, 2009 by steam

[Apech]

Fish oil!

 

 

Eat it? or rub it on?

[Encephalon]

I think your best bet is to have your penis removed. Total penilectomy. I know a taxidermist that can have it stuffed for you.

 

Or you can simply remove your penis from the center of your universe and stop eating like a six year old.

[gendao]

I havent had sex after rising the kundalini this was the first time in months. well after the akwardnes dissapered i gave it another try the penis is fully erect and she tries again and it gives up again.

 

now a few days later i get worried and think well hope it was just for that one night. so I try to maturbate with no problems, but the only problem is that it wont erect to the max its in some kind of 50/50 position and its softer than it used to be and im 25 years old.

Interesting, I wonder if this might be some type of kundalini effect? So, you have risen your kundalini now (that would be pretty impressive at just age 25!)?

 

You may want to consult JJ Semple on this...

[ralis]

Maca root, lecithin and L-Arginine.

 

ralis

[witch]

Eat it of course. Consult my book The Orgasmic Diet for dosage info and drug interaction warnings, or do a search on this site, I'm too lazy to post my diet again.

 

Will speed up orgasm too, but that shouldn't be a problem for the practitioners here with all their cultivation and whatnot.

 

Oh, also keep on masturbating, maybe cut back to every other day and try to make your stroke slower and gentler and vary your stroke too. But very important, stop watching porn when you masturbate. At the most, masturbate to pictures of naked ladies--that way the real thing will be much more stimulating.

[joeblast]

along with all the other good advice here, work out enough to break a sweat every day. do natural abdominal breathing with appropriate huiyin action - enough to engage it but not forcefully. every day.

[Encephalon]

Nashenas -

 

Please forgive my earlier post. I regularly castigate others for uncharitable sarcasm and then go ahead and indulge in it myself. But yeah... dump the pizza.

 

It would seem that the jury is out regarding masturbation. "Do it everyday!" "Don't do it at all!"

 

I have to say that after my first complete MCO my chi flow was strong and I was having unusual experiences, most notably the absence of soreness one typically experiences after working out. Then I reached down below one day and played to discharge some energy that simply had to come out. The chi flow dropped about 40% for two days and my instincts tell me that is autosex-related.

 

Being awfully new to esoteric Taoist practices, I'm not up to speed on the strictures regarding climax but there does seem to be a correlation. Please correct me, folks, but do the Taoists not recommend sex unless it is with a partner? Our culture is so sexualized, the messages so pernicious, that we all seem to exist in a state of hyper-arousal. I think this is draining over the long run.

 

Are there times when you really should abstain from everything? Beats me.

[joeblast]

there's a huge difference solo vs with a partner

[witch]

Oh, I'm not a taoist, so don't take my advice on that. Although there is the issue of use it or lose it. You don't want to stop masturbating (or having sex regularly) altogether, IMHO.

 

I'm more of a boner expert.

[fiveelementtao]

If you had maximum wood just before penetration, then your problem is not physical. I do agree that smoking, pizza and lack of exercise is not helpful. But, it sounds like you have other issues stemming from the sudden change from energy work, celibacy to sex again. before celibacy, sex for guys often times is just a physical release. After celibacy and energy work, sex can represent a sharing of energy which can require alot of trust. Maybe you are not ready for casual sex and need to rethink how you feel about sharing your energy with someone.

for some people, celibacy and energy work are not something that can just be turned on and off. You may have to make a smoother transition...

just my .02

[TheSongsofDistantEarth]

25 was about the age I discovered I could no longer have 'unconnected' sex. I had an encounter with woman who had a sex drive like a guy's a Ferrari Playboy model type body. She wanted to go for it, we went to my place and...nada. I soon learned that I needed to have some sort of real connection, though not necessarily 'love', in order to have sex. Otherwise I could not perform, or it felt like shit afterward. That feeling has continued, so that I am not able to have casual or promiscuous sex, not because of any moral decisions about it, but because my higher self refuses to let me squander something precious into a meaningless encounter. It's been about 5 years now that I quit looking at any internet porn whatsoever. The vibe was disgusting, the people seemed pretty disgusting. What did it for me was seeing some young incredibly fresh girl on one site, then seeing her again about a year later on the same site. She must have been on drugs for awhile, because she was once fine, and now it was like looking at a dead person...all vitality gone. She looked like a ghoul. She was probably 20. I want no part of that kind of energy.

 

I finally got to the age and spiritual maturity, thankfully, that pepe' doesn't control me. I can willfully choose when to be sexual, and I have chosen not to partake many a time, and thankfully, because the consequences of blending my energies with someone or getting into a situation or pregnancy, etc., far outweighed momentary pleasure.

Edited October 1, 2009 by TheSongsofDistantEarth

[Trunk]

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.. I discovered I could no longer have 'unconnected' sex. ... some sort of real connection, though not necessarily 'love', ...

Useful phrasing.

Never heard someone say it like that, but it sounds very natural and clear.

[Zhuo Ming-Dao]

This is one of the very common side effects of post-kundalini arousal. This will usually happen within the weeks after the kundalini has arisen (or if you're a Theravada Buddhist, after the Arising and Passing) during the dark night of the soul phase.

 

This article speaks directly to your problem:

http://realization.org/page/doc0/doc0053.htm

 

Here is an excerpt:

I did nothing to stop it and with a great amount of energy and power it rocketed straight up to the brain where it broke the block in the middle of my head. I felt it explode in the frontal lobe and I lost consciousness for a split second. Then it went to another part of the body and came back to the brain exploding there two more times. As it sped around my body, I somehow managed to move a muscle and break the paralysis so the energy returned to the base of the spine. As usual, I couldn't feel any part of my body but this time the lack of sensation felt much more serious, as if my whole body had disappeared. I twiddled my toes and regained awareness of my body, but it felt strange and different, a little numbed, as if the signals weren't coming in as strongly as usual. I felt as though the whole central part of my chest and torso had lost a lot of their presence, particularly the sensations coming from within my body -- the stomach and intestines. My penis became limp and dead. I noticed that both my nostrils were wide open and extremely dilated. Not only did my body feel different, but as I stood up and looked at the world around me, external things seemed different, strange, unreal, foreign, weird, and dreamlike. This was a big shock to me. I became frantic and had a panic attack.

 

I also recommend reading Daniel Ingram's book. He has a free online version here:

http://www.interactivebuddha.com/mctb.shtml

 

In it he talks about ways to power through this stage of awakening into Equanimity, when your body integrates the kundalini experience and overcomes the potential side effects of the dark night.

[Seth Ananda]

If you had maximum wood just before penetration, then your problem is not physical.

I agree. It sounds as if the erectile function is working fine, so its psychological or energetic.

I Had an experience like this recently. I left a Painfull relationship about a year ago(with the mother of my daughter) and recently met my new partner. At first I would be really hard but when it came to penetration time -no show- I really had to look at some fear I was carrying about starting another sexual relationship. Fear of further pain, and let it out of my body. Now I am back in the saddle and we are having 4-5 hour sessions, Wahoo!

The kundalini thing is of interest as sometimes a really strong upward draw of energy depletes the sexual organs.

This is usally temporary, and do practices that bring energy back down and even flush the sexual organs with good chi. I like MCO, Bhastrica or Khapali Bhaat and some good pc workouts. Also fantastic is to work the Foundations- Legs and butt. Dancing, horse stance, lunges, capioera or wushu, anthing that will give you awesome leg and ass stability - also awesome for your sexual skills.

Good Luck.

 

25 was about the age I discovered I could no longer have 'unconnected' sex. I had an encounter with woman who had a sex drive like a guy's a Ferrari Playboy model type body. She wanted to go for it, we went to my place and...nada. I soon learned that I needed to have some sort of real connection, though not necessarily 'love', in order to have sex. Otherwise I could not perform, or it felt like shit afterward. That feeling has continued, so that I am not able to have casual or promiscuous sex, not because of any moral decisions about it, but because my higher self refuses to let me squander something precious into a meaningless encounter. It's been about 5 years now that I quit looking at any internet porn whatsoever. The vibe was disgusting, the people seemed pretty disgusting. What did it for me was seeing some young incredibly fresh girl on one site, then seeing her again about a year later on the same site. She must have been on drugs for awhile, because she was once fine, and now it was like looking at a dead person...all vitality gone. She looked like a ghoul. She was probably 20. I want no part of that kind of energy.

 

I finally got to the age and spiritual maturity, thankfully, that pepe' doesn't control me. I can willfully choose when to be sexual, and I have chosen not to partake many a time, and thankfully, because the consequences of blending my energies with someone or getting into a situation or pregnancy, etc., far outweighed momentary pleasure.

Beautiful. Thanks. And yep dumping the porn is Highly recomended. It destroys the sexual imagination and the capasity to be a sencitive lover.

[Ninpo-me-this-ninjutsu-me-that]

I think your best bet is to have your penis removed. Total penilectomy. I know a taxidermist that can have it stuffed for you.

 

Or you can simply remove your penis from the center of your universe and stop eating like a six year old.

 

HAHAHAHA....

 

I give you a taobums laugh of the day rating of 10 out of 10! Certainly amused me. 'Stop eating like a six year old'....hahaha! My mother would like you

 

Seriously though,

 

No one has considered the possibility that these females are secret vampire kunoichi types sent to steal his new found energy. I think before I could make an intelligent assessment I would have to know exactly what type of pizza it is, pepperoni, hawaiian or what. Cheese filled crusts are a real danger, however that more effects rythmic speed as opposed woodage.

[Spectrum]

.. I discovered I could no longer have 'unconnected' sex. ... some sort of real connection, though not necessarily 'love', ...

 

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Useful phrasing.

Never heard someone say it like that, but it sounds very natural and clear.

 

Sounds like Laying Pipe

[hervoyel]

I have a similar problem, which has been happening for quite a while and I have recently decided to tackle. In my case, age may be a co-factor for it (I am 47).

 

I tried Dr. Lin's supplements + fish oil (as recommended by him) but didn't get any notable results. But I must add that I kept it to a minimum dosage as I was concerned about the massive amounts of certain components in the recommended dosage. Perhaps results would have been different had I sticked to the recommended dosage.

 

Failing that, I am now looking into:

- exercising regularly

- taking Korean red ginseng supplements

Both are listed on the wikipedia article on erectyle disfunction as cheap solutions to the issue, as long as it's not a "plumbing" problem...

 

Hervoyel

Edited October 3, 2009 by hervoyel

[witch]

Try my approach. Men usually see dramatic results within a month, so it doesn't take long to see if it works for you.

[Aetherous]

If you're not doing like a half an hour of aerobics (where you can keep up a conversation easily while working out) each day...and if you go more than 4 hours at a time without eating something...and if you eat too much at some meals...you're already sabotaging yourself.

 

If you do aerobics each day, eat regularly and healthily so you're never hungry, and never stuff yourself with food...then you will see improvements.

[Trunk]