good guys finish last

[三江源]

Only one out of 3 were unintentional here.. And that's my lil guy, the sweetest accident I ever made.

 

Thank you for your compliment. These things are of interest to me as you have noticed. I respect you too.

 

aaw, super cool, I'm sure lil guy is molto gorgeousness.

 

I was 'an accident' too, so I'm all in favour of us.

 

Thanks KK.

 

xx

[Non]

if it was really all about being more yang, I wouldn't be making this thread.

 

SO whatnow, being yang is being bad?

[Non]

I agree 'dominance' is not neccesarily what is attractive or needed. Actually, speaking for myself, I think dominance is often unnattractive and repellant.

I think taking the initiative is what is attractive and needed, by women, in men.

Not all the time or every time, but... enough of the time that the female can relax and do what she wants to do, which is be responsive.

When men are playful, the woman can relax seeing that the man can take the ball and run with it, is creative in himself, buoyant.Someone who can respond quickly and creatively creates a space for the feminine not to have to be in caretaking or feeding role.

 

 

If passsivity is being unable to take initative.... this isnt actually an ideal quality in a man in relation to women, unless he wants an animus driven women.

In which case, good luck and make sure you have a safety helmet.

 

HOW can a man take the initiative when all his life women have made threats to put him in jail for donig innocentt things meanwhile accepting abusive behavior from jerks, etc?

 

Anyway. I never got to develop being "playful" and junk because of this. Because I could not develop this "sense of humor".

 

But anyway you're still being very judgemental. So, if a guy doesn't do EVERYYTHING for you he's no good for you?

Edited January 27, 2011 by Non

[Andrei]

[NeiChuan]

 

I lol'd

[phore]

just pick a few guys who you know who seem to be naturals with women and emulate them. Through careful observation anyone can learn social skills.

Its called modeling excellence in nlp. you need some positive role models.

Through careful observation you too can learn social skills.

 

Im betting that you mentally beat yourself up about your problem. My advice is approach the problem holistically. Forget about your problems and raise your vibational rate.

Say ohm and project gratitude through your third eye into the universe.

Its like exercise for your vibes.

 

Once youve got your vibes under control, talking to women and getting laid is a piece of cake.

 

Right now you are coming off as too needy. You need to come off as sexy.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eor350706YM&feature=related

 

you must go on a quest to get your mojo back.

[Aetherous]

Forget about your problems and raise your vibational rate.

 

Yes, good advice. Non, we all wish you the best.

[Everything]

HOW can a man take the initiative when all his life women have made threats to put him in jail for donig innocentt things meanwhile accepting abusive behavior from jerks, etc?

 

Anyway. I never got to develop being "playful" and junk because of this. Because I could not develop this "sense of humor".

 

But anyway you're still being very judgemental. So, if a guy doesn't do EVERYYTHING for you he's no good for you?

Did someone mention my name? Hehe...

Hey, dude. Whats up.

 

You seem discontent about not having one specific girl share love with you. That seems weird in my opinion, but I've gone trough that aswell. My guesses are, you will eventually learn to attract more women, but then realize that it is harder to actually feel attraction for girls yourself then have them feel attracted to you. You will grow taste, meet better and better women. Understand people better, etc.

 

I sense that you're one of those cat persons. You should try and learn how wolfs live, and try to get allong with a big dog, like a turkish kangal. I've taken care of a dog that was bigger then me. This kind of relationship can be dangerous and allows you to contemplate you ways of leadership and masculinity. Not only will you understand that all the surface stuff is completely insignificant, you will also see how bad boys are completely clueless when it comes to being a "stable" man. Dogs don't talk human languahe, and attraction is not a human language aswell. Dogs have extremely good instincts. Bad boys hurt the dog, and respond agressively to agression. The dogs see this as a sign of weakness and instability in the roll of a leader. They can't take care of their women, especially when their women gets a meltdown and goes dramatic mode. Bad boys don't respond well to those situation and don't understand the animal instincts that come into play. Just like nice guys don't.

As a niceguy you can go learning the good qualities bad boys have, without the agression. Turn your back on agression and challenges coming from men and women. Responding with strong defenses against hurts, and remaining in a stable mindset. Allways controlling your own boundaries and realities. You can be nice to a girl, but your instincts will tell you the diffrence between "nice" and "manipulative." You will learn the same insincts that women feel automaticly. That is why experience is so important. Eventually, you'll be a nice guy who automaticly attracts women, because you can't go against those instincts. It will actually be hard for you to mess up.

Same with bad guys, they will eventually "feel" how their agression comes from a weak place, not a stable and strong place. Don't worry about it. There is alot of dumb competition out there. But do respect the good ones, you might gain a friend. Especially a nice guy like you can easily make alot of valuable friends in this world. Bad guys are often workaholicly lonely. You may have something they don't, but not even realize it yet untill you meet them.

 

I'm more worried about you being discontent in your single life. Seek to enjoy the single life, then get into a relationship from there. That sounds better of you ask me.

Edited February 3, 2011 by Everything

[Listener]

I'm 28 and a virgin. I think one of the hardest things is not feeling there's anyone you can talk to, someone you can trust to talk about your feelings. The need to hide your shame. Talking to a therapist may help. But I've also heard of a man who went to see a therapist, who refused to believe him when he said he had no sexual experience. The people here at taobums are far more wise and understanding than most.

 

I think Non is correct when he talks about the poor state of male/female relations. At the same time, I don't think that is what is most important.

 

The intense shame I felt for many years for my sexual desires, led eventually to intense self loathing that is still with me. I'm a failure, I'm not good enough, etc.

 

You have to let go of these negative thoughts. No matter what the overall cultural situation is, if you don't change your thinking, nothing good is going to happen.

 

I know how frustrating it can be reading advice. It's easy for me to imagine that these people have never had a hard day in their life and everything has been handed to them on a silver platter. But I know that's not true. Everyone has their own burdens. I've been blessed in many ways and have not had to go through what I know many have.

 

Being a virgin/perpetually dissatisfied and frustrated can become part of your identity, something you hold onto and are scared to let go of. I know that happened to me. You have to let go. Things can change. You can change.

 

I sometimes feel ridiculous giving advice, but I really do believe what I've written here. This advice is for myself as much as anyone else.

[Non]

I'm 28 and a virgin. I think one of the hardest things is not feeling there's anyone you can talk to, someone you can trust to talk about your feelings. The need to hide your shame. Talking to a therapist may help. But I've also heard of a man who went to see a therapist, who refused to believe him when he said he had no sexual experience. The people here at taobums are far more wise and understanding than most.

 

I think Non is correct when he talks about the poor state of male/female relations. At the same time, I don't think that is what is most important.

 

The intense shame I felt for many years for my sexual desires, led eventually to intense self loathing that is still with me. I'm a failure, I'm not good enough, etc.

 

You have to let go of these negative thoughts. No matter what the overall cultural situation is, if you don't change your thinking, nothing good is going to happen.

 

I know how frustrating it can be reading advice. It's easy for me to imagine that these people have never had a hard day in their life and everything has been handed to them on a silver platter. But I know that's not true. Everyone has their own burdens. I've been blessed in many ways and have not had to go through what I know many have.

 

Being a virgin/perpetually dissatisfied and frustrated can become part of your identity, something you hold onto and are scared to let go of. I know that happened to me. You have to let go. Things can change. You can change.

 

I sometimes feel ridiculous giving advice, but I really do believe what I've written here. This advice is for myself as much as anyone else.

 

 

Things DO NOT change. Women still have their monthly menses and feel PORNOGRAPHICALLY attracted to ruthless evil men every month, even if after they've been done viciously and by these same evil men looking for women in their ovulation periods every month for DOMINATION and CONQUEST, TO PORNOGRAPHICALLY VIOLATE AND TAKE AND BE GREEDY. Even if after the women have done about a couple of these men in a period of a couple days during this time and want to find a weaker male to take advantage of and MAKE FEEL WORTHLESS. Why should I believe any woman is TRULY alone when hundreds of males make pornographic advances at them a month even if they aren't perfect when there are SO MANY PERFECTLY viciously and violently horny, brutally attractive, viciously dominant men every month attracted to them.

 

Women are just so yin they want be SWEPT OFF THEIR FEET RIGHT? Isn't that like, rape if taken literally? Consent? No? Oh right, just unconscious. Ignorantly, and naively.

 

I'm really considering suicide. Yet again...

 

Things never change.

 

There will always be evil. There will ALWAYS BE THE MAJORITY of PEOPLE BEING EVIL in this very same way. How is success created in this world? Killing others. Everyone dies right? So how to be successful then? Take advantage of others, killing in socially acceptable ways.

 

Evil still exists because it's always been Hot. Evil is STILL THE MAJORITY FOR MILLIONS OF YEARS. Because that's the Tao, no right and wrong just yin and yang yet still SUFFERING. Always suffering,but still no right or wrong, just suffering because it's not right or wrong just yin and yang because there is SUFFERING.

 

it is ABSOLUTELY POINTLESS TO TRY AND DO ANYTHING other than be a victim. You always will be. Life is war. Yin and yang always fight. Violently. Brutally, viciously.

 

What is the purpose? Do you think "animals" have purpose? They don't. It's just suffering. What do the buddhists do? They just seek the end of life on this Earthly plane. But what purpose is there then to even meditate and do all these rituals if LIFE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURE AND SUFFERING AND VIOLENCE?

 

Why even stay to meditate on this Earth? Why not just be TRULY VIRTUOUS and COMMIT SUICIDE AND BECOME ONE WITH THE GOD again instead of having to WASTE ENERGY and ENTROPY in living here?

Edited February 13, 2011 by Non

[sifusufi]

Sorry about the pain man, if you use alcohol or any chemicals I would strongly recommend quitting or getting in to treatment.

 

Stay away from clubs, bars , strippers, porn.

 

Go the gym, yoga class, do the hang at Barnes & Noble.

 

Like attracts like. If you are in the vicinity of positive people hopefully your brainwaves will attune to the

higher frequency.

 

I have been working in a hater environment for decades! Can't change people.

 

I hope you meet a princess soon.

 

No short cuts!

[Sloppy Zhang]

Things DO NOT change. Women still have their monthly menses and feel PORNOGRAPHICALLY attracted to ruthless evil men every month, even if after they've been done viciously and by these same evil men looking for women in their ovulation periods every month for DOMINATION and CONQUEST, TO PORNOGRAPHICALLY VIOLATE AND TAKE AND BE GREEDY. Even if after the women have done about a couple of these men in a period of a couple days during this time and want to find a weaker male to take advantage of and MAKE FEEL WORTHLESS. Why should I believe any woman is TRULY alone when hundreds of males make pornographic advances at them a month even if they aren't perfect when there are SO MANY PERFECTLY viciously and violently horny, brutally attractive, viciously dominant men every month attracted to them.

 

Women are just so yin they want be SWEPT OFF THEIR FEET RIGHT? Isn't that like, rape if taken literally? Consent? No? Oh right, just unconscious. Ignorantly, and naively.

 

I'm really considering suicide. Yet again...

 

Things never change.

 

There will always be evil. There will ALWAYS BE THE MAJORITY of PEOPLE BEING EVIL in this very same way. How is success created in this world? Killing others. Everyone dies right? So how to be successful then? Take advantage of others, killing in socially acceptable ways.

 

Evil still exists because it's always been Hot. Evil is STILL THE MAJORITY FOR MILLIONS OF YEARS. Because that's the Tao, no right and wrong just yin and yang yet still SUFFERING. Always suffering,but still no right or wrong, just suffering because it's not right or wrong just yin and yang because there is SUFFERING.

 

it is ABSOLUTELY POINTLESS TO TRY AND DO ANYTHING other than be a victim. You always will be. Life is war. Yin and yang always fight. Violently. Brutally, viciously.

 

What is the purpose? Do you think "animals" have purpose? They don't. It's just suffering. What do the buddhists do? They just seek the end of life on this Earthly plane. But what purpose is there then to even meditate and do all these rituals if LIFE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURE AND SUFFERING AND VIOLENCE?

 

First of all, you seriously need to get some professional help.

 

Second, I was reading this article yesterday, interesting quote from it:

 

SO what if you suffer from Fluctuating Asymmetry? Are you SOL? Well, if you read my kundalini book, you know I lost my symmetry as the result of a childhood accident. I guess that's why I was never able to walk into a room and make heads turn, male or female. And yet, contrary to the findings of evolutionary psychologists, I experienced reasonable success with women. Did I feel insecure around beautiful women? Who doesn’t? But I never felt the necessity to develop a line. I was as successful with women, average to beautiful, as they were with me. What accounts for this?

 

I believe that there are certain men and women that don’t require the absoluteness of perfect symmetry in order to connect; they are able to go beyond what Chris Anderson describes in the following passages:

 

“I’m sure you’ve asked a female friend before what she looks for in a man and I’m also sure you were a bit puzzled by her answer."

 

“I just want a guy who’s real”

“All I want is a guy who treats me decent”

“All I care about is that he doesn’t cheat on me”

 

“Her response doesn’t make much sense on the surface because pretty much you and all the people you know pass these seemingly low-bar requirements. She might as well have been saying it’s so hard to find a guy who has 2 hands and 2 feet. We immediately dismiss what she said as crazy talk.”

 

Or, as George Roundy explains to Lester Karpf in Shampoo (1975), "What the hell I'm a gonna tell you about what they got against you. Christ, they're women aren't they? You ever listen to women talk, man? Do you? 'Cause I do, till it's running outta my ears! I mean I'm on my feet all day long listening to women talk and they only talk about one thing: how some guy fucked 'em over, that's all that's on their minds, that's all I ever hear about! Don't you know that?"

 

Third, some women want men to be men, and women to be women. They want someone who they can trust, and they can let go of themselves. They aren't asking to be raped. They aren't asking to be abused. They just want to be FEMININE. They want to be able to let their guard down, and have someone who will love them. Unfortunately many people are taken advantage of this way, so even if they may ACT feminine, they might really have a guard up.

 

As an aside, I find that this happens to men too. Despite wanting/having to play the role of a tough guy, many guys just want someone who they can let down their guard around. But there are lots of women out there who have a wall up, or who go on the attack so they can feel even after something somebody did to them a long time ago.

 

As a result, people just keep playing the same roles over again- criminal and victim. You are the victim of a criminal, so you become a criminal to someone else, who becomes a victim, and becomes a criminal who violates someone else.

 

Personal introspection and awareness of yourself and others is important in learning to recognizing when you AND other people are acting out these roles.

 

It's not that women are all inherently aching to be raped. It's not that men are all inherently aching to rape. But so often these people adopt these roles based on society, and it's crucial you learn to differentiate between the people and the roles they assume.

 

If you can't figure this out on your own, perhaps a professional can help you.

 

Why even stay to meditate on this Earth? Why not just be TRULY VIRTUOUS and COMMIT SUICIDE AND BECOME ONE WITH THE GOD again instead of having to WASTE ENERGY and ENTROPY in living here?

 

Well if you believe that God is infinite and everywhere, then you are already one with God right now. God is all around you. It's just a matter of whether or not you can become aware of that fact right now.

 

Furthermore, committing suicide right now is no guarantee you'll end up in a better place- it's very likely that all the negative energy and thoughts surrounding you could actually weigh you down, and get you to a spot that is worse off than you are in now.

 

Interestingly, B.K. Frantzis writes in one of his books about the ego, and how the ego will do anything to keep itself alive. And that includes leading you to die or commit suicide. Why? If you die or commit suicide, you'll just reincarnate and still have an ego. But if you stay alive, and keep cultivating, the ego will die. The ego will preserve itself no matter what. And if you get in the way of its survival, it will turn on YOU.

 

So either way you choose to look at it, suicide leads you nowhere.

Edited February 13, 2011 by Sloppy Zhang

[markern]

NOn, have you looked more into budhism? You mentioned you had gotten interested in it. Jack Kornfields a Wise Heart - Buddhist psychology for the west is a nice intro to buddhist psychology. I think you could get something out of it. And have you gone to any local Sangha? I think it would be good for you to get in touch with a local teacher and a local group of like minded people.

 

I think a powerfull energy healer could help you. If you change your perspective you could change how you feel and the quality of your energy but a healer could also change your energy and so change your thougts. Springforestqigong.com has great healers. It has been my experience though that for real results you need to have many sessions over a long period of time just as with acupuncture or therapy. But it is REALLY powerfull.

 

I also second the threapy suggestiong made by Sloppy and others.

 

I also think that the inner smile meditation would be perfect for you as just physiologically forcing a smile starts creating smiling energy and once this builds up to a certain level you start smilling naturally and then you can spread the energy out to your body, to all your organs and glands and all parts of what you sense that "you" are. That will provide you with most of the happy neurochemistry you need and help you love yourself and then all the other stuff won`t matter so much. If you do the inner smile for 20 minutes a day for three months something has GOT to change for the better for you.

[Non]

First of all, you seriously need to get some professional help.

 

Second, I was reading this article yesterday, interesting quote from it:

 

 

 

Third, some women want men to be men, and women to be women. They want someone who they can trust, and they can let go of themselves. They aren't asking to be raped. They aren't asking to be abused. They just want to be FEMININE. They want to be able to let their guard down, and have someone who will love them. Unfortunately many people are taken advantage of this way, so even if they may ACT feminine, they might really have a guard up.

 

As an aside, I find that this happens to men too. Despite wanting/having to play the role of a tough guy, many guys just want someone who they can let down their guard around. But there are lots of women out there who have a wall up, or who go on the attack so they can feel even after something somebody did to them a long time ago.

 

As a result, people just keep playing the same roles over again- criminal and victim. You are the victim of a criminal, so you become a criminal to someone else, who becomes a victim, and becomes a criminal who violates someone else.

 

Personal introspection and awareness of yourself and others is important in learning to recognizing when you AND other people are acting out these roles.

 

It's not that women are all inherently aching to be raped. It's not that men are all inherently aching to rape. But so often these people adopt these roles based on society, and it's crucial you learn to differentiate between the people and the roles they assume.

 

If you can't figure this out on your own, perhaps a professional can help you.

 

 

 

Well if you believe that God is infinite and everywhere, then you are already one with God right now. God is all around you. It's just a matter of whether or not you can become aware of that fact right now.

 

Furthermore, committing suicide right now is no guarantee you'll end up in a better place- it's very likely that all the negative energy and thoughts surrounding you could actually weigh you down, and get you to a spot that is worse off than you are in now.

 

Interestingly, B.K. Frantzis writes in one of his books about the ego, and how the ego will do anything to keep itself alive. And that includes leading you to die or commit suicide. Why? If you die or commit suicide, you'll just reincarnate and still have an ego. But if you stay alive, and keep cultivating, the ego will die. The ego will preserve itself no matter what. And if you get in the way of its survival, it will turn on YOU.

 

So either way you choose to look at it, suicide leads you nowhere.

 

well at least everyone else will do better off without me. I mean sure my immediate family might feel bad for a while.. but compared to the millions here on Earth BETTER than any of us, with more PURPOSE etc. to continue murdering anyone less than them, who cares right? At least they won't have to worry about my or my dying lineage. There are absolutely NO successful men or even with potential in the generation and even past generation of my family lineage. none. No cousins, and I have no brother(s). In fact all my male cousins have some mental disorder or autism. Even my uncles which are only 2! Not one of them is successful or have even produced offspring. All of them have the outstanding feature of being extremely unsuccessful/indominant when it comes women and therefore life.

 

I am the only one who can be someone, and look at my life. Maybe in the future a slight 5% chance but just looking at my past can foreshadow nothing but utter continuing never-ending failure for 99% of my life.

 

It must be my lineage. There is not one worthy male. They're all just druggies drunkards and mentally disabled people. The females can be mentally disabled like fuck all and they are more successful than the smartest men in a randomly select group of males.

 

The only ones are the females. They by virtue of being female are successful in life because they have vagina. Gee maybe that's why females are internally yang, and stronger mentally. They dont have to worry about the number 1 reason we are living: to produce offspring whether they be good or bad. Just fucking reproduce, even if you end up destroying the universe.

Edited February 13, 2011 by Non

[Sloppy Zhang]

well at least everyone else will do better off without me. I mean sure my immediate family might feel bad for a while.. but compared to the millions here on Earth BETTER than any of us, with more PURPOSE etc. to continue murdering anyone less than them, who cares right? At least they won't have to worry about my or my dying lineage. There are absolutely NO successful men or even with potential in the generation and even past generation of my family lineage. none. No cousins, and I have no brother(s). In fact all my male cousins have some mental disorder or autism. Even my uncles which are only 2! Not one of them is successful or have even produced offspring.

 

I am the only one who can be someone, and look at my life. Maybe in the future a slight 5% chance but just looking at my past can foreshadow nothing but utter continuing never-ending failure for 99% of my life.

 

It must be my lineage. There is not one worthy male. They're all just druggies drunkards and mentally disabled people. The females can be mentally disabled like fuck all and they are more successful than the smartest men in a randomly select group of males.

 

The only ones are the females. They by virtue of being female are successful in life because they have vagina. Gee maybe that's why females are internally yang, and stronger mentally. They dont have to worry about the number 1 reason we are living: to produce offspring whether they be good or bad. Just fucking reproduce, even if you end up destroying the universe.

 

Seems to me like you're just generalizing based on whatever you see of your family.

 

Though generally I'd say that you shouldn't really be dependent on others to look at how you need to live your life, perhaps you should try and find some better male role models.

 

What is it that you do, Non? What your job, where do you live, who do you hang out with, etc?

 

It seems to me like you need a change of pace. You gotta seriously change up the routine of your life, because it seems to me like you are in a rut. Hang out with different people, find some new hobbies, try to get a different job. Take a risk and move significantly out of your comfort zone.

 

Let go of preconceived notions. Don't psyche yourself out of doing something before you even get a chance to do it. When you meet someone new, forget about everything you know about people, and just get to know THEM. Don't be like, "oh this person won't like me" or "I'm sure I won't relate to this person", because you are going to sabotage yourself by creating a self fulfilling prophecy.

 

You just gotta change something up with your life.

Edited February 13, 2011 by Sloppy Zhang

[Non]

You know, only 20 % of men get to have 80 % of the women.

 

Statistically only 40 % of men even get to have some sort of success with women, yet we are related to only 20 percent of the males. 80 percent of women having some have success with men. Starking contrast.

 

And then about 25-30 percent of men die off to equal the number of men of which more are born than women.

 

One can definately assume that it's all inheritance when it comes to success. Inheritance means genetics, which means reproductive success.

 

And a male can be successful in life do great things but as long as he does not get 1 ounce of love or anything from a woman he is not considered biologically worthy of evolutionary continuation.

 

Look at the men and women and see the diffeerence in their bodily structure. Men have the features of brutality and the bodily structure to do EVERYTHING a society needs while a woman's features are BY FAR dominantly for reproductive SERVICE to the MOST BRUTALLY and VIOLENTLY DOMINANT MALES. BY FAR!

 

Im not being sexist, Im speaking from a biological standpoint!

 

Look at the nature of orgasm. It's violent and brutal, like the force of a nuclear explosion. All meant to ensure that a male a reproductively successful but LITERALLY PUNCTURING INTO the GASH of a womb of a female and inserting his genetic material. THE MORE VIOLENT a male in the sexual act the MORE CHANCE he has to dominate all the other sperms inside a woman, and the more success he will have at producing offspring, the more virile his offspring will be. That's why women play hard to get, bust our balls, make fun of other men so the man get's so vicious that he increases his rate of copulation when he does finally "CATCH" her (the prey).

Edited February 13, 2011 by Non

[Non]

Seems to me like you're just generalizing based on whatever you see of your family.

 

Though generally I'd say that you shouldn't really be dependent on others to look at how you need to live your life, perhaps you should try and find some better male role models.

 

What is it that you do, Non? What your job, where do you live, who do you hang out with, etc?

 

It seems to me like you need a change of pace. You gotta seriously change up the routine of your life, because it seems to me like you are in a rut. Hang out with different people, find some new hobbies, try to get a different job. Take a risk and move significantly out of your comfort zone.

 

Let go of preconceived notions. Don't psyche yourself out of doing something before you even get a chance to do it. When you meet someone new, forget about everything you know about people, and just get to know THEM. Don't be like, "oh this person won't like me" or "I'm sure I won't relate to this person", because you are going to sabotage yourself by creating a self fulfilling prophecy.

 

You just gotta change something up with your life.

 

I am VERY asocial. I do not socialize with any of the a-holes which are the vast majority of males, even if I could try.. it's always a competition to dominate me and make me yin while they are yang, even if it's unconscious. In every social circle I amthe most yin person.

 

My birthdate is twice as yin as yang, and my constitution is all fucking yin..

 

It's moreso ok if women are more yang that's fine.

[Sloppy Zhang]

You know, only 20 % of men get to have 80 % of the women.

 

Statistically only 40 % of men even get to have some sort of success with women, yet we are related to only 20 percent of the males. 80 percent of women having some have success with men. Starking contrast.

 

And then about 25-30 percent of men die off to equal the number of men of which more are born than women.

 

One can definately assume that it's all inheritance when it comes to success. Inheritance means genetics, which means reproductive success.

 

And a male can be successful in life do great things but as long as he does not get 1 ounce of love or anything from a woman he is not considered biologically worthy of evolutionary continuation.

 

Look at the men and women and see the diffeerence in their bodily structure. Men have the features of brutality and the bodily structure to do EVERYTHING a society needs while a woman's features are BY FAR dominantly for reproductive SERVICE to the MOST BRUTALLY and VIOLENTLY DOMINANT MALES. BY FAR!

 

Im not being sexist, Im speaking from a biological standpoint!

 

Look at the nature of orgasm. It's violent and brutal, like the force of a nuclear explosion. All meant to ensure that a male a reproductively successful but LITERALLY PUNCTURING INTO the GASH of a womb of a female and inserting his genetic material. THE MORE VIOLENT a male in the sexual act the MORE CHANCE he has to dominate all the other sperms inside a woman, and the more success he will have at producing offspring, the more virile his offspring will be. That's why women play hard to get, bust our balls, make fun of other men so the man get's so vicious that he increases his rate of copulation when he does finally "CATCH" her (the prey).

 

Non, you're looking at it from a very skewed perspective.

 

The biological numbers game is a very non-humanist way of looking at the situation. I'll say this once again: if you look at it from that perspective, then if you aren't already having children by the time you can physically reproduce (young teenage years), then you are already behind the curve.

 

And then after you have made a certain amount of children, you can just go ahead and die.

 

Is that really the type of life you want to live?

 

It seems like you are cherry picking data when it supports your own conclusion. This is exactly the type of cognitive bias which can lead to depression and types of warped thinking (which can feed depression). It's a clear sign that you aren't thinking straight.

 

Because on one hand you talk about spirituality and growing spiritually and becoming a better person, but then you turn around and talk about all this biological evolution and stuff- so what is it you want? To succeed biologically? If that's the case, go knock some girl up. And there you go. You've had a kid, and there's no more any purpose to your life. But do you really believe that way, Non? Do you really believe the only reason we're here is to reproduce?

 

I think do to your family situation and the unique way you view biology, you have come up with some interesting thoughts, which don't hold up if you just increase the breadth of your experience.

 

So I'll ask you again: what do you do? Where do you work? Are you undergoing some sort of education/job training? Who do you hang out with? Do you do any of this stuff? Who do you live with? Alone, with roommates, family?

 

Because it sounds like you really need to change things up. You are in a rut, and it is not helping you at all.

[Sloppy Zhang]

I am VERY asocial. I do not socialize with any of the a-holes which are the vast majority of males, even if I could try.. it's always a competition to dominate me and make me yin while they are yang, even if it's unconscious. In every social circle I amthe most yin person.

 

My birthdate is twice as yin as yang, and my constitution is all fucking yin..

 

It's moreso ok if women are more yang that's fine.

 

This all depends entirely on who you are hanging out with. There are lots of guys who just want to establish their dominance. They are very annoying to be around. Because everything you say or do is a perceived threat. It's always just looking for a new chance to escalate the fighting, the conflict, to establish dominance, and everything. People like that just can't take a break from anything. It's tiresome and annoying. And guess what? There are even women who dislike that behavior.

 

You need to find a group of people who don't behave like that.

 

Where do you work, if at all? Where do you go to school, if at all? Who do you live with, if at all?

Edited February 13, 2011 by Sloppy Zhang

[Non]

This all depends entirely on who you are hanging out with. There are lots of guys who just want to establish their dominance. They are very annoying to be around. Because everything you say or do is a perceived threat. It's always just looking for a new chance to escalate the fighting, the conflict, to establish dominance, and everything. People like that just can't take a break from anything. It's tiresome and annoying. And guess what? There are even women who dislike that behavior.

 

You need to find a group of people who don't behave like that.

 

Where do you work, if at all? Where do you go to school, if at all? Who do you live with, if at all?

 

well even if they aren't that way it's still that I'm always yin, and in a situation with a woman, I always lose.

[Non]

Non, you're looking at it from a very skewed perspective.

 

The biological numbers game is a very non-humanist way of looking at the situation. I'll say this once again: if you look at it from that perspective, then if you aren't already having children by the time you can physically reproduce (young teenage years), then you are already behind the curve.

 

And then after you have made a certain amount of children, you can just go ahead and die.

 

Is that really the type of life you want to live?

 

It seems like you are cherry picking data when it supports your own conclusion. This is exactly the type of cognitive bias which can lead to depression and types of warped thinking (which can feed depression). It's a clear sign that you aren't thinking straight.

 

Because on one hand you talk about spirituality and growing spiritually and becoming a better person, but then you turn around and talk about all this biological evolution and stuff- so what is it you want? To succeed biologically? If that's the case, go knock some girl up. And there you go. You've had a kid, and there's no more any purpose to your life. But do you really believe that way, Non? Do you really believe the only reason we're here is to reproduce?

 

I think do to your family situation and the unique way you view biology, you have come up with some interesting thoughts, which don't hold up if you just increase the breadth of your experience.

 

So I'll ask you again: what do you do? Where do you work? Are you undergoing some sort of education/job training? Who do you hang out with? Do you do any of this stuff? Who do you live with? Alone, with roommates, family?

 

Because it sounds like you really need to change things up. You are in a rut, and it is not helping you at all.

 

No actually, I don't want to just knock a woman up. But that's doesn't mean having some female interaction, or a friend or even a partner-companion isn't useful or in fact necessarily for some kind of balance.

[Sloppy Zhang]

well even if they aren't that way it's still that I'm always yin, and in a situation with a woman, I always lose.

 

There is always yang within yin, and yin within yang. It's just a matter of recognizing it, and using it when the time is right.

 

No actually, I don't want to just knock a woman up.

 

Exactly, which is why I think it is silly that you keep on bringing up all these biological arguments and stuff like that- it's not the way you want to live your life, those aren't the standards that you want to set for your life, so your insistence on relying on them to support your argument is silly and self sabotaging.

 

But that's doesn't mean having some female interaction, or a friend or even a partner-companion isn't useful or in fact necessarily for some kind of balance.

 

I completely agree.

 

You need to get into some situations in which you can interact with people of similar interests, but are different in just enough ways that will help you see different aspects of life, to pull you out of the rut you seem to be in.

 

So where, if at all, do you work? Are you in school or job training? Who do you live with? Once you get some kind of a baseline (your current situation), you can start thinking of ways to make a change.

 

These have to be practical and tangible. So to start with, you have to create an honest assessment of where you are at currently. Don't judge yourself. Where you are isn't what's important, because you aren't going to be there forever.

[Astral_Anima]

You know, only 20 % of men get to have 80 % of the women.

 

Statistically only 40 % of men even get to have some sort of success with women, yet we are related to only 20 percent of the males. 80 percent of women having some have success with men. Starking contrast.

 

And then about 25-30 percent of men die off to equal the number of men of which more are born than women.

 

One can definately assume that it's all inheritance when it comes to success. Inheritance means genetics, which means reproductive success.

 

And a male can be successful in life do great things but as long as he does not get 1 ounce of love or anything from a woman he is not considered biologically worthy of evolutionary continuation.

 

Look at the men and women and see the diffeerence in their bodily structure. Men have the features of brutality and the bodily structure to do EVERYTHING a society needs while a woman's features are BY FAR dominantly for reproductive SERVICE to the MOST BRUTALLY DOMINANT MALES. BY FAR!

 

Im not being sexist, Im speaking from a biological standpoint!

 

http://wenku.baidu.com/view/4f50680203d8ce2f006623dc.html

 

Life isn't fair...and thats a GOOD THING, that's where the power's at, it means you can ascend to the highest ranks of the "elites" and get what you're looking for.

 

Non, women...<sigh> forgive me females on this forum, but Non, most women are very weak willed and easy to manipulate and control. Most men are "brutal", they're angry, belligerent, immature, and use fear and physical force to dominate others. HOWEVER, women only "think" they like that. Honestly you can use techniques to completely rewrite what they like and find attractive and appealing, it's not set in stone, the mind is very "changeable". While very few men statistically get most of the women, that means you can be in that "20%". And you don't have to become domineering, angry, controlling, or any of those negative things. Once you understand WHY women are attracted to that, you can dissect what's REALLY going on underneath the bullshit and push the same "buttons" without being a jackass.

 

Women are attracted to social status. Now back in the day that was determined by physical strength, but now it's determined by other things. 1.) Money and the ability to provide for a family 2.) Popularity 3.) Emotional stability 4.)Reliability 5.) Sex

 

Listen to this :

 

It's true as hell and rather funny, lol. But it's been proven to me as true...which means personality isn't as important as one makes it out to be, you can rewrite what they like using simple psychology combined with chemistry

 

Trust me though the top class who REALLY get most of the women are not the "brutal" type. The "brutal" guys end up getting the uneducated, low self esteem women (a sad majority). The true "top class" are the confident and "i really don't care" type of guys. They don't use force cause they don't have to, they have social status which is much more powerful and influential thus they aren't intimidated by anything. Look at fuggin Rick James! that guys was the FARTHEST from "brutal", he was a "love machine" but because he had social status women through themselves at him. Though the world is indeed a "dark" place, it's not hopeless and you're not a victim. Know the truth and the truth will set you free.

 

Best of luck to you

-Astral

 

(The above is based on observations and studies of masses and generalizations, i'm not trying to label anyone as a gender, just identifying trends)

[Non]

http://wenku.baidu.com/view/4f50680203d8ce2f006623dc.html

 

Life isn't fair...and thats a GOOD THING, that's where the power's at, it means you can ascend to the highest ranks of the "elites" and get what you're looking for.

 

Non, women...<sigh> forgive me females on this forum, but Non, most women are very weak willed and easy to manipulate and control. Most men are "brutal", they're angry, belligerent, immature, and use fear and physical force to dominate others. HOWEVER, women only "think" they like that. Honestly you can use techniques to completely rewrite what they like and find attractive and appealing, it's not set in stone, the mind is very "changeable". While very few men statistically get most of the women, that means you can be in that "20%". And you don't have to become domineering, angry, controlling, or any of those negative things. Once you understand WHY women are attracted to that, you can dissect what's REALLY going on underneath the bullshit and push the same "buttons" without being a jackass.

 

Women are attracted to social status. Now back in the day that was determined by physical strength, but now it's determined by other things. 1.) Money and the ability to provide for a family 2.) Popularity 3.) Emotional stability 4.)Reliability 5.) Sex

 

Listen to this :

 

It's true as hell and rather funny, lol. But it's been proven to me as true...which means personality isn't as important as one makes it out to be, you can rewrite what they like using simple psychology combined with chemistry

 

Trust me though the top class who REALLY get most of the women are not the "brutal" type. The "brutal" guys end up getting the uneducated, low self esteem women (a sad majority). The true "top class" are the confident and "i really don't care" type of guys. They don't use force cause they don't have to, they have social status which is much more powerful and influential thus they aren't intimidated by anything. Look at fuggin Rick James! that guys was the FARTHEST from "brutal", he was a "love machine" but because he had social status women through themselves at him. Though the world is indeed a "dark" place, it's not hopeless and you're not a victim. Know the truth and the truth will set you free.

 

Best of luck to you

-Astral

 

(The above is based on observations and studies of masses and generalizations, i'm not trying to label anyone as a gender, just identifying trends)

Yea I know, social status. Thats not what guys want.

 

it seems very superficial, tho especiallyy when it seems those at the top REally ARE the more brutal of men. You don't see buddhists being very popular. At least not in this society. It may depend on the society, but the USA is pretty dominant in the world, which sets the standards for what is popular and what isn't. So then a person just has to be cold, and the "I don't give a flying f*ck if good people are starving and dying, they can die all they want it's keeping me alive" type.

 

Yea they can "not care" but since there's so much brutality in this world it's more like "not giving a fuck" rather than "not being particularly concerned" type.

 

edit: That video by Eddie Murphy is true, and this is exactly what Im talking about. Men are just brutally dominant, they don't care WAHT THE FUCK he does, and that's why no woman can ever be loyal and consistent when it comes to sexuality.

 

 

I ended high school with David DeAngelo. It was my introductin to him that got my this way. That's why I don't want to f*ck with PUA stuff, it's very messed up that men deceive women and use them in this way.

Edited February 13, 2011 by Non

[Sloppy Zhang]

Yea I know, social status. Thats not what guys want.

 

it seems very superficial, tho especiallyy when it seems those at the top REally ARE the more brutal of men. You don't see buddhists being very popular. At least not in this society. It may depend on the society, but the USA is pretty dominant in the world, which sets the standards for what is popular and what isn't. So then a person just has to be cold, and the "I don't give a flying f*ck if good people are starving and dying, they can die all they want it's keeping me alive" type.

 

Yea they can "not care" but since there's so much brutality in this world it's more like "not giving a fuck" rather than "not being particularly concerned" type.

 

So join a volunteer organization if you really care so much.

 

Plenty of nice women work with volunteer and non-profit organizations.

 

Seems like a great way to make a change in a positive way, not work within the confines of a method that you don't really like, AND meet like minded people, all at the same time!