[Please help] Serious Sexual Exhaustion

[Aetherous]

The OP doesn't need to be healed. He just needs to chant the mantras I gave him everyday and live the virtuous life of a monk.

 

I disagree with you completely, tulku.

[mYTHmAKER]

google acupuncture to lower sex drive

[Aaron]

There is this saying.. God only helps those who help themselves..

 

Adam has obviously fought against his negative karma and any obstacles put in his way by the attaching spirits when he finally ask for help in this forum..

 

why didn't he ask for help in this forum 2 years ago? last year? or even last month?..

 

this is because he has not fought hard enough against the forces of evil.. not until today..

 

similarly those addicts who went through their entire lives without the miracle cure aren't fighting hard enough against all the negative karma and obstacles put in their way by attaching spirits..

 

the addicts can't blame me for not reaching out and helping them.. they have to find the will to break out of their addictions before help can be granted..

 

if they have fought hard enough, they would stumble upon this forum or other similar spiritual forums .. and other like-minded souls like me will help them openly..

 

there are quite a few buddhist, taoist and other spiritual forums on the internet btw.. not just this one..

 

Let me be more clear. Adam B. makes a post using the same kind of sentence structure and language that you use on a regular basis. You reply to his post within 15 minutes of it originally coming up, within 20 minutes after that, he has enough time to watch two videos that are over 21 minutes in length and chant whatever you asked him to chant and come to the realization that he was free from his "sexual urges". What I'm saying is that, because you're not getting enough attention from your other threads, you've taken it upon yourself to create an alter ego that suffers from those very conditions you like to preach against. The fact that he is miraculously healed from your advice within 20 minutes of talking to you, and still has enough time to research and watch two videos on Youtube that take longer to watch than the length of time between your post and his (your?) reply, well it just seems HIGHLY improbable (actually impossible) that this would occur and even more so that he would use your same grammatical sentence structure. Remember I was a teacher's assistant while in college, if there's something I can recognize it's when someone's writing sounds uncharacteristically like someone else.

 

Maybe I'm wrong... I don't think I am though. It would be interesting to find out whether or not you and adam b are within the same locality or maybe on the same IP address.

 

Aaron

Edited April 14, 2012 by Twinner

[Moonbar]

I had the same thoughts Twinner - i think your right

[beatthinker]

What your describing is a kidney yang deficiency. Your depleting your kidney yang and spending too much jing. I agree.. you need to see an acupuncturist, preferably one who works with herbs, and if you find something that occupies your mind in trying times, practice that like your life depends on it. It very well may. I do Tai Chi, Qi Gong and Kung Fu. Bless up!!

 

 

 

 

I'm sincerely in need of some serious help.

 

I've been to three different doctors practicing western medicine and two different naturopaths to try to diagnose my problem, but none of them seem to be able to find whats wrong. According to blood tests everything seems normal but I feel very old and feel like I'm dying and i'm only in my late 20s.

 

I've unfortunately been masturbating and ejaculating since I was 10. As I got older I started to masturbate and ejaculate more frequently. From teenager years to early 20s I was ejaculating at least 3 to 6 times a day. Sometimes even 10 times in one day to the point my head and body was completely numb. I was really addicted to pornography from the Internet and was really depressed growing up so masturbating and porn was a way to relieve myself. It has become a vicious, painful and destructive cycle. After ejaculating I would feel really bad and feel life forced drained, I would feel guilty and hate myself. Then after I would tell myself never again, yet fall back into the same cycle. I'm currently 27 now and I think everything has finally caught up, I feel really old and feel like i'm dying quickly and need some serious help.

 

Some current symptoms:

 

- I've lost massive weight, I use to be a healthy weight but lost over 20 lbs. It's just last year that has been really serious. All my friends and family members think I look like an old skinny man and anorexia. My face is completely sunken in and my chest is sunken in so that my rib cage, sternum, and bones all show.

 

I lost a lot of muscle mass and fat. I basically look like an old skinny drug addict. But I don't do any drugs and eat a lot and a lot of food. But still not gaining anything back. I feel somehow that the frequent ejaculation has eaten away at my own flesh/fat and now there is almost nothing left. A recent test at the doctors revealed that I have very very low body fat, I think it was only 9% total body fat compare to the healthy average person that is suppose to be at least 18% for men.

 

- My hands, feet and entire body is almost always cold. Even if I eat warm food it will turn back cold after. I really really dislike cold weather, wind and even when it's warm out I feel cold. I don't remember feeling like this when I was younger. I always need to over dress to keep decently warm, yet still have cold hands and feet. It's so sad that I feel I can't go out most of the time because feel so weak and vulnerable to the weather.

 

- I have really bad allergies to the point I can't open my eyes, my nose is running like crazy and I just can't focus. It feels my liver is exhausted. Allergies seems to be extreme sensitivity to environment, pollution, dust, sugar and other certain foods

 

- I get frustrated and angry really really easily

 

- My hair is turning white, I have never had white hair before but now it seems like multiplying like crazy

 

- I feel scared to meet people and to go out, I feel I lack willpower and the ability to make decisions

 

- I get weird head pressure, like blood stuck in my head and nose and also frequently get nose bleeds

 

- My skin is very dry throughout entire body, my nose is dry, and mouth is dry

 

- Breathing is sometimes difficult, nose is almost always blocked from stuffy or runny nose

 

- Heart palpatations sometimes

 

- Body feels very weak, I can barely lift or do anything without feeling some pain or body shaking

 

- My memory, ability to think, be creative and overall brain power seems to have diminished, I feel so stupid and senile. I remember when I was young I was really bright, quick and fast to think

 

- It's very hard to be excited and happy about anything. I feel like life is so gray even on a bright sunny day. It's almost as if I'm losing the will to live

 

I've been in serious depression, crying and searching desperately for help and solution to problem. It seems all the healthy food I try to eat or excercises to gain weight are not helping at all. I feel like I'm running out of options. To be frank and honest I'm scared of dying and scared of feeling and being old.

 

If there is someone out there who can offer advice or help of any sort. Perhaps possible chi kung practice, meditation, herbs, herb formulas, healing, medical help, or anything else please let me know.

 

Thank you sincerely for your time and help.

[Jetsun]

Let me be more clear. Adam B. makes a post using the same kind of sentence structure and language that you use on a regular basis. You reply to his post within 15 minutes of it originally coming up, within 20 minutes after that, he has enough time to watch two videos that are over 21 minutes in length and chant whatever you asked him to chant and come to the realization that he was free from his "sexual urges". What I'm saying is that, because you're not getting enough attention from your other threads, you've taken it upon yourself to create an alter ego that suffers from those very conditions you like to preach against. The fact that he is miraculously healed from your advice within 20 minutes of talking to you, and still has enough time to research and watch two videos on Youtube that take longer to watch than the length of time between your post and his (your?) reply, well it just seems HIGHLY improbable (actually impossible) that this would occur and even more so that he would use your same grammatical sentence structure. Remember I was a teacher's assistant while in college, if there's something I can recognize it's when someone's writing sounds uncharacteristically like someone else.

 

Maybe I'm wrong... I don't think I am though. It would be interesting to find out whether or not you and adam b are within the same locality or maybe on the same IP address.

 

Aaron

 

That was my first thought

[C T]

Will the real slim shady please stand up.. please stand up?

 

 

[Birch]

That was my first thought

Me2:-)

[Owledge]

So... did someone message a moderator/admin about checking the internet origin of both members? Would make a lot of agree/disagree posts unnecessary and would be more fair when you state a suspicion.

[thelerner]

Wow, the thought never crossed my mind.

 

<puts on rose colored glasses>

 

Maybe the chant just worked fast.

 

Ultimately who cares, so what, que sera sera.

 

 

Oooaoommmmnnnhh.

ah I feel better already.

 

Though I have to admit the youtube link showing the young woman doing groin stretches seriously endangered my sexual exhaustion.

[tulku]

I would argue that the biggest prize in this life is to overcome all the causes of fear, ignorance and delusion. Thinking that samsara is something to be subdued (so as to gain a prize) is not exactly what Buddhism teaches. Instead, the Buddha advised those who seek to end their torment to systematically plant virtuous seeds in body, speech and mind and nurture positive habits just as a farmer tends mindfully to a newly-plough'ed, fertile piece of land. Freedom from Samsara is an illusion, its mara, simply another chain that binds. It makes people yearn for a state which does not truly exist, and thus remain bound in the desire realms.

 

As Shantideva said, "The hostile multitudes are as vast as space. What chance is there that all will be subdued? Let but this fearful mind be pacified, then and there every foe is destroyed."

 

what you have just described is freedom of samara aka breaking the cycle of birth and death..

[tulku]

Let me be more clear. Adam B. makes a post using the same kind of sentence structure and language that you use on a regular basis. You reply to his post within 15 minutes of it originally coming up, within 20 minutes after that, he has enough time to watch two videos that are over 21 minutes in length and chant whatever you asked him to chant and come to the realization that he was free from his "sexual urges". What I'm saying is that, because you're not getting enough attention from your other threads, you've taken it upon yourself to create an alter ego that suffers from those very conditions you like to preach against. The fact that he is miraculously healed from your advice within 20 minutes of talking to you, and still has enough time to research and watch two videos on Youtube that take longer to watch than the length of time between your post and his (your?) reply, well it just seems HIGHLY improbable (actually impossible) that this would occur and even more so that he would use your same grammatical sentence structure. Remember I was a teacher's assistant while in college, if there's something I can recognize it's when someone's writing sounds uncharacteristically like someone else.

 

Maybe I'm wrong... I don't think I am though. It would be interesting to find out whether or not you and adam b are within the same locality or maybe on the same IP address.

 

Aaron

 

trust me Adam doesn't use the same sentence structure as me.. just check out his last and first post..

 

you can ask the mods if we have the same ip address..

[Dainin]

[tulku]

to tell you the truth,, i think most of us in here rightly suspect adam to be a troll..

 

negative spirits do not leave a human being that easily..

 

especially not with the extent of abuse in adam's case..

Edited April 15, 2012 by tulku

[Owledge]

Quite a bit of writing effort for a troll.

And as mentioned before, who knows that those mantras did. The context can be very special. There are so many possibilities and variables.

[Adam B.]

hey everyone thank you for your continued support and help

 

Yes, if there is a moderator or admin please check our ips to verify. I don't think i've ever met Tulku before at least not in this life time. Though Tulku thank you again for being who you are and having wrote what you did, it literally has changed the direction of my life.

 

Everything that happened was real, I'm not here to play games and waste so much time writing all this. I sincerely needed help. With the good turn of things I feel so blessed and wanted those who are in the same shoes to be able to find some help. Maybe the mantras will work for you, maybe not. But there were also many other great suggestions, advice and exercises to do and take that others have contributed so please explore them all.

 

Like life, there are many paths, and choices, just as there are many religions and martial arts and chi kung practices. None are ultimately right or wrong, but all seem to take to the same place. The mantra out of the blue work at the unexpected moment. and I think the most incredible things usually work like that when it is the most unexpected, least expect, where the mind does not concieve, life brings a surprise.

 

I can't believe many are so skeptical, I understand where you are coming from though. As things that seem too good to be true, and yes there is a lot of bs out there. But honestly every word I write, even now I'm writing from my heart. I wish you could be there to see what happened, I don't want to sound like a spirtiual or religious freak, but after what I experienced I'm a believer, there is definitely way more out there then what meets the eye.

 

Based on the comments I'm feeling people may be really stuck in their way of thinking, like the world can only this way or so and so because I read and perceived it that way, or experienced it that way. That I see the world from a tibetian perspective, a taoist, a scientific, or whatever it may be. We get so caught up in the knowledge we read and the reality bubble we create that we forget to accept all possiblities. Didn't someone like socrates once say to know is to not know? I think he alluded that we have to remind ourselves to have a sense of wonder in the world like children. Where anything is possible, new, unexpect, etc. They also have a similar saying about having the mind completely empty and not full.

 

I've been through a lot of pain and suffering with the sexual addiction and was at very low point and was pretty much knocking on death's door. Then the miracle even't with the mantra. I'm not saying it cured, though I hope it did. Its only been a day so far. But so far things have been greatly improving. Im not from a tibetan background and don't believe in mantras by the way, but it was wonderful how life used mantras as way to show me other possiblities to respect all other aspects of life. That life doesn't just come in the way I think it does, but can come in many infinite ways that the mind can never dream or conceive.

 

Just an update, not much but today I finally met the girl I was talking about and we just chatted up like old friends and it was a really good couple hour chat and walk around a park. I was scared to have a conversation and felt like there was good bonding and friendship in a communication way. Before it was so difficult to have conversations with people, thats if I could even get to the scenario of chatting with people. I would always not be fully focused, worried or self concisence.

 

However today I also had a negative thing, my allergies were still pretty bad and I couldn't breath. I don't know if this is a side effect of whats happening or something I ate, but my chest felt really tight and breathing passage really tight, as if I had ashma and the whole day felt it really hard to breath, just gasping for air. My pulse has also slowed down.

 

Above all if there is any summary for what I've learnt so far I would have to say is: Fearless. Live life fearlessly, the biggest obstacle is our mind which seems to be where the fear comes from. Be fearless and you will live in freedom, even in the midst of pain and suffering and being bothered by the hard breathing, I was fearless in the sense that I accepted the moment of what life offered and in that acceptance I somehow found peace. And then it came to pass and now I'm able to breath more easy now. I dont want to sound like i'm throwing philosophies out there or ideologies, sorry if I'am. Just take it for what it is, if it rings true to your heart then may it bless you, if not then move on and may you find what works for your way!

 

I will keep you guys posted and bring up any challenges that come, and hope this place continues to be a place of healing and help.

 

Again thank you to everyone out there who has been offering help, support and advice. You guys feel like my angels and brothers, honestly I feel so blessed. Thank you again.

[Owledge]

Although this looks like a preachy outburst , why hold back when it comes from the heart?

These writings of yours might be very useful to yourself later, for re-reading them as a refresher during not so pleasant times.

 

I assume that this simple mantra might have had such a profound effect because things looked so grim. You know, when things are clearly messed up, it's easy to improve something. When a misery is more subtle, it might be difficult to even see the problem in the first place.

An all-time low can be a blessing I guess. It's a bit like with society. As long as the misery is not growing quickly to an extreme, people learn to adapt and bear the pain.

[FieryWind]

Hello Adam,

 

It's unfortunate that you are experiencing such problems and difficulties, you should be strong, full of energy and vitality at your age.

 

When we don't do much, we accumulate a lot of energy, and we know that the sexual energy is constantly building up in our bodies, until it reaches the stage where it draws our attention away from our surroundings and pushes us to act, the pleasurable sensations that are produced when working with this energy are irresistible to us, thus it can be incredibly difficult to abstain from indulging in it, especially if we are accustomed to indulging in it multiple times a day, everyday.

 

We form an addiction to the pleasurable sensations that are experienced through the orgasm, if you take your physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual health seriously then you should start managing your sexual energy with mindfulness and control, don't spend it as quickly as it arrives, that is absolutely fruitless!

 

Rather, if your ultimate aim is to develop spiritually, then you should utilize this energy to fuel your practices, if we have no energy, if we have exhausted our powerhouse, our generator, then we cannot illuminate our practices.

 

Look at animals for instance, they are not having sex five times a day everyday, certain animals may do this when they are in heat but that is a relatively short amount of time when compared to a full year, some of us are doing this daily for many years, no wonder we get sick easily, are exhausted and have a myriad of psychological, emotional and physical disorders.

 

I have linked you to some Pranayama practices, you can find the link down below, basically through Pranayama you are transmuting your own sexual energy, this transmuted energy will in turn help to heal your mind, emotion and body as well as to fuel your spiritual practices, so rather than letting it out, your using it in a holistic way.

 

"The bliss of not expelling the seed [through orgasm] destroys the fear of death and is the fourth face of the guru, or the gnosis vajra. This is a confirmation of the yoga meditations. - Vimalaprabha, Stainless Light, The Great Commentary" by Pundarika

 

And the Dalai Lama's view:

 

"Actually, [..] the sexual organ is utilized, but the energy movement which is taking place is, in the end, fully controlled. The energy should never be let out. This energy must be controlled and eventually returned to other parts of the body. And here we can see there is a kind of special connection with celibacy" - Quoted from "The Good Heart," H.H. the Dalai Lama

 

"Although I am using this ordinary term, sexual climax, it does not imply the ordinary sexual act. The reference here is to the experience of entering into union with a consort of the opposite sex, by means of which the elements at the crown are melted, and through the power of Meditation the process is also reversed. A prerequisite of such a practice is that you should be able to protect yourself from the fault of seminal emission. According to the explanation of the Kalachakra Tantra in particular, such emission is said to be very damaging to your practice. Therefore, because you should not experience emission even in dreams, the tantras describe different techniques for overcoming this fault." - The 14th Dalai Lama

 

Note that the Dalai Lama classifies the emission of semen or orgasm as a fault implying that it is not a healthy practice.

 

References

Sacred Sex

Sexual Organs and Hormones

 

Getting Started

Techniques to Cultivate the Sexual Energy for Single Students

 

Anyhow I hope that this information helps you to get better!

Edited April 15, 2012 by FieryWind

[Gerard]

Yesterday night, I had a really difficult time to sleep. My body was itchy all over, felt like bed bugs and mites were all over. I never had this issue before. And my neck, particular right front side of neck was itching often. I also felt certain unease in the body at certain points. But I'm hoping all this is the detox or body fixing itself.

 

Yes Qi rewiring itself after all this addictive behaviour which has caused blockages in your energetic system.

 

Then a crazy thing happened, I checked my phone and there was a txt from a girl I haven't seen for almost a year. She's not my ex, girlfriend or anything, just a girl who is a friend of a friend of mine. I use to always hate the girl and we would get into conflicts and misunderstanding. But today she messaged me out of the blue, and I was so joyful to hear from her. I wanted to meet and greet her, and hug her and forgive her for everything! We plan to meet up today just to catch up, i'll keep you posted on how this goes.

 

Sure, it will be interesting to see the real meaning of this meeting. Please do keep us informed.

 

I wish I could drink milk and consume dairy products, but for some reason I think i'm allergic or my body doesn't react well. I get running nose, mucous etc. I've been trying to find raw, grass fed cow milk and products.

 

Good to see your diet is OK, just milk and yoghourt are not a very friendly products of the spleen because they cause dampness and will produce a lot of phlegm and Qi stagnation in that organ. Stick to solid warm food mainly alkaline in nature. Rice, green leafy vegetables, low consumption of seasonal fruits, legumes, fish, organic poultry and the occasional organic red meat source (if you are not a vegetarian).

 

 

The creative aspect is what made me love it, to have fun and create, but I hate it because of the lies it creates, the pressure, the stress, the deadlines and the excessive use of computer and digital equipment which seems to suck my life source at times, especially the eyes.

 

The liver opens in the eyes. The excessive fire in your mind burns the liver Qi (wood)

 

But all the damn ads on the internet have ridiculous sexually provacative ads, half the women in the city dress so slutty (i don't blame women as it may not be their fault, it may be influence from media, other people, education, culture etc) half the content on the net from music videos to movies all contain the triggers.

 

You know, acknowledge them and see them as they are: part of maya, the great illusion we all live in. They are great teachers though, you have attracted lust in your life to the excess because that is your most innermost demon.

 

Please watch this great Dharma talk if you can:

 

 

Life is constantly riddled with difficulties and challenges, and it is our duty to learn from them.

 

But in your particular case, you still need to clean your mind from all this gunk using energetic work. Try the opening exercises I suggested earlier and also seated meditation between 4-7pm (just before, during and right after sunset times as it is when bladder and kidney Qi are most active), this will rise water energy and flush the liver and gallbladder at the same time.

[johndoe2012]

Entities are quite real and should be flushed since they are sucking on your life force, read the stories at Jenny Lamb's webpage.

 

Unfortunately the parts of the mind that attract such entities are normally unconscious so it is difficult to get rid of the attraction part.

 

I guess the unconscious part is the non-virtuous part of us so chanting, energy work, stopping ignorance at the root level all help to clear up this.

 

Shielding your energy body is also recommended, especially if you meditate in your bed.

[tulku]

hey everyone thank you for your continued support and help

 

Yes, if there is a moderator or admin please check our ips to verify. I don't think i've ever met Tulku before at least not in this life time. Though Tulku thank you again for being who you are and having wrote what you did, it literally has changed the direction of my life.

 

Everything that happened was real, I'm not here to play games and waste so much time writing all this. I sincerely needed help. With the good turn of things I feel so blessed and wanted those who are in the same shoes to be able to find some help. Maybe the mantras will work for you, maybe not. But there were also many other great suggestions, advice and exercises to do and take that others have contributed so please explore them all.

 

Like life, there are many paths, and choices, just as there are many religions and martial arts and chi kung practices. None are ultimately right or wrong, but all seem to take to the same place. The mantra out of the blue work at the unexpected moment. and I think the most incredible things usually work like that when it is the most unexpected, least expect, where the mind does not concieve, life brings a surprise.

 

I can't believe many are so skeptical, I understand where you are coming from though. As things that seem too good to be true, and yes there is a lot of bs out there. But honestly every word I write, even now I'm writing from my heart. I wish you could be there to see what happened, I don't want to sound like a spirtiual or religious freak, but after what I experienced I'm a believer, there is definitely way more out there then what meets the eye.

 

Based on the comments I'm feeling people may be really stuck in their way of thinking, like the world can only this way or so and so because I read and perceived it that way, or experienced it that way. That I see the world from a tibetian perspective, a taoist, a scientific, or whatever it may be. We get so caught up in the knowledge we read and the reality bubble we create that we forget to accept all possiblities. Didn't someone like socrates once say to know is to not know? I think he alluded that we have to remind ourselves to have a sense of wonder in the world like children. Where anything is possible, new, unexpect, etc. They also have a similar saying about having the mind completely empty and not full.

 

I've been through a lot of pain and suffering with the sexual addiction and was at very low point and was pretty much knocking on death's door. Then the miracle even't with the mantra. I'm not saying it cured, though I hope it did. Its only been a day so far. But so far things have been greatly improving. Im not from a tibetan background and don't believe in mantras by the way, but it was wonderful how life used mantras as way to show me other possiblities to respect all other aspects of life. That life doesn't just come in the way I think it does, but can come in many infinite ways that the mind can never dream or conceive.

 

Just an update, not much but today I finally met the girl I was talking about and we just chatted up like old friends and it was a really good couple hour chat and walk around a park. I was scared to have a conversation and felt like there was good bonding and friendship in a communication way. Before it was so difficult to have conversations with people, thats if I could even get to the scenario of chatting with people. I would always not be fully focused, worried or self concisence.

 

However today I also had a negative thing, my allergies were still pretty bad and I couldn't breath. I don't know if this is a side effect of whats happening or something I ate, but my chest felt really tight and breathing passage really tight, as if I had ashma and the whole day felt it really hard to breath, just gasping for air. My pulse has also slowed down.

 

Above all if there is any summary for what I've learnt so far I would have to say is: Fearless. Live life fearlessly, the biggest obstacle is our mind which seems to be where the fear comes from. Be fearless and you will live in freedom, even in the midst of pain and suffering and being bothered by the hard breathing, I was fearless in the sense that I accepted the moment of what life offered and in that acceptance I somehow found peace. And then it came to pass and now I'm able to breath more easy now. I dont want to sound like i'm throwing philosophies out there or ideologies, sorry if I'am. Just take it for what it is, if it rings true to your heart then may it bless you, if not then move on and may you find what works for your way!

 

I will keep you guys posted and bring up any challenges that come, and hope this place continues to be a place of healing and help.

 

Again thank you to everyone out there who has been offering help, support and advice. You guys feel like my angels and brothers, honestly I feel so blessed. Thank you again.

 

 

 

- My memory, ability to think, be creative and overall brain power seems to have diminished, I feel so stupid and senile. I remember when I was young I was really bright, quick and fast to think

 

 

You write too much for someone whose overall brain power is diminished.

[konchog uma]

 

If there is someone out there who can offer advice or help of any sort. Perhaps possible chi kung practice, meditation, herbs, herb formulas, healing, medical help, or anything else please let me know.

 

 

stop masturbating

[Moderator team]

Tulku isnt on the same IP as AdamB, there is an alternative username here at the same IP address as AdamB, due to the nature of this topic we arent going to share the details of the other username.

[DanC]

Reduce masturbation to once per day or every second day, do the deer exercise, meditate, workout...

[Birch]

Tulku isnt on the same IP as AdamB, there is an alternative username here at the same IP address as AdamB, due to the nature of this topic we arent going to share the details of the other username.

 

Good thing. Isn't there some privacy involved in keeping posters' IPs confidential? Please move this question if necessary:-)