A tale of Daoist sexual interests

[Songtsan]

Songstan, consider organizing your writings in your very own TTB personal practice forum & share yourself until you next Saturn return. This thread is waaay off topic from the OP's very interesting post.

 

true, but then again many of the threads around here get way off topic...and my original reply was way on topic....like i said I have a chip on my shoulder about things like this. Yes, I am defending myself. I get defensive sometimes, when under attack from multiple fronts...Its kind of like if people start throwing snowballs at you, you start making your own snowballs to throw back.

[Songtsan]

Songstan, consider organizing your writings in your very own TTB personal practice forum & share yourself until your next Saturn Return. This thread is waaay off topic from the OP's very interesting post.

 

...also, this is not a matter of personal practice - it wouldn't make sense to put it there..people get into debates in a lot of the threads around here...I see debates in about 4-5 of the major threads at the top of the list currently...Cat's reply to me was off-topic - it was a personal statement of dislike of a part of my personality...there is no better place to reply to such a statement than in the thread it was posted in...same goes for any of the other complaints against me...if all you people posting your negative views against me were so much better than me, then perhaps you should call it quits, as I am seriouly getting pissed off.

Edited July 3, 2013 by Songtsan

[Songtsan]

iirc, cat's post was one word. Not a manifesto.

 

one word or 100 words, intent was negative and unproductive...and she posted it twice...it wasn't the only post either....no one likes being ganged up on. No one likes being told they are not good enough. I have no idea why this is even continuing, all I was asking for was forgiveness for being who I am and some understanding that I am not like everyone else. Do you think I wanted to spend my night going over this? I happen to be extremely sensitive, suffer from paranoid delusions, have schizophrenia and bipolar and EID (Emotional Intensity Disorder). It's not fun, let me tell you that. I am not sorry for being who I am, I just wish others would find some acceptance for me is all. I am not saying that you or anyone else are completely unaccepting of me, but hating the part is in the way, hating the whole, as parts can't be separated. This is ridiculous anyways...I think I am done. As far as I am concerned, Cat's post and the others that followed were insensitive and scornful. I don't come here to be belittled. I have no problem with others debating with me in my beliefs, but when people start attacking me personally, I get a little twerked.

Edited July 3, 2013 by Songtsan

[Wu Ming Jen]

to me it simply meant - give her pleasure, do a good job, enjoy sharing intimacy, etc. which is perfectly fine in my book. Takes all kinds. I am who I am, and you may judge me as you please. I enjoy myself, personally. I can't be everyone's ideal of perfection, not even my own. I am basically a little bit twisted, more so than most. I do not try to hide this. You can practice acceptance or reject me, and deal with the choice on your own. I personally had no intent to offend and did not think twice about what I posted - it was basically fine by me. I understand that not everyone is as carefree and open about life as me. I am the kind of guy who would sit in the cemetery covered in ashes, drinking out of a skull bowl.

I was just playing sausage wars, thanks for playing.

[Wu Ming Jen]

When we enforce our views as absolute we become idealist. A non absolute ideal that is subject to change and not enforced on others I would think to be healthy. Idealist is a crime against all humanity by not embracing the whole.

[liminal_luke]

 

 

"Work her good" is a male dominating (in control) concept and should be rejected by any female that would read that.

Everybodies different, but I say sexuality isn't only soft kisses and a gentle caress. Sometimes, male or female, we appreciate when our partners "work us good" and ask for exactly that. Sometimes to do just that is the most loving, sensitive thing we can do, all appearances to the contrary. To refuse to acknowledge this aspect of our erotic existence is to take some of the juice out of sex, and frankly, we need all the juice we can get.

[Songtsan]

Everybodies different, but I say sexuality isn't only soft kisses and a gentle caress. Sometimes, male or female, we appreciate when our partners "work us good" and ask for exactly that. Sometimes to do just that is the most loving, sensitive thing we can do, all appearances to the contrary. To refuse to acknowledge this aspect of our erotic existence is to take some of the juice out of sex, and frankly, we need all the juice we can get.

 

Also, there is this: men tend to be more randy, they like porn more than erotica (in general), while women tend to be more sensual - they tend to like erotica more than porn. If I had said 'make sweet love' instead of 'get her done,' no one would have complained I imagine, so it is a matter of aesthetics and learned taste. The intent behind the meaning is exactly the same, but from different language sets. Mine was simply flippant and whimsical, making light of a sacred thing, because that brings the sacred into normal reality instead of elevating it onto a pedestal. This is simply the age old battle of the gender lines. Many women like being dominated (as do many men), and many men like to dominate (as do women), but it is a joke that stays in the bedroom mainly..unless you are a scenester. There is no harm in expressing male dominating concepts lightly in the spirit of play. Relatively speaking. Saying anything absolutely is fraught with internal error from the get-go. The true fact is, at least from my observations, that a good percentage of women tend to 'top from the bottom' and their men don't mind at all, because it is actually fun to serve your lover. It's what makes love relationships interesting - the two-way street of energy-exchange. Sometimes in order to have a correct balance of YinYang energy exchange in relationships, one must polarize gender identities - especially if both partners aren't perfectly YInYang balanced within. So extreme polarity works good on many levels, if the people are well matched.