White Wolf Posted May 1, 2013 Hi everyone, Sorry for opening yet another topic on sexuality, I see there are many already. I saw that there is much discussion on sexuality and I wanted to share a website which basically offers a 21 Day Challenge. Each day you get an email with a short video to support you (it’s all free as far as I know). So instead of trying to go with the big 100 days, you can try something shorter and see what results you gain. I’ll copy and paste the link and some info below; it would be nice to do a group challenge and support each other and see what benefits we gain. I'm not affiliated with that particular school of tantra in any way, I play around with tantra and think I found a really useful tool and like to see what others think of it. http://21daychallenge.com/ "Imagine increasing your sexual stamina, erotic connection and intensity of orgasm – in just 21 days. With the Advanced Sex™ 21 day challenge you no longer have to settle for basic sex. These are just a few of the results you can achieve from taking the challenge: Learn how to reach & sustain 20 minute full-body orgasms More lustful and loving sexual desire Deepened sexual attraction to your lover Men become harder and last longer than ever before The Challenge More than 95% of us are in constant orgasm hangover – without even knowing it. And worse, the hangover lasts for 17 days – causing anger & conflict in relationship, tiredness, less attraction in our long-term relationships and low energy, just to mention a few. To test how the regular orgasm hangover affects you, take the 21 Day Challenge AND stay sexually active. This one little sacrifice of the regular 5 second orgasm is extremely rewarding: Benefits: More energy Cures most erectile disfunction More attracted to your partner Less grumpy Positive Happy like a child but fully sexual Relaxed horniness Cures most premature ejaculation More forgiving and open hearted – even spiritually Less emotional roller coasters Can produce womb orgasm and full body orgasm." Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
h.uriahr Posted May 1, 2013 I'll try it with you. Mine will have to officially start tomorrow though. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
White Wolf Posted May 1, 2013 I'm on day 2, most I've ever done is 14 days so 21 days should be a challenge lol Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
h.uriahr Posted May 1, 2013 My wife is pregnant so everyday is a surprise, she's either killing me or mounting me I'll do my best to hold out....*gulp* 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie Posted May 1, 2013 (edited) Hey Wolf I took a look at that website and if your goal is increasing sexual potency and experience then I think its a good way to go. But my real point is that I think a lot of the confusing and debate in a lot of these kinds of retention posts in TTB's stems from the fact that there are several different types of retention, sexual, and/or celibacy practices all with different goals and methods. Some systems are good on a health and performance level. Others are more purely spiritual as far as goals and methods go such as what monks do. So I think its important for one to identify their goals as far as sexual practice goes and once that is accomplished there will be less confusion as some of the various methods while fine for their own purposes are contraindicated with another method. (I sure hope that made sense and did not sound like random babble as I'm fasting again and my mind is a little spacey lol) *but yea if your goal is more potency I think this will get you want you want. ;-) Edited May 1, 2013 by dmattwads 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydog Posted May 1, 2013 (edited) im on 68 days...dont plan to watch porn/non sexual ejaculation/masturbate again.. condition the mind to extreme view in order to gain balance.. Edited May 1, 2013 by sinansencer 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BaguaKicksAss Posted May 1, 2013 I made it 6 weeks . Then my energy got too out of sorts. I'll try again sometime. After I ask my teacher how to fix my energy while doing this. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie Posted May 1, 2013 (edited) I made it 6 weeks . Then my energy got too out of sorts. I'll try again sometime. After I ask my teacher how to fix my energy while doing this. It kind of goes back to what I was saying. What is the goal? Of course abstinence alone does not really do a whole lot of anything. Its celibacy (including mental... which is tougher) and the cultivation of emptiness that does the trick (assuming your goal is spiritual in nature) http://www.meditationexpert.com/yoga-kung-fu/y_celibacy_difficulties_in_spiritual_cultivation.htm Edited May 1, 2013 by dmattwads 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BaguaKicksAss Posted May 1, 2013 (edited) The goal is purely health orientated. For me in particular I mean. I meant to quote the above comment. Edited May 1, 2013 by BaguaKicksAss 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie Posted May 1, 2013 The goal is purely health orientated. For me in particular I mean. I meant to quote the above comment. I see, so what happened to your energy? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RiverSnake Posted May 2, 2013 Been look into integrating my retention practice with sex. Gonna be a new challenge for me, gotta find a lovely lady first though. My 2 cents, Peace Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oildrops Posted May 2, 2013 21 days is doable for me. Any more than that and I start to feel unhealthy....in my pants. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oildrops Posted May 2, 2013 "I feel so much hornier now, and I want to have sex every day" hahahaha yeah no shit. I think this website is gear toward people with different goals as myself. I am not going to sign up and get the support emails, but starting tomorrow I will do another 3 weeks. While I don't believe it's good for young men to retain for long periods of time if I do retain I focus much more on yoga and qigong out of necessity. Which then makes me have less desire to drink and get stoned. So it's good for my health overall, until my prostate starts to hurt, then it's usually time for a bit of self lovin. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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RiverSnake Posted May 2, 2013 Going to give this a go, but was wondering about something: The link provided in the O.P says that it takes 17 days to get over "orgasm hangover", but I've seen other sources that say it actually takes only 7 days or so for the energy to reach its peak, which of those is more accurate? Either way, it will be a challenge for sure: Even after 3-5 days my system is really pumped up. I'll also have to start tomorrow... It agree with the 17 days. Although you tend to get over the initial lethargy In a week.....you still just don't feel the same energetically for a week or two. My 2 cents, Peace 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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Cheshire Cat Posted May 2, 2013 It's 21 days of retention... or retention + sexual exercise? I suspect that they start with retention and then try to sell you weird exercises... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Neophyte Posted May 2, 2013 I'm getting close to the 21 days; I'm in the middle of Day 16 right now. I feel great! No sexual desire or interest. Full of energy, confidence and concentration. However, this is far from what I've achieved before: I once made it over 90 consecutive days. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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Vanir Thunder Dojo Tan Posted May 3, 2013 bandwagon: jumpped; 5/2/2013, day one. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oildrops Posted May 3, 2013 yea so i guess ill start again tomorrow ... I had a nocturnal emission at around 21 days last time I went that long, and I felt different for sure. I didn't feel like I was buzzing like I had been before. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vanir Thunder Dojo Tan Posted May 3, 2013 i cant not masturbate :\ this is peculiar... at arousal, i cannot ignore it, in bed i cannot be non-aroused. honestly dont know why im automatically aroused like that for no reason at all :S But the self control aspect of not masturbating.... i cant not masturbate. lol i cant keep my hands off myself. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites