How to let negative energy flow through your being and not be affected by it? (destructive family environment)

[4bsolute]

Hello dear ones,

 

when we get more and more realized how vibrations work and how everyones energy affect us constantly... How do we learn to let those negative energies, that at a certain point can really be felt in your body (for me especially in my face, nerves and tissue), not affect us? How do we simply let them flow through us, as if we were not made out of dense matter?

 

I understand the concept of water referred to the human system and how we can integrate that concept into our very being, so that we more and more behave like the element of water. That we become formless. We simply have to remove our resistance in our selves. No resistance and nothing sticks to us. But how can we still maintain acceptance and dont fall into ignorancy? And in those very difficult times when we are enganged in a heavy arguement keep our intention at that very essential humane levels?

 

I am aware that we Have To understand our emotions and learn to watch them as an observer to not identify further with them. There is no way around it. But I am not fully realized on this topic yet.

 

And my intention is not to ignore other beings, like I am told constantly by other people who see me in those situations. Because this is not my nature. Nothing in the universe ignores other beings except human beings tend at a certain point to develop ignorancy. Every sentient being will tell you that to ignore another being just because you want to conserve a good mood is nothing else than betrayal on the own sacred species.

 

IT IS HARD to learn this RIGHT IN AN ARGUEMENT but to come out of an arguement and not have been involved therein feels SO fantastic! This is what I have lately discovered. Sure my emotions got knocked somewhere around the room while being yelled at... but coming out of it... it is like a tiny rebirth somehow. Like someone or something silently lets you know that it was a good thing to not get involved (but I am still somehow trying to figure out how to do this exactly, happens rather randomly) and still were there for the other person.

 

I know many people will ask, how can you be there for someone who is aggressive towards you? Isn't that a paradox? THIS, is real learning. At the most fundamental level. No theory helps at that point, right at the mouth of the lion.

 

So yeah, I am really curious how anyone of you more realized beings, deal with such situations?

 

How to let negative energy flow through you and not be affected by it, while being enganged in a destructive family environment? Regardless all enlightened teachers, I stick to the to creed that you are only as enlightened as the most seemingly unenlightened being. We are here to help, not to raise defensive shields.

 

My goal really is to keep my possitive aspects even in a fight and show compassion to other people and show that I understand them but at the same time I dont want to be dragged down emotionally and feel the negative impact of those energies.

 

Is that conservative? I want to raise my frequencies, yes. Shall I play silent monk and run into the woods? These centuries are over. We are born in this day and age to learn spirituality in it's most difficult area - a society in which we feel separateness like nowhere else. I am aware of that. It's just not so easy at times, when you lack certain wisdom and insights.

 

 

Thank you very much for your interest in reading and replying.

Edited May 20, 2013 by 4bsolute

[Maddie]

I guess the answer to not be affected by anything is to not cling to it, but rather to let it go. :-)

[Subtle]

This:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d7IIaOeVyWw

 

[Jetsun]

It's a good question, I think one way is to refine your energy to a level above the lower chakras so in a sense you are above all the conflict of the lower levels so you have less attachment and identity invested in that area so it is easy to let it go. I think to get to that level though you have to have a lot of discipline and do a lot of meditation.

 

The Vedanta type guys would probably say that if you let go of your own story and beliefs then you wont be affected by any of it as you will see it all as a big fictional drama like watching a soap on tv, you just take a step back and realise that ultimately its not real. But to do that you have to give up your investment in all your own stuff first.

[4bsolute]

 

This:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d7IIaOeVyWw

 

Deep. Perfect theory, needs to be integrated. Thank you very much.

 

It's a good question, I think one way is to refine your energy to a level above the lower chakras so in a sense you are above all the conflict of the lower levels so you have less attachment and identity invested in that area so it is easy to let it go. I think to get to that level though you have to have a lot of discipline and do a lot of meditation.

 

The Vedanta type guys would probably say that if you let go of your own story and beliefs then you wont be affected by any of it as you will see it all as a big fictional drama like watching a soap on tv, you just take a step back and realise that ultimately its not real. But to do that you have to give up your investment in all your own stuff first.

 

The Vedanta type guys you name them seem then to be ignorant. I tell people the reality. Not "my" reality, the reality. How they create their reality each and every day. Can you imagine how aggressvive they get towards me? Tell someone who recently got cheated on and is in a self-made endless cycle of negativity and artificial guilt since a few months to wake up to reality and that it is all his / her fault. Regardless if that is reality or not (which it obviously is), you basicly help those people commit suicide. Oh yeah, I can also see that suicide in itself is nothing bad because you just reset everything, be reborn and have to learn it all again. But then again the humane part complitely disagrees on this. If you live like this, you live like an outcast and will never help anyone. Maybe only if you hope that all the people you have told about the ultimate reality will turn into shamans and do shadow work each day. That is surely not for everyone. I KNOW this works wonders, but is not for the faint of heart.

 

When you wrap the ultimate truth into a beautiful and non-hurting gift, it's not the truth anymore. Or is it? Can you apportion truth to more digestible morsels? Lol... Now that would be interesting. The whole thought is funny, but apparently I need to find a solution

 

I do agree completely with your entire first paragraph. Thank you.

Edited May 20, 2013 by 4bsolute