Perfect Egg Posted July 7, 2013 Hello Addiction Habits are hard to break. My understanding is there is a stimulus that will present itself and lives in you .. this stimulus can pop up anytime unexpectedly by an event, a vision, anything. . this creates an action on your part that leads to an outcome. When drugs or alcohol are involved or sex and anything that becomes the action it leads to the final goal of the action. Simple as it seems . . stimulus to action to goal. . the stimulus is always in you and will never go away and is triggered anytime by any situation. . however the good news is that the action you take can be changed. . for instance instead of alcohol or pill. . try reaching out to a non addicted friend. . or go to this forum. . or change to action of your choice that is healthy and good for your life. . .then the final goal will be different and much more for-filling in your life. . the more you practice the changing of the action produced by the stimulus the easier it becomes. . and the final goal is pura vida or pure life as described by the Ticas of Costa Rica. . Ticas are called simply 'happy people' and love all. They attain their goal by living pure. . I hope this helps. . never be afraid to ask for help I have found balance in all things is the key to my life. . . Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Perfect Egg Posted July 7, 2013 Consider reading The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles DuhiggI agree with Kumachan, get some help and you will progress much faster  I have never been addicted so what do I know other than seeing it destroy two members of my family? One has now merged with the sea of the Tao and at peace. . the other sober now 3 plus years. . after over 40 years of addiction. . he had intervention and lives and now helps run a half way house. That would be my brother Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rezonator Posted July 9, 2013 Perfect Egg, glad to hear about your brother. Its funny you mention "pura vida", Ive been to Costa Rica a few times and I love the country and the people. I normally stay in Puntarenas. I made a few friends in Esparza on my last trip. Â Iron Munkee, alcohol isnt my main problem either, it was just the first hurdle to overcome on my path to freedom. Its sounds like youre headed in the right direction, good luck to you on your path. Â Kumachan, thanks for your encouragement. Im still working on myself, Im almost where I need to be. Everyday Im improving, little by little. Â thanks, j.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
footprint Posted July 11, 2013 Hello there again Rezonator. It occurred to me, one other thing which is great to try, if you find the will, is to begin a therapeutic diary. A notebook with your thoughts, feelings, experiences, drawings and diagrams of your path. It works wonders! All the best Rez Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
