The "everything is draining and affecting me" mentality

[skydog]

Sure people who are sensitive, are affected by their surroundings.

 

And in order to justify themselves they may exaggerate this to some extent.

 

But how much of this paranoid sensitivity about things draining them is coming from themselves and their belief system, and how much is "reality"

 

One can change their body with beliefs and intention.

 

FOr example..someone mentioned I had a weakness to "being affected by other peoples thoughts, feelings and desires towards me" and they just shed some light to it.

 

But I notice this mentality, of "Oh everythings draining me"

 

Is this scarcity mentality

 

Paranoid?

 

Is this really in line with living life in a normal way?

Edited October 8, 2013 by skydog

[Seeker of Wisdom]

Dhammapada 3:10-11:

Enemies will hate each other.

Foes will harm each other.

But my own mind can harm me much worse.

 

My mother, my father, my friends and relatives

Can love and assist me.

But my own mind can help me much more.

Another person can only prompt something negative in you if that trait is in you to be prompted. Our enemies are really our greatest teachers! They reveal our strengths and flaws, and give us opportunities to develop virtues.

 

Being practical, unless we are sages other people do affect us... But being fatalistic about it, as though only monks in perfect surroundings have a chance of real progress, seems like a really unhelpful and unfounded lack of self-respect to me.

[soaring crane]

The "everything is draining and affecting me" mentality

 

I don't know what their problem is (I guess there are myriad causes for the mentality) but I'm careful not to let them drain me. That is all.

[skydog]

Dhammapada 3:10-11:

 

Another person can only prompt something negative in you if that trait is in you to be prompted. Our enemies are really our greatest teachers! They reveal our strengths and flaws, and give us opportunities to develop virtues.

 

Being practical, unless we are sages other people do affect us... But being fatalistic about it, as though only monks in perfect surroundings have a chance of real progress, seems like a really unhelpful and unfounded lack of self-respect to me.

nice post...respect.

 

I remember at one point I thought stress/ working with fears and uncomfortable emotions was the path to growth and development in life, so I worked 60 hour weeks went out all the time, In some ways it was a valid path because I encountered a lot of emotions and experiences, Guess it depends on the intention.

 

Cool stuff

Edited October 8, 2013 by skydog

[skydog]

likewise...

 

Another person can only prompt something positive in you if that trait is in you to be prompted.

 

 

and

 

Another person can only prompt something positive or negative in you if that trait in you is currently available to be prompted.

 

likewise...

 

Another person can only prompt something positive in you if that trait is in you to be prompted.

 

 

and

 

Another person can only prompt something positive or negative in you if that trait in you is currently available to be prompted.

 

nice cat

[9th]

Is space anywhere supported? Upon what does it rest?
Like space, Mahamudra is dependant upon nothing;
Relax and settle in the continuum of unalloyed purity,
And, your bonds loosening, release is certain.

Gazing intently into the empty sky, vision ceases;
Likewise, when mind gazes into mind itself,
The train of discursive and conceptual thought ends
And supreme enlightenment is gained.

Like the morning mist that dissolves into thin air,
Going nowhere but ceasing to be,
Waves of conceptualization, all the mind's creation, dissolve,
When you behold your mind's true nature.

Pure space has neither colour nor shape
And it cannot be stained either black or white;
So also, mind's essence is beyond both colour and shape
And it cannot be sullied by black or white deeds.

The darkness of a thousand aeons is powerless
To dim the crystal clarity of the sun's heart;
And likewise, aeons of samsara have no power
To veil the clear light of the mind's essence.

Although space has been designated "empty",
In reality it is inexpressible;
Although the nature of mind is called "clear light",
Its every ascription is baseless verbal fiction.

The mind's original nature is like space;
It pervades and embraces all things under the sun.
Be still and stay relaxed in genuine ease,
Be quiet and let sound reverberate as an echo,
Keep your mind silent and watch the ending of all worlds.

The body is essentially empty like the stem of a reed,
And the mind, like pure space, utterly transcends
the world of thought:
Relax into your intrinsic nature with neither abandon nor control -
Mind with no objective is Mahamudra -
And, with practice perfected, supreme enlightenment is gained.

The clear light of Mahamudra cannot be revealed
By the canonical scriptures or metaphysical treatises
Of the Mantravada, the Paramitas or the Tripitaka;
The clear light is veiled by concepts and ideals.

By harbouring rigid precepts the true samaya is impaired,
But with cessation of mental activity all fixed notions subside;
When the swell of the ocean is at one with its peaceful depths,
When mind never strays from indeterminate, non-conceptual truth,
The unbroken samaya is a lamp lit in spiritual darkness.

Free of intellectual conceits, disavowing dogmatic principles,
The truth of every school and scripture is revealed.
Absorbed in Mahamudra, you are free from the prison of samsara;
Poised in Mahamudra, guilt and negativity are consumed;
And as master of Mahamudra you are the light of the Doctrine.

[skydog]

feeling good, one is not drained.

 

One can feel bad, and have an empty mind and get drained im pretty sure.

Edited October 8, 2013 by skydog