I have never felt LOVE before. Why ? Is there a fix ?

[mike 134]

Hi guys,

 

Everybody who knows me knows that I love women. I have have a massive porn collection. I do adult dating looking for casual sex. I visit prostitutes. Before my kundalini event my sex drive and lust levels were unlimited. Now it is lower than before but still much higher than the vast majority of men.

 

But I have never loved any girl in my entire life, and its driving me crazy.

 

Its not that I haven't found the right girl. I apparently cannot love any girl whatsoever, as the capacity to even feel love is completely missing in me. Its like the part of the brain which is responsible for love is either absent or defective, and as a result I have difficulty even comprehending love in the first place. I never understood songs about love, nor poetry about it, nor romantic movies.

 

I can't keep doing the casual hookup thing forever though. I desire a classy, respectable girl that I can be seen in public with. But I can't treat a classy chick the same way I treat a slut I met online looking for sex. It takes courtship, flirting, romance, all that stuff, and the problem is that I don't understand any of it. I cannot stand dating because they are so boring and slow, and I feel that if I can't bed her immediately I am wasting my time. I read a lot of relationship advice on other forums but I have a hard time following them because you have to feel the love it to follow it, and doing it abstractly is completely useless.

 

So I ask you guys at TB: I know that the "biological" explanation of my lack of love is probably some limbic system problem in the brain. But what is the "spiritual" explanation? Is it some kind of kundalini, chi, or chakra problem ? Is there any chance that I will feel love one day? I have lots of heat/chi/kundalini in the heart/chest area, but it doesn't feel congested or blocked at all. I can freely move heat to and from the heart, and if it is uncomfortable I generally can send it lower to the abdomen with my mind.

 

Sorry for rambling I just got back from a bad date and I am frustrated. Thanks.

 

[Aeran]

What about non-sexual love?

 

 

 

It sounds like part of the problem is that your conception of love is based on the pop culture idealizing of it. Love, in my experience, isn't something that hits you immediately, or even quickly. You can be attracted to or infatuated with someone very easily, but love is like friendship, it builds up slowly over months or years of interaction and gradually getting to know the person and share your life with them. The problem is that we've had misleading notions of love and romance shoved onto us for centuries, and so we expect something that we'll never find and as a result write off potential opportunities for the real thing to surface.

 

And I don't think I've ever met a man who actually likes the dating process. I know I hate it personally, it's so artificial and fake and often mercantile, something which restricts the development of love as much as it fosters it.

 

It sounds like you just need to stick to it, unless there's really some kind of neurological/psychological/energetic disorder going on, which it doesn't sound like (from my very amateur opinion). If you've spent your whole adult life immersed in porn and hookers and random meaningless hookups, then you aren't going to be able to do a 180 and swap to forging meaningful connections overnight. I would guess that you just have to stick to it until you adjust to approaching the whole issue of sex and relationships in a different manner and, yes, as trite as it sounds, start meeting women who are more compatible for you.

 

If you aren't already doing so, maybe try meeting women in a different environment, one where you can interact with them around similar interests and get to know them slowly instead of using the internet and jumping straight into the dating aspect of it with all of the consequent expectations and assumptions. From what I've seen and my limited experience with them, websites are great for meeting women for casual hookups, but pretty atrocious for forging actual connections.

Edited December 8, 2013 by Aeran

[Cheshire Cat]

There's nothing strange in you.

 

This is perfectly normal: to love a woman, one must feel the uncommon need/desire for that woman.

 

Since sexual desire is already fulfilled, there are no "strong forces" there to help in producing love.

 

imho

[C T]

start by spending more time in your local library.

 

do tai chi in the park.

 

join the local walking club.

 

join some activity you like in the YMCA.

 

take up yoga.

 

take up cookery -- enrol for cookery classes.

 

volunteer at the animal shelter.

 

rock-climb.

 

sky-dive.

 

bungee-jump?

 

infinite avenues to meet sensible/adventurous types.

 

 

 

 

The problem i am seeing is not that you are lacking in a capacity for affection, but that you are too involved in your own stories, so much so that the focus is almost, if not all about you, which is ok if you at least make a little room to engage in feeling for others once in a while. It seems to me that your obsession with your own gratification somehow grew some nasty habits over the years, and these layers/traits/characteristics are now showing themselves as obstacles which are making you frustratingly unhappy.

 

If i were you, i'd start now by designing a plan to generate a more favorable future result. In other words, if you desire to reduce your current level of unhappiness, then you have to begin now to create the right circumstance(s) for you to experience a reduction of said unhappiness tomorrow. How successful this is going to turn out, well, would depend entirely on how bad you really want to fulfil your ultimate fantasy.

 

The process of repetitive focus on thoughts which then expresses themselves in self-defeating actions is a destructive cycle. Addictive tendencies require much insight to identify and then great resolve to redirect the negative sparks towards actions aimed at producing different, more positive outcomes. In other words, each time you notice an unfavorable trait rearing its head, you have to chop it off, nip it in the bud, by immediately doing something good -- remember, good is only good when it brings some benefit to another being. Otherwise, it will just be quite meaningless, empty and unfulfilling, which is exactly where you are at at this point. Cycles... if you become mindful, its easy to spot them in your daily life.

[PLB]

When I hear so much emphasis put upon the categories of "classy chick" versus "slut", it suggests that you linking your sexual energy and imagination with feelings of degradation and disgust, both for yourself and your partners.

 

Rather than seeking a passage to a place you have condemned yourself and others of not being worthy of, perhaps it would be better to focus on these feeling of degradation themselves and how you one go about keeping them alive.

[BaguaKicksAss]

Generally one never feels romantic love for another until they have known then and been with them some time. So that would be having sex with the SAME person for several months at least I would think. Are there any you have been seeing for quite some time?

 

I think forcing ourselves to do something which feels unnatural isn't right, even if it is something like love.

 

Though letting your barriers and fears around love down would likely help quite a bit .

[mike 134]

It sounds like you just need to stick to it, unless there's really some kind of neurological/psychological/energetic disorder going on, which it doesn't sound like (from my very amateur opinion).

 

The problem i am seeing is not that you are lacking in a capacity for affection, but that you are too involved in your own stories

 

There's nothing strange in you.

 

I don't think the issue is just psychological. I genuinely believe it is physiological. Like it involves my brain. It doesn't just extend to romance; it affects all of my relationships. I hate labels, but if you do label me I would be a clear sociopath/psychopath. I have a superficial charm. When you talk to me for the first 20 or 30 minutes I am the most interesting person in the world. I'm very good at getting phone numbers. I ace job / school interviews. I have a business on the side and I can sign up clients to invest in projects after a snazzy presentation. But after that I run out of steam. I can't really go deeper. I have a lot of difficulty maintaining relationships with anyone, not just women. I run into trouble with supervisors. I can't maintain clients and usually fall out with them after a while.

 

Generally one never feels romantic love for another until they have known then and been with them some time.

 

What about love at first sight ? Kissing? Cuddling? Holding hands ? People do that stuff very early in relationships. But frankly those things are meaningless to me. I feel absolutely nothing on the inside when I hold hands with someone. No passion. I feel like I just want to stick my pen1$ in there and have a orgasm, then tell her to go home. For most of my life I didn't care about love or feelings. I thought they were weaknesses. I was glad I'm a manipulative robot. But I've met a lot of classy girls recently with good backgrounds, and I can't snag any of them because I can't romance them. I can't romance them cause I am devoid of real feeling. Its frustrating as hell. I want to @#$ her brains out but it so much hard work getting there. Its so much easier to meet women online for casual flings, but quality, self respecting women do not prostitute themselves or do adult dating.

 

The kundalini has really made it worse. At times I feel turbocharged, and I feel like I can talk to anyone and squeeze a date out of them. But at other times I feel completely lifeless, listless, boring, and I can't score in a brothel. Its so variable and hard/impossible to control. Thanks.

[4bsolute]

Oh god...

 

glad I came across this topic lately myself: Romantic love is a detrimental illusion. Keep away from it. Far, away.

 

Love, has nothing to do with romantic. Genuine love is the love you have felt in your childhood towards nearly everything, especially your parents. This love, can be shared with all beings 'including' the oppositve sex in this human form. Romantic is related to passion and passion in german means "Leidenschaft" which is Literally translated as "Leiden" = suffering, "-schaft" = ~creation, ergo the creation of suffering.

 

You clearly look at the media and want to reproduce something that is unnatural to your nature, just to experience what everyone else is experiencing. But the big thing is, least couples are actually happy in our society. It's mainly for desires, or like you are about to copy what you have seen. Mostly Sex. Be honest to yourself. This is fantasy and has nothing to do with real love.

 

But please try it and fail when it comes to daily routine, when the illusionairy and pink glasses of 'falling in love' are taken off. Falling in love into someone is falling in love into Your Imagination, Your Image, You Have Created About Someone Else - and this is Not how he / she really is. It is artificial.

 

Love is either there already present Inside You and inside your potential partner or forget it!

 

This sounds harsh but forget it. You can not teach someone to love you, that is all up to free will. Yes, speaking of such, try it.. like said above, you are aswell allowed to try it.

 

 

The essence to a wonderful partnership, if you so desire: Love yourself, CLEAN YOURSELF off all emotional traumas from the past so that you do NOT carry those over to your new Beloved and then Find someone... attract someone like-minded, respectful and caring and then you will stay together 'until the end of your life'.

 

If you want to repair someone, emotionally than you can attempt this when you have abundant energy. But you should stay away from such people as an apprentice of cultivation or it will drag yourself down.

 

 

Your choice, either you want reality or fantasy.

 

 

Please read this important article about 'romance': http://www.shambhalasun.com/index.php?option=content&task=view&id=3491&Itemid=0&limit=1&limitstart=0

Edited December 12, 2013 by 4bsolute

[HoldorFold]

It sounds to me that you have issues around a lack of empathy and selfishness. Forget about romantic love for a bit and just try create a feeling of benevolence where you wish the best for a person, where you enjoy making someone happy and seeing them smile.

Ultimately, we're all one. So what you do for others you do for yourself.

[Aetherous]

I don't think the issue is just psychological. I genuinely believe it is physiological. Like it involves my brain. It doesn't just extend to romance; it affects all of my relationships. I hate labels, but if you do label me I would be a clear sociopath/psychopath. I have a superficial charm. When you talk to me for the first 20 or 30 minutes I am the most interesting person in the world. I'm very good at getting phone numbers. I ace job / school interviews. I have a business on the side and I can sign up clients to invest in projects after a snazzy presentation. But after that I run out of steam. I can't really go deeper. I have a lot of difficulty maintaining relationships with anyone, not just women. I run into trouble with supervisors. I can't maintain clients and usually fall out with them after a while.

 

 

What about love at first sight ? Kissing? Cuddling? Holding hands ? People do that stuff very early in relationships. But frankly those things are meaningless to me. I feel absolutely nothing on the inside when I hold hands with someone. No passion. I feel like I just want to stick my pen1$ in there and have a orgasm, then tell her to go home. For most of my life I didn't care about love or feelings. I thought they were weaknesses. I was glad I'm a manipulative robot. But I've met a lot of classy girls recently with good backgrounds, and I can't snag any of them because I can't romance them. I can't romance them cause I am devoid of real feeling. Its frustrating as hell. I want to @#$ her brains out but it so much hard work getting there. Its so much easier to meet women online for casual flings, but quality, self respecting women do not prostitute themselves or do adult dating.

 

The kundalini has really made it worse. At times I feel turbocharged, and I feel like I can talk to anyone and squeeze a date out of them. But at other times I feel completely lifeless, listless, boring, and I can't score in a brothel. Its so variable and hard/impossible to control. Thanks.

 

I like the honesty in self-reflection. It's a sign of real progress.

 

The truth in my opinion is that you need a true spiritual teacher. The very core of the issue is the seeming inability to feel like a "normal" human being, or sociopathy. Being on a real spiritual path would help you with that over time.

 

Honesty is an excellent starting point. It's the opposite of sociopathic behavior.

 

In the meantime, it would help you open up if you practiced a lot of breathing. But hopefully you'll be on the lookout for a teacher.

 

Oh also...it will help to clarify what you actually desire, and why. For instance, you might say "I want a relationship", when you actually just want to be seen with a decent woman. Well, why would you want to be seen with a woman? To gain respect? So what you actually desire is not a relationship (to get to know someone, to be there for them, etc) but respect from others. Once you clarify what you want, getting it becomes very possible.

Edited December 8, 2013 by turtle shell

[mike 134]

It sounds to me that you have issues around a lack of empathy and selfishness.

 

You are correct about this, empathy is another thing that I have never genuinely felt before. Although I actually see this as a positive because I am not bogged down by other people's problems. It must be draining to have a lot of empathy.

 

4bsolute thx for that article. I know that people have an unrealistic view of romance because of media (actually people have unrealistic views of all sorts of things because of the biased media). I don't care about "ideal" love. I just want "normal" love. You know, the kind of love that everyday couples experience. You said this yourself

 

But the big thing is, least couples are actually happy in our society.

 

I don't even need to love her. Actually it may be better that I don't. It must be the worst thing to love a woman and she doesn't love back. That means the woman holds all the power, and I hear about this all the time where guys profess their love only to get taken advantage of in a haze of stupidity. I'd rather the girl do the loving. The main trick is to get her to love me. Then she will do nice things for me and I don't have to do anything in return. Yeah, that's what I want, but its tough to pull off when you are lacking in feeling altogether.

 

Is everybody with kundalini a cold hearted psychopath who is emotionally blunted and cannot feel true love ?? Or is it just me ?

[suninmyeyes]

It seems as if you are quite scared and a confused with feelings and general outlook .

Have you considered counselling or sharing this with someone really close to you ? Or ?

Edited December 9, 2013 by suninmyeyes

[Thunder_Gooch]

I know for me personally I could never love someone who doesn't share my dreams, perspective, motivations, etc.

 

I have lot's of friends but at the end of the day, it's a sort of interspecies relationship.

 

Love for me would have to be a situation where I didn't feel like I was forced to make compromises, nor forcing someone else to either.

 

A partnership where we both shared the same goals and path and worked together towards that end.

 

As best as I can tell there just isn't another person out there that could live up to my expectations.

 

Maybe it's ok to be alone?

 

Being completely alone isn't bad at all if you enjoy your own company.

 

 

“People think being alone makes you lonely, but I don't think that's true. Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world.”

― Kim Culbertson

Edited December 9, 2013 by More_Pie_Guy

[C T]

You are correct about this, empathy is another thing that I have never genuinely felt before.

'Empathy' is a muscle of the spirit. Like any muscle, it requires work to manifest its potential. In your case, it is dormant, clouded over by self-absorptive patterns of thoughts and also by the unwillingness to take full responsibility to re-route a certain unhealthy trait which is preventing you from genuine relationship, hence you deflect your afflictive tendencies to kundalini, when in actual fact, its your basic intent and motivation which needs to be re-tuned.

 

As an afterthought, I have suggested previously to offer some of your selfish energy towards doing some charitable work for the less fortunate, even if its just make-believe for a start, but it seems you have no willingness to take this on board.

[mike 134]

I really appreciate all the responses guys. I guess not knowing much about love a lot of it is way over my head but I guess that's the way love is. I wish I can just make any girl love me. Not my money, but ME.

 

 

Love for me would have to be a situation where I didn't feel like I was forced to make compromises, nor forcing someone else to either.

Spot on. I hate compromises. Compromises are for the weak. I want to stay true to myself. I suppose that's why I do what I do. When I see somebody casually we both know what we want. When I pay for it we both know what we want. When I watch porn I know what I want. Its so easy ! With love I only know that I want to be loved. I don't know what she wants. I guess to be loved as well, but I can't love !

 

As an afterthought, I have suggested previously to offer some of your selfish energy towards doing some charitable work for the less fortunate, even if its just make-believe for a start, but it seems you have no willingness to take this on board.

 

Thanks. Believe it or not I do this daily in my job. It is my job. Ironically I actually become LESS charitable after doing it for a while, and I got extremely cynical.

 

Hey I found this strange case where a woman became "hyper-empathic" after brain surgery to remove her right amygdala.

 

http://www.livescience.com/39560-hyper-empathy-case-report.html

 

It says that she was "feeling physical effects along with her emotions, such as a "spin at the heart" " Sounds like a kundalini thing to me. Funny how my heart also spins but it has no effect at all.

Edited December 9, 2013 by mike 134

[C T]

Job? Im thinking this means you get a wage out of it. Thats not the point, is it?

[BaguaKicksAss]

When I've been in love the most in life, it has not usually been a person .

 

[idiot_stimpy]

because you are too into yourself

[Friend]

Hi guys,

 

Everybody who knows me knows that I love women. I have have a massive porn collection. I do adult dating looking for casual sex. I visit prostitutes. Before my kundalini event my sex drive and lust levels were unlimited. Now it is lower than before but still much higher than the vast majority of men.

 

But I have never loved any girl in my entire life, and its driving me crazy.

That is liking, lusting and not loving.

Its not that I haven't found the right girl. I apparently cannot love any girl whatsoever, as the capacity to even feel love is completely missing in me. Its like the part of the brain which is responsible for love is either absent or defective, and as a result I have difficulty even comprehending love in the first place. I never understood songs about love, nor poetry about it, nor romantic movies.

Love is much like you having affection for your parents only that you seem care for this person more.

 

I can't keep doing the casual hookup thing forever though. I desire a classy, respectable girl that I can be seen in public with. But I can't treat a classy chick the same way I treat a slut I met online looking for sex. It takes courtship, flirting, romance, all that stuff, and the problem is that I don't understand any of it. I cannot stand dating because they are so boring and slow, and I feel that if I can't bed her immediately I am wasting my time. I read a lot of relationship advice on other forums but I have a hard time following them because you have to feel the love it to follow it, and doing it abstractly is completely useless.

Benifits are put aside. When you care for a person, no time feels wasted.

as one stays in the presence of this person.

Neither one tries to change this person when it seems to not fit ones expectation.

Love is not a head thing to be understand of.

 

So I ask you guys at TB: I know that the "biological" explanation of my lack of love is probably some limbic system problem in the brain. But what is the "spiritual" explanation? Is it some kind of kundalini, chi, or chakra problem ? Is there any chance that I will feel love one day? I have lots of heat/chi/kundalini in the heart/chest area, but it doesn't feel congested or blocked at all. I can freely move heat to and from the heart, and if it is uncomfortable I generally can send it lower to the abdomen with my mind.

 

Sorry for rambling I just got back from a bad date and I am frustrated. Thanks.

You have to be in the body and not only in your brain.

You have to feel what you touch and listen what you touch.

Else you distance yourself to a tiny spot in the body.

If you keep in this way you distance yourself to yourself

and so to others and the other people can sense it.

 

I don't think the issue is just psychological. I genuinely believe it is physiological. Like it involves my brain. It doesn't just extend to romance; it affects all of my relationships. I hate labels, but if you do label me I would be a clear sociopath/psychopath. I have a superficial charm. When you talk to me for the first 20 or 30 minutes I am the most interesting person in the world. I'm very good at getting phone numbers. I ace job / school interviews. I have a business on the side and I can sign up clients to invest in projects after a snazzy presentation. But after that I run out of steam. I can't really go deeper. I have a lot of difficulty maintaining relationships with anyone, not just women. I run into trouble with supervisors. I can't maintain clients and usually fall out with them after a while.

As above I said about distance.You can sell yourself well as in the beginning people mostly see the worth in

appearance and tricked by clothing, habitual courtesey and smile, learned friendlieness by your background, the money

and archivement - you impress them.

Later when the person stays longer the facade can disguise what is inside - well mostly people would project their

expectation on a person and so the disguise can be maintained longer. But well, the more a person wants to know who you

are by having real interest in you the more fast they will perceive the unmatching of.... something is off - something mechanical.

 

What about love at first sight ? Kissing? Cuddling? Holding hands ? People do that stuff very early in relationships. But frankly those things are meaningless to me. I feel absolutely nothing on the inside when I hold hands with someone. No passion. I feel like I just want to stick my pen1$ in there and have a orgasm, then tell her to go home. For most of my life I didn't care about love or feelings. I thought they were weaknesses. I was glad I'm a manipulative robot. But I've met a lot of classy girls recently with good backgrounds, and I can't snag any of them because I can't romance them. I can't romance them cause I am devoid of real feeling. Its frustrating as hell. I want to @#$ her brains out but it so much hard work getting there. Its so much easier to meet women online for casual flings, but quality, self respecting women do not prostitute themselves or do adult dating.

Playful contact are such thing. If one do not have contact it is like touch something without awareness.

Aware contact at the first sight, aware contact at kissing, aware contact while cuddling, aware contact while holding hands.

One takes time, remember the feeling then looking at the today more clearly.

As well if you project on women how women has to be how can you expirience something while you

planning in your head how they have to be. You are thinking and not feeling at that moment and that becomes

habitual.

 

I know that people have an unrealistic view of romance because of media (actually people have unrealistic views of all sorts of things because of the biased media). I don't care about "ideal" love. I just want "normal" love. You know, the kind of love that everyday couples experience. You said this yourself

I don't even need to love her. Actually it may be better that I don't. It must be the worst thing to love a woman and she doesn't love back. That means the woman holds all the power, and I hear about this all the time where guys profess their love only to get taken advantage of in a haze of stupidity. I'd rather the girl do the loving. The main trick is to get her to love me. Then she will do nice things for me and I don't have to do anything in return. Yeah, that's what I want, but its tough to pull off when you are lacking in feeling altogether.

 

Is everybody with kundalini a cold hearted psychopath who is emotionally blunted and cannot feel true love ?? Or is it just me ?

To love someone doesnt mean to get together with this person.

I still love someone until today. That is already for 20 years.

She did only have a neutral feeling torwards me and I wish her

really to find someone as she still has nobody.

Love goes beyond ownership.

It is about stopping to own, trade, calculate and seeking advantages.

 

Also talking about power in the same line with love and dividing it into woman and man?

How can you let go of yourself when you expect women holds all the power

It is a together.

 

I really appreciate all the responses guys. I guess not knowing much about love a lot of it is way over my head but I guess that's the way love it. I wish I can just make any girl love me. Not my money, but ME.

Try to reduce worry which includes planning and security and measurments

strategy, tactics. You repeatly use things associated with the mind a lot, head, brain, money.

 

Spot on. I hate compromises. Compromises are for the weak. I want to stay true to myself. I suppose that's why I do what I do. When I see somebody casually we both know what we want. When I pay for it we both know what we want. When I watch porn I know what I want. Its so easy ! With love I only know that I want to be loved. I don't know what she wants. I guess to be loved as well, but I can't love !

Think a bit how often you use the word "want" and "weak".

"Effiancy": I pay for, I suppose, porn, I can't score in a brothel, weak, I want , classy girl

Efficiancy is a way to put pressure on oneself to prove ones worth.

 

Ask yourself: Was it demanded in your whole life until now to be the best or better?

 

Do you remember a time where you could just do failures?

 

When does it started that you had to be the best or better?

 

Think of person who gave you rewards, think of person who praised you,

think of person who sanction you and/ or scold you for your action and non action.

 

Think and feel how it is when you are not efficient?

 

Do you understand now how much efficiancy affects your behaviour?

 

Was is "efficient" to not feel?

[thelerner]

Kudos for your honesty, but it seems like you'd be a lousy self centered boyfriend. I don't think you'll get your desired 'love' until you change your attitude. A long term relationship requires empathy, respect and compromise. A great relationship is worth it. It can add immeasurably to your life.

 

Some people have grown up so fast they've lost the ability to enjoy the little pleasures in life, only big orgasmic things move them thus they spend much time feeling empty..waiting..wanting. If a significant other is important to you, go back to square one, hold off on sex, hold hands, find out what she wants, what she thinks, work on being a good boyfriend.

[Thunder_Gooch]

I don't think real love is what Hollywood sells us.

 

Romantic love as best I can tell is a sham, and exists only as something like a drug induced altered state of consciousness to ensure babies get made.

 

Most of the men I know personally that got married and had kids are now divorced or still together and miserable.

 

What good is trading a few years of bliss for a lifetime of misery with the wrong person?

 

I don't think I could ever be happy with anyone if we weren't on the same wavelength, working towards the same goals.

 

What is the point of being in a relationship if you have to change who you are, or compromise your life goals to make the relationship work?

 

For me any real love would have to be with someone who was on the same path I was, and wanted to team up to work towards that goal with me, otherwise they would just be a distraction holding me back.

[C T]

If a significant other is important to you, go back to square one, hold off on sex, hold hands, find out what she wants, what she thinks, work on being a good boyfriend.

Its great advice, but as mentioned, more than once by the OP, such intimacy is beyond his capacity to fathom.

[thelerner]

Its great advice, but as mentioned, more than once by the OP, such intimacy is beyond his capacity to fathom.

Sometimes, you act a role, and through it, you gain understanding of the character and the motivations. He may not fathom it, but through the act of connecting with another human being; acting as if their feelings mattered and trying to please them for no reason other then to make them happy.. he could get the hang of empathy, romance and love. Maybe.

 

It boils down to act lovable.. Be good to a person, listen to them, make them happy. There may be so many unexpected benefits to this that you turn the acting role into a character trait.

[C T]

Sometimes, you act a role, and through it, you gain understanding of the character and the motivations. He may not fathom it, but through the act of connecting with another human being; acting as if their feelings mattered and trying to please them for no reason other then to make them happy.. he could get the hang of empathy, romance and love. Maybe.

 

It boils down to act lovable.. Be good to a person, listen to them, make them happy. There may be so many unexpected benefits to this that you turn the acting role into a character trait.

Thats basically it. I have said something similar in an earlier post.

[Thunder_Gooch]

Sometimes, you act a role, and through it, you gain understanding of the character and the motivations. He may not fathom it, but through the act of connecting with another human being; acting as if their feelings mattered and trying to please them for no reason other then to make them happy.. he could get the hang of empathy, romance and love. Maybe.

 

It boils down to act lovable.. Be good to a person, listen to them, make them happy. There may be so many unexpected benefits to this that you turn the acting role into a character trait.

I have to wonder though, why someone would do that. 99.9% of the people I meet feel fake, plastic, artificial, not genuine, etc. Why would I pick up someone that feels like a stranger and try and do nice things with them to build up empathy? Seems a little silly to me.

Edited December 9, 2013 by More_Pie_Guy