BKA's guide on how to pickup women.... and lizard people

[BaguaKicksAss]

Here are my women rants . Please keep it respectful when replying though folks, some women do actually read this forum.

 

Now this is obviously nowhere near all women, and not the ones I know personally... but I have heard about them lots, and even met some.

 

1. Playing hard to get. Wtf? Obviously usually we want to get to know someone first, but purposefully trying to ignore someone you are interested in?

 

2. Going for money. Again, wtf? I know a couple of folks who married for money, it didn't last. Also in my own experience, guys with more money don't necessarily spend it on their significant other any more than your guy with less money lol. Hey as long as they don't brag about their brand new car all day long, or expect me to pay rent for both of us, income is pretty much irrelevant to me. But also, many ladies have had guys live off of them, so now expect a high income level.

 

3. Padded bras. Why can I not find a bra without padding at the store? lol

 

4. Wants a guy to "save or rescue" them. Yeah good luck with that. Also guys watch out for those ones.

 

5. Wants to get married and have kids next week! I've never known any like this, but I do hear they exist. Well OK next month, but you get the idea.

 

6. Plays one guy against the other. Seriously, grow up.

 

7. Has a thing for married guys... at least find ones in an open relationship.

 

8. Plays stupid, c'mon don't make the rest of us look bad.

 

9. Flirting just to get free drinks or whatever, but not actually interested (I've had women offer to teach me this skill).

 

10. Acts like a jerk towards guys because we hear that they like the stuck up self centered ones. I mean as in purposefully doing this.

 

11. Purposefully doesn't take her birth control. Now this, I find abohorable, and yes it does happen.

 

12. Be downright cruel to men who are respectful when flirting. (on the otherhand if a guy walks up to me and he sounds like a bad porn movie, I'm going to say something rude in return so he'll go away). Laughing at a guy for flirting with them also falls under this category and unfortunately I have seen it happen.

[BaguaKicksAss]

PS, I spent 40 minutes walking and 2 hours working out at the gym today, not counting every post .

[suninmyeyes]

 

 

I am aware of dating games and games between man and woman and there always will be some sort of game . It is what keeps the spark , otherwise people depolarize .. I am not conservative or moralist or thinking that these guys are satan .

It is perfectly fine just to want to get laid and explore sexuality , but keep your human warmth .

I think what people misunderstood that being playful is sexy and attractive and necessary ingridient for more satisfying life , but being a Player in a way to manipualte instead of share is just distorted . This of course goes for both man and woman .

Edited January 4, 2014 by suninmyeyes

[suninmyeyes]

PS, I spent 40 minutes walking and 2 hours working out at the gym today, not counting every post .

wow , impressive !

[liminal_luke]

Trauma-induced mind control is behind any and all attraction to any and all domineering control-freak types. Whether a woman or a man seeks to feel like a doormat OR to make someone else feel like a doormat, they are in exactly the same boat, they are just processing the same trauma in different ways.

 

The doormat is still feeling like what they made him or her feel when he or she was small and helpless and totally in their power, the power they abused. While the make-someone-else-a-doormat type is removed from oneself one step farther and has unconsciously chosen to identify with the perpetrator, straightjacketing and gagging the real inner self that feels like a victim (and indeed is).

 

Emotionally healthy people either didn't experience traumatic childhoods (I guess the last time it happened was, like, fifteen thousand years ago), or figured things out and worked on themselves in a fruitful albeit painful manner and normalized, and no longer feel the need to either repeat the victim performance or force someone else to play the part.

 

Whenever I encounter a dominant baboon, I instantly know absolutely everything about his upbringing and feel very sorry for him. If I meet a yielding, soft type, I want to know what's behind the softness, strength or weakness. If weakness, I feel sorry for him too.

 

But it's true inner strength behind outer softness, strength that is not afraid of coming across as softness due to the inner knowledge of absolute power at one's disposal, power that is not being abused by making someone feel small or forcing them to obey, power to protect rather than attack, that I find irresistible. A man who doesn't cultivate this may embody countless hours of huffing and puffing at the gym, or alternatively develop a weapon of a mind to use against whoever is weaker, yet I still see all that bulk as a shelter he has built so as to hide -- whether it's built out of brawn or out of brain, it's still a house of straw, and there's a scared little pig inside.

 

Wow taomeow. If I wanted to be really healthy (the jury is still out), I'd print this post out and read it once a day until I really got it down to my bones. Thanks.

[Creation]

I have begun to suspect that the dating scene for 20 somethings trying to date 20 somethings is dramatically different now it was for those who are now in there 40s. Attitudes toward sex, marriage, and gender roles are have shifted massively in the past 20 years.

 

I could say a whole lot more, but for now I'll just say I that generation gap is a big cause of misunderstanding in this thread.

[Sloppy Zhang]

Hold on, weren't you supposed to be away for the weekend? Or am I getting posters all mixed up again?

 

Well I went out last night

 

Drinks, inappropriate dancing, back to my girl's place, wake up, leave, come back, back to sleep, wake up, eat, post...

 

Going out again tonight

[BaguaKicksAss]

wow , impressive !

 

My muscles think so too!

[BaguaKicksAss]

K I'm curious now, going to poll some 20 year olds I know.....

[suninmyeyes]

I have begun to suspect that the dating scene for 20 somethings trying to date 20 somethings is dramatically different now it was for those who are now in there 40s. Attitudes toward sex, marriage, and gender roles are have shifted massively in the past 20 years.

 

I could say a whole lot more, but for now I'll just say I that generation gap is a big cause of misunderstanding in this thread.

Yes you have a point there , also I think many places in Europe are very different than America culturally .

Even some young people that I know in their 20s do not necessary follow this type of behaviour and share this kind of opinions . Again I must stress out that I always belonged to slightly anarchist and art circles with people who are creative and could possibly have a bias that way ..

 

We can only be best that we can be and be careful of what we contribute to make atmosphere better for all of us .

This being a spiritual (although I do not like that word ..) forum I feel to put emphasis on that .

Edited January 4, 2014 by suninmyeyes

[suninmyeyes]

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Edited January 4, 2014 by suninmyeyes

[C T]

So says author Toni Bentley, "There is virtually no female sexual problem -- hormonal, menopausal, orgasmic, or just plain ol' lack of interest -- that will not be solved by **ta da** a new lover."

 

Agree or disagree?

 

According to Dr Marta Meana http://www.unlv.edu/people/marta-meana , being desired is the real female orgasm. As per the research findings of this Dean, men often fantasizes about giving satisfaction, not on receiving it, that men somehow feel more complete if they have the 'magic touch' where they have this super ability to bring a woman to orgasm. Should this theory be close to the truth, then men are really not that selfish after all, something which has been overly and overtly suggested across the great divide.

 

Men want to excite women, period. Women? They want to be excited by men. Problem solved. Women get what they want, while the men pines for the next lover to bring them ultimate erotic pleasure.

 

Silly men.

 

 

(the above are not my views, btw. I just found it interesting, coming from a learned female professor of psychology)

Edited January 5, 2014 by C T

[Unseen_Abilities]

Here are my women rants . Please keep it respectful when replying though folks, some women do actually read this forum.

 

Now this is obviously nowhere near all women, and not the ones I know personally... but I have heard about them lots, and even met some.

 

1. Playing hard to get. Wtf? Obviously usually we want to get to know someone first, but purposefully trying to ignore someone you are interested in?

 

2. Going for money. Again, wtf? I know a couple of folks who married for money, it didn't last. Also in my own experience, guys with more money don't necessarily spend it on their significant other any more than your guy with less money lol. Hey as long as they don't brag about their brand new car all day long, or expect me to pay rent for both of us, income is pretty much irrelevant to me. But also, many ladies have had guys live off of them, so now expect a high income level.

 

3. Padded bras. Why can I not find a bra without padding at the store? lol

 

4. Wants a guy to "save or rescue" them. Yeah good luck with that. Also guys watch out for those ones.

 

5. Wants to get married and have kids next week! I've never known any like this, but I do hear they exist. Well OK next month, but you get the idea.

 

6. Plays one guy against the other. Seriously, grow up.

 

7. Has a thing for married guys... at least find ones in an open relationship.

 

8. Plays stupid, c'mon don't make the rest of us look bad.

 

9. Flirting just to get free drinks or whatever, but not actually interested (I've had women offer to teach me this skill).

 

10. Acts like a jerk towards guys because we hear that they like the stuck up self centered ones. I mean as in purposefully doing this.

 

11. Purposefully doesn't take her birth control. Now this, I find abohorable, and yes it does happen.

 

12. Be downright cruel to men who are respectful when flirting. (on the otherhand if a guy walks up to me and he sounds like a bad porn movie, I'm going to say something rude in return so he'll go away). Laughing at a guy for flirting with them also falls under this category and unfortunately I have seen it happen.

 

...and you say you know some form of Gong Fu Martial Arts too, yeah?

[Thunder_Gooch]

[BaguaKicksAss]

ROFL was still busy laughing at your new nick/avatar More_... er Thunder_Gooch...

[Thunder_Gooch]

ROFL was still busy laughing at your new nick/avatar More_... er Thunder_Gooch...

I sing it in my head like a jingle...

 

 

THUNDER GOOOCH!!! heck yeah!

 

To this this beat...

 

 

Edited January 5, 2014 by Thunder_Gooch

[BaguaKicksAss]

ROFL

 

Thank you, this thread needed a little.. lightening up .

[BaguaKicksAss]

I sing it in my head like a jingle...

 

 

THUNDER GOOOCH!!! heck yeah!

 

To this this beat...

 

 

 

Oh I don't know, this is more the song I think of with your nickname lol

 

"thunder.... thunder... thunder... GOOCH!"

 

[Captain Mar-Vell]

...

That's the ticket BKA!

 

Let's call down that Thunder!

 

Now, where's me hammer...

 

Poem No 28 Crumbs!

...

 

ps that's one sexy lizard.

Edited January 5, 2014 by Captain Mar-Vell

[chegg]

After 379 posts, could it be that.......

 

 

 

 

 

 

Blessings of Picking Up

:wub: :wub: :wub:

Edited January 5, 2014 by chegg

[suninmyeyes]

So says author Toni Bentley, "There is virtually no female sexual problem -- hormonal, menopausal, orgasmic, or just plain ol' lack of interest -- that will not be solved by **ta da** a new lover."

 

Agree or disagree?

 

According to Dr Marta Meana http://www.unlv.edu/people/marta-meana , being desired is the real female orgasm. As per the research findings of this Dean, men often fantasizes about giving satisfaction, not on receiving it, that men somehow feel more complete if they have the 'magic touch' where they have this super ability to bring a woman to orgasm. Should this theory be close to the truth, then men are really not that selfish after all, something which has been overly and overtly suggested across the great divide.

 

Men want to excite women, period. Women? They want to be excited by men. Problem solved. Women get what they want, while the men pines for the next lover to bring them ultimate erotic pleasure.

 

Silly men.

 

 

(the above are not my views, btw. I just found it interesting, coming from a learned female professor of psychology)

It seems like a oversimplification of some possibilities that may work for some . That does not say much does it ?

[suninmyeyes]

Just to add on a general note again ( this being a spiritual forum ) that cultivation is not only 1 hour of Qi Gong or chanting . It is a change of lifestyle , a revolution on many levels . It is requires constant awarness in whatever is being done during day .

Edited January 5, 2014 by suninmyeyes

[Marblehead]

More funny dating talk... I had this friend.. this was about 20 years ago he tried this... he was convinced that if he walked up to 100 women per day and asked them if they would like to go home with him, at least 1 would go for it. Yes he did get slapped a few times lolololol.

But then, I found out early in life that you will never know until you ask. I never turned the other cheek though.

[Marblehead]

Lot of mental masturbation in here now lol. We are really talking about going after "10s", etc? As if thats the only criteria that matters. really makes it hard to take some of these dudes views on these things seriously. How f'ing childish.

I was a "5". "5"s were good enough for me.

[Aeran]

I sing it in my head like a jingle...

 

 

THUNDER GOOOCH!!! heck yeah!

 

To this this beat...

 

 

 

I was just about to go meditate, now it's gonna take me 20 minutes to get that song out of my head