BKA's guide on how to pickup women.... and lizard people

[Marblehead]

LOL I didn't realize he usually said that...to late to edit that post isn't it? BUT I know I sound like MPG when I say "I'd like to date someone who practices Bagua", and I laugh when I realize .

Yes, too late to edit. It's written in stone now.

 

No, actually MPG doesn't say that often but he has said it.

 

I once met a young lady who knew how to use power tools very well. I thought about inviting her over just so she could do the work that needs to be done around my place. But I chickened out because that was shortly after my last divorce.

[BaguaKicksAss]

Yes, too late to edit. It's written in stone now.

 

No, actually MPG doesn't say that often but he has said it.

 

I once met a young lady who knew how to use power tools very well. I thought about inviting her over just so she could do the work that needs to be done around my place. But I chickened out because that was shortly after my last divorce.

 

Inviting a chick over to do repairs on your house? What a charmer!

 

I think him and I both say it because, most of the population are.... well not cultivators who dedicate their life to the practice, above all else. It's purely a numbers thing.

[Apech]

Yes, too late to edit. It's written in stone now.

 

No, actually MPG doesn't say that often but he has said it.

 

I once met a young lady who knew how to use power tools very well. I thought about inviting her over just so she could do the work that needs to be done around my place. But I chickened out because that was shortly after my last divorce.

 

 

Were her power tools bigger than yours?

[Friend]

Were her power tools bigger than yours?

Size doesnt Matter - as long one reach the goal

[liminal_luke]

I think giving books and not paying attention to the potential partner probably work equally well in terms of getting a relationship. The difference is the kind of relationship you get. Start out by feigning disinterest and you end up with a relationship, perhaps long lasting, where you don't pay attention to each other. Start out by giving books and you end up with a relationship where both people are looking for creative ways to make each other happy.

[Green Tiger]

Inviting a chick over to do repairs on your house? What a charmer!

 

I think him and I both say it because, most of the population are.... well not cultivators who dedicate their life to the practice, above all else. It's purely a numbers thing.

 

I used to think I would be happier with a woman who was interested in martial arts and cultivation and things like that. Then I got involved with a woman who was a more advanced cultivator than me. A very interesting relationship; I learned a lot from her, but in spite of our many common interests I think we were just not romantically compatible. There was also a distance issue, though.

 

Then, more recently I got involved with a kung fu instructor. Also an interesting relationship. Again, I don't think the romantic spark is there but DAMN is she fun to spar with!

 

I don't think common interest is the best indicator that you'll make a good match, romantically. The best relationships I've had were with women who were just good at listening to me talk about my interests.

 

And yeah, guys, if I were to offer one piece of advice on meeting women/men: be a good listener. Ask questions, be interested. If you are interested in them, you will be interesting to them.

[BaguaKicksAss]

I think giving books and not paying attention to the potential partner probably work equally well in terms of getting a relationship. The difference is the kind of relationship you get. Start out by feigning disinterest and you end up with a relationship, perhaps long lasting, where you don't pay attention to each other. Start out by giving books and you end up with a relationship where both people are looking for creative ways to make each other happy.

 

Hmmmm, good point .

 

Actually I would say I see the whole act uninterested thing as just games and BS, I prefer straightforwardness in people myself (on both sides, both genders).

[BaguaKicksAss]

I used to think I would be happier with a woman who was interested in martial arts and cultivation and things like that. Then I got involved with a woman who was a more advanced cultivator than me. A very interesting relationship; I learned a lot from her, but in spite of our many common interests I think we were just not romantically compatible. There was also a distance issue, though.

 

Then, more recently I got involved with a kung fu instructor. Also an interesting relationship. Again, I don't think the romantic spark is there but DAMN is she fun to spar with!

 

I don't think common interest is the best indicator that you'll make a good match, romantically. The best relationships I've had were with women who were just good at listening to me talk about my interests.

 

And yeah, guys, if I were to offer one piece of advice on meeting women/men: be a good listener. Ask questions, be interested. If you are interested in them, you will be interesting to them.

 

I've had a bit of a different experience than you... I have practiced magic ever since I was 19, and started dating people who also practiced since that time. Though a few non-practitioners as well, the non-practitioners really didn't last that long... no strong psychic connection, no dual cultivation practices, and the fact that the majority of my waking hours are taken up by my practice (even my job is such).

 

Though all in all it is about whether there is a connection there or not... it just didn't go as well otherwise, no matter how much in common, how amazing of a person they were and so forth.

 

A fried of mine pretty much gave up her practice after getting into a long term relationship awhile back, since it wasn't really conducive to practice at his house, and they spend most of their time there. Definitely not an option for myself..

 

Edit: when I dated a kungfu instructor, I was too newb for him to not get bored duing sparring <pout> lolol. Hey you will definitely learn a lot!

Edited December 31, 2013 by BaguaKicksAss

[Eric23]

So I volunteered for a work crew at a church camp. They assigned me to wash the breakfast dishes along with this very pretty, friendly girl (buxom too!). So we talked and washed the dishes. One thing led to another and 38 years, two kids, a grand daughter, and several dogs later we still talk to each other:). Reading this post I'm so grateful not to have to play the game. For whatever it's worth, my wife and I are very yin/yang. We really don't have common talents or interests, but we compliment each other very well.

[C T]

So I volunteered for a work crew at a church camp. They assigned me to wash the breakfast dishes along with this very pretty, friendly girl (buxom too!). So we talked and washed the dishes. One thing led to another and 38 years, two kids, a grand daughter, and several dogs later we still talk to each other:). Reading this post I'm so grateful not to have to play the game. For whatever it's worth, my wife and I are very yin/yang. We really don't have common talents or interests, but we compliment each other very well.

Nicely done... may you have many many more years together!

[silent thunder]

I've never really asked anyone on a date. For me, the two women who really ignited love in me, there was no formal dating.

Met my high school sweetheart while working on a show and we just started 'hanging out', one evening hanging out turned into my first love and lasted through high school.

 

Met my wife the same way, on stage.

 

When we met some 25 years ago and there was no choice. No asking out, no pursuit, by either of us.

The attraction was so strong and intense, it was inescapable even when I refused to act on it for months. I was not interested in relationships at all then, wanted to focus on performance and studies. Pffft, just being around her took all choice away, within 3 months of spending time talking and hanging out, I knew I could spend my life with her.

 

Years later, I asked her what her reaction was, the first time I kissed her... (months after we started hanging out daily).

'FINALLY!' lol

 

If the attraction is there, the books, flowers, hell even bathing become accoutrements... lol

[Brian]

This thread's title should be changed to "Curious about the Restraining Order Process?"

 

 

[BaguaKicksAss]

This thread's title should be changed to "Curious about the Restraining Order Process?"

 

*puts away book she was going to mail Brian....*

[shamanu]

 

That whole friendzone thing, I don't beleive in that.

Edited December 31, 2013 by shamanu

[Captain Mar-Vell]

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That ain't funny, Brian.

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[Harmonious Emptiness]

One thing I heard which I believe to be true: Women are attracted to a man in pursuit of his dreams and on the path to accomplishing them, even when it's a long, long, path. If he is dedicated and resilient in this pursuit - SeXy!

 

So fellas: "get up offa that thang!"

[silent thunder]

One thing I heard which I believe to be true: Women are attracted to a man in pursuit of his dreams and on the path to accomplishing them, even when it's a long, long, path. If he is dedicated and resilient in this pursuit - SeXy!

 

So fellas: "get up offa that thang!"

This rings very true in my experience.

People who are really passionate about something and acquire skill in it are quite attractive.

Big time.

Edited December 31, 2013 by silent thunder

[Marblehead]

Is it time yet for Dr. Ruth to ring in?

[Nungali]

 

Wow, you are playing hard to get... how about Daimonic reality by him?

 

I have two copies (one heavily annoted and one a loaner) and read it 3 times ... but you know that don't you ... hmmm clever ... appreciate the book and would realise 'Hey, this woman has her finger on my pulse and ;gets' me." Yet I wouldn't be running home to read it .

 

Women can be clever when it comes to getting what they want

[Nungali]

 

 

For everlasting compatibility....

 

 

"True Love comes not in spirit, not in mind, not in body alone !

 

For he who loves in spirit only will be weak of body and changeful of mind.

He who loves in mind only will be careless of spirit and animal in body.

He who loves in body alone, will rut and fornicate and be lower than the worms.

 

Yet he who loves not in the body, will never know the upsurging, creative love that makes his manhood akin to godhood.

He who loves not in mind will never know the upsurging of wisdom that raises him out of dross into pure and golden thought.

He who loves not in the spirit, will never know the upsweeping spirit that joins him with the laughing gods and welds marriage across the break in time.

 

He who truly loves, loves equally in spirit, mind and body.

He who truly loves, loves proudly in all three levels.

Yea, he who truly loves, loves all ways, always."

 

(source: "Nine Faces of Christ")

 

 

The majority of humanity fail on the spiritual level. Its the hardest one to know about- no one listens to their spirit. That causes many divorces down the track.

 

Hey! Where are the heavenly blessings???

 

I told you not to give them to me ... I didn't say withdraw them from everyone !

[Nungali]

Some comments above about dating .... I am not even sure what it is .... I don't 'go out' or socialise ... so ....

 

I would take them to the 'Nymph Pool' or invite hem around to my cabin for a home cooked Burmese meal (or those little Indonesian fish cakes wrapped in a banana leaf ... or some tamales ) ... I even minded their 3 (under 4 year old) boys while they went out on a date with someone else ... actually that worked and led to a 2 1/2 year relationship ... except I still used to mind the kids when she went on a date with someone else .... I am not very good at this am I ?

[soaring crane]

Hmmm...

 

I should probably point out that I've been married 27 years to the same woman and my experiences involving attracting females have all been quite unintentional.

 

The 'methods' I described were meant more tongue in cheek, but based on experience. They work, but the psychology behind them could fill volumes.

 

I've in fact put a lot of effort into keeping my distance from women over the years. It's not always so easy.

 

Edit - 28, damn

Edited January 1, 2014 by soaring crane

[tumoessence]

I think the tongue in cheek comes a little later.

I would offer to buy you a book and read you a story.

[Nungali]

Reading them a story DEFFINATLY works .... hmmm, maybe I have a father thing going on here ?

 

Write them a story ... that works very well ... my "The Egyptian' ( 'love' story) curls their toes ...( so I am told) they swoooon over it !

Edited January 1, 2014 by Nungali

[BaguaKicksAss]

One thing I heard which I believe to be true: Women are attracted to a man in pursuit of his dreams and on the path to accomplishing them, even when it's a long, long, path. If he is dedicated and resilient in this pursuit - SeXy!

 

So fellas: "get up offa that thang!"

 

Oh hell yes! People with no drive or ambition just aren't nearly as attractive. Also who doesn't like someone who has mastered their particular passion?

 

This rings very true in my experience.

People who are really passionate about something and acquire skill in it are quite attractive.

Big time.

 

Yes! And I think this is what everyone should do in life regardless.

 

Is it time yet for Dr. Ruth to ring in?

 

We are only talking about getting the first few dates I think, so perhaps not yet... I'm sure you can stand in for her when needed though..

 

 

I have two copies (one heavily annoted and one a loaner) and read it 3 times ... but you know that don't you ... hmmm clever ... appreciate the book and would realise 'Hey, this woman has her finger on my pulse and ;gets' me." Yet I wouldn't be running home to read it .

 

Women can be clever when it comes to getting what they want

 

Oh, you *are* hard to please, well I guess it would have to be a collector's edition then, or perhaps a more rare book by the same author. Well or I'm sure obscure grimoires would work in your case as well...

 

 

Hey! Where are the heavenly blessings???

 

I told you not to give them to me ... I didn't say withdraw them from everyone !

 

They were out of stock earlier today...

 

Some comments above about dating .... I am not even sure what it is .... I don't 'go out' or socialise ... so ....

 

I would take them to the 'Nymph Pool' or invite hem around to my cabin for a home cooked Burmese meal (or those little Indonesian fish cakes wrapped in a banana leaf ... or some tamales ) ... I even minded their 3 (under 4 year old) boys while they went out on a date with someone else ... actually that worked and led to a 2 1/2 year relationship ... except I still used to mind the kids when she went on a date with someone else .... I am not very good at this am I ?

 

Hey as long as she took care of the house when you went out, it's all good .

 

I'm not so sure what dating is either now that I think of it, but it usually involves the forest, some candles, a magic circle... and uhm, other stuff .

 

Hmmm...

 

I should probably point out that I've been married 27 years to the same woman and my experiences involving attracting females have all been quite unintentional.

 

The 'methods' I described were meant more tongue in cheek, but based on experience. They work, but the psychology behind them could fill volumes.

 

I've in fact put a lot of effort into keeping my distance from women over the years. It's not always so easy.

 

Edit - 28, damn

 

27 years, awesome! At a guess I would say you walk around all confident like since you aren't busy trying to hunt down a date, and you also likely don't look like a wookiee . Though the wedding ring alone (if you wear one) *should* scare the off... but yeah I hear it doesn't always.

 

I think the tongue in cheek comes a little later.

I would offer to buy you a book and read you a story.

 

Hey I like the reading a story idea added to it .

 

Reading them a story DEFFINATLY works .... hmmm, maybe I have a father thing going on here ?

 

Write them a story ... that works very well ... my "The Egyptian' ( 'love' story) curls their toes ...( so I am told) they swoooon over it !

 

Oh now *writing* them a story, hell yeah .

 

Here we have it folks TTBs how to meet and get together with women 101 and 201.

 

PS, it's ONE post, that means 15 mins lolololol (sooo tired from all the practice, chores, baking, no sleep, working... today)