How we used to pick up men and women (re BKA's how-to thread)

[Taomeow]

Sumbeki said:

 

When I was a spirit reader for a large tribe living in a mountain valley, one of my duties was to match future husbands and wives at birth. The parents came to me with the infant. I would examine the infant for all possible markings on the body, read the palms and soles of the feet, the head, face and back. Then I would inquire about the exact time of birth and do my calculations. Then I would tell the parents what kind of a name to give the infant so as to strengthen or balance out his or her vital forces. The name would be bringing in the energy required for proper development every time it was called. Then I would tell the parents what the baby's personality and destiny would be if they do this and that, don't do this and that.

 

Then I would tell them which families with young children to approach to make marriage arrangements for the newborn. If no small children were born yet who could be a perfect match, I would tell them to either wait for a while, hoping the perfect future spouse for their child would be born to our tribe eventually, or alternatively, to take a trip across the mountain range to the neighboring tribe's settlements and take the baby's natal chart with all my notations to that tribe's spirit reader, who would then look for a match among their people.

 

I gave a 100% guarantee, and the law was that if a marriage I told the parents to pre-arrange won't be happy or won't bring in strong and healthy children, I would pay all affected parties a sizable fine. I never had to pay that fine. Mine was by far the wealthiest family in the valley, so I could always help out if another tribesman's herd got lost in the snowstorm or if anyone who neglected to honor the ancestors or offended the gods fell on hard times.

 

It was a wonderful job. I held it for close to a hundred years, that's why I remember, it was very repetitive, my duties never varied and I kept perfecting the same set of skills for nearly a century. When I finally retired, I went to the mountains to live as a hermit.

[Aeran]

Sometimes I envy people who live in these cultures. I know a lot of bullshit happens with arranged marriages, but I can see the appeal in skipping the drain and the drama and the fuckaround whole dating/courting process and just having a wife assigned to you. Can't be any worse than the mess that results when I choose my own partners

[suninmyeyes]

Gosh . Everything changes so fast .

Wonder what will be the way to seduce someone in 100 years time , even 30 , 50 years time . 200 years time ?

Is there going to be a revival of some vintage techniques ever ?

[RiverSnake]

IME, when you develop a certain level of sensitivity you can feel what individuals you have a connection with…(i don't consider this advance as i am not advance). Also you can use divination to know whether an individual is a suitable partner for you and use divination to pick apart the relationship equation so to speak.

 

My 2 cents, Peace

Edited January 6, 2014 by OldChi

[Green Tiger]

Internet dating has changed the scene quite a bit. I've heard that more couples are meeting online than any single other place.

 

I've also heard that a lot of online dating tends to be like buying shoes from Zappos. They have a lot of different styles, but you can't tell how they fit until you put them on. Luckily, they have a free return policy, so you can try on as many as you like until you find the right pair.

 

I draw a lot of parallels between shoe shopping and dating these days. My motto is: "Be patient. Shop around. Don't keep a pair that you aren't crazy about."

[RiverSnake]

Internet dating has changed the scene quite a bit. I've heard that more couples are meeting online than any single other place.

 

I've also heard that a lot of online dating tends to be like buying shoes from Zappos. They have a lot of different styles, but you can't tell how they fit until you put them on. Luckily, they have a free return policy, so you can try on as many as you like until you find the right pair.

 

I draw a lot of parallels between shoe shopping and dating these days. My motto is: "Be patient. Shop around. Don't keep a pair that you aren't crazy about."

[3bob]

"in the year 2525 if man is still alive..."

[GreytoWhite]

I draw a lot of parallels between shoe shopping and dating these days. My motto is: "Be patient. Shop around. Don't keep a pair that you aren't crazy about."

 

Aye, as a former eCommerce store manager I would say that most online dating sites have a similar feel to them. It's like shopping for dates. Quite literally a numbers game though. Typically I'll message anywhere from 30-40 women, receive 4-6 responses and if I'm lucky, two different people to date. The sad thing is that I usually don't receive responses from the people whose profiles I find most interesting. Probably because I'm disabled and don't drive, I'm rather upfront about it but few are willing to date someone that does not have a car.

[suninmyeyes]

OK what and if even online dating becomes passe at some point...wonder what direction we as humans are moving .

 

Judging by the way system and goverments are nannying and sedating what is left of our humaneness , maybe there is a chance that sex as we know it today will be considered to risky and prohibited ? This is just a wild idea that crossed my mind , but ...

[tumoessence]

Internet dating has changed the scene quite a bit. I've heard that more couples are meeting online than any single other place.

 

I've also heard that a lot of online dating tends to be like buying shoes from Zappos. They have a lot of different styles, but you can't tell how they fit until you put them on. Luckily, they have a free return policy, so you can try on as many as you like until you find the right pair.

 

I draw a lot of parallels between shoe shopping and dating these days. My motto is: "Be patient. Shop around. Don't keep a pair that you aren't crazy about."

Make sure you have harmony between your soles.

[Mal]

IME, when you develop a certain level of sensitivity you can feel what individuals you have a connection with(i don't consider this advance as i am not advance)

Way back in 1991 a girl walked into a 100 person lecture theater.

I saw her and just thought

"Wow. but why is she wearing those really ugly glasses?"

"She must not care about appearances."

"I must meet her!"

 

Fast forward to 2014 and Im still happy she accidentally broke her glasses and had to wear her old backup pair instead ... I would have been way too shy to approach her otherwise.

 

[Brian]

Internet dating has changed the scene quite a bit. I've heard that more couples are meeting online than any single other place.

 

I've also heard that a lot of online dating tends to be like buying shoes from Zappos. They have a lot of different styles, but you can't tell how they fit until you put them on. Luckily, they have a free return policy, so you can try on as many as you like until you find the right pair.

 

I draw a lot of parallels between shoe shopping and dating these days. My motto is: "Be patient. Shop around. Don't keep a pair that you aren't crazy about."

Or a pair that are crazy.

 

(I'm just saying...)

 

[Green Tiger]

Or a pair that are crazy. (I'm just saying...)

 

Don't stick your feet in crazy.

[silent thunder]

Gosh . Everything changes so fast .

Wonder what will be the way to seduce someone in 100 years time , even 30 , 50 years time . 200 years time ?

Is there going to be a revival of some vintage techniques ever ?

 

Are we working far too much... for the redundancy of touch?

Edited January 7, 2014 by silent thunder