i am Posted August 2, 2014 Funny, I see a victim mindset here. Someone disagrees, you read all sorts of things into what they say which aren't even there, then fly off the handle claiming to be victim and insult the person having a rational argument with you. Â Sorry...but you're in the wrong here. Â Stick around, though. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Daeluin Posted August 2, 2014 A victim mindset is just a negative label on the practice of expecting validation. It happens to all of us. When we don't get validated we feel wounded and are very aware of that the wounding felt like. We just have trouble connecting that wounding to our attachment to something that is already outside of ourselves. Â Labeling someone a victim doesn't help them to change, they just feel even more wounded. Â The best we can do is to recognize that only WE can validate OURSELVES. It's nice when others support us, but the better we can stand up on our two feet and feel empowered from within, the better we can practice objective communication, without getting caught up in subjective reactivity. And then we can become better aware of the edges our own communications have, and when it's OUR sharp edges that are causing others to react. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Marblehead Posted August 2, 2014 I'm forever being suspended on Dharma Wheel. I can readily understand that without even asking why. Hehehe. 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BaguaKicksAss Posted August 2, 2014 Actually compared with many the other forums online, this one is pretty tame regarding insults and such! 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soaring crane Posted August 2, 2014 Actually compared with many the other forums online, this one is pretty tame regarding insults and such! Â the most belligerent forums I've ever experienced were strangely enough at the old Runner's World website. It's been totally restructured now but about five years ago, it was an absolute cesspool of degenerate whackos; a moderator's nightmare. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GrandmasterP Posted August 2, 2014 (edited) David Icke forum is wall to wall loonies and that's just the mods, the members are slightly whackier. Every full moon it goes bat shit crazy. Excellent Word Association Game crowd on there though. Edited August 2, 2014 by GrandmasterP 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Daeluin Posted August 2, 2014 (edited) Uh... posted a link describing the "Something Awful" forums, but had to remove it as it wasn't... safe. Edited August 2, 2014 by Daeluin Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Marblehead Posted August 2, 2014 ... it wasn't... safe. Yes, always practice safe no matter what you practice. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GrandmasterP Posted August 3, 2014 (edited) Spooky. Mrs GMP just mentioned that 'poster' one similar but a cartoon and with the same wording is in today's newspaper. Â Might we have an annual tournament? Mods versus Posters. Posters or Mods to choose the weapons in alternate years. My call for this year as I thought of the idea so - fellow posters " Set your Phasers to 'tickle'" and let the tourney commence. Edited August 3, 2014 by GrandmasterP 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brian Posted August 3, 2014 Damn! Â Tickle phasers again??? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Flolfolil Posted August 3, 2014 (edited) ... Edited March 5, 2015 by Flolfolil 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
