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[Jetsun]

Its not possible while in a healthy body. Also if coming from an unhealthy place it is likely to only make things worse as repressed sexual energy results in all sorts of undesirable consequences, as I'm sure you know already.

 

But the main advice I have heard with regards to this relates to diet. Basically Nan Huia Chin said in one of his books that the most important thing to reduce sexual craving is to eat only really bland food, so no sugar, spices, stimulants at all.

[allinone]

energies are moving pass that point every once in a while, it triggers memories and lust rises. Or you see something what triggers memory and lust rises. There is no self, its automatic nervous system function.

 

perhaps seeing and investigating ties between past memories with lust, will help induce new understanding.

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[Apech]

Is it possible for you to explain a bit more why you would want to do this? It sounds on the face of it to be a very bad if not impossible thing to do. If you are thinking like this I worry about your state of being/mind. I could say some things but without understanding the issue for you it would probably not be helpful.

[Josama]

Hi, this is a very good question and not an easy feat. First, forget eliminating it entirely, that's not possible for normal people. However, you can effectively manage your sexual desire.

 

The best advice I can give you is to

 

1) Try to see every member of the opposing sex as a friend you don't have any sexual feelings to. Basically, if you see every 3 person who comes by as a person you would like to have sex with, your sexual desire will skyrocket.

 

2) Don't watch porn

 

3) If you feel a sexual desire arising don't try to suppress it, but watch it and let it pass

 

4) If you can do it then transform jing to Chi (not many can though, I can't so it's probably irrelevant)

 

5) Doing physical exercises by my experience is not a good idea as it will increase Yang Chi which in turn will increase sex drive. Depends on the activity. Avoid weight training as this will increase yang chi a lot. Jogging through the forest would be my choice.

 

6) Not sure about this one, about how effective it is, but try to cultivate love/open the heart. Some of the sexual energy should be converted to love if you sit in meditation.

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[allinone]

@ Josama,

 

watching craving pass away is transforming jing to chi..

 

point 5) physical exercises are depleting any craving and opportunity to transform

 

point 6) if you express love then its postnatal, imputed with already dirty thoughts

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[allinone]

when channels are more pure you need to use willpower to overcome craving (going against nature). Pure wish/will/act at the tip of torment will end it in splitsecond.

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[dogson]

I really gotta say, chef or no, fasting is the best way to do this. Especially meat. When I was experimenting with 80/10/10 or raw vegan / fruitarian diets, I had massively less sex drive. I run a bit low on jing to begin with which is why I get crazy with the herbs, but yeah... slide out animal products and you can definitely expect your sex drive to go down.

 

Permanently, I'd be really careful about this. Also, as regards to this chef friend, I respect wanting to do it privately / not making a big deal out of it ... but if you wanna make a change in your life, being willing to talk about it and make a stand for that change is a clear measure of how badly you want it to happen. That's just how it goes with making major life changes... when you change something as dramatic as sexual energy or diet, it changes your whole world - everything and everyone around you. Which I think is really cool. And that's why both of those things are regarded by many as sacred, and truly worshiped in this world by almost everyone, consciously or unconsciously.

[Josama]

@ Josama,

 

watching craving pass away is transforming jing to chi..

 

point 5) physical exercises are depleting any craving and opportunity to transform

 

point 6) if you express love then its postnatal, imputed with already dirty thoughts

 

No, you are wrong about the 6. point. For me when I cultivate love I do it by chanting "na mo a mi tuo fo" and keeping buddha in my mind. At times I feel intense admiration, love and faithfulness in Buddha so where are those dirty thoughts you are talking about?

 

Concerning the physical exercise : at the beginning this is true, but once your body get's used to it sex drive goes trough the roof. Though I can't speak about Martial Arts practice. I know Martial Arts forms are very good at shifting Chi in the body so it might be different.

 

Lastly, thx for the first one, didn't know that that was the transformation already.

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[allinone]

i cannot help but fall in love with every person i meet eventually, and develop strong sexual feelings for them that completely override my rational thought process

Freud has interesting stuff.

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[Josama]

i cannot help but fall in love with every person i meet eventually, and develop strong sexual feelings for them that completely override my rational thought process

You need to find out where those strong sexual feelings come from. What is the source?

 

Some reason could be for example, (I am not saying it is for you, just to make it clear what I mean.) that you don't know to express your love other than sex. Or that you are anxious of the person you are in love with leaving you if you don't establish a sexual relationship fast enough. In the latter, the reason for that could be that you had a boyfriend when you were young who left because you were reluctant about having sex with him. Like say your first love which you wanted to go slowly with.

 

You need to look deeply into yourself and find the origin.

[allinone]

No, you are wrong about the 6. point. For me when I cultivate love I do it by chanting "na mo a mi tuo fo" and keeping buddha in my mind. At times I feel intense admiration, love and faithfulness in Buddha so where are those dirty thoughts you are talking about?

 

Concerning the physical exercise : at the beginning this is true, but once your body get's used to it sex drive goes trough the roof. Though I can't speak about Martial Arts practice. I know Martial Arts forms are very good at shifting Chi in the body so it might be different.

 

Lastly, thx for the first one, didn't know that that was the transformation already.

 

i have many theories, i like yours, i don't follow my own and others but trying to find something new and better what would debunk my current best unknowntheory in brain what i can't stop following.

[Josama]

i have many theories, i like yours, i don't follow my own and others but trying to find something new and better what would debunk my current best unknowntheory in brain what i can't stop following.

I can only make theories because this isn't me we are talking about. If it's you should be able to pinpoint the reason.

 

 

Just try to get into your Self and do introspective watching in meditation. Not thinking cos thinking is of the ego. If you are in meditation and there is something coming out, maybe a thought that may sound like a younger voice of yourself then you are coming nearer. After you have finished meditation and you feel you have discovered the part of your ego that associates with the sexual desire then you can do intro-perspective thinking and try to locate the event in your life where it all originated.

 

I hope this helps. Also, I would highly recommend reading "dissolving the ego, realizing the self, contemplations from the teachings of David R. Hawkins". I am reading this at the moment and I can't praise it highly enough. This may just be what you are looking for.

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[Trunk]

Impossible to remove it entirely.

Only solution is gradually, long term, in various ways, working towards more balance.

[allinone]

I can only make theories because this isn't me we are talking about. If it's you should be able to pinpoint the reason.

 

 

Just try to get into your Self and do introspective watching in meditation. Not thinking cos thinking is of the ego. If you are in meditation and there is something coming out, maybe a thought that may sound like a younger voice of yourself then you are coming nearer. After you have finished meditation and you feel you have discovered the part of your ego that associates with the sexual desire then you can do intro-perspective thinking and try to locate the event in your life where it all originated.

 

I hope this helps. Also, I would highly recommend reading "dissolving the ego, realizing the self, contemplations from the teachings of David R. Hawkins". I am reading this at the moment and I can't praise it highly enough. This may just be what you are looking for.

 

i wonder is Hawkins influensed by Freud? If so, i am usually going to the source or to the original idea.

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[Josama]

i wonder is Hawkins influensed by Freud? If so, i am usually going to the source or to the original idea.

 

No, absolutely not. It's completely different. Dr Hawkins works are completely spiritual, not psychological, not in the true sense. You will understand once you start reading it.

[Josama]

Love can be expressed below (sex) and/or above (the heart and mind). It is creative energy. If expressed primarily below, there will be oversexuality...which is normal for most people, especially if they try to change it. If expressed only above, with the below destroyed, it is weakening to the creative energies and life. If expressed above while not destroying the below, it can increase your creativity and life and increase your sense of real love (not attachment love)...it is more balancing.

 

This is exactly what I meant by cultivating love. It's unconditional love you will want to cultivate.

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