monx Posted July 4, 2015 Hey everyone, my name is Russ. Around 2007 I began studying Tao. I immersed myself in it until I met my wife in 2011. After that, my progress eventually came to a halt. Â This is what brings me here: My wife and I have recently decided to seperate, and although our goal is to fix our issues and live together again by the holidays, I realized that I have lost so much of myself in this relationship, lost my independence, and lost much of my inner peace unless we are in the same room together. Obviously, this is unhealthy, even if one's relationship is on solid ground. Â I used to be so independant and comfortable with myself when alone, and need to get back on the path. I suppose I will post a new thread when I am allowed, and hopefully gather some Tao-centered advice. Thanks for your time! Â Russ 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chang Posted July 5, 2015 Hello and welcome. You are accepted. Glad to have you as a member and I hope that matters resolve themselves between yourself and your wife.  Please take the time to read the two posts pinned at the top of this Welcome page and take a look at the forum terms and rules. This covers all you need to know when getting started.  For the first week you will be restricted to ten posts per day but after that you can post as much as you like. Also, until you’ve posted fifteen times in the forums, you’ll be a “Junior Bum” with somewhat restricted access and will be allowed only two private messages per day.  Good luck in your pursuits and best wishes to you,  Chang and the TTB team ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thelerner Posted July 5, 2015 Welcome. A book I found very helpful on relations was Hugh Pranthers 'A Book For Couples' http://www.amazon.com/Book-Couples-Hugh-Prather/dp/1567314252/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8 I found it sensitive, practical and insightful. Seeing that Amazon has 160 copies on sale for 0.01 cents, perhaps others find it .. less valuable. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SonOfTheGods Posted July 5, 2015 Hey everyone, my name is Russ. Around 2007 I began studying Tao. I immersed myself in it until I met my wife in 2011. After that, my progress eventually came to a halt.  This is what brings me here: My wife and I have recently decided to seperate, and although our goal is to fix our issues and live together again by the holidays, I realized that I have lost so much of myself in this relationship, lost my independence, and lost much of my inner peace unless we are in the same room together. Obviously, this is unhealthy, even if one's relationship is on solid ground.  I used to be so independant and comfortable with myself when alone, and need to get back on the path. I suppose I will post a new thread when I am allowed, and hopefully gather some Tao-centered advice. Thanks for your time!  Russ  Codependency Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
