The reason to stay in a sexual relationship

[Kubba]

Any thoughts?

 

Romantic love is overestimated. I gues, a true relationship washes trough some deep subconscious blocks and conditioning. Like a real test. Sounds selfish?

[Fate]

I have a wonderful quote from one of my spiritual brothers when I was on a journey to repair my relationship with Hawai'i and my ex.

 

He said "we learn a lot from the women we love."

I don't see why it has to be one-sided though. My current ex-although we are still great friends and have a casual sexual relationship, noticed she has become more outspoken and courageous in her social circles.

 

She commented she must have gotten it from me, because she had never been that way XD

Also after my first experience of intense Qi Gong practice we went through some challenges that helped her find "an inner reserve a strength she didn't know existed."

 

Cultivate through relationships, is basically what I'm saying. "water always seeks its own level"-Taoist. Not a big fan of avoiding attachments, celibate life (lets not make this topic about that though), etc.

 

Don't be afraid of anything, least of all love. Yes its a test, and yes its a beautiful game too. Play it well

[futuredaze]

How do you define romantic?

 

If you mean an idealistic, sentimental feeling for a person in a way that is not in accordance with reality, then I agree.   Unrealistic expectations inevitably lead to disappointment or worse.  I've been victim to thinking such a way before, and have always been kicked in the ass.  I like to think I learned a lot from it, but at the same time I wouldn't be too surprised if it were to happen again.

 

If you mean sexual relationships, I would say that depends on someone's own goals and priorities.  In my opinion, moderation can be achieved with sexual relationships that would not hinder practice, and might even help.  The sex should not be the emphasis of this relationship, of course.  It needs to have a strong foundation of being in the same place so to speak, being open and truthful with each other, mutually supportive, etc.  I am not really an advocate of celibacy, exclusive relationships, or open relationships - I think people should decide their path for themselves and be open to changing their minds about it in the future.