soaring crane Posted November 24, 2015 It´s like someone who binges and purges with food. Sometimes your stomach is full, sometimes empty, but the mental pattern underlying all this is singular. Interesting analysis, Luke, thanks. I think that really describes the situation well :-) 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Daeluin Posted November 24, 2015 I'd recommend finding a tai ji quan class in your area. Doing physical activity is a natural way of sublimating the pressures of sexual energy. The more the mind and body integrate as one the better. And doing qigong helps one to cultivate the energy more intentionally, and yes, people can awaken in this way. Cultivate your mind with the dao de jing, zhuangzi, and the yijing. Keep things simple. Spend time in nature. Empty the mind, fill the belly. ^^ This doesn't mean fill the belly with food, it means that when the mind is not focused on itself, but instead focused on the belly, the belly becomes full. Start with placing your hands over your belly button and breathing in from there for 4 counts, then exhaling for four counts. Practice this for 5-10 minutes every day, preferably in a natural upright sitting or standing position. Be natural, learn to listen inwardly rather than seeking externally. When we look and listen with our eyes and ears, often we send our qi out of ourselves.... even though the light and sounds comes to us. No need to go questing for things, just let them come to you, and be there to receive them. Use your intention to cultivate inner wholeness, whatever that means to you. Be sincere about it, and learn to recognize the cyclical nature of all things. A beginning, a culmination, a return. Learn to recognize the parts of the cycle that you have trouble with. Most people have trouble accepting the full return after it has become shaped into that which they want and that which they do not want. Learn to recognize that the surface of things hides the truth, just as you can only know yourself from the inside out, and can only know everything else from the outside in. Knowing this, cultivate humility, daring not to put yourself before anyone else or judge something right for someone else even though it feels right to you. Learn that what you project out into the world returns, and what you reject returns as well. Learn to use acceptance of lessons as a path to greater refinement and awareness of your past self. Learn to recognize the truth within the paradox, learn to merge with the heart within the subtle and the obscure. Learn to adapt to change, ever equanimous, ever taking what is right because it is right for your path within an unfolding circumstance, not because you have an attachment to it always being right. Learn that all these things can be applied at myriad layers, and accept that there will be ups and downs. Sometimes you may feel that you are straying far from the path you've been on, but as long as you maintain your sincere intentions, you will discover that you are doing exactly what you need to do in this moment, and this will serve to take you where you need to be. Trust yourself, and trust others without judging them, and you will find your way home. Accept that these things take decades of persistant practice to produce results. No need to be in a hurry. Begin with sincere intention. And most importantly, relax. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wilfred Posted November 24, 2015 (edited) to cut to the chase it sounds like the genie is out of the bottle, you have sexual desires, no problem, that's natural. try and find an outlet for this by forging positive relationships with the opposite sex. you won't go through your blockages by forced celibacy nor by doing practices that may one day lead to the relinquishing of these attachments. practices are great obviously, but lust is a deep one, it's not going away anytime soon and especially at your age. some type of moderation or 'middle way' is needed to live happily and progress smoothly. this seems to be a common type of thread popping up on these forums, people are uncomfortable with finding an outlet for their sexuality so have decided to become celibate very early on as the 'best course of action'. it's clearly not and it's just your ego speaking to prop up an existing set of bad views. Edited November 24, 2015 by wilfred 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
seekingbuddha Posted November 25, 2015 Lot of useful and insightful suggestions have been given by others here. I congratulate you for seeking, early in your life. As long as you stay on this path, your life will be better off than "without it". All the enlightened/wise/high teachers of humanity taught us the same essence..... Make effort to develop wholesome thoughts & actions. Make effort to destroy unwholesome thoughts & actions. All your concerns will be solved (over time, over the years), if you keep these two sentences in mind everyday. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
